Chimezie198: Bushmeat!

Onegai: The Cowardly, immature way:
1. Disappearing, no calls, no texts. The person will get the message.
2. Breaking up harshly, blame the other party completely. You did nothing wrong and you just want that person gone fast.
3. Insensitive, sending a text. When you started the rel, you did it in person. Now you avoid the messiness.

The following 3 guarantees you'll end up regretting your decision or begging whilst that person moves on and laughs. Trust me. I've done all 3, you will regret that decision. Reason being, is that how you break up reflects how you were in the relationship (Shocking!!), so breaking up immaturely shows you made an bad decision with your immature mind, hence you'll regret it.

The Good way:
1. Trying to fix things first. Everyone wants readymade nowadays: the generous good guy, the humble pretty, calm girl. No-one wants to build anything and work with flaws. So look first.
2. If that fails, call the person to a meeting. Say, "I'm sorry, this isn't gonna work out. It's both of us, we're too different/bla blah and I don't want to waste your time further. I wish you the best". Do not start laying blame. If the person asks why, assure them they'll get an answer by email in a month's time (giving you time to calmly tell the truth, rather than give a hot answer). Then don't contact them. If they say hi, say hi 6 hours later. Don't be friends, not for a while. They need to heal.

The 2nd scenario closes the door, the first slams it shut. You NEVER wanna slam any door shut in Life.
All the guys I did the 2nd one to, lovely. It hurt, but I was glad, they were glad. The first scenario left me with a lot of unfinished business and regrets and some begging. Make your choice

L u c i d:

i knew girls will hop on this thread to vent their frustration at our dumping stratagem...lol. Sorry some girls are not worth that second part(the good way) at all. THE NAGGING TYPES HAVE NO REDEMPTION. Only idi.ots will desire a girl after they've dumped her.

emiye: Girl, you are a gem!, but if you take a study of our "relationship", relation is long dead, we are only left with "ship".
Unfortunately the "ship" is also sinking. I need you alive, let's get out of this "ship"

phemi3: When all roads seems heading to a stumbling block n d only way out is calling it quit. Though I know there is no right time/special moment of breaking someone's heart; especially if the person is truly in love with you. My curiousity grows when my friend(girl) told me she just ended her relationship of 5yrs with a phone text message (funny isn't it). Maybe that is the reason I ended up with so many GFs! Just want to know how u pop d pop question. Or how u got d message (bang). D method being used, without much hard feelings.

Chimezie198: Slimyem its OVER!
simple. If she wanna go hang herself on a tree, who cares?
Mchewwww

Toppié2: So phemi, tell me, hw did u brk up wth ur own girlfrend? Share ur experience plz!

Chimezie198: Slimyem its OVER!
simple. If she wanna go hang herself on a tree, who cares?
Mchewwww

phemi3: hmnnnnn! Let me quickly point out that I'm a coward! Never really brokeñ with anyone via high table nor text; just walk away without any communication(text/call). Like I ve said; I have so many girlfriends because we just walk away from each other. I know ' i might not be man of enough'. But would you have me do; when every time I confronted sum1 abt a way out; they ended up crying like sum1 being sentence to death for stealing only egg! I tried breaking with a girl on April 1st; only for me to turn it to April fool. Just cant handle those scenes.

Onegai:

You can show it in your character. But if I see any thread that says "2 wks of Malice and she's gone to another Man" or "NL pls advise me" (check the romance first page to understand whose thread it is) or anything like that, I will get on and laugh on the thread, [size=28pt]like 190[/size]. Because she showed you her character rather than act like a decent person and tell you it's over.

Onegai: Seriously, you don't wake up having problems in your relationship and magically fix them with a breakup. Your breakup reflects your relationship, I've seen this 100% of the time. If you go about it immaturely, you will regret, because you made that decision to break up with an immature mind. So better think things through and be slow to break up, just as you were hopefully slow to enter the rel.

Onegai:

Actually, no. But I had to help a lot of people in their breakups, especially guys. And it always seemed the stupider stunts were pulled by them, and then they would regret it, but hold onto some reason not to try win the girl back. I'm working with 2 whom I'm trying to convince to go back to their girls: one is sitting on his hands (and when the babe marries, I will delete him if he comes crying because he did nothing), the other is too focused on his problems(some which he caused himself).

Kingsleyinfo: @onegai
I love the way u have explained things, and I totally agree with ür points.
There is always. A better way to do things
just treat others the same way u want to be treated.

jp philips:

before you join her hallelujah train, do u think that if she was the best of persons you will be breaking up in the first place?
feminism is a curse, you want to be treated with respect when the rel ship is sick of ur misdeeds? what an irony.

jp philips:

maturity in breaking up? what does that mean? i am saying this for the umpteenth time, ladies need just two hours in a life time to understand a little how men think.

lemme ask you? do you know him before he asked you out? he was just any random guy in whom you were well pleased that's all. you weighed your options and fell for him out of "suitability", i don't see the need for protocols when i personally think you are no longer "suitable".
if a girl thinks that my break up strategy is immature then, that is for her friends to worry about not me.
all i will tell you is this;

" this relationship was my idea and i want it no more" depending on my mood, i may tell you why or i may just walk, if you bother my phone, i will simply remind you that i was the one that walked up to you in the grocery store, if i meant the world like she claims, the reverse should be the case.

women need protocols and strategies to be approached, need counseling to consummate and now, we need protocols to "break up" please i am not jobless.

Toppié2:
lol.u almost sounded lyk my ex. He jst went cold all of a sudden nd startd finding faults lyk....'u'r nt happy' 'u'r nt enthusiastic' 'u'r nt pasion8 bout d rel.'etc, etc. nt cosidering d fact dat i jst lost d only sis av ad al my lyf. Bt i wudnt av bn dz hurt if he had cme out straight instead of giving me attitude. Communicatn is vital even in a dying rel,if at all u av 2 kal it quit its apropra8 u sit d oda person dwn, mk hm/her undrstnd why u'v taken sch decision, dz shws u respect d oda person's feelings nd if ur partner's middle name is nt mario, he/she wud tak it wiv undrstnding nd maturity knowing fully well dat no mater hw hard it is; tym wil def heal it.
Going cold drasticaly or even gradually wil only brng hatred nd bitterness

phemi3: Baddest guy! Never really agreed with her anyway (onyegai); but she does have a point about being a man. Protocol/no protocol; u re bound to break. But why waste your time on perfecting the said 'protocol', when you have more demanding things to attend to. Like the part 'I'm not jobless' (me too).