Well, yeah, guys do love the chase, they say they don't but I genuinely believe they do. They wanna get that girl who says they're not interested. When they have the girl, it's just that point that they actually think, do I actually like this girl, do I want a serious relationship with her. Unfortunately the guy probably is so consumed with the chase he doesn't think this through, if the girl is a good girl, he still will compare it to what he expected to get after the chase, as in an amazing girl, not just an amazing girl, but what he considers an amazing girl, that could be a great cook, a great dancer, a great kisser, a great dresser, great at sex, or all of them.

The girl would have been testing the guy throughout the whole chase whilst the guy is absent minded about the future during most of the chase (though I have actually heard of the love at first sight theory, where the guy believes you two are destined to be together before he's truly gotten to know you).

In all cases, mature guys are the best, after a chase, they understand to give the relationship a fair chance, and understand that a decrease in attention could be due to the ending of the chase and they put more effort to sustain the relationship.

With me my ex, I just got so fed up of being the only one to text and call, you know guys stop responding when they're no longer interested and with guys that usually means something better's come along or even simply another interesting chase.
At first we both messaged each other a lot, and texted and nobody fronted, he'd message me immediately even if I had fallen asleep the night before and left him hanging. I'd message him again even if I knew it was past the time he said he called. Now when it got ridiculous was when it was taking him a full day to respond to a 'how was your day' text and he'd be replying 'yesterday was ok, today's going well too'. I knew he could afford the texts because he bragged about having a better phone contract than mine I just knew that he was doing the typical thing men do which is to 'distance yourself from her, so she brings up ""the talk"" or breaks up with you',

Sado!

hmm interesting, but I think seun did justice to this topic on pg one. .I salute!

Most men really don’t know what they actually want thats why they keep on chasing

its jus like hammering on the cliche. wen u dont have it u want it bad and wen u get it u relax its yours anyway so why act like it aint yours. why chicks fil like dat is because de fail to pick up from there. do de tink its stil a casse of baboon de work monkey de chop? u for get dat u hav to do sometin to kip him wantin more

I think the major contributary factor to the male conterpart developing a cold feet when the relationship has kicked off is the unreasonable "hard to get" Nigerian girl behavior. Ladies I like you to know that men are humans and also have strong emotions and you know emotions do fade out. One thing Nigerian ladies should know is that the best time to (strike the iron when it is still hot) define what a guy is up to is when he is at his peak of interest in you, and that is when he summons the courage to ask you out. This is when the undenyable importance of verbal communication comes into play. You can talk a man into knowing whether he is truely in love with you or just naked infatuation.
The unreasonable stretch over time of the hard to get game helps fade a man's emotions. In some cases some guys would back out right away, and off course ladies would say he just came to have his own share, and in other cases some guys would still stay back so that the chick wont think he is a fake, but believe me with a little fragment of his fellings for you left. This is what is responsible for his cold feet in the relationship.

It wil take mi abt an hr to go thru all the response the poster got on this subject.but any ways some of u av responded well.





up madrid.

Its prety simple! During the chase there is an objective or goal. Thus, alltheir mental energies an inpiration goes to the object of that goal i.e the girl. However once the goal has been reached, the is little incentive to but more than usual effort. Doesn`t indicate he loves you less, there is just less motivation to display love,

Love Doc Ugborikoko!

Another way to see if it's more than just a chase is if he sticks around even when things slow down (which it will for EVERYONE), if it was just the chase, I'd think most men would bolt then.

But I'm not a guy, so I can't state that this is a fact.

Very true and it can be very annoying too,

Sorry its simple , Mr 9ice guy don talk am OMO NA TURN BY TURN no need to beg baba God your own turn don reach be that

ugborikoko:

Its prety simple! During the chase there is an objective or goal. Thus, alltheir mental energies an inpiration goes to the object of that goal i.e the girl. However once the goal has been reached, the is little incentive to but more than usual effort. Doesn`t indicate he loves you less, there is just less motivation to display love,

Love Doc Ugborikoko!

and that depends on the goal! Love, Sex, or money!

Most dudes jst want secks, the calls n texts r jst tools.

Men are goal oriented and getting a woman is no different. Once that is achieved
He moves to the next agenda e.g. make more money so he could settle down.

Men need to understand that women are not wired the same way so they should learn to strike
the balance and should not expect the woman to understand that they are focusing their attention
on other areas that will make life better for both of them

i luv this topic. the reason is simple and straight forward. u gals dont reciprocate. are we robots? the guy keeps chasin , thinks u will "wake up" only to find out that u are still the same. wen he finds a more loving and reactive gal, he will definitely move on! u gals need to change. u need to learn that in every man, there is that little boy that is craving for attention and love.

1 of D reason dat makes guys to back out or lose interest after a relationship is wen d lady in concern plays to hard to get. Sometimes, some girls feel dey all in all. In such a situation. Guy does nothing dan to play along pending d time he wil have a reason to back out.

1. if he finds out what was not expected

2. deception on the part of the lady

3. finance

Remember love is agive and take issue,probably the dude just dicovered that you never call him or txt him to.guys don't jst lose intrest after chase,somefin must have gone wrong somewhere. [i][/i][color=#000099][/color]

My dear, it really still baffles me till date. One of those mysteries of life yet to be fully understood

hmm, interesting
well, i would think it depends on the kinda guy.
had ex's and for 95% of them, the fire was still on until we broke up (Most times even after the break up).
if a guy stops texting or calling after u guys become intimate, i honestly believe that such guys  where only after s.ex not you. Someone who truely loves you can't stop loving you just because he has gotten what he wants (what a baby!)

Well, i try to be on thesame attraction level with the person i wanna date. I hate being chased; too needy, obsessive, pathetic and i can't help thinking that all the person wants is to "hit that"- which irritates the hell out of me! So if i like a guy, i tell 'em straight up, no need for the chasing! 

When a man is looking down at your bosoms or behind and professing "love", or when he only remembers that "he loves you" @night, run as fast as you can.
Unfortunately, most 9ja guys and girls can't differentiate love from lust 

there are question that we are yet to find answers to, such as this

He has seen what he wanted,what else do you expect,you know men and their sugar coated tongue.A man may promise,say or do anything when he's on heat.

The standard f0r getting a girl t0 date is very very high....In the name 0f playing hard t0 get the girl refuses u...U call her 10 times a day she still refuses...She knws u like 0!!! Bt she t00 is playing games..U buy her gifts.U see her everyday f0r a very l0ng peri0d she still says n0. Meanwhile she likes y0u 000!!! Yet she still says n0!! S0 u really like her and d0 m0re than ur heart n0rmally tells u t0. She still says N0. And when u're tired 0f her and backing 0ut she eventually says yes.After u've spent s0 much m0ney and time N0w u guys start dating andshe still expects u t0 be calling her 10 times a day.Lapping up all the attenti0n with0ut d0ing anything. A girl that has stressed u s0 much. That is n0t p0ssible naaa.. When ur. mind is alredi m0ving t0 s0me0ne else that is appreciating u. S0 wh0 d0 we blame here?

bukiboy: my opinion: guys are natural hunters after the chase game they are more relax that afterall they have what they want now, girls should try to make sure the game continues after the chase
most girls believes playing "hard to get" put them in high esteem before the guy, but it doesnt as an adult i dont see any reason why you have to pretend you see a guy you like and lucky you he walk up to you and ask you out why all the stiffness but you dont have to come too cheap cause that put some guys off just know where to draw the line.
girls should not always wait for guys to do all the follow ups.
notting on my head again.

nothing was in ur head b4!

uchetobi: If he is not picking ur calls then he is not interested FINITE

Afterall he has seen what he was looking for,so nothing to fret about.

dinipre: Do you knw this baffles me too?My b/f acts the same way.
Was always calling and sending messages before and like some months after we started dating but now i do most of
the calling.Its strange because he loves me dearly and i know he does but can't still get why the calling and text message habits shld stop[color=#006600][/color].GUYS HELP US OUT,A PENNY 4 UR TOTS!!

If he is financially buoyant and chose not to call or text you,well just ask him why,if he cant prove beyond a reasonable doubt,im afraid there is more to it than met the eye.I HOPE THAT HELPS,it's just my own point of view not an opin$.

[quote author=top_kin]Personally I think everything in life is guided by Law. The truth is that you CANNOT always like the same thing eternally. You become jaded, law of diminising returns sets in------ only a fresh challenge/innovation can begin to wet ur appetite again. That's a RULE in life and that's why u see companies always coming out with innovations. Also as a matter of Law of nature, when you want something, you give it your all, and when in your posession you relax.
I concur

I love to comment on this. If women want to understand this principle go and study a male lion. It chases its prey at all cost and when he get the prey; he is sluggish to eat it or don't eat at all

if he does, then he was childish to begin with.

sweetiemi: It makes me wonder, when a guy wants you he calls you probably 5 times a day sends you SMS like 6 times aday when you say ok for the first 3-5mths he is still constant then it starts to happen 5 calls become 2 then 1 call a day then once in a week, 6 SMS become 3 then 2 then none!!! Then the stories begin he has been busy that's why he didn't call or he traveled and forgot to tell you or he didnt see your missed calls

Can someone in the house tell me why this happens it sure beats me!!!

i hope this is not my girl friend....

iice: Doesn't really happen to me It's usually the other way round

dey deceive urself there. Such a child.