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Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 1:06pm On May 28, 2012 |
sashaa:I understand u dear, but u know y we always think in that direction? becos here in Nigeria, guys approach girls, not necessarily girls approach guys, which makes it more easier for a girl to just sit down doing her thing or going about her business while the guys worry about her & come asking her out for dates & marriage. and for this, most girls at their early twenties which seems to be their peak moment in life, sit down filtering guys after guys out of greed, selfish quest & self gratification, and in the process ends up filtering the real guys away either becos they didn't come or approached her in the way & manner she had been dreaming & fantasizing- maybe like one actor approached one actress in one movie she liked, etc or like one rich guy approached one of her friend or cousin, etc. In so doing, they get over riped & then guys as usual start to class her as gold digger, bad girl, irresponsible, over-selective, player, blah, blah, blah. To be honest dear, can u tell me that there is a girl of 25+ in Nigerian scenario that has never been approached by at least 5 guys for serious relationship? Like a poster said here, our ladies need to stop being materialistic in their action, thinking, etc & face the reality of today world & stop being misled by media/music/movie-driven life they watch. Seriously, modern movie, music, & media is really doing the Nigerian ladies harm than good, & thats why I detaste a lady that watch moviemagic, africa magic, big brother show, E! all day....those channels are misleading....they have spoilt & destroyed our Nigerian culture & the good moral conduct of our today women. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by kwenu: 1:12pm On May 28, 2012 |
Good Post Op, sometimes i get to wonder why women or ladies dont go straight to the point in voicing out what is in thier hearts,Visit the travel section and somehow u get to see the desperation among Nigerian Male youths planing to leave the country. one question that needs to be asked is what are they looking for outside of the country? ok dont let me get too emotional. let me come down to your topic. i will advise that your friend stays in Naija first, let him be into a serious relationship that can lead to marriage like (getting engaged)first. i have a sister who at the age of 28 traveled to join his boyfriend in a country outside Nigeria. the boyfriend made the travel plans for her , while she supported by purchasing flight ticket to meet him. now they live together and plan to get married when they are ready. as her younger brother my prayers for her is that she finds happiness. because i love her so much, i dont care about her getting material wealth but happiness. Secondly, i have seen her previous dates leave the country to settle for other foreign women in countries like south africa and UK. And its very painful and heartbreaking for her because they promised her marriage. she once had a plan like yours to leave the country for stuffs like education and i was in position helping her find a good school abroad where she can continue her HND Program but we have to cancel the plans when her boyfirend decided for her to come over . I m glad now that she is with someone she truely love and they living thier lives together and happy in the New country they are. She is my sister i love her so much that whatever Hurts her pains me too. So i feel too for ladies out there my sympathy goes out to y all I know of a beautiful, tall, humble,kind and homely lady which i do call aunty in my childhood days, shes the first (ADA) child and daughter of all in her family but yet her younger sister , who isnt pretty at all but educated as she is just got married and delivered a a baby for her husband, YET the first daughter of the family is still and i know of a guy on my compound where i live who had a lady he was dating they were so much inlove with eachother . she finally left him for the Uk but 8 months later the guy travelled to the Uk aswell to join her. they planned thier lives. further advise you can seek a guy who has thesame vision as you have as to travelling to the USA now while you re still in NIgeria. you both plan your lives together to meet there and settle(get mattied) Our Women should be more open to thier problems so that their brothers can help them. not all issues of the heart should be kept secrete. My boss here lived all his life in the USA but he settled for a Nigerian woman here and now he is citizen of USA. he sees those women in America as for FUN(you know what i mean)mostly he dosent like the white chicks dem compared to a black female (guy is crazy about blacks female) but dosent joke with the Naija wife at home, cos that one will keep his home for him, he is a wise man, he was lucky to find a good wife here in Nigeria. Naija men are still the best so far, when it comes to Marriage because we dont divorce our women(divorce rate is very low here in niaja. divorce dosent favour women. not good for any household. The whites them see divorce as normal, they see marriage and divorce as means of happiness. Its not so with we Nigerians and africans. and let me tell you YOUR HUSBAND IS IN NIGERIA .I m sure of that. @OP i DOnt know why i have to spend time in writing all this to you but i guess its because i feel your friends pain.and women generally. I hope you ll learn something from all this i have posted. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 1:15pm On May 28, 2012 |
Hmm. Its always a friend. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 1:21pm On May 28, 2012 |
I advise Seun to set up a Page dedicated for match-making. The lady in question needs a husband, and we have several Nigerians searching for wives with her credentials. 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 1:22pm On May 28, 2012 |
kwenu: Good Post Op, sometimes i get to wonder why women or ladies dont go straight to the point in voicing out what is in thier hearts,Visit the travel section and somehow u get to see the desperation among Nigerian Male youths planing to leave the country. So what exactly is your point? Na wa for people o. Well, op, there goes your epistle. I hope therein you find your solution. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by SAFO(m): 1:46pm On May 28, 2012 |
The problem here is that culture in America is different, even Nigerians in America are different. The pressure is coming from back home but there is no pressure over here to settle down so of course you're going to have difficulties finding a suitable companion that fits the criteria you're looking for. The solution is that that you have to temper your expectations and adjust accordingly. It's a different sorry if you're in Nigeria but as the saying goes "When in Rome act like a Roman". Focus on your reasons for moving abroad in the first place and eventually you'll find a companion but don't expect it to happen overnight. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 1:50pm On May 28, 2012 |
mollytinrox: I tire for the self-ordained pastor o! The narration eh! Lol! |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 1:59pm On May 28, 2012 |
I don't know about other countries, but most naija men (black men) in the UK aren't interested in marriage...And definitely not to a naija girl lol... Very few people get married, and most times it's just ceremonial.. Her best option is to attend 'owanbe' parties as often as she can - and she'll definitely find an alternative as a concubine of one of these naija uncles... But her efo riro, fish soup, and pounded yam has to be top notch. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Aijara: 2:12pm On May 28, 2012 |
my candid advise is that, if it bothers u that much, GET DOWN ON YR KNEES AND SEEK GOD'S FACE, HE WILL CERTAINLY SHOW U D RITE WAY TO, IT HAS NEVER FAILED me, ever since i started trusting d WORD OF GOD. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 2:21pm On May 28, 2012 |
Kevin_II: what is it with nigerian girls and the OBSESSION to get married, huh? can't they just live their lives?Abii ooo. and its not as if their going to improve anything in the unfortunate man's life just misery sorrow and unnecessary demands no wonder oyinbo when get sense no dey gree marry wahala. 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by cnwachukwu36: 2:39pm On May 28, 2012 |
yes they find it difficult to get married especially to the nigeria guys that live outside becaurse most nigeria girls outiside are rude and like aready made,which guys are not ready for that.Secondly most of them are lazy to support a man thinkin them theirselves are men thats why here in canada they are all old and ugly the most beautiful nigeria girls do not get the opportunity to travel..Some of them are good dont get me wronge tho but only few 1 out of 10 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 2:58pm On May 28, 2012 |
Staying abroad would surely limit your chances of getting a good guy..I would agree wt u on that but on the other hand too not all ladies residing in Nigeria do get the so called "good guys'.Based on that I would say that no human on this forum or any other place would advise you rightly on this issue cos no human can tell what tomorrow holds.I will advice u seek God's face,who knows maybe one of the reasons U have this opportunity to travel is to meet your divine partner too and here you are considering staying back cos u tink u will get him in Nigeria...u just can't tell..Seek his face and am sure he will direct your path.Accept my best wishes. 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by amirize(m): 3:03pm On May 28, 2012 |
Can you ask her to email me 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by peclint: 3:13pm On May 28, 2012 |
If you need a good advise, stay back in Nigeria. If marriage is more important to you, stay back in Naija. I keep on telling people , there is nothing so special abroad, the wise Nigerians only come abroad for holidays and live a wonderful life in Nigeria. The reason many Nigerian men go back to naija for marriage is that its very difficult finding Nigerian ladies with Nigerian values here. 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by AfricaFace(f): 3:52pm On May 28, 2012 |
this is the dumbest questions i have seen in teh last 2 decades of my life. Career progression and fear of seeing a husband. don't worry, turn down the job, marry mr Nigeria , stay idle and be a complete house wife, then you would know which is prior. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by ccollins(m): 4:05pm On May 28, 2012 |
hello,i am a nice and decent man.i am also looking for a female partner.could u mail me at collinsreal@live.com .. I was just thinking abt a serious relationship and i must confess that i have the same interest with u abt travelling and leaving a established life over there with u.trust me on this.i just need her mutual trust 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 4:12pm On May 28, 2012 |
@OP, you would find a myriad of reasons why Nigerian (African) ladies based abroad find it difficult to get hitched here Note:the findings presented are actually based on empirical data derived from research and not the she-say, he-say anecdotes we get around these parts The Reasons so Many African Women Abroad are SingleRead More That's me done with community service for the day 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Chinom(m): 4:13pm On May 28, 2012 |
AfricaFace: this is the dumbest questions i have seen in teh last 2 decades of my life. Career progression and fear of seeing a husband. Who the fc*uk do you think you are to tell her what her priorities should be?. Career is more important to you ?! well good for you. For the woman, raising a family is more important. You are the type that end up as miserable old spinsters. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Raxxye(m): 4:16pm On May 28, 2012 |
Thank you, nairalanders, for your advice. The story wasn‘t made-up as some people speculated; it‘s real. For those who dropped their numbers to be called, I wonder if that would be necessary, but since the lady in question is an adult, I‘ll let her have them too. The decision is hers to make. Her parents are concerned too. As for me, I advised her to go ahead and travel, but she seems to prefer to stay back! 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by tpia5: 4:22pm On May 28, 2012 |
Ilaje44: Nothing wrong with being abroad as a Nigerian woman. However, your friend should be mindful of the circle of friends she keeps. She should rather go for the middle way. By that I mean, she should avoid those less educated owambe ring and the over educated I too knows. If she is patience enough, she would find a decent guy. She should just be herself. i thought i was the only one who noticed these things? |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by tpia5: 4:23pm On May 28, 2012 |
Mayflowa: The easiest way for your friend to get married is to arrange to get whoever she is dating now abroad. A gold-digger boyfriend my get stuck on that! lol its mainly some of these guys based abroad who keep encouraging women not to marry. well, i guess from their viewpoint, one cant blame them. You rarely hear a nigerian man based in nigeria saying women must not marry. fact of the matter is, marriageable men are scarce overseas, and the few available ones are hotly contested for by the women there, regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, etc. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by iykak47: 4:25pm On May 28, 2012 |
AfricaFace: this is the dumbest questions i have seen in teh last 2 decades of my life. Career progression and fear of seeing a husband.Did she tell you her work would stop after she finds a husband, busy body. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by tpia5: 4:27pm On May 28, 2012 |
maybe she wants her to start crying for husband after age 45 |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 4:36pm On May 28, 2012 |
LeoMax: I advise Seun to set up a Page dedicated for match-making. The lady in question needs a husband, and we have several Nigerians searching for wives with her credentials. There's a Dating/Meet-Up section. |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by love4ual: 4:36pm On May 28, 2012 |
i was just discussing this with my friend at work here in houston texas yesterday.........i grew up in nigeria....and it is hard for a man who grew up in nigeria to decide to marry a nigerian woman based oversea.........i have met them and i can tell u that many of them are just interested in a man who is a doctor, pharmacist and all of that......their choice of marriage is driven by materialism......... and also some of them are much older....30, 35, 40..............the worst is that majority do not appear to be respectly...... There are many of them in winners chapel, mountain of fire, redeem here in texas...........they are very desperetate but at the same time......have questionable characters...... i was advised by a married nigerian girl to go home and marry.....specifically i want to go to my village and marry....... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by mikron(m): 4:40pm On May 28, 2012 |
Kevin_II: what is it with nigerian girls and the OBSESSION to get married, huh? can't they just live their lives?what a stupid thing to say. If you are a woman would you say that? 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by sashaa(f): 6:26pm On May 28, 2012 |
fluid26:thank d stars u said MAYBE she was. And if she wasnt forming levels as u put it? What do you have to say then? Besides, what does it mean to form levels anyways? Because someone has a choice? Let me ask u, as a man will u or did u choose just any girl that came ur way as wife? I doubt that! But because she's a woman she should say yes to just any man even if she wasnt comfortable having him as a husband? And if she doesnt she is tagged as 'forming levels'. Some are blessed enough to meet and marry 'the one' earlier in life than others. Just as all fingers are not equal, so ar situations not equal also 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by Nobody: 6:57pm On May 28, 2012 |
sashaa: I agree with u on d point raised. However, I've one q? 4 u dear. If d girl in q? Shares ur school of thought, why does d subject bother her to d extent of probably cancelling the trip altogether? Doesn't it present her as someone who missed out on something she shouldnt have overlooked? 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by oiseworld: 7:13pm On May 28, 2012 |
girl you don't have to border your self, you can't eat your cake and have it. Thats the problems with the UK and US babes. The flirt, catch all source of fun especially in clubs, avoid church,smoke and drink and they want a husband without letting go of the void habits. Your case is different i believe. You are a good girl in nigeria so go and be one in america. Who knows you end up being a jewel amongst nigerian/american babes living inthe US. But if you choose to be enticed by the lavish and carefree life of the environment remember what i said earlier," you can't eat ur cake and have it". |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by niyitogun(m): 7:33pm On May 28, 2012 |
denitro: MUST SHE MARRY A NIGERIAN? It's her life, let her decide wats best for her and who she wld spend d rest of her life with...meaning watever makes her happy |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by SAFO(m): 8:00pm On May 28, 2012 |
Nobody is forcing her to go abroad and marry. If she knows it's harder to find a suitable mate then stay in Nigeria and marry till your hearts content. This really is a stupid thread. It's like Nigerian men are getting blamed for adapting to the culture overseas. That's just how it is. Deal with it or don't go, it's your choice. BTW, I think this whole pressure to get married thing is a useless, antiquated philosophy. There are certain things Nigerians need to evolve from and that's one of them. 1 Like |
Re: Do Nigerian Ladies Abroad Find It More Difficult To Find Husbands? by busybee24: 11:34pm On May 28, 2012 |
Sunmboluv: Staying abroad would surely limit your chances of getting a good guy..I would agree wt u on that but on the other hand too not all ladies residing in Nigeria do get the so called "good guys'.Based on that I would say that no human on this forum or any other place would advise you rightly on this issue cos no human can tell what tomorrow holds.I will advice u seek God's face,who knows maybe one of the reasons U have this opportunity to travel is to meet your divine partner too and here you are considering staying back cos u tink u will get him in Nigeria...u just can't tell..Seek his face and am sure he will direct your path.Accept my best wishes. because of course being a good guy is native to being in Nigeria... yeesh..... |
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