Eclairs:

What do we xpt from a 30 years old man? Lookin at the age, I think he's got genuine motives cz only a silly idiot wil want to stay a play boy at 30. Whether it's for your citizenship or not, you must realise that no one eva get married when the relationship is parasitic. Basically, you wont consider marryin him if he's a liability vice versa. Perhaps, it is more to do with your citizenship but at his age, its easy to see that he's willing to settle down and in the long term, it will only be of benefit to you both if you do marry him. Unless, he's got a secret grilfriend in Nigeria which he intends to marry. Even with that, it's not goin to be easy as it isn't a contract marriage. Mind you, should he return to Nigeria after his education (which will be the worst) he cld easily get a visa on application and I would think he'd cope fine even without the c_ship you fear he's after. At the end of the day, whether he's workin with someone elses' doc or not, his own docs are genuine and we would be deceivin ourself if we say this isn't common in the US.

Tell him your fears and trust your instinct but to be honest, I don't see any reason why you can't marry him unless indeed, you're not ready for marriage. (perhaps there's still a lot of things you wish to accompanish) but don't forget that you not gettin any younger yourself

D-reloaded:

Dont care for Spanish, romeo. Wanna refer to me do so in English or don't bother at all.

Thanks.

D-reloaded:

Oh sharrap. French is better than Spanish in every way.

Siena:

TOH, take it easy!

_{No, don't stop, love to see a woman spitting venom!}

D-reloaded:


romeo apparently likes looking for my trouble. Then again so do most Nlanders. I guess I'm that entertaining

Mamaput - If he fathers a us citizen his stay is guaranteed

d-reloaded - and how are you an american and you don't know what INS is. Immigration & Neutralization Services.

Siena - Adetina's Nigerian boyfriend in question has already started working on the wrong side of the law - using someone elses papers to get work! So, my views on him are based purely on that. Little indiscretions like that often snowball into full-time crime. It may not seem so right now, but it's classed as Fraud.

Siena:

And I'm happy to report, Kristina kicked Ade to the curb, she's not as gullible as she initially appeared afterall.

spoilt:

excuse me siena but what is your source? are you the replacement?

Siena:

And I'm happy to report, Kristina kicked Ade to the curb, she's not as gullible as she initially appeared afterall.

Siena:

@ Blacklion: Tell your views to the INS, and they MAY just accept a little law-bending as the norm. But, I doubt it!

Poverty's no excuse to commit fraud, and not every wealthy individual remains honest! People WILL always be what / who they want to be, regardless of their status. Being poor doesn't make one stupid, just the same way, being wealthy doesn't make one smart. I know a lot of people in Nigeria, who were so poor, even getting 3 square meals a day was a struggle in itself. And today, they ARE doing great, both in Nigeria AND abroad, LEGALLY.

There are ways of getting your points across, without resorting to insults, or are you so used to having everyone accept your views as gospel? When folk get frustrated, they generally resort to insults, thinking they can shout folk down. But alas, it seldom works. Not with me at any rate.

You have your views on what's morally AND legally acceptable, I have mine too. How can this guy be legal, if he's using someone else's documents to work? Lol. If his were that clean, why doesn't he use his, huh? What you're effectively saying is, it's ok to break the law, as long as you do so with someone else's documents.

Let's assume he gets caught, what would his defence be? It's folk like this guy that make things harder for genuine people. Like it or not, Nigerians abroad ARE representing Nigeria, and Nigerians as a whole ARE generally judged by people like Ade, who choose to operate on the wrong side of the law.

And I'm happy to report, Kristina kicked Ade to the curb, she's not as gullible as she initially appeared afterall.

leahsarahk:

I have been attending the Redeemed Christian church for quite some time. I married a man who is a member of thier church. This man used me for citizenship and he is high ranking member of this church in Malaysia and a member of the church, for 18 yrs in Nigeria. I supported him financially for 4 years, Sponsored him to Canada ,loved him and gave him a son. He left me a couple weeks after he gained his citizenship. This has been after 5 years of marriage and being a devoted wife to him. The church has assisted him to leave me and encouraged him to abandon me and our son. They are gossipers and mean hearted people. I have called both pastors for help in reconciling our marriage. They offered me no prayer or any kind of support what so ever. Even some of the other members in the church who did not like what my husband did to me spoke out and tired to support me and the pastor came down hard on them and discouraged them from doing so. I have been reliably informed that the pastor is arranging a new wife for me husband even though I am still legally married to him and still a member of the Redeemed Christian church. I am aware that not all churches are like this, but unfortunately the Redeemed Christian church function like a cult, but no offence intended. Finacially this church are taking advantage of us and they bought a building they can not afford and are now borrowing all the members money to pay for the down payment. They say by God's grace they will pay it back. This will be impossible for them to pay back as they dont have the means to pay it back. I was at church the church recently and was instructed to dance by a basket placed on the alter and give money if I want to worship with them the pastor centered me out and insisted that I must dance by this basket if I
want to worship with them.

Select: So what happened to Adetina and her Nigerian guy?