Kevin_II: what is it with nigerian girls and the OBSESSION to get married, huh? can't they just live their lives?

ogugua88:

Do I come across as a liar?

But_one_day: Interesting pls, can i have her contact info: i would like to see her and have a discussion with her for good not for evil. Here are my nos:08038234569,07084939971. Thank u.

free2ryhme:

Being married shows that you are responsible, decent and got character .. That's the culture in Nigeria

But_one_day: I am a bussiness guy hia in lagos ''computer village'' am searching for a life partner. Pls tell her to contact me on dis nos:08038234569 or 07084939971, =or email me at: divineosy79@yahoo.ca for gud not for evil.

Miss EZ: As a lady living a broad, i will have to echo your friends sentiment and agree that it is more difficult to find a Nigerian man to marry here. You have to be confident in yourself and trust that when the time comes things will fall in place to be able to stay here especially in regards to relationships. If she is open to marrying from another ethnic group/foreigners, that shouldnt be too much of a problem as against marrying your own. I think that if marriage is a priority for her, there is no reason for her to feel bad about putting that first, and atleast she is being honest about wanting to settle down rather than denying it.

For me i think that it is essential that women empower themselves career wise and all, but at the end of the day, having a family is also important and not every woman who desires one is unwise. It is part of our culture and even religion. In negotiating our way through life, it is important to find balance and so it makes me sad when people make it look like wanting to get married is a crime. Another problem i have is when people make it look like wanting to marry a Nigerian is a bad preference. I live abroad and i find that regardless of the kind of people i meet, there is no place like home, and when Naija men never finish, wetin i de find? But it is my preference. We should learn to respect people's preference because there is a reason behind it.

I wish your friend luck in making a decision.

DailyNews: Lolz...lol....all these guys here, don't u guys want to marry? u all are just busy counseling the young lady & op & not even thinking of hooking up with the lady in question....lolz...abi Nigerian guys are now alergic to marrying Nigerian ladies or to marriage entirely?? Or should I say that all guys on Nairaland are married or not marriage-able Lolz....

ficoram: @op.
I can understand your friend fear,but I ll advice her to take to the suggestion Ilaje made earlier-that your friend should summon courage and travel to the uk if she thinks that will be a better option.she should only play her cards well and the right man will come.
One thing I always recommend for my female friends is to- DEPRIVE your boyfriend of sex,be modest,despiracy is not an option,convince a man,with your actions,that u are about the best option for him,be seen as an ambitious woman and leave the rest to destiny to decide.This rule works anywhere. wish her the best.

DailyNews: I have two friends in New York & Texas now, who wants to get married & had been pleading with me to help them find a decent girl in Nigeria to marry, that our Nigerian ladies down there are nothing to write home about, I still wonder why shaa....another of my friend that is doing his masters in UK, is always telling me that Nigerian ladies in UK are not marriage-able, said a lot of ill things about them which makes me wonder if abroad is a curse or a blessing to our ladies? Now to the topic, @op, tell your friend to border less, but honestly, working in Nigeria is far more comfortable, sweeter & profitable than working in America or Europe if its a good co. And couple with her fears, she should ask the co. to pls retain her here in Nigeria until she is emotionally settled to migrate abroad. If then she is lucky enough for the co. to accept her option, then she needs to make herself visible to her kind of men so that she can connect with one soon before it gets too late & by then, she will be seen as a bad lady who had been running around with old men...which may damper her chances of finding a true man to marry for a lasting happy marriage she desires. But then, what has she been doing all these while that she hasn't found herself a fiancee? A man can be completely single @late twenties, cos of so many reasons, but a lady is somewhat hard to believe. I hope this story is not fried up to enlighten us

Rocktation: Tell her to stop bothering her head and do whatever she feels is right to do. Call me archaic, thank you, but I happen to believe in destiny. If it's her destiny to get married, she will get married. Even if she decides to reside in Jupitar.

Mayflowa:

The biggest problem from marrying from another ethnic origin is the cultural difference. You have to be very tolerant and patient less the relationship will crash as it comes.

sashaa:
it always baffles me when people ask what a lady has been doin that she hasnt found a husband/fancee. What does that even mean? Things do not and cannot happen for everyone at the same time. Ok, why is it that we all dont cruise around in flashy cars? Or all have nice houses? Does that mean that the seemingly rich ones among us ar d only ones working hard? Ofcos not! Plz, lets not keep thinking in that manner

sashaa:
it always baffles me when people ask what a lady has been doin that she hasnt found a husband/fancee. What does that even mean? Things do not and cannot happen for everyone at the same time. Ok, why is it that we all dont cruise around in flashy cars? Or all have nice houses? Does that mean that the seemingly rich ones among us ar d only ones working hard? Ofcos not! Plz, lets not keep thinking in that manner

SAFO: ^^^ More Profitable? You sure about that?