I fink the House really likes you to have made these advice so far,but lemme summarize it like this. You have 2 choices of which 1 has 2 subchoices its either
1. You swallow your ''shame'' and take off now and have a better fulfiling life or
2. You stay back,marry,get emotionally and physically scarred and later court wif DEATH.
Your choice.

Pls. Quit d relationship immediately, I feel sorry for wasting ur precious years with a wrong person. If u dare marry dis guy who doesn't appreciate u, u'll endup in a deep shit. He doesn't worth it. End it.

know your worth. When you give yourself to someone who doesn't respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you'll never get back
Sometimes the person you want the most is the person you're better off without.

are you high your more worried about shame than the fact that the dude is verbal and could be potential abusive..
please do yourself a favour and use your God given brain and run
when his beating you down? those people your worried about will they help

:obabe if what you. Saying is asually tru, pls exit that relationship naaa, I was in one like this and am happy I left the dude. No man is perfect, but in the mist of imperfect men we have a few respectAble ones. Pls I employ you run naaa wen you can. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage

Singles ladies on here will be happy to advice the lady to seperate from the Guy.

Poster . . .Husband is scarce like real diamond. . . Think twice

ifihearam: if he doesn't then take the nearest dana plane

Lol, She never said she's contemplating suicide now.
@OP run for life.

@op...i bet he wasnt verbally abusive wen u started dating..buh after u guys got engaged and he started being abusive...dont worry, stay wiv him and marry him...then he'l get physical abusive and then he turns u into a punching bag...u dont even need TB Joshua to tell u dat dis is bad for you..move on lady!!!

Singles ladies on here will be happy to advice the lady to seperate from the Guy. grin grin

Poster . . .Husband is scarce like real diamond. . . Think twice smiley

Smart you quite right she should risk death but it doesn't matter Husband are scarce, superb idea very brilliant keep it up

Pls dont look at d time u've been in d relationship or wat people will say,leave gloriously.Is not how far but how well.When i broke up frm last relationship i tot dat was d end of d world n wat people will say,but life goes on.I dnt evn think abt it again although it wasnt easy initially,its jst a matta of tym so discuss wit him,see how it goes n walk away praising GOD. U will get someone else dat will appreciate u.

KMT

he is abusive and your still here asking question - nonsense.

are u going to wait for him to break ur bones and cause a miscarriage in marriage b4 you realise that he is not for you. Look it is better to waste those 5 years than to die 5 mins into ur marriage.

I don't understand some people - he is not hiding his abusive nature and ur still there - I would have either sold that ring a long time ago or returned it to him and move on with my life.

rakaasta: Pls dont look at d time u've been in d relationship or wat people will say,leave gloriously.Is not how far but how well.When i broke up frm last relationship i tot dat was d end of d world n wat people will say,but life goes on.I dnt evn think abt it again although it wasnt easy initially,its jst a matta of tym so discuss wit him,see how it goes n walk away praising GOD. U will get someone else dat will appreciate u.

After that guy . . . have you see any sane guy.

I don't know the reason why you guys easily judge.

do you guys knoww the poster physically?

did she say her part of being rude to the unknown guy?

Did she tell you guys that she has done something wrong?

do you know may be the guy have caught her cheating on him?


There must be a reason why the guy is acting that way, bcus the guy is not blind when proposing to her.

well i have seen guys who are just plain wicked, its also its possible the poster is responsible for it and could be lying or omitting some important info.

seedord247:
There must be a reason why the guy is acting that way, bcus the guy is not blind when proposing to her.

there is no rational basis for this behavior. If the guy is tired he shld let her go rather than such dehumanizing treatment.

@Op let me break it down for you; you are playing with fire. You see, your case is similar to my cousin's, she was in a long term relationship with this dude who insulted her deeply at the slightest provocation, and even set her up with his friend, of which she gullibly fell for(another story for another day). When she tried walking out when he's dishing out insults to her, he chases her and pulls her but he never hit her...well until the 3rd month in thier marriage when she was pregnant, he said she cooked his beans thick and not watery like he liked it, and when she tried explaining that it was when it cooled down it thickened, the guy had delivered 2 hot slaps on her face, that she argues too much. Now is when d real shame is catching her because people will talk that after 8yrs courtship her marriage failed under a year. So she's stuck, so to speak. I told her to separate next time he as much as holds her too tightly....but its her decision ultimately. Long Tori, bottom line leave the control freak!!! It only gets worse

davidylan:

there is no rational basis for this behavior. If the guy is tired he shld let her go rather than such dehumanizing treatment.

If there's no rational reason. . there's must be irrational motive behind it, bcus all what she posted are true lies.

A guy picking fights and calling you names is ready to dump you once he gets a job and sees another lady but you my dear, ur not willing and ready to let him go! I understand you r scared of what ur friends will say and for the fact that you have invested 5yrs of ur life into this means that you are emotional attached to him and maybe praying that God will change him yet he is showing you red flags. Your heart is already telling you it wont workout while the guy is subconciously playing it out for you. U deserve a better guy. All the very best.

Lemme ask all of you a few questions.

If your Brother comes home with a girl who exhibits the following:

1) She can't cook and unwilling to learn
2) She can't tidy up the apartment except ur brother does it
3) She's always lying on the bed chatting on her BB or browsing Linda Ikeji's blog
4) She won't improve on sex despite his plea for both of them to explore other sex styles
5) She's fat and hypertensive yet she eats unhealthy...despises fruits and other healthy diets
6) She visits him abroad and never considered he needs a pot at home...eats out all through her stay
7) She insults all your family members to your brother's face
etc, etc

What advise would you have for your brother concerning this girl?

Advise her for her own good oh, let her change...I may ginger alot verbally but I won't beat her...worst case scenario, Emem steps into her shoes...no time for dulling!

If you find hose abuse very romantic then go ahead

He still treats you that way, simply because he knows you take them in good fate and would not go anywhere afterwards

OP: don't expedite your trip to the grave. Know you can't post if you are in a coffin. Let Arowolo be your guide.

What people will say when U̶̲̥̅̊ end up not marrying is not important,even if U̶̲̥̅̊ do, people will still say.A broken relaptionship is better than a broken marriage.

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PortHarcourtBoy: Lemme ask all of you a few questions.

If your Brother comes home with a girl who exhibits the following:

1) She can't cook and unwilling to learn
2) She can't tidy up the apartment except ur brother does it
3) She's always lying on the bed chatting on her BB or browsing Linda Ikeji's blog
4) She won't improve on sex despite his plea for both of them to explore other sex styles
5) She's fat and hypertensive yet she eats unhealthy...despises fruits and other healthy diets
6) She visits him abroad and never considered he needs a pot at home...eats out all through her stay
7) She insults all your family members to your brother's face
etc, etc

What advise would you have for your brother concerning this girl?

Advise her for her own good oh, let her change...I may ginger alot verbally but I won't beat her...worst case scenario, Emem steps into her shoes...no time for dulling!

JS1 to SS3 in a boarding school is no excuse for you not to know how to do anything, talk more of doing it right... My sisters also also attended boarding schools yet they 're excellent in domestic chores... A woman who's courting should get her priorities right!!

Hoe dis guy is not using jazz on u?if not y on earth would u remain their after dis complains

Hope dis guy is not using jazz on u?if not y on earth would u remain their after dis complains

I've got a nice ride, a tastefully finished apartment (with about 2 plots of land in the premises for our future duplex) and waiting to start an excellent job in Nigeria...that's exactly what every woman wants...

You can't cook for crying out loud, you can't tidy up the apartment unless I do, you don't nyash me other than the boring missionary style...yet I stuck to you, tried every means to make you see reason that with your cooperation, we can improve on these aspects... which i'm afraid, are very important aspects in the health of this relationship and shouldn't be swept under the carpet...

We 've both invested time and resources in the relationship, I still Love you...we 've brought this anonymously to NL...don't you think we can both make amends and make it work...in 2 weeks if serious you can learn how to prepare our local delicacies...in an hour you can tidy up the apartment if need be... in 2 days we can learn some new Bedmatics...and when I notice how willing you are, then automatically we would live devoid of verbal abuses...

Nairalanders please help me advise her, i'm good in the areas she's defficient, if she's willing and doesn't take offense when I try to teach her...me too no go vex...

In the eyes of people, we are an excellent couple in the making...we cannot turn to them for advise, that's why we've come to some anonymous fora..but we really need to improve on cooking, cleaning and nyashing as we tie the knot...

PortHarcourtBoy: I've got a nice ride, a tastefully finished apartment (with about 2 plots of land in the premises for our future duplex) and waiting to start an excellent job in Nigeria...that's exactly what every woman wants...

You can't cook for crying out loud, you can't tidy up the apartment unless I do, you don't nyash me other than the boring missionary style...yet I stuck to you, tried every means to make you see reason that with your cooperation, we can improve on these aspects... which i'm afraid, are very important aspects in the health of this relationship and shouldn't be swept under the carpet...

We 've both invested time and resources in the relationship, I still Love you...we 've brought this anonymously to NL...don't you think we can both make amends and make it work...in 2 weeks if serious you can learn how to prepare our local delicacies...in an hour you can tidy up the apartment if need be... in 2 days we can learn some new Bedmatics...and when I notice how willing you are, then automatically we would live devoid of verbal abuses...

Nairalanders please help me advise her, i'm good in the areas she's defficient, if she's willing and doesn't take offense when I try to teach her...me too no go vex...

In the eyes of people, we are an excellent couple in the making...we cannot turn to them for advise, that's why we've come to some anonymous fora..but we really need to improve on cooking, cleaning and nyashing as we tie the knot...

do not tell me you are the verbally abusive fiance?? I'm dumbfounded!

PortHarcourtBoy: Lemme ask all of you a few questions.

If your Brother comes home with a girl who exhibits the following:

1) She can't cook and unwilling to learn
2) She can't tidy up the apartment except ur brother does it
3) She's always lying on the bed chatting on her BB or browsing Linda Ikeji's blog
4) She won't improve on sex despite his plea for both of them to explore other sex styles
5) She's fat and hypertensive yet she eats unhealthy...despises fruits and other healthy diets
6) She visits him abroad and never considered he needs a pot at home...eats out all through her stay
7) She insults all your family members to your brother's face
etc, etc

What advise would you have for your brother concerning this girl?

Advise her for her own good oh, let her change...I may ginger alot verbally but I won't beat her...worst case scenario, Emem steps into her shoes...no time for dulling!

are u the guy in question? Even at that, it's better u discharge her instead of being abusive

Whao!!!!! For the first time, both parties are on the same thread. You guys can really see the deceit in hearing only one side of the coin
nairalanders, over to you