-Fake Accent
-Covering your baldness with weave-on.
-Always wanting to EAT anytime a guy takes you out.
-Having an IQ that is the same as your bra size and still not being humble.
-When you just have one egg left in your womb.

The list is quite endless.

Miss EZ:

How about those who believe in potential and do everything to support the man and try to help him to reach that potential, but instead he is screwing around? OP has made some good points, but you left out one major reason why some ladies are still single

There are too many liars and cheats out there, and some ladies will have non of that. Maybe this is the unrealistic part some of the men here are referring to. I know a lot of ladies that have dated guys who had nothing and really tried to help out, but the guys were busy going for the easy materialistic babes that most guys on NL complain about, but still follow/chase them. At the end of the day, guys say they want hardworking ladies who want to develop themselves and grow with the man, from what i have seen (and my personal experience)for the most part, it is all talk cos some of the guys end up getting with the materialistic, no future ambition chick. Just saying.

They are always two sides of a story sometimes ten.
I really agree with you, but I also know alot of ladies who stayed with their man and are happily married.
The truth is we all have a role in making things better than it is. We can start from ourselves.

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duke keata:

They are always two sides of a story sometimes ten.
I really agree with you, but I also know alot of ladies who stayed with their man and are happily married.
The truth is we all have a role in making things better than it is. We can start from ourselves.

Agreed. You kinda get the point i am making. It takes two to make a relationship work. If one partner does everything right and the other just keeps taking without giving back, the relationship wont work, and if it does, one person will be unhappy.

I have to agree that naija babes are incredibly materialistic today than they were a few years back. I am also sad to see that they arent doing too much to grow themselves rather than wait for someone else to do it for them. I think that every woman should find something to do with her hands no matter how small and contribute to the life of her partner. i admire our mothers o, some of them were and are still the bread winners, or toiled just as hard as our dads to make sure the kids were taken care of

On the other hand, guys need to learn to zip up and try honesty and faithfulness for a change. Its sad to see that fidelity is no longer an issue on the side of the guy, it is taboo for women, but okay for guys. Terrible double standard.

Anyhow sorry for derailing the thread. I am definitely that person that needs to make new friends and go out more. But my work schedule is so crazy that i really dont have that time.

ifihearam: Here are some reasons why I think women are still single these days (in no particular order)*:

1. You’re not approachable.
Girl, you need to SMILE. Period. Guys need some green-light action so when they glance over and you don’t smile back, they take it as a “don’t even think about it” signal. This is what my male friends tell me. Another reason why you might be unapproachable could be because you are always surrounded by your girlfriends! Some women don’t know how to be alone. If you’re always with people how can people walk up to you? Try going to the movies alone, jogging, taking a walk, and see what happens…

2. You haven’t figured out your life’s purpose.
Yup! I always say “before you ask someone to go on a journey with you, you have to know where you’re going”. In this case, the journey is a relationship or marriage. You kinda have to know where it is you want to go in life before you take someone along. We are growing everyday so you won’t have it all figured out before you pursue a relationship, but at least you’ll know in which direction you’re headed and that will make it easier to decide who to go with on the journey.

3. You aren’t meeting NEW people.
Most people’s routines are so rigid and their social circles have stayed the same for years! They go to work, Church, home, and maybe one or two places and that’s it. No surprise you ain’t found someone all this time! You know they say “madness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result” I’m not saying you’re mad, but maybe it’s time to change things up a little bit. How? You ask. Well, by changing up where you go and going out with a variety of friends. Have a diverse pool of friends and hang out with different groups. You’ll probably meet new people that way. Network. Follow up on business contacts. Tap into all your affiliations not just because you want a romantic relationship but also because you want richer friendships and a richer life.

4. The guys around you are straight up not ready!
Yup! ‘Cos girl, you KNOW you got it going on. You’re beautiful, hardworking, friendly, fun, etc. but the dudes around you are either SUPER blind, intimidated (in which case it’s okay), or they’re not your type. So, what do you do in this case? Hmmm, you could try the tips in #3 and see how that goes or honey, call on Jesus to order the right dude’s steps!

5. You’re being unrealistic.
Hmm, this is an interesting one. I believe everyone should have non-negotiables when it comes to relationships but I guess sometimes the expectations can be unrealistic. I always say that we put too much pressure on other human beings to be PERFECT. We really shouldn’t expect more from others than we are ourselves. My Pastor said something the other day that was very profound. He said a lot of women are looking for oak trees (ready-made, already established men) when they should be looking for acorns (men with potential). I know a lot of women especially after a certain age don’t want to be with “potential” but when he said that, I realized that there will be some kind of potential in the guy that only a woman can bring out. Haven’t you noticed that when your male friends get married, shortly after they get that “marriage glow”? I notice it all the time! It’s the woman! She’s bringing out the best in him. So, ladies, don’t be afraid of potential anymore. Just get with the kind of potential you are comfortable with.

Phew! So, what do y’all think? What other reasons do you think explain why women and men are STILL single?

pls tell them o

D points u made ar correct abut women.most weoman love already made.

Very true èxposè, thnks 4d reawakening.

Mrs.Chima:


Some of the threads opened about looking for wives didn't mention any age. However, there are single men complaining about not being married for whatever reasons.

My last comment still stands.

Uhmm..that will be a first. 'cos I'm yet to find any thread of men complaining about not getting married.

Mrs.Chima:


Some men are happy when single. Some men doesn't speak for all men.
Some women are happy when single. Some women doesn't speak for all women.

Question, can a man stay single and keep his dick in his pants?

@bolded YES! I am a living proof of that.

Polygamy is the solution. Allah(God) from his Infinite Knowledge and Mercy has permitted men to marry more than one wife. This is the only proven viable solution that than help reduce the nos of single ladies, widowers, divorcees looking for a husband. As allah (God) stated in the glorious quran ch4 v3;-

..... marry women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly, then only one or that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice.

duke keata:


I love peeps like you who are humble and ready to learn than argue. You will find inner peace soon.

amen o, tnx

Konnektions146:
is nyan shi ng a guy a favour to him

There are three types of nyashing with definations.

1..Unconditionally.. Nyashing any time, any where, any how and any style you are in love with a male.
2..Bargain....because he is buying nice dinner, taking you shopping or trying to keep him..
3..Selfish... Just because you wanna.

Now to amswer your question, unconditional nyashing is the blast for any male, because the females give their heart, body and soul.
Anyway, there are more male stone, bronze, silver and gold diggers than females.
Males pretend .
while females carry their shovels, hatchet and wheelbarrow everywhere ready for instant digging.
I said it...

Thanks to y'all that commented positively on this post,I believe there are better posts still coming from we nairalanders.

Mrs.Chima:
The same reasons why some women are single is the same reasons why some men are single.

I mean seriously?

.silly goat. I have seen some of your posts and you are really silly.

ZUBY77:
.silly goat. I have seen some of your posts and you are really silly.

U call Mrs Chima goat? E don be for u

Also check this
www.nairaland.com/546263/why-do-girls-wake-up at 27

Itspossible......men_can_fit_holdbody!

Mrs.Chima:


Some men are happy when single. Some men doesn't speak for all men.
Some women are happy when single. Some women doesn't speak for all women.

Question, can a man stay single and keep his dick in his pants?

Miss EZ:

Agreed. You kinda get the point i am making. It takes two to make a relationship work. If one partner does everything right and the other just keeps taking without giving back, the relationship wont work, and if it does, one person will be unhappy.

I have to agree that naija babes are incredibly materialistic today than they were a few years back. I am also sad to see that they arent doing too much to grow themselves rather than wait for someone else to do it for them. I think that every woman should find something to do with her hands no matter how small and contribute to the life of her partner. i admire our mothers o, some of them were and are still the bread winners, or toiled just as hard as our dads to make sure the kids were taken care of

On the other hand, guys need to learn to zip up and try honesty and faithfulness for a change. Its sad to see that fidelity is no longer an issue on the side of the guy, it is taboo for women, but okay for guys. Terrible double standard.

Anyhow sorry for derailing the thread. I am definitely that person that needs to make new friends and go out more. But my work schedule is so crazy that i really dont have that time.

You are as natural as a pair of old shoes. Thank you for your honesty. But please don't allow urself to believe that am too busy excuse. You need to give yourself a chance. Please make out time, no excuses.

sauer:

Duke_Nija:
Men are happy when single.
Seriously!

Yeah,buh not all d time.it wil get to a stage where u wil begin to feel sometin is wrong wit u.

duke keata:
You are as natural as a pair of old shoes. Thank you for your honesty. But please don't allow urself to believe that am too busy excuse. You need to give yourself a chance. Please make out time, no excuses.

Have no idea what the bolded means. But anywho, its not what i have made myself believe o, its my reality. Doing a phd and teaching at the same time. All i can say is this kind of work is not for kids...lol...either in class teaching, or Assisting a professor, or attending my own class, or meeting with students, or grading, or writing a 20 page paper as i am doing right now :-). See i told you its crazy busy work...haha

Mrs.Chima:

There are thousands of women who are content with being single and I am talking about women GLOBALLY.

If contentment is a major priority in being single as a woman, why did u get married?

ZUBY77:
.silly goat. I have seen some of your posts and you are really silly.

@ZUBY, "silly" is an understatment. It should have been "demented and frustrated"! Female chauvanist chimp

Sometimes when I hear girls talk on NL...I cn get scared ooo.. K so because u built with one guy and left he u for anoda materialistic babe that means u shud lower ur standards and become materialistic also rite?What is the essence of woman...SUPPORT...Why will I leave a woman who is making successful for one who is jst asking for money everytime. And any girl who thinks nyanshing her bf is a sort of bargain has jst so lost it. Guys HATE that stuff and it also diminushes ur value. The only other pple I knw dat do dat her love peddlers.

Miss EZ:


Have no idea what the bolded means. But anywho, its not what i have made myself believe o, its my reality. Doing a phd and teaching at the same time. All i can say is this kind of work is not for kids...lol...either in class teaching, or Assisting a professor, or attending my own class, or meeting with students, or grading, or writing a 20 page paper as i am doing right now :-). See i told you its crazy busy work...haha

I catch your drift now, It is even not for some adult. All I can do now is wish u the best in what you are doing and hope u find a perfect blend for both parties. But I must confess that's a crazy busy work. Lol.

Mrs.Chima:


Some of the threads opened about looking for wives didn't mention any age. However, there are single men complaining about not being married for whatever reasons.

My last comment still stands.

Wives and girlfriends have different stands.

duke keata:

I catch your drift now, It is even not for some adult. All I can do now is wish u the best in what you are doing and hope u find a perfect blend for both parties. But I must confess that's a crazy busy work. Lol.

Lol, thanks mate. Wishing you the best too

Stella_Bella:

There are three types of nyashing with definations.

1..Unconditionally.. Nyashing any time, any where, any how and any style you are in love with a male.
2..Bargain....because he is buying nice dinner, taking you shopping or trying to keep him..
3..Selfish... Just because you wanna.

Now to amswer your question, unconditional nyashing is the blast for any male, because the females give their heart, body and soul.
Anyway, there are more male stone, bronze, silver and gold diggers than females.
Males pretend .
while females carry their shovels, hatchet and wheelbarrow everywhere ready for instant digging.
I said it...

Gurl u crazy .. As a fact most men pretend, and its quite saddening.

@Op, the men-folk can pick a thing or two from your post.

So the bottom-line is, curb your materialism. Try sticking with one partner, forget about being jilted.

Just give the relationship your all, because what goes around definitely comes around in more ways than one.

Go for self-improvement, the world is changing positively/negatively depending on the way you look at it. Change with it in a positive fashion.

Money isn't everything, but it wouldn't hurt to motivate him to make make more than you can spend.

"You and him"

Stella_Bella:

There are three types of nyashing with definations.

1..Unconditionally.. Nyashing any time, any where, any how and any style you are in love with a male.
2..Bargain....because he is buying nice dinner, taking you shopping or trying to keep him..
3..Selfish... Just because you wanna.

Now to amswer your question, unconditional nyashing is the blast for any male, because the females give their heart, body and soul.
Anyway, there are more male stone, bronze, silver and gold diggers than females.
Males pretend .
while females carry their shovels, hatchet and wheelbarrow everywhere ready for instant digging.
I said it...

i cant believe u just got me laughin dis much...thanks for the dat.

de bolded,dere are gold or silver digger in men but dont forget that a great percentage of men dont and wont be a burden to any lady especially puttin their ego at stake.
there re far less industrious and independent ladies with the right mentality than the others.

nyas.hing is a 2-way thing, i want yu to undastand that it comes afetr a relatively mutual aggreement between both parties of which any can opt out if not so satisfied with the whole arrangement.

i just want people to stop pecieving dis as a favour to de guys alone cos the last time i nyas,hed de lady seem to have enjoyed it much more than i did.

Decryptor: If contentment is a major priority in being single as a woman, why did u get married?

is she married? lol

Help me ask her oo