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D2diff:
Are you jinxed? If you feel like beating up someone, Go home! Your mother and sister are waiting to be taught

My mother didn't raise no beater ; you are just a fustrated fellow ,get yourself a boyfriend and don't push too hard thinking he is made of steel, you will get slapped.

D2diff:
Is that how you beat your gf/wife? You must think I am like one of the mor.ons you surround yourself with?

I shouldn't have replied you the first time. My mistake

You made a good decision to reply me because you need some morals..You think abuse is only when you slap and beat up someone ? You go about telling people that your husband can't provide for you and you expect him to not reply you with a slap

D2diff:
I am very abusive. I don't have time for stvpid people who have chosen to be biased, unreasonable, selective and sexist.



I pity the unfortunate woman that will end up in your house.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

You will end up all by yourself which is not a bad thing you know, push your husband to the wall and receive the reward...i love good women and i am very selective.

Shouts out to all beautiful,hard-working women out there who will not go about telling people how she feeds her man...(You will sure get a slap for that kind of abuse)

D2diff:
I am very abusive. I don't have time for stvpid people who have chosen to be biased, unreasonable, selective and sexist.



I pity the unfortunate woman that will end up in your house.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

You will end up all by yourself which is not a bad thing you know, push your husband to the wall and receive the reward...i love good women and i am very selective.

Shouts out to all beautiful,hard-working women out there who will not go about telling people how she feeds her man...(You will sure get a slap for that kind of abuse).

Cheund:
It is painful, really painful. Here I am thinking out my next line of action. My husband slaps and tries to strangle me at any little provocation. Whe he has a date, he looks for a quarrel and sleeps out.

I am tired of both physical and emotional humiliation. I have 3 kids-6/4/24mnths, I bring the food to the house for him and the kids. He works with a private firm but often come back home saying no money. I work for the government and takes care of family bills. The cars in the house are all mine and he drives any at will.

He has no value or respect for family / wife or mother. I am ashamed of complaining to my mum or the church. DON'T SAY HIS MUM OR DAD, he walks out on them and have no respect for anyone.

When you see him out, he looks calm and nice but believe me he is a wolf in sheep clothing.

I have been thinking out what to do when he returns home today. This is 6:33am he left the house since about 10:pm last night without a word to any one. I overheard his mum(she's been with us for Omugwo) asking where he was going to , he ignored her and drove off.

I am tired and thinking out my mind what to do when he returns.

I have no strong bones like him so don't advise I fight him, but I am thinking I should lock the gate and do not allow him in. Pls nairaland family help me out. What should I do?
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Op; I don't support violence against women but don't listen to women telling you to divorce , if you check them out you will see they cant even keep a boyfriend not to talk of husband...I know you provide for the family but don't override your husband cos of that, you should let him take the wheel sometimes , there is nothing wrong with you providing for your family... a man ego have no cure ooh

D2diff:
You can tell this to your daughters or sisters in abusive homes

Misogynist!

When you get married and you go about bragging how u feed a man, we will be here when he beats you black and blue ...ediot.

D2diff:
Did you miss the slaps and the strangling part?


And it is wrong to say you feed a man, why? Don't men count it against greedy and ungrateful women or what exactly are you trying to say? Tell me, who on earth doesn't use that line to score cheap points evena father can use the same line on a child not to mention husband to wife or wife to husband. How has it reduce what makes the husband a man?


I know you are looking for trouble but I don't have your time today!

I don't have time to spare either, you must be an abusive woman , I just pray for that innocent man who will put you in his house.

Girlfriend come and see oh and get prepared for ours

If you could save 85k from your monthly allawee of 19,800..the sky is your limit bro

D2diff:
Cheund, please never confront him with separation or divorce. If you do, you are at more risk of grievous bodily harm, death and increased and more frequent abuse. It is a proven statistical fact.

Can you please take shaybebaby's advice? It is positive and inspiring. If at all you want a family meeting, do it when you are not staying with him. Don't ever accept responsibility for whatever that he did. Don't allow any family member including your siblings and mother to speak you into living with a violent man. Remember that your children may end up seeing his behaviour as normal and carry on with the cycle of abuse therefore it is up to you to ensure that it stops. You should be able to get a restraining or a non-molestation order from the court if you do not want to leave the house for him.


Shaybebaby, you will make a good psychologist

Who is talking about beating here, she never for once said he is violent ; every issue in marriage is now violet Abi? How are we sure this woman is not abusive at home since she's bold enough to say she feeds him here

HaneefahRN:
Haven't you heard of the word divorce?.Sincerely marriage has been seriously abused, some people just use it as a means to enslave a fellow human
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I know someone in a similar situation, with an irresponsible husband, he couldn't keep a job cos of his lack of sense of responsibility. The woman takes care of the family finances plus home care. Whenever it's time to pay the rent he leaves the house for her and the kids, knowing fully well she'll pay, after she has paid he'll come back. Beats her even in public, even in their Children's school. Took her car from her and use it to carry concubines about. Uses force to take her salary from her. To top it off went to bring a second wife to the house. And this is a man that claims to be a religious leader o. Thank God she is already on the divorce processing, the useless man is now coming with his family members to beg her. Telling her to stay cos of her children.

They'll be telling women to stay in bondage in the guise of marriage. Better to be single and happy than married and suffering in every aspect.

Just like that? You think marriage will always feel like the first spark always? If you want a perfect relationship, get a dog. You think its childplay to live with another human being when its hard sometimes to live with oneself

utenwuson:
ds is disheartening! Just divorce him, don't let d niccur drive ur car n stil strangle u! jst divorce the lazy goat

He will still benefit that car from the divorce

The mistake has been done, you will eventually see your car because its not something he can just pocket just like that.

You would have asked for a strong family relation of his as guarantor. All the best though.

Useless man, obj branded corruption in this country

Chanchit:
when soldier begin fire bullet I no wan hear "YE!" sha.

I am sure you are one of the people making mouth and you won't be able to buy 10litres of fuel without breaking the bank.

tbaba1234:
We are talking about scare forex and you are mentioning ports. Is it not a shame that we produce tomato and import paste? The production of Tomato in the North can make us independent from tomato paste imports.

I know all that , you just acted like we can't breath without tomatoes from the north..with or without the scare forex, people are still importing.

tbaba1234:
Tomato paste comes from tomatoes, doesn't it?

And our port has not been closed down, has it?

Our oil, we the Niger deltans will drill that oil ehh, it will be used to fund national budget;

The oil in lagos belongs to the people of Niger deltans and every other region. E go sweet ehh, I can't wait for the north to find oil too

tbaba1234:
The North is the food basket of Nigeria. An epidemic that destroyed tomatoes in the north has led to tomato scarcity throughout Nigeria.

Get over yourself, tomatoes paste is saving the day

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papparatzzi2013:
That is a year Ijaws in SW will never forget. That is why I laugh atimes when some kids are making some comments on NL.

Unfortunately, as populated as Lagos, people still know where you are from. If you like be very vast in yoruba proverbs and intrepretation, they will still fish you out of the populace.

**** constitutionally lagos is no man's land as well as Niger delta land..it's so unfortunate that the government doesn't not recognise anything like oduas or ijaws but just as a language spoken by Nigerians.

Op you wan do father Christmas for this people when we still dey may

2dugged:
this one didn't have much notes,just cute

So you went for a bad cute guy and there is one guy who wants to leave nairaland on romance section , have you seen him?

2dugged:
possessive guys have the tendency to become physically and verbally abusive like my ex,na so the guy land me slap one time,I see stars,i nor remember the last time wey my mama beat me,na from that day I begin dey withdraw till I finally see chance pull slippers from my leg whisk like usain bolt,I nor get body wet man go panel beat o

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Sorry but you girls re @fault mostimes, You leave all the nice guys for a bad boy cos he got some few notes

Good stuff 0p , but you girls should not use this excuse to be doing whatever you like cos he's not asking where you went to or who called you ..

We will always ask or stay single.

Say no to abusive relationship / both boys and girls.

She tried self

seunmsg:
Outside of Ekiti, he has no support in the south west.

Unfortunately ekiti is not southwest.

I heard him say he went to Dubai to import furniture to sell at Allen? To get shop for Allen na play?

No message in this story bro, you didn't struggle

SillyeRabbit:
Must you call her his baby mama before making your point ? What if she is now married ?

Then she can stay away from the media If she wants to be addressed with something else. ..as far as I am concerned she's in this news because of tee bilzz that makes her a certified baby mama

Ngoziada592:
When a woman is jealous and you keep cheating don't be blame her too much or be suprised when she kills you a Abi

What is this one saying

Vinshu:
Your misogyny is pathetic . Real men don't lay hands on women.

If you don't have something to say,just read and keep shut , he is not supporting violence but just stating the obvious

When a man tells you I will beat you ,you will tell him you will kill me today or you won't rest..

He is kneeling before God