Nah i dont think so.Its an individual thing IMO

yes on some level:
- if your father is a polygamist and you were born to believe that there is nothing wrong with the act, then i understand why a lady (who doesnt believe in polygamy) would not want to marry you.

- if all your family members are Muslim extremists, then i understand why a liberal/free spirited person wouldnt want to marry you.

etc

yes,it does.
The family is a strong factor that has shaped us into who we are today...and most times,although subconciously and in our relationships with people,we are a reflection of our families!

YES, A GIRL THAT WHOSE MOTHER IS WHOR.E WILL DEFINITELY BE LIKE MUM, A GIRLS WHOSE MUM FIGHTS THE WHOLE NEIGBOURS, FIGHTS THE HUSBAND, WILL NEVER RESPECT ANYBODY

People who talk about love love love and disregard the inclusion of their families in the whole thing are young, impressionable, short sighted people.
When going into a life binding journey, make no assumptions. Cover as many angles as possible. Some things may happen in your union that would require you to be close to your family in order to pull through via support.

Plus, the blessing of your parents are very necessary.

I'd say Yes - a person's behaviour and attitude is a product of his life's experiences n background.

How u r influenced by ur background is dependent on the kind of person u r. U might be a better person inspite of u havin a bad background esp if u find ur background revulsive. Okonkwo in Things fall apart is a gd example, he refused to be like Unoka his lazy father or try children of pastors who despise their parents n find them boring.

If on the other hand, you buy into ur parents' lifestyle, u'd do ur best to replicate their lifestyle.

So to ans ur question, how a person's family background affects his relatnship will be determined by the person's perceptn of d background. I think every1 deserves a chance, irrespective of their background .

Yes it does, big time. There are exceptions though.

crusifis: YES, A GIRL THAT WHOSE MOTHER IS WHOR.E WILL DEFINITELY BE LIKE MUM, A GIRLS WHOSE MUM FIGHTS THE WHOLE NEIGBOURS, FIGHTS THE HUSBAND, WILL NEVER RESPECT ANYBODY

Yep, the apple don't fall far from the tree. No it don't.

Tyche: Yes it does, big time. There are exceptions though.

This.

Yield:

This.

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Family backgrounds affect but not directly.

190: Do family background normally have an impact on one's relationship

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Yes it does matters a lot. . . . But the below is the is main reason I came in here



Seriously man? You got my ipad infected via the shitty mail/link you sent to me. What's that all about dawg? I don't know WTH I was thinking on clicking on it.

What link - I didn't send any link bruv
Avnt even logged on in well over 3months now


What link

190: What link - I didn't send any link bruv
Avnt even logged on in well over 3months now


What link

Haven't bn around in a while and decided to check my NL yahoo account with your mail bn the first I clicked on along with some crazy ass link. Check your sent folder. Hope you been aiit.

If your parents were the kind that rarely part with their valuables then you're likely to turn out to be a stingy person.

From my own experience, i don't think the family background does play any role.

190: Do family background normally have an impact on one's relationship

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Well, personally I think this topic is subjective. It totally depends on the people involved.
Personally, I think it does matter to an extent.
A couple of things can come between people. From Finance to religion to Tribe and what not. Even CLASS.
Trust me. People who are truly in love tend to overlook these things though.

Just my 2 cents.

Definitely - depending on your upbringing..

^^ So your upbringing dictates whom you should be with for you right?

Freiburger: ^^ So your upbringing dictates whom you should be with for you right?

Definitely!! I was raised as a Nigerian despite being born in a different country - and I don't see myself ever marrying a non-Nigerian, period..

Heck, I've never even been a proper relationship with a non-Nigerian... But I've had flings with them..

The attraction isn't just there for me naturally because that was the way I was raised, and I want someone my family can relate to.

190: Do family background normally have an impact on one's relationship

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Sure they ALWAYS do. But the ways they do are what really differ. Someone borne out of wedlock can develop a strong drive to follow thesame path as well as not.

Sure, a girl whose father drinks, smokes and beat her mum will never see anything good in a man that drinks even if the man is different.

shymmex:

Definitely!! I was raised as a Nigerian despite being born in a different country - and I don't see myself ever marrying a non-Nigerian, period..

Heck, I've never even been a proper relationship with a non-Nigerian... But I've had flings with them..

The attraction isn't just there for me naturally because that was the way I was raised, and I want someone my family can relate to.

So you mean your family will find it difficult communication with or understanding a non-Nigerian? why?

190: Do family background normally have an impact on one's relationship

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I remember one useless babe that was forming for me way back when I had nothing but my car..

I toasted her fer months and to no avail.. Anyways, one night after a friends birthday party, she and her friends were stuck and needed a ride.. So I decided to take them.. On the way, I told her I had to do a quick reckon at home before we go, I can never forget all the rubbish that came out from her and her friends mouths, talking about 'rap'e, not sleeping in my house and all worth not..

Anywyas, I turned a deaf ear, and drove home, as I entered my area, I noticed that they had calmed down, then as I approached my gate, they were now wide-eyed like tourists on a safari that just saw a lion up close, as I drove into the compound, they almost melted away in their seats as I drove past our garden with the lights bouncing off the water fountain in the middle, then past our swimming pool area that was fully lighted, then past the car park where a few of our cars including the Mercedes, Jaguar XFR, Navigator (Stretch edition), Honda Accord (Discussion continued), Toyota Camry, 3 Hilux's (escort), and some others totalling 15 in number.. I didnt hear a word until I reached the second gate that opened into the main house area.. As I drove in, all my dogs had been released so they circled the car.. Omo see as the useless babe just hug me unto forming say she dey fear dog (inside moter wey Amana chilling dey blow) and screaming or HONEY!! Please chase them away!! I was like HUH!!!!!?!! When did we get to honey?

Anyways, I quickly dashed in, finished and was out in a bit then drove them out towards their houses.. Not a word, not a sound, nothing!! They were furiously typing away on their Blackberries and I could tell because of the message tones that kept going off.. As I dropped the mumu girl off, what I heard was "thanks alot darling, I hope I get to see you again"... OMO!!!!! See cruise!!

Anyways, our realtionship lasted about two weeks, in which time we had so much sex that I am surprised she didnt get pregnant!!


So yes, family background matters, in this case...

Freiburger:
So you mean your family will find it difficult communication with or understanding a non-Nigerian? why?

I was trying to say relate to culturally...

I think it's better that way..

Family background matters o, it matters alot especially in marriage. I will give you reasons

1. The first marriage we all see is our parents. People whose parents had very bitter divorces often (not all the time) find it difficult going into marriage with an open mind. They bring lots of scares

2. Watch the financial situation of your future in laws families. If your spouse has eight siblings and none is working with his/her parents are retired, you need to be sure you have the financial capacity to also support the family

3. Polygamy is also something to watch out for, same as religion and family ethics.

We are all products of our families and continue to interact with them. Background does matter

Yes it does. . .A girl from a poor home will definitely become a gold-digger.

Aje family might not be good for anyone.

~Bluetooth:

Yes it does. . .A girl from a poor home will definitely become a gold-digger.

It does not follow

~Bluetooth:

Yes it does. . .A girl from a poor home will definitely become a gold-digger.

Yes it does. . .A girl from a rich home will definitely become arrogant.