niyitogun:

It's her life, let her decide wats best for her and who she wld spend d rest of her life with...meaning watever makes her happy

SAFO: Nobody is forcing her to go abroad and marry. If she knows it's harder to find a suitable mate then stay in Nigeria and marry till your hearts content.

This really is a stupid thread. It's like Nigerian men are getting blamed for adapting to the culture overseas. That's just how it is. Deal with it or don't go, it's your choice.

BTW, I think this whole pressure to get married thing is a useless, antiquated philosophy. There are certain things Nigerians need to evolve from and that's one of them.

SAFO: The problem here is that culture in America is different, even Nigerians in America are different. The pressure is coming from back home but there is no pressure over here to settle down so of course you're going to have difficulties finding a suitable companion that fits the criteria you're looking for.

The solution is that that you have to temper your expectations and adjust accordingly. It's a different sorry if you're in Nigeria but as the saying goes "When in Rome act like a Roman". Focus on your reasons for moving abroad in the first place and eventually you'll find a companion but don't expect it to happen overnight.

But_one_day: ''YES'' reason because nigerian guys out dia will see dem as p.r.o.s.t.i.t.u.t.e?

Do I come across as a liar?

busybee24:

because of course being a good guy is native to being in Nigeria... yeesh.....

BUSH MAN: and also this cold winter weather here is not helping naija women, it make them look dry and rough, and also so their fake hair make them look horrible why? cant they keep their own hair no matter how small, i mean.. keep it real and natural!!

But her efo riro, fish soup, and pounded yam has to be top notch.

Guys abroad too on the other hand are players . if you think men in Nigeria are Bad then try those of us living abroad we are even worst then the women and Dogs put together. all they want is just a nice time and thats its.

MsDarkSkin: It depends on the situation.

I suppose those who prefer traditional weddings and live in communities highly populated by Africans (Nigerians and other African nationals) may have it easier than those who are surrounded by those who do not share their ideal future, ambitions, culture, or the likes.

African women that I know, aren't picky "just cause". Especially those raised to marry "up". For the most part they just won't settle for anybody or anything so that might be a huge factor if they can't find a husband aside from not being around African men.

A lot of African men come to America and completely change their attitudes. They want to "test the waters" with akatas, oyinbos; etc. and THEN want to settle. It's ok for them because an African man can be older and can always marry but for the women, it's a different story. So yes, I am saying generally speaking the women are more mature than their male counterparts (at least the ones I know). It would be hard for an African woman to settle with a man who wants to "play and sample". Those type of African men make the selection much more narrow.

Just my two cents.

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fluid26:

I agree with u on d point raised. However, I've one q? 4 u dear. If d girl in q? Shares ur school of thought, why does d subject bother her to d extent of probably cancelling the trip altogether? Doesn't it present her as someone who missed out on something she shouldnt have overlooked?