Richvkunt:


Ronke,
Talk is cheap!!!
Me and you know all this your talk is empty air,however the people I am scared for are the poor impressionable ladies/women who are currently in unstable relationships who will read what you are writing and believing it as gospel truth goes out and stupidly burns down her husbands house.
The law against arson is still existing o!
A word is enough for the wise.

ronkebp:

Richy!!!! we are already turning this thread to 'me and you thread', but, "there are women and there are women". If you men think, you can misbehave anyhow in a marraige, and expect the woman to take all that poo in? and when you see a woman doing her thing,that is when their balls will be on fire.... (some are taking it anyway) but for those that will not take that crap, those men have not seen anything yet....PLUS YOU....Richy....commot leg for road, make i pass jor!!!!Oshi o daa ni le kpako!!

Richvkunt:

Enu poo.
Ronke,enu lo ni bi ti aje akara.
I just pity any woman/lady wey go listen to this your advise and dey begin act out the film.
Remember,the law on arson still exists o!!!
As usual,I give up make I no derail another person thread because of cabal.

ronkebp:

Too bad you guys, you both do not know the difference between "seeing" and having "an affair" that part i cannot fix, if i meant that, would not have put "wives" too, well everybody can"t understand "meaning of meanings"

Carry yourself to One corner Richy, with your protruding belly.....if you are not hating on CC's post, it is Jennykadrys' or the 'cabal"....when will you recover from the stress the cabals are giving you?

Richvkunt: ^^^
Because we know her better than you.Thank you. Check her past posts her antecedents speak for themselves.She belongs to the divorce your husband while I keep mine club.You are new-you will get to know everybody if you frequent the family section.

ronkebp: My dear, i don't think your hubby does not love you i think he has a picture of what he wants his wife to be or look like, sometimes it is realistic while majority of the times, it is very unrealistic.

we all as human beings have expectations of others, and that is why we stress so much on those things that do not really matter and focus on vain things.
I will want you to do away with the thoughts of leaving your hubby, this problem can be really handled. He complains about the way you look, what do you wear that is so offensive to him?, how do you look that he does not like?, how comfortable are you with your own looks?, your hair what do you do to them? you might think you are trying your best to make things work by doing all the wrong things, How sociable are you?, too sociable or too timid? Your cooking, i don't know how to advice you on that, i don't know if it is too much salt or too much pepper, or too much oil?? Sex!!! that one, every married woman, has to be a sophisticated LovePeddler in bed, i don't care how you do it, you have to learn all the bed tactics ever, (can you know all? mbanu!! but you will be pretty good).

Your hubby, is seeing other women and wives and probably comparing and contrasting. (for people with over bogus eyes, i don't mean having an affair oooo, i mean to look, see, ( what are those synonyms gan sef?) ).

agiboma: @ Op there is hope, dont give up on your marriage I have been told all the things your hubby has said to you and much worse. Just talk to hubby dont get angry or give him attitide it will only make matters worse. Marriage and relationships are hard they require daily work, encouragement and nurturing. It does get better i promise when the two people are working on the relationship together, let me tell you my marriage a few months ago was miserable, i felt the same way like you, but lately i am living with the man i fell in love with many years ago things have changed in him and in me, we now actually enjoy each others company. We talk and have fun together. It also helps when you make yourself up and you look HOT and go to a party and the magazine photographers want to take your picture lol, yeah that makes hubby realize real fast that your still HOT and so desireable . This happened to me last 2 weeks and I tell you woman it was a great feeling. Listen woman dont divorce your husband work on your marriage.

peaceheartt: My dear, this is not the time to start thinking of divorce, this is the time to work and pray.

Two important statements you made in your post, and based on this, I think u shldnt contemplate divorce,

"I don't want my kids to grow without their father because they are just getting to know him"
your kids still need their father,(especially if they are still very young). taking dem away from their father may affect them negatively for the rest of their lives.

"i know he loves me and i feel something for him"
There is still something there btw u two, he loves you and u feel something for him.

Your marriage need a spark, you have to work at it, prayers would help greatly, but you need to make some physical efforts like taking care of the areas he pointed out, "he complains about everything from my , shoes ,dress to my hair , my food,.......improving in making love"


Marriage is not a bed of roses, we all have our issues and crosses to bear, divorce is not the answer!

I wish you all the best as you take steps to bring back the spark into your marriage!

agiboma: @ Op there is hope, dont give up on your marriage I have been told all the things your hubby has said to you and much worse. Just talk to hubby dont get angry or give him attitide it will only make matters worse. Marriage and relationships are hard they require daily work, encouragement and nurturing. It does get better i promise when the two people are working on the relationship together, [b]let me tell you my marriage a few months ago was miserable, i felt the same way like you, but lately i am living with the man i fell in love with many years ago things have changed in him and in me, we now actually enjoy each others company. We talk and have fun together. [/b]It also helps when you make yourself up and you look HOT and go to a party and the magazine photographers want to take your picture lol, yeah that makes hubby realize real fast that your still HOT and so desireable . This happened to me last 2 weeks and I tell you woman it was a great feeling. Listen woman dont divorce your husband work on your marriage.

Richvkunt:


[b]Agy,
I am so proud of you and your hubby.
Now suspose when you came to this section and complained about your husbands attitude,and you had listened to the members of divorce your husbands club?Where would you and your baby be now?
That is what I am trying to make the OP see-NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT!
Even the members of the cabal who come here daily to lie about the number of times their husbands sleep with them are not in perfect marriages,But they will come here to give young women terrible advise to leave their husbands,while they stay in their own marriages and patch up.
Some will even come here and advise fellow women to burn down their husbands houses if they give them any BS.
Is this the kind of advice a woman should give a fellow woman?
The worst thing is that after this horrible advise and the OP refuses to take it or says she wants to observe her relationship with the husband-the members of this cabal will blacklist this woman and try to make her stay on NL family section a living hell.[/b]

neyostica: Smith, will you just shu.t up, what kind of stupeed hapiness will she get if she leaves ha man? do u profit from breakin homes or r u just a she-devil?? I wanna believe u r a teen, odawise u nid to av ur head checked

tasandra: sweety,did u say,he doesnt like the way u dress?and he comment on ur food 2?ok,why not sit down and think on hw to improve....in that area,instead of divorce,i blv ur baby boi s bord...why not try and spice thins up...by bein sexy 4 him?learn new food, sometimes take the kids,to any of ur family...and be alone wit him tell him hw much he s hansome..tell him all those good thins,u use to tell him..gurl, did u say,u still make luv?which means,he want u to light his fire...by bein his chic again.buy him gift 2..wear sexy thins in the house,wen ever he s home be sexy 4 him all the time,,,u will see that,he wnt go drinkin again. ;Dall the best.

Here is my advice again,

Don't live your life pleasing any man, rather please God. Do all within your power to be a good wife and mother, if he still doesn't appreciate you, please don"t sweat it. No man worths it. Since you guys still have sex, you can raise the issue after such event. If he sees it, praise God. If he doesn't, don't kill yourself over it. Continue living your life as normal.

If it gets out of hand, invite a third party for reference sake. If that don't work, threaten with a divorce, if he doesn't care, please don't be bothered.

I know it's not easy o. Just live youe life one day at a time and keep asking God for strength, that is if you believe in God.

jmoore: I do not know how much you have changed on your appearance but you need to work on that. A makeover that will transform you will be the first step.

Johndoe100: Can someone please help me out. I must have been away from this board for a long time. By now cabal members should be here advising this poster on the best ways to "kick her yeye husband to the kerb" and rid herself of any man who does'nt worship her.
What happened?[b] Am I too early? [/b]A woman being advised to stick with her husband, here? Wow I am impressed.

Chrisbenogor: This new generation of kids running around nairaland giving hollywood advise, smh.

Marriage is about commitment, that's simple and complex. These issues you are talking about sounds to me like the normal ups and downs of a relationship or did you not date people before you got married?
Divorce? Because your husband gets angry at you? Jeeeeez!
Some people have real problems madam. This is the problem with women, cut off the head because of headche seesh!

Tgirl4real:

Richvkunt,

seriously, drop dis cabal thingy. Ronke didn't say anything wrong in the response she gave.

Abeg, take am easy.

queensmith: ^^ in fact i am overly fed up! People will honestly justify a man killing his wifes confidence because she put on a few pounds. A man placing the very foundation of thier marriage on how she looks. Looks that will always fade!

Its the men that need to fix up! Im sorry but no woman can look beauiful forever! If your husband can only love you when you are pretty its a short term marriage you will get!