nnana4top: @nekye thanks for the advice. @kitty kat thanks for the advice, but an adage say the devil u know is better than the angel u dont know. Am not too good at women issue, i have only had two GF my whole life. My fear is starting a new one. Thanks

kitty kat: If u don't let go, your hands won't be free to receive what Gods has to offer. Cos they are closed still holding onto the old shit.

You r not in love, you r just scared that you won't find another person. There are a lot of beautiful, young smart, well behaved women looking for a young man to call theirs. They would also be by your side 247, to encourage u to achieve ur dreams.

The choice is urs. Remain there in fear when u have the choice of launching out into the deep and meeting someone who would take you for whom you are. Pls trust me on this, take a risk meet new ppl. For someone like u, you need to meet at least 4 - 5 chicks weekly not for dating or intimacy. Just simple hello, what's ur name, what do u do, maybe can I have ur number? This will help u build ur confidence in bits until u r ready for a real relationship.

Don't give up and settle for less.

Exponental: I understand ur feelings. Take a break, dont start anoda yet..... Remain focus, she will come back if shes 4 u.

nekye63: Just try to convince her and make her to see d reason why she should stay, and also tell her dat money is nt everything and no one knows tomorrow, but if she does nt. Understand Just struggle hard u will make it, Just forget abt her u will see another girl.

Exponental: I understand ur feelings. Take a break, dont start anoda yet..... Remain focus, she will come back if shes 4 u.

Idowuogbo: Poster kitty nailed it! Listen, stop bin so vulnerable.The so called gal knows u kissing her feet, so she'll continue to make u uncomfortable to make herself comfortable.Tbh, dats already a bad trait for a lady u eventually want to b ur wife.I know as humans we get a bit use to certain scenarios, but deres a limit to wot we should endure.D lady shud support and believe in you, Yes! Finance is important but a trying bruda and an ambitious one for dat mata shud be motivated by his partner.Dude fear not,deres always someone for somebody don't accept d unacceptable cus u feel u have no choice, dats absolute BS.If u can't fix it den drop it.Goodluck!

Idowuogbo: Poster kitty nailed it! Listen, stop bin so vulnerable.The so called gal knows u kissing her feet, so she'll continue to make u uncomfortable to make herself comfortable.Tbh, dats already a bad trait for a lady u eventually want to b ur wife.I know as humans we get a bit use to certain scenarios, but deres a limit to wot we should endure.D lady shud support and believe in you, Yes! Finance is important but a trying bruda and an ambitious one for dat mata shud be motivated by his partner.Dude fear not,deres always someone for somebody don't accept d unacceptable cus u feel u have no choice, dats absolute BS.If u can't fix it den drop it.Goodluck!

Vikin: . So you can speak english! .P

kitty kat: Geeezzzz!!!!
What's wrong with you? You really need to be hit on ur head with a stick. Are u blind or just plain old dumb.

Someone is just using u for an ATM machine. Even ATM machine dey get better treatment compared to what ar u getting. And u r here singing love. Love gbakwaaa oku!!! Make Boko Haram destroy this ur kind of stooopid love.

Abeg pls just end that relationship. You r destroying urself. Why can't ppl just get it when a relationship isn't working and that they shd move on? You deserve to be respected and cherished. You need a woman that will be by your side all the time, blv in u and cheer u up to be the Man that u shld be. A woman is a helpmeet not pulldown.


Pls get ur self together, be a man and move on. You can do it. Pray and u will definitely meet a better person. I had the same fears that u are having now. They are just that, FEARS. There are always a lot of fishes in the water. Try to meet ppl more and don't be scared of rejection. In Igbo, they say, u no go run from a necessary battle because of fear of injury. In other words, rejection and disappointments are necessary evils in the world of dating and meetin the one.

I wish you the best.

nnana4top: Hello house, pls advice me have been into a relationship with a lady for 3yrs now, i love her with all my heart and have never cheated on her. I am a graduate but my income is not stable and now no work. She is comparing to her elder sister boyfriend dat spends a lot for her sister. I do try my best to meet her needs. She has cheated on me b4 , even left for me for a banker that ends up beating her. Becos of the love i accepted her back. I was hoping to marry her, am 32. Right now am confused cos she told me she cant cope with my no finance issue. I still believe God dat with 2:1 grade i soon get a job, though am doing printing business for now and hope to be a stockbroker in future, i believe in myself. Am so scared cos starting a new relationship will be hard for me. Should i let her go and believe God for another lady. I love her so much cos she has been there for me, but like she is giving up on me. Pls advise me . You reach me with your advice at nnana4top@yahoo.com

Bro, why are you so dumb for chrissakes?

afrodiva: You need to give this relationship a break for atleast 6 months.obviously the babe is also confused about you but at same timetaking advantage of your feelings for her. You need to clear your head and mind.I also wouldn't advice going back to your Abuja ex. You don't have much feelings for her and you might do the same thing your girl is doing to her.its not easy to let go when you really love someone but at this point you have to cut your losses and run. Trust me you'll be in a better place emotionally in 6 months and able to make better decisions .if she really doesnt. Lv u she'll be gone forever..goodluck.

BlakkBoi: @poster, you are struggling with life and still talking about losing a girl who needs you more as a world bank. I have been extremely broke before and relied on love as a source of adding some meaning to my life until she left. 6 months later i got a contract, which gave me a decent apartment, a car and a life. Today, she is trying to make it back to my life. But my brother i will with girls way better ans finer than her. So, she leaving me then was a blessing in disguise.

Leave that girl and go thank God for saving you from her.