Because marriage as we use to know it is out of fashion.The important is bringing up humane kids,that is if you care for kids,single or not.

Forget the smiling and all the reason is simple INFLATED EXPECTATIONS

Impotency hurts men worse than menopause hurts women. That's a fact!


There are thousands of women who are content with being single and I am talking about women GLOBALLY. [/quote] the fact is that ladies are more vulnerable!

The more independent ladies become,the more they can afford to be comfortably single.Independence brings freedom of the mind and confidence,if only they can just be real and not too bit-chy.

ifihearam: Here are some reasons why I think women are still single these days (in no particular order)*:

1. You’re not approachable.
Girl, you need to SMILE. Period. Guys need some green-light action so when they glance over and you don’t smile back, they take it as a “don’t even think about it” signal. This is what my male friends tell me. Another reason why you might be unapproachable could be because you are always surrounded by your girlfriends! Some women don’t know how to be alone. If you’re always with people how can people walk up to you? Try going to the movies alone, jogging, taking a walk, and see what happens…

2. You haven’t figured out your life’s purpose.
Yup! I always say “before you ask someone to go on a journey with you, you have to know where you’re going”. In this case, the journey is a relationship or marriage. You kinda have to know where it is you want to go in life before you take someone along. We are growing everyday so you won’t have it all figured out before you pursue a relationship, but at least you’ll know in which direction you’re headed and that will make it easier to decide who to go with on the journey.

3. You aren’t meeting NEW people.
Most people’s routines are so rigid and their social circles have stayed the same for years! They go to work, Church, home, and maybe one or two places and that’s it. No surprise you ain’t found someone all this time! You know they say “madness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result” I’m not saying you’re mad, but maybe it’s time to change things up a little bit. How? You ask. Well, by changing up where you go and going out with a variety of friends. Have a diverse pool of friends and hang out with different groups. You’ll probably meet new people that way. Network. Follow up on business contacts. Tap into all your affiliations not just because you want a romantic relationship but also because you want richer friendships and a richer life.

4. The guys around you are straight up not ready!
Yup! ‘Cos girl, you KNOW you got it going on. You’re beautiful, hardworking, friendly, fun, etc. but the dudes around you are either SUPER blind, intimidated (in which case it’s okay), or they’re not your type. So, what do you do in this case? Hmmm, you could try the tips in #3 and see how that goes or honey, call on Jesus to order the right dude’s steps!

5. You’re being unrealistic.
Hmm, this is an interesting one. I believe everyone should have non-negotiables when it comes to relationships but I guess sometimes the expectations can be unrealistic. I always say that we put too much pressure on other human beings to be PERFECT. We really shouldn’t expect more from others than we are ourselves. My Pastor said something the other day that was very profound. He said a lot of women are looking for oak trees (ready-made, already established men) when they should be looking for acorns (men with potential). I know a lot of women especially after a certain age don’t want to be with “potential” but when he said that, I realized that there will be some kind of potential in the guy that only a woman can bring out. Haven’t you noticed that when your male friends get married, shortly after they get that “marriage glow”? I notice it all the time! It’s the woman! She’s bringing out the best in him. So, ladies, don’t be afraid of potential anymore. Just get with the kind of potential you are comfortable with.

Phew! So, what do y’all think? What other reasons do you think explain why women and men are STILL single?

This is like d best post I ever read on nairaland. I. Hail o. Nice one

Potentials needed.. I will feed you, clothe you, love you, educate you, finance you, polish you, nyash you unconditionally. However, when you become comfortable, you will bail out. Hell to the nooo to potentials.... Experience is the best teacher.

Kadata: a hot dude naaaaaa a hot dude naaaaaa

wetin con-sign u nah?

Stella_Bella: Potentials needed.. I will feed you, clothe you, love you, educate you, finance you, polish you, nyash you unconditionally. However, when you become comfortable, you will bail out. Hell to the nooo to potentials.... Experience is the best teacher.

is nyan shi ng a guy a favour to him

Stella_Bella: Potentials needed.. I will feed you, clothe you, love you, educate you, finance you, polish you, nyash you unconditionally. However, when you become comfortable, you will bail out. Hell to the nooo to potentials.... Experience is the best teacher.

You seem like on fire,good.

I'm single not because of all the reasons said but because i choose to be single

Mrs.Chima:


Some of the threads opened about looking for wives didn't mention any age. However, there are single men complaining about not being married for whatever reasons.

My last comment still stands.

Aww...trying to do some woman empowerment move eh!

Some of those guys opening those threads are just looking for a shag bbs. Don't go believing that lol!
A man would be sooooo happy single, whilst shagging as many pussies as possible from ALL race. Experiencing all sort of pussies, flavours etc. You have no idea.

Can you say the same about females?
When at a certain age....(as I heard; no offence, women are like milk, men are like wine. One tastes better with age, d other....u know)...the dicks might not flow ur way if u still single and old. Except u pay-up, heck pay-up might not do d trick.
Then loneliness sets in. At which point, you'd sooo hate ur single-ness. A lie?? Go do a cameron diaz...let's know how it goes.

But as a guy....plssss...I'd do a Hugh Hefner darling.

And don't try make money an issue here bbs. Aii

Mrs.Chima:


You are entitled to your opinion but it doesn't make you right.

Impotency hurts men worse than menopause hurts women. That's a fact!


There are thousands of women who are content with being single and I am talking about women GLOBALLY.

What does this have to do with the convo bbs? Menopause, impotence are all kids related darling. Which I know can have an effect on you being sinngle or not. But we are talking about not even getting into a relationship at all, from d word go. Init OP?

Agree...

If you are hard to get, you wont get got!

Also, if you are looking for a guy to marry, only date guys whose immediate peers are at that stage in life.

Mrs.Chima:


Some men are happy when single. Some men doesn't speak for all men.
Some women are happy when single. Some women doesn't speak for all women.

Question, can a man stay single and keep his dick in his pants?

LMHO!!!!

most ladies lack self control, imagine that despite u seeing a responsible young man who is ready for marriage, the lady will turn herself into a godess that need to be appeased with expensive ... After all the spending, the guy is not even sure the lady is going to marry him.

Mrs.Chima:


Some men are happy when single. Some men doesn't speak for all men.
Some women are happy when single. Some women doesn't speak for all women.

Question, can a man stay single and keep his dick in his pants?

Ans: HELL NO! (just my mind)

ost of them play around in the early and late twenties looking for sugar daddies to satisfy them, after all the shakara, they will become bornagain and start looking for a young man they can desperately cling on to. Guys u better b wise

ladies of nwadays are just after what they can acquire from a man and by any means, so they go extra miles in getting them. And they have forgoten that time is not by their side. And i know that no man is willing to marry a lady that as been used and disposed.

Konnektions146:
nne , i just saw yur signature and LWKMD, just flashed at de question some asked up dere abt yu and gender, no be small thing .
but seriously how many ladies believe in growth, development etc with thier man

when a lady tells her friend abbt a boyfriend or even a guy he just met, de 1st qiestion is:-what kida car does he drive??
and dis even influences de other ones that re not too after de cash but love.
ladies allow materialisma and certain no.n sense(though dey re so shallow minded to see it makes sense) be de basis of deir relationship and thats y guys see thus and get it crashed as soon as it takes offf.

How about those who believe in potential and do everything to support the man and try to help him to reach that potential, but instead he is screwing around? OP has made some good points, but you left out one major reason why some ladies are still single

There are too many liars and cheats out there, and some ladies will have non of that. Maybe this is the unrealistic part some of the men here are referring to. I know a lot of ladies that have dated guys who had nothing and really tried to help out, but the guys were busy going for the easy materialistic babes that most guys on NL complain about, but still follow/chase them. At the end of the day, guys say they want hardworking ladies who want to develop themselves and grow with the man, from what i have seen (and my personal experience)for the most part, it is all talk cos some of the guys end up getting with the materialistic, no future ambition chick. Just saying.

Human Psycho:
Question, can a man stay single and keep his dick in his pants? very, very well.... Infact am a typical example.. Celibate for 20yrs nw! Yes you heard me.

Pls open a thread for this question and bet you will get more than enough answers.


On post; Good one, applies to all that are searching. Guys and Ladies alike.

Duke_Nija:
Men are happy when single.
Seriously!

speak for urself o!!!...bein in a real r/shp is rather fulfilling!!!

Nice 1. I observe that most ladies have the wrong people has friend and they hear a lot of wrong information and counsel which in turn has distorted their perspective on how they handle life's issue. Every smart thinking person should decide on the right things (values) to do and stick to it. It your life live it for good and be a role model to others. All the best!

I aint saying she's a GOLD DIGGER,
But she aint messing wit no BROKE NIGGER................Kanye West

D problem wit most women's dat they hardly know wia to draw d line in dia pirate-like greedy quest for material things. Dia mentality is always "grab all u can, while u can, n move on 2 d nxt rich island for more looting". Wen younger, they prefer POLITICIANs, CHIEFs, 419ers, ARMED ROBBERs etc but majorly other people's husband, jst for d money. Old habits r hard to break, so they find dis loose lifestyle hard to shake off by d time age calls, which is a red flag for any young man wishing to live a long life.

U r a lady n u wish to get married? Get off d GOLD RUSH train tday n see if suitors wil nt break ur father, door down in dia stampede for ur hand in marriage.
GREED KILLs. Leave materialism or die SINGLE.

Miss EZ:

How about those who believe in potential and do everything to support the man and try to help him to reach that potential, but instead he is screwing around? OP has made some good points, but you left out one major reason why some ladies are still single

There are too many liars and cheats out there, and some ladies will have non of that. Maybe this is the unrealistic part some of the men here are referring to. I know a lot of ladies that have dated guys who had nothing and really tried to help out, but the guys were busy going for the easy materialistic babes that most guys on NL complain about, but still follow/chase them. At the end of the day, guys say they want hardworking ladies who want to develop themselves and grow with the man, from what i have seen (and my personal experience)for the most part, it is all talk cos some of the guys end up getting with the materialistic, no future ambition chick. Just saying.

i cant but agree but u also undastand that greater percentage of ladies dat tries to help guy in turn insults de man and always remind de guy of how she picked him up from under-de-bridge.
thats one part that of ladies dat guys hate so much.
thaats one of de reasons dat influence guy's decisions srt de future with dose ladies.

Konnektions146:
i cant but agree but u also undastand that greater percentage of ladies dat tries to help guy in turn insults de man and always remind de guy of how she picked him up from under-de-bridge.
thats one part that of ladies dat guys hate so much.
thaats one of de reasons dat influence guy's decisions srt de future with dose ladies.

fine, there are ladies who lord it over their man, but not all ladies are like that and no gender is free from blame. I think that on nairaland, guys are too quick to bash females, and for the most part they are the enablers, catering to the wishes of materialistic chicks. Same goes for ladies, enabling guys to cheat. also for the most part when a man does something wrong, it somehow comes back to the woman, its her fault. I see the same idea showing up in your post. I look forward to the day that guys will just take responsibility for their actions, same goes for us women.

In anycase, there are many more reasons why people are single, OP did a good job of naming a few, and those points are not limited to ladies, applies to both

[quote author=Miss EZ]

fine, there are ladies who lord it over their man, but not all ladies are like that and no gender is free from blame. /quote]

realistically, everyone has a part to play, just dat ladies tendd to be confused and expect so much , want so much,

@acid talk men have this strange tendency to cheat but Nigerian men give cheating a whole new meaning. So,if he cant keep his d**k in his pants,i might as well be compensated for putting up with his uuuu, extracurricular activities.

[quote author=Konnektions146][/quote]

True to a certain extent, depends on what kind of woman you go for

james1: @poster.nice one.
The blood in many naija gals need to be replaced and they need brain transplant cos they are so,so set in their ways.wrong ways.
Many naija gals are strictly after what they can get,get and get from a man,they never think;what can I contribute to grow this.
Many have acute problems with thinking things through.
Such gals need massive orientation.

100% truth..

gree-die:
Im guilty of no 3 and 1 maybe. ll try to ease up on dat, not dat im searching....

Nice thread really, im enlightened

I love peeps like you who are humble and ready to learn than argue. You will find inner peace soon.