Danka7777:

Thanks my brother. Since I embraced spirituality and abandon religion, I am a free and happy man. For those of you who don't know what spirituality or being spiritual mean, please research it and you be shocked. The fundamental principle behind it is: You can connect to God directly, not having to go through all these fake religions we have been tied to. Christianity and Islam are 2000 and 1500 yrs respectively. Guess what, spirituality has been in existence for thousands of years, and our forefathers were not stupid to had believed in it.

shymmex:

Preach, brother..

It's always refreshing to meet people who emancipated themselves from the mental slavery called religion..

God lives inside everyone of us, and we don't need a boogeyman to get to him/her.

Akinagirl: Like you know somebody up in here GAL fool

yinkaGreen: The only way to get back at people that have hurt, disappointed and treated you without respect is to turn out to be successful.
Channel your hurt and your anger into moving ahead and building up ur dreams.
Trust me, I've been in d same boat as u r... Depression is b1tch but I got out of it and m doin great!
I can see my future smiling already. Start making yours today, life is too short to wallow in misery

kay9:
^^Thats as simple as it gets honebunch, move on. Four abortions is an incredibly stewpid feat, whatever the reasons. As for the 'covenant', thats just bullcrap. My advice: get over him, concentrate on your future, and love yourself a lil more.
P.S: Havnt u ever heard of a frigging condom??

Ivynwa: [size=14pt]4 Abortions??[/size]
I feel like beating somebody!
How could you do that to your body girl?
How can you put yourself through that for a fr*aking boy?
How did he make you do all that?
I don't even have words of consolation for you right now cause I am very unhappy with you, yeah others can go ahead and rub your heart when I simmer down I may pass by here to see how you are doing.

Gosh! we must teach the young girls around us the things they need to know about man and woman relationship. Teaching them stuffs like abstinence(yet equipping them with the knowledge of stuffs like safe period, ovulation, postinor, birth control) isn't giving them the go-ahead to "go into the world and have s-ex". They are better off with the knowledge of these things, how can a young girl of 22 (seems she started having s-ex at 16) know how to have s-e-x with a man but does not know about ovulations, safe period and birth control issues?

Girl I am mad at you! Better never let any man make you abort a child again in your life! Concentrate on your studies and graduate well, where did you get the courage to let people meddle and fidget with your womb like that? Do you expect us to clap for you, look the other way and tell you that it is alright. I am writing this to make you realize the gravity of what you are doing to yourself. If they spoil your womb for you and you are unable to have a child, that fr*aking boy you were endangering your life for will leave you for another woman. Oh am I forgetting that the thread is a lamentation that he is gone! How could you? Better stop girl.

nicole9: Good afternoon. I am a 22yr old girl dating a guy of 28. Please I urgently need your advice.This is my story.

I met this guy I am dating now when I was 15 years old. Then, I was in SS2 when we became friends. He was intelligent, smart, but came from a fairly middle background, but not poor.I did not particularly mind about his background even though I came from an upper middle class family. He later asked me out and I declined at first, but along the line I fell in love with him and I agreed to date him when I was in SS3.

I was a virgin at that time. I told him I wasn’t ready for sex and he agreed to wait. He waited for a year until I finished secondary school and he gained admission into the university. He loved me so much that he wanted me to take a covenant with him which I refused because I had heard that it was not good, and we forgot about it. So one day, I went to visit him as usual and one thing led to another, and we had sex unexpectedly. I was scared that since he has slept with me, he would break up with me but he assured me of his love and that he would not do such a thing to me. He then brought up the covenant issue again and at that point, I thought that is not a bad idea after all since he said he was going to marry me.

So we made a blood covenant. We cut ourselves with blade, and then mixed the blood with water which we both drank and took oaths not to leave each other even until death. We also took an oath that we would to marry each other. We made other several covenants, like he was the only man that would see my unclothedness and use me until I am old. I also said the same to him but this covenant was not with blood and we read Ruth 1: 1-16 -17 during this also.

The relationship went on well and I gained admission into the university he was attending, so it was easy for us. However, I later got pregnant in March that year and we were scared. We were not experienced in any way about drugs to take and he said he couldn't use a condom on a woman he intends to marry. We thought of keeping it but we did not have the resources and we also couldn't think of telling our parents, so we made a decision to abort it.

The relationship continued and that same year again I got pregnant in November. I removed that one too. The following year, I got pregnant again in March which I removed later. In May that same year, the same thing happened and I removed it. Although, he was by my side in all these and that was when I said I would never do abortion again in my life. I said then that if I get pregnant again, I will go ahead and have the baby. Our relationship continued, but in the next year he started acting funny like he was loosing interest in the relationship, he didn’t tell me but I could guess but all still went well. That was the same year he graduated while I was just entering my final year in the university. Since he was in lagos awaiting NYSC and I was in school, it looked as if we were drifting apart. I tried my best to get along with him, which we did though.

When he came to school for clearance, we got along well too. Although, then we had a little misunderstanding which made him to travel in annoyance without us settling the problem. Later I apologized on phone and we were in good terms. He even called to tell me he was posted to the North and it was a two day journey from Lagos which he wasn’t happy about. After camp, he tried working his service back to lagos, but it didn’t work out, so he had to go back to the North and during all this time, we could not see one on one because I was in school writing my project.

After some time he didn’t communicate with me like he used. No calls, text or even a flash and, so I was scared and worried, and still tried my best to communicate with him. I called him and we talked. Then when it was almost time for him to come home for the Christmas holidays, he told me that he was in love with someone else but he still felt for me. I was heart broken. I asked him "why all this?" and then he said that I caused it and that we didn’t see each other for close to eight months, and that was why it happened. Then again, he later apologized that he would call it off with her and which he did when he found out the girl was playing him.

During the Christmas holiday, he apologized for everything, and we continued our relationship, but that time he told me that he slept with the girl he cheated on me with and that nothing happened to him and that meant that the covenant was not working, but I said nobody knows, you can never tell what will happen. However, I was scared within me and hoped that nothing would go wrong. I thought that since he had slept with another woman, it was possible that he would try it again, but I tried to get that off my mind.

We became close again and he later went to complete his NYSC program after the holiday was over, and by then I had also graduated. He assured me of his love and we always kept in touch when he went back. But all of a sudden, everything changed. I called him one day when he was about to complete his NYSC program around May and he told me he wanted to be alone and that I should look for another man to marry. He said that he was not ready to settle down. This was was someone I spoke to just two weeks back and all appeared to be well. I was confused. I called to ask him why? I asked if I offended him and he said no, that he just wanted to be alone. Then, I knew that there was a girl involved, so I told his sister everything because his parents and sisters knew me as the girl he intended to marry as he had introduced me to them long ago. His sister told me that all will be well and that I should just be patient and that when he returned to Lagos in June, they (the family) would sit him down and talk to him.

After much pleading with him to tell me why he was behaving like this, he told me that he has seen another girl he loves so much and wants to marry. I asked him, "what about the covenant we took?" and then he told me that someone told him that the covenant would not work because we mixed d blood with water before saying all what we said. That day when he told me this, I cried my eyes out.

I have not been myself since then. This is a man I had looked up to as my husband. Someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Someone I removed four kids for. Someone who took my most prized possession, my virginity and pride. I have pleaded with him in any way possible, but to no avail. He neither felt remorse nor even tried to call me. I called him one fatetul day and I found out that he had deleted my number. He asked who I was. That day I felt like crying. Then he gave the phone to his new girlfriend telling me that she wanted to speak to me. That the woman he wanted to marry wanted to speak to me. When the girl collected the phone from him, she asked who I was. At that point, I was so dumbfounded that I had to cut the call. I later sent him a text and gave him a piece of my mind. I told him that God would repay him in his own coin and that the blood of my kids would fight for me.

The girl read the text with him, and this made the girl to keep calling and asking who I was. Once I knew that the girl would not stop, I told her that I was the girlfriend he had been dating for six years and broke up with because of her but that I had noting against her in my heart.

I made up my mind not to call my boyfriend again, but he later sent me a text me two days later asking why I told the girl that he just broke up with me and that she was the one he loves and wants to marry. I told his sister later everything that happened later on. His mother told me not to worry and that he would still come to Lagos this June, and that at least the girl was in the North. She said that everything would be resolved, but I believe that it is the man that has say in all of this and I have decided in my mind to let everything go, since he doesnt love me again. I decided that if it was meant to be, then it would have been.

However, I want to say this, I still love him and I am badly hurt by all that has happened. I am also still scared about the covenant. I have lost it all. I just need your advice and prayers badly because I am so lost. I don’t know where to start from? Even though I still have admirers, I have not been able to open my heart to any man till now. Please help!

What would you do if you were in this girl's shoes?

abbey621: Useless Stewpid, ASHAWO!!!! How can a woman have four abortions for the same man? These girls of nowadays are nothing but animals. Everyone knows that guys can be very useless most of the time, and with so much stories and movies and real life examples of complications resulting from abortions, how can anyone go through such torture four times? I do not pity you, people that are blaming the guy and sugarcoating things are BOMBASTIC ELEMENTS! I don't care how fine or smart the guy is, no woman should ever mutilate her body that much, wetin she dey find sef? Money you no gain, marriage you no gain, fame you no gain? Tell me what profit you derived from such degrading behavior. Enough, if you like go hug transformer, sometimes it takes HARSH and CRUEL words, to sink reality into some people.

abbey621: Useless Stewpid, ASHAWO!!!! How can a woman have four abortions for the same man? These girls of nowadays are nothing but animals. Everyone knows that guys can be very useless most of the time, and with so much stories and movies and real life examples of complications resulting from abortions, how can anyone go through such torture four times? I do not pity you, people that are blaming the guy and sugarcoating things are BOMBASTIC ELEMENTS! I don't care how fine or smart the guy is, no woman should ever mutilate her body that much, wetin she dey find sef? Money you no gain, marriage you no gain, fame you no gain? Tell me what profit you derived from such degrading behavior. Enough, if you like go hug transformer, sometimes it takes HARSH and CRUEL words, to sink reality into some people.

he said he couldn't use a condom on a woman he intends to marry. We thought of keeping it but we did not have the resources and we also couldn't think of telling our parents, so we made a decision to abort it.

The relationship continued and that same year again I got pregnant in November. I removed that one too. The following year, I got pregnant again in March which I removed later. In May that same year, the same thing happened and I removed it

This is a man I had looked up to as my husband. Someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Someone I removed four kids for. Someone who took my most prized possession, my virginity and pride.

Don't use ashawo too freely. It's not like she had abortion for several guys. She was in love with a man who I assumed did not want all 4 pregnancies.

You can call her naive, but ashawo is out of the question. The dude should not be absolved of any blame here, he had a hand in it big time.

Some of you ppl need to free her. How many girls/guys have y'all dated? It's now a crime?

abbey621:

@Ileke-IdI : Any girl that allows the same guy to impregnate her over and over again and instead of accepting the responsibility, chooses 2 abort the pregnancy, NOT ONCE, NOT TWICE BUT FOUR TIMES na baba nla ASHAWO!!! Na only ASHAWO go repeatedly commit sexual acts, get pregnant, commit abortion and do it all over and over again. Let's be real here, nobody is above mistakes but four times in a row, that's INSANITY!!!!