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Nonsense..post the link.

What is beauty,who defines it?Stupid dumb ass researchers that think they can classify and measure everything,creating stupid standards.

Again,ladies that are afraid of dating nerds are ladies that can't create their own fun,or they just don't have a life.Well,love is funny,u can find it anywhere,i wish your friend luck in finding a faithful nerd,they are the smartest cheats on earth.

The same ladies will see the nerds and call them boring..may be she is her late twenties,it is usually this period they can marry anything..just saying what I have seen from years of observation.

@OP,it seems you don't know what u want.Even if the child is yours,it is not a most to marry her especially when her flaws are disturbing.

I cannot live with a lier,it is very stressful analyzing everything coming from a lier.Swearing by the bible means nothing,it is just a book.

Something is wrong somewhere,u don't sound like a very matured person..just saying.

Nigerian women dey suffer ooh..chai my sisters,Lord help them.

steph7: This is an old topic, but I have moved on from him. This was just one of the issues I had, I already wanted to break up with him before coming to nairaland.
Isn't it better to be single and happy than to be married and sad. Which trust me I would have been. We weren't compatible!

No mind am..you peace is important.Never settle for less,and never with someone that does not appreciate progress

I have achieved more after i stop paying tithe 6 yrs ago.I am still waiting for the worms,i buy plenty insecticides,and i am still enjoying my God.

Read your bible people?

liyah27: social stigma around HIV/AIDS makes it difficult to openly discuss. With so many young people infected condom use is sooo important. HIV/AIDS is a chronic condition that people can live with if they have access to the proper HIV medications. And if more people are tested and aware and get on medications, this can help with reducing transmission. HIV medications work to suppress the number of copies of the HIV virus in a person's body, making it much more difficult for someone to spread it. Obviously, people will continue to have sex. EDUCATION is key. CONDOM use is key. ACCESS to medications is key.

Yes,cos most Nigerians are hypocrites..

I don't think they do it consciously,except in cases where the husband may not be financially responsible.And men most times by default assume the role of the sole provider and never demand for the wive's money.But things are changing now,Naija guys in this generation carry our ladies for mind.

But this is very common.I was discussing money issues with my EX once,and her response about the financial responsibility of a husband led me to ask her what women do with their money.

Everything boils down to communication and mutual understanding.

DailyNews: @19, u should be concerned about your academic pursuits & not relationship. @19, u should be more involved in Godly works, being a choir, leading your church sunday school & not relationship. @19, u should be praying more & planning for ur great future rather than relationship. if u do always get bored & lonely, develop a passion- writing poems, short stories, creating crafty things like homemade jewelry, hat, etc. think constructively now, & start thinking about platonic relationship when u clock say 22, cos ur still tender. and to tell u d truth, if u accept any of the guys, surely u must regret, no matter how good he is. every relationship should be targetted towards marriage, if not, its useless. so ask urself, if i start to date a guy at 19yrs, who maybe probably ur age-mate or say 2yrs ahead of u, where wud the relationship lead us to? can we be patient enough to wait for another 5yrs or more or even more to get married if at all it will lead to that. definitely, u can wait, but honestly, the guy cannot wait for that long, its rare to see and sometimes impossible. so my advice is to just be their friends, and forget abt having a relationship now. Goodluck & Jesus loves u more, give him more of ur attention, goodluck dear.

lol..that is how they get them.

LOL..wahala dey!

jennykadry: I disagree with the tigress issue oooo or better still explain the tigress part well. I am a tigress outside my home and a loving dove inside my home and yes my tigress nature comes in handy at home sometimes. My husband till date tells my father that when it comes to "mouth" issues, he knows his wife can take care of herself very well without him being there but when it becomes physical that is when she remembers she has a husband she can speed dial.

I was raised to be blunt and outspoken. So i do not waste my time speaking my mind and standing up to anybody even a man. The only time I know say power pass power was in my early years of marriage when I was still having anger issues, one day after an argument he had his back turned to me so I threw a pillow and was about to throw the bed side lamp when all of a sudden this tall guy pinned me to the bed and held me there for good 2 minutes, I could not even move any part of my body , my teeth and mouth sef could not move that day, when he knew I was not going to throw another thing, he just released my hand and walked away. Na that day I know say, my strength no reach man own and I had to apologize on my knees and stayed on my knees for good 15 minutes performing a well deserved BJ

I done change my mind,marry me too...lol.Your husband na lucky man,better wife hard to get.

dayokanu: Just pray you don't meet a quarrelsome wife, who thinks your mother is eating too much, taking too much meat, making noise on the phone, singing in the shower, making noise with her footsteps

Actually some wifes pray the mother in law dies before they get married, The only thing I can tell them is I hope your daughter in law prays for your death before your son gets married too

May be you should interview my Ex.When I deal with anyone,I make sure they know their boundaries..my house chai,quarrelsome woman,lord..for the life i suffer build...you go pack.

I love peace more than LOVE..I will never tolerate any woman (person) that will make my life hell,that was the only reason I broke up with my Ex.

Well I don't see marriage in the next 15 yrs,i only feel for my mom wey don dey worry me for marriage.

I get your point shall!

jennykadry: Can I marry you sir?

If you can wait for another 20 yrs, then I am on my way.

jennykadry: ^^You are crazy. Infact devil punish you the next time you mention "apologise". A man physically hurt his wife who just put to bed recently and you are here telling her she wasn't diplomatic. [b]Thunder blend your nyash [/b]like cray fish diaaaaa. EEDIOT oshi, ewu ocha, anu mpam.

LOLOLOL

This is BS.MEN pls, if your rules cannot prevail and protect your house and wife, pls don't marry.Your wife is priority NO 1.No body comes to my house to do nonsense,not even my sweetest mother,god..children getting married everyday.

Even if my wife is Jezebel,you can't insult her in my presence.Families should learn to respect the families of their siblings.

This story is one sided.How long did you guys dated,are you currently working,are you totally dependent on him,were his family in support of your relationship before the marriage??If you can answer this questions,then I can give my comment.


My advised to today's women,find your life first,build your relevance,get a life and personal philosophy before going into marriage.And guys,you people should learn to take responsibility for your family..Marriage is hardwork.

Now I truly understand jennykadry ..marriage go wait tire for me!

woman no worry..you are not alone..finding even someone to manage no even easy.

Just shine your eyes well well..he might be the guy you've given 1 million funny names,just saying.

pendo89,pendo89 and pendo89..one of the coolest ladies here.

Not again..the guy is not competent.

I think the guy don change his mind by now.

davidylan: The OP is deluded. After reading the entire 4 pages i just wonder why NOT ONCE did the OP talk about the status of the child in question? Does he think this child will just disappear? Are you READY to bear the responsibility for another man's mistake? Will you treat that child like your own? Do you understand the unique problems that such entails?
lol i was once like you, ready to abandon my family... until i asked myself a key question - is losing my family worth giving another man's child a life his/her parents failed to provide? NO.

there is a lot you dont seem to have considered at all...

1. I agree with one poster who says that what you really love about this woman is the mental picture of her you had in primary school. Do you know her well enough NOW?
2. The answer to question 1 is no, most of the responses you have given about her has been very vague. Clear indication you dont know this woman.
3. One poster asked you if you were ready to be a step-father... have you considered the repercussions of not treating this child AS YOUR OWN and that this woman's first priority will always be her son and not you? If its not then that is even more cause for alarm!
4. Are you aware that as long as that child is alive, her ex-husband will be tied to your wife for life?
5. Part of the joys of marriage is the little things that a man and his wife get to share together. You will NEVER get to share the joys of being a first time parent together (she's "been there done that".
6. What of your family? Are you prepared for being with a woman rejected by your own flesh and blood?
7. Most importantly, as a christian, marrying a divorcee with the ex-spouse still alive is a sin.

My dear, find your own woman. One you wont be sharing with any other ex.

Your points are great,except NO 7.Please read your bible very well,but your points are great.
This man is playing with fire,he does not know what family and societal pressure can do.I have an adopted brother,it was hard for everyone of us.It was hard for him to accept the love and attention,integrating is difficult and it becomes worse once disciplining him comes in,but thank God we are all doing great now,the guy is madly intelligent,he 10 years old.

I don't think you are ready for this kind of pressure.While family acceptance is important,your parents should have limited influence in your life.It's a difficult journey,and you rushing it,you don't even sound like someone that is equal to such task.

My advice:Wait until is divorced,take it slow,keep marriage out of the picture,wait until she heals..cos a wounded woman can be a great burden even for the matured ones.Don't get too excited,man focus.

You are already scaring her!

They are my kind of girls as long as they can draw certain lines.

MRbrownJAY: @OP
back when you first met him, he was already like that but you accepted his sorry asss........ then when you guys became serious about this r/ship, you STILL stayed with his shy self. you then became pregnant and decided to KEEP that boring man's baby anyway.......AND NOW, you come and complain about the guy being shy boring and bla bla bla?! lol women!

May be the guy get money..lol..Just saying.

funkei: Goshen response is very apt and most correct. I do not know why Christians would not follow the teachings of Christ( Christ said you do not put new wine into old bottles Luke 5.37).
There is no way the laws of tithe can be observed in the contemporary church of today, that explains why it was not commanded by Christ nor his Apostles.
The Tithes was for the Chidren of Levi for an inheritance Num 18. 21 and the Levites were not to own property as they had no inheritance in the land Num 18.20.
In the Church of today every Christian is a Levite and should give willingly as he purposeth in his heart 2 Cor 9 . 7. Above all giving should be motivated by love( for God and man). Righteous giving of what you have prompted by love as instructed by our Lord in Luke 6 ;30 - 37. Remember the very popular verse on Giving; Luke 6 :38( Give it shall be given unto you)was premised on Luke 6:30 - 37.
Let Christian Teachers teach on Love( Matt 5: 44 - 48 and Giving of Alms Matt 6: 1- 4. Why are we not emphasizing the teachings of Christ. Let us check our Bible very well! How many times did Christ talked about Love and Righteousness? Every Chapter.
Virtually every part of the teachings of Christ encapsulates Love and Rightousness as seen in the Gospel(Matt - John). How many times did Christ talked about Tithe (3 times and not encouragingly as it was in condemning the Pharisees).
The Apostles continued in the same manner as Christ and made no reference to tithe as it is not in the Apostles Doctrine(True Christian teachings). But check out the Apostles teachings on Love and Rightousness( All the Epistles). Giving of self is what is emphasized Rom 12 1-2.

Nobody can practice tithing as in the old testament Mal 3, Num 18, Lev 27 and many others. The Shekel was the currency in Isreal and they never gave tithes in money but farm produce.
How come Christ who is now the High Priest of Malachi did not collect Tithe that was why he had no money for Temple Tax. How come Christ did not instruct the Apostles when He commissioned them in Matt 10: 8 to freely give the gospel, even when they were to preach among only the Jews.

The dispensation of tithe as in Mal 3 : 8 ended with the coming of Christ. We should remember that it was only the Levites of old that were exclusively the priestly family and Christ was from the family of Judah and would not have met the criterion if the Judaic laws were to apply.

If Mal 3 : 8 were to apply, then only Christians and specifically tithe paying ones would be prosperous and all others would have been suffering from the curse of Mal 3: 8.
Let Christians submit their hearts fully to Christ and a heart for Christ gives the inclination to give bountifully even more than the controvertial 10 percent that was never collected by Christ nor His apostles.

Don't waste your time,even if you show them in the bible,they will still stick to their pastor's sermons.If tithing is legal,then i should be receiving tithes too,every christian should be receiving too,because we are the levies now,not just priest but royal ones.And how many times did Abraham paid tithe,did God asked him to pay tithe?NO!I am tired of talking to the average Nigerian christian

ifemiduro: The father of my child he is the shy type I do pratically everything 4 his he dosent knw hw 2kiss no smooching n every other thing all he knws how 2 do is sex all day long even the day I gave birth 2 my baby back 4rom hospital n he is on me n at times he will go 7 to8 times but he is boring 2 be with bt he is handsome and sexsy

were you high when you married him?Woman if you want him to change, take the lead,tell him what to do and demand for it.

Stupid visions.How is this relevant to us and the development of Africa.When will they start seeing visions of the death of our corrupt leaders.I don't believe in this so called prophecies,prophecies should have relevance,i feel for religious Christians,that is why they will keep robbing them.

TB Joshua and his team of a**holes should go and rest.

kola oloye: @9lifes
Na fight?

He is quoting what he does not know,this topic has been treated over and over again.People should just sit and read their bibles.