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In cases like this it is important to listen to the other party, if the issue was gambling or financial irresponsibility she would have led with that but she led with "HE CAN'T SATISFY HER"!

From a psychological point of view, her eyes dey street considering the age difference and even if he was giving her millions per month, she would still feel unfufilled knackamathically, coming online to seek advice from strangers over something you've already set your mind on is simply COMICAL

obonujoker:
Citizens are being slaughtered, Baba Agbero dey drink beer for France hiding room...

This mistake must be corrected by 2027

The only correction is to hand thw country back to the military, you would see how quickly the killings stop. hey killed under OBJ, they killed under GE, Buhari and now T-pain, they'll kill under OBi, Atiku or whomever......Only language they understand is brute force(Abacha style) not this democractic nonsense!

When your cup don full e don full, Maduro had months to de-escalate but instead chose to be a stong man, like Gadaffi and Hussein, the US is only weak or indecisive when a Democrat is in charge.

This is why I pity those calling for the invasion of Nigeria, e fit be your mama, papa, pikin or other family members that would be collateral damage by the time it ends, this is why T-pain quickly conformed because he knew exactly what the US is capable of, once them don set eyes on you, you either comply or say GOODBYE!

blackgold2018:
that’s why I said do you think ADC is not prepared in all angles.

Mind you.. hope you know some APC governors will even secretly fund ADC towards the election

Hope you won't deactivate your account after election sha

blackgold2018:
obj did partially well the masses didn’t bother to protest.
Buhari didn’t do well but the north let Tinubu to win because they indirectly thanked him for helping Buhari

Right now all the masses re against Tinubu, just like they were against Gej. Obi saw the only way to wrestle power from Tinubu is by ADC help. Do you think ADC are not prepared?? Coupled with the full anger of the masses.

It wouldn’t be easy with Tinubu sincerely. I laugh when Tinubu supporters are hoping on SS votes🤣🤣. Thats how delusional they are.

Social media is not the real game, you thinking the masses goes against Tinubu is really laughable, wait till election month and watch the usual bag opf rice and 20k begin to circulate, na then you go realize how useless the average Nigerian is, just DEY PLAY

blackgold2018:
full of presidency and inec equates rigging. Offcourse that has always been the hope of APC.

That’s the reason Obi joined ADC. It’s fire to fire now

That has always been the reason for all political parties since 1999, OBJ did it, he also did it for Ya'rdua and GEJ. Buhari did it and so did T-Pain, this is 9ja politics.....They are all f*ckin RIGGERS!

blackgold2018:
I laugh in Chinese on SS😂. I don’t know for NC because am not from there. But you see SS🤣🤣. I really don’t know what you Yorubas are taking to think SS will vote for APC. Even the so called defected governors will not rigg for you.

It only in SW Tinubu have a higher chance to rigg all for himself. Even a free and fair election never sure for him in both Lagos and abuja

How did SS vote in the last election? T-pain still carried almost 30%, now imagine him with the full power of the presidency and INEC, you're cooked!

The real fight is in the North, if he maintains status quo by splitting the North with Atiku, nobody can defeat him!

Basic123:
And so many Many of us wey dey APC still dey live fine than most of you non APC supporters too

Stop playing politics with emotions
Anyone is free to belong to any party.
Your politicians in your non-APC ,Have they transformed your life to be dangote?

Many of una wey dey APC dey live fine?.....No bro, you're not LIVING, you're COPING! Your life has gotten harder from 2015 till now and if you're genuine, you would know the possibility of it getting harder the next 2 to 6 years if APC wins is VERY HIGH!

Dreamhans1:
In sensible countries, they have a good drainage system still leaves pockets and pockets of space for greenery. Even some are developing urban forest, go figure.
London did a study recently and found out that the reason for the incessant flash floods is despite having enough drainage system was the over paving. It limits the time rain water sip into the soil, thereby creating huge flood that's could be very dangerous.
Lagos has a worst combination of bad drainage system, blocked drainage and its low lying. Still.
Nature has a way of taking care of rain water before human invaded

London's drainage is piss poor for an advanced country, leave interlocking alone if it had the drainage system of Houston or Dallas it would experience less flash flooding. New York City with its lack of greenery and congested housing experience less flooding than its neighbor New Jersey because it has better drainage despite the congestion.

Dreamhans1:
Lagos have bad drainage system and its also a low lying city. More reason why we shouldn't pave.

So fix the drainage which tackles the root cause instead of tackling the symptoms....At least that is what's done in sensible countries!

maasoap:
Many Nigerians lack critical thinking. If FG could defeat kidnapping, not terrorism, we wouldn't be where we are at this moment. He was advocating for kidnappers/bandits, not terrorists until this moment that FG is making move to classify them too as terrorists.

What's the difference? A killer is a killer no matter how you label them. Let's stop this act of trying to downplay serious issues in this country, why would you advocate for murderers?

Dreamhans1:
The flash flood for London and New York Na wetin?

Notice you said flash flood rather than regular flooding, in Lagos it floods even from light rain!

FreeIgboho:
Ok, you're indeed dense not just arguing. Either that or something is wrong with you. It is not about "many types of Jews". There is a jewish country called Israel. They accept people whose mothers are Jews but not fathers. I only gave that as example. Why are you throwing in Catholics, etc. Are you ok?

Once again, if Nature intended lineage to be by men it'd have made men the ones who bore the babies and raised them. As you said a man can impregnate a whole village and therfore won't have time for them. A woman has only a few and therefore takes good care of them. The man has many women while the woman has only one major man. Nature intended that the woman pass on to her children whatever the man left with her while the man has all his wealth in his women's houses with nothing for him to pass on. That's how Nature intended it. All the man' weath are with his wives and they pass them on to their children! That's what Nature obviously intended. Basically Nature intended that men be disposable. Their job is to impregnate as many women as possible then die. Lineage, inheritance, and all other things are meant to be through women. That's how NATURE intended it!

Jews existed before the modern day Israel, you're just too ignorant to recall! I used the example of Catholics to show you how one religion can have multiple interpretations or belief system since you didn't realize Judaism could be traditional or reformist but once again another point that flew over your head!

Finally you said man's job is to impregnate and die yet he's expected to leave assets and have no say in how they're distributed....ARE YOU MENTALLY CHALLENGED? Use that chatgpt or Google to answer this simple question, who lived longer in the BC era, was it man or woman? You'll be shocked to know men actually outlived women so once again your nature argument is pure LAMBA.....Don't bother replying, your lack of intellect is comedic!

FreeIgboho:
Either you are dense or you are just arguing for argument sake.
There can be a million types of Jews, what we are discussing is the majority traditional Jews!

The issue is not who brought what, the issue is how Nature intended things. Here is how Nature intended things: A man marries a woman or several women and also has concubines. He goes to their houses to get them pregnant and provide as much as he can and be a father figure to the children . Nature did not intend lineage to be through him but through the mothers. That's the only reliable real lineage there can be. "Children of one father" is dubious, "children of one mother" is NOT!

I am SURE my mother's mother is her mother and so forth, going all the way back to the beginning. But I'm not sure mother's father or anybody's father is their father. Gives you an idea what Nature intended!

You and whom discussed traditional Jew? Are you deliberately ignorant? You mentioned traditional and I gave you example of other types of Jews. I even gave you example of catholic and other denominations but your silly ass is hung up on a singular view rather than wholistic view. You keep mentioning nature without providing evidence aside from oh only women can guarantee that they're their children's mother.

Even biologically you must be MENT to believe a man that can impregnate a whole nieghborhood in one month is less of a controller than a woman that can bring a baby once or twice a year.

Fianlly, was this discussion not about inheritance? Let's bring it all back to who creates inheritance and controls it, you really think this was naturally intended to be a woman? you admitted the man hunts, builds house, basically creates all the assets yet the woman controls them? CLOWN TALK! Your argument of nature simply makes no DAMN SENSE!

FreeIgboho:
About the Jewish stuff, see below and be shocked.

My starting point? A man has to go out and hunt and gather and fight and DIE. He doesn't know which of his children are truly his and doesn’t rally have that deep a bond with them and he's often away from home and likely soon die from one thing or another. Nature forces the woman to stay home and tend the next generation (which she is 100% certain are her children), and tend the homestead and tend what has been gathered and has fewer chances of dying. Please, honestly, who among the two did nature intend for the lineage (and therefore inheritance) to go by?

Again you ignored the premise that there are more than one type of Jew, traditional and reofrmed, just like we have Catholics, Deeper Life and others. Further, your scenario makes zero sense, if the hunter did not bring food home would there be anything to survive on? The house they're living, if he did not build it where would they sleep? Let me now burst your brain, women died way earlier in the olden days than men, from childbirth to simple infections, this is why it is not unusual to find many households with multiple wives.....Again I ask you, who is the true custodian here? Someone that cannot fend for themsleves or the provider?

I must say I asm highly disappointed, I expected you to bring factual evidence with a timestamp, for example an ancient civilization where inheritance was passed down the female line but all you seem to do is bring up conjecture.....STOP IT!

Gboss247:
New York that is farther away from the equator is hotter than Nigeria in summer, please stop joking.

Yes in the Summer and the comparison is Lagos not NigeriaKano is hotter), this is not disputable, you can use Google to assist you. Lagos average temp is between 75 to 90 degrees F while NYC can average 85 to 95 degrees F in the summer, the highest ever was 10 degrees F while highest ever for Lagos was 102 degree F. E shocked me too when I researched it even tho I've lived here for 15 years

SeriouslySense:
The nature alone will lower the temperature when its hot.

The summers are hotter than the average 9ja weather...I don't buy that lamba

jmoore:
This is Nigeria, not New York. Keep sleeping.

All the more reasons to mind your effing business, no be you go tell man how or what to build.....Keep dulling!

Gboss247:
Last time I checked, New York was a geographical location to experience winter and concrete are needed to store heat energy and release into the atmosphere when temperature.
So, paving everywhere with concrete in a hot country like Nigeria where plants should be grown to increase the atmospheric oxygen level to in order to cool environment because oxygen is a very cold gas

NYC has maybe 3 or 4 truly cold months in a year, the summers are sometimes hotter than 9ja, the comparison is the coastal nature being surrounded by water.

FreeIgboho:
You obviously did not carefully read what I wrote. I said NATURE intended it that way, but MEN changed it. Nature gave women everything that makes it natural that lineage and inheritance be matrilinial - because they are custodians of the home and because it's only the mother that is 100% sure is the mother of the children. Even today, you are a Jew only if your mother is a Jew NOT your father. Even so, see below

You obviously are making up shit, which nature? Is it biblical, ancestrial or traditional? You need to be specific for me to understand where you're coming from? Name your starting point, even your example of Jew is misplaced at best and WRONG at worst. Are you a traditional Jew or a Reformed Jew? It's like catholic vs deeper life, same faith but different interpretations!

FreeIgboho:
The circled below is from Google and answers your question. But even common sense ought tell you that a man can't be out hunting and gathering and fighting and dying, and at same time be custodian of the home and what was gathered

You're the one not applying common sense if you cannot distinguish between taking care of the home and being the custody of inheritance/home. I have input an exact query in Google to show you what you overlooked. You're wanting us to believe that women who couldn't own land or legally put their name on most assets as far back as 400BC were originally custodian of inheritance? Does that make sense to you?

FreeIgboho:
Actually inheritance and lineage were originally through women because they were custodians of the home and family wealth plus everyone was sure their children were truly their children. Men came and went and fathered children they weren't even aware they fathered. So it actually made more sense that lineage and inheritance were through females

You're spewing jargon, which civilization was that? Is it the old Oyo Empire, Ife, Benin, the Aztecs or the Vikings/Saxo? Originally where? You have to specify rather than make broad assumptions not backed by historical evidence! Out of 1000s of ethnic groups, women being custodian of inheritance is less than 10%, you can use Google if you need help validating this!

Incognito403:
Even if it leaves room for water to percolate.
Do you know that flooding isn't only caused by saturation of the soil?

There's also hortonian overland flow which is caused by (rain) water pouring faster than the soil can assimilate. This interlocking increases the risk of flooding due to hortonian overland flow.

Lagos especially needs to take action on this. Government should encourage greenery.

After all, research has shown that the poor mental and emotional status of our generation is linked to the dull coloura of these concrete materials.

Then give an explanation where the same coastal land in another part of the world is not experiencing such even tho it is technically more crowded than Lagos. Come to Coney Island or the Bronx, everywhere is locked, vegetation is scarce and yet the issue you mentioned is null and void, why is that?

jmoore:
Dem dey depend on boreholes in New York?

Oh no be drainage again be the issue but borehole, even tho we have reverse osmosis and other water purification techniques nowaday.....This is 2025 not 1990, WAKE UP!

FreeIgboho:
So at least we agree that women are cheated by the inheritance system, that it is UNFAIR to women. And please it is NOT nature that made it that way, it is the patriachy, men! What Nature made is that everyone would know for certain who the child's mother is, but not the father. Therefore Nature actually supports lineage through female line not male. It is man that changed it!

You can argue with your forefathers about that because as far back as our history could remember, it is MOSTLY men that build up assets which needs to be passed down so naturally they would want that asset to continue in the family, you simply cannot do this with the female child back then. Recently, women have been more open to keeping their fathers name and legacy so things are changing little by little but to think you'll someday get a 50/50 equilibirum when it comes to inheritance is OFUTUFETE!

Rubbish....Interlocking when done properly leaves room for water to move through, for rain heavy areas like Lekki, it is even more imparative to do this otheriwse you risk having mud or dirt all over the bottom and sides of your house.

All that environmental concern is hogwash.....Come to New York City or downtown Atlanta you won't see space not to talk of greens yet the drainage system works incredibly well, so stop the LAMBA!

FreeIgboho:
My friend you are just being deceptive. You know full well that what drives inheritance is to keep the wealth inside the family name. If lineage were traced through the female (as it ought be because you're never sure who the father is) then there'd be an incentive to have females inherit as much as males. Otherwise WHY would a man transfer his wealth to another family name?



I was actually the first to bring up inheritance by stating the following:
"A first-child woman can't inherit anything. Everything goes to her younger brothers.
Life is unfair to women simply because it is men that set up the system."

Youre the one that's not facing reality, you keep talking equality bullshit when I'm trying to show you there's improvement from one decade to another, I've never onced said it is 50/50 or entertained the notion of such absurdity. Nature itself made it that way, women don't keep their father's name so why would a father expect them to keep his legacy?

This does not mean daughters shouldn't get shin shin, the fact that you keep mentioning women can't inherit anything is ABSURD and clearly limited to those still thinking with cavemen faculty! For wealthy men within the last 20 or 30 years, awareness is on the rise, from having a will that specifically states how properities would be shared to actually seeing the importance of a female child, this is 2025 not 1990, Otedola will not ignore his daughters neither would I!

Kobojunkie:
But wait... You posed the following question, did you not? And then you went on to state the following ... Come on... this was never truly about inheritance, as the one who brought up the mention of inheritance was you... And yes, even children from poor backgrounds hope for some form of inheritance, even though more times out of not, their fathers never leave behind more than just the clothes on their backs when they die.

Now, as for the previous post, To this day, what is described above continues to happen even among the poor, where you rightly pointed out that there is next to no inheritance to fight over in those situations. Yet widows are held back from moving in many years after the demise of their husbands, while widowers are literally allowed to do as they please whenever they please. How you came up with insisting this has nothing to do with the system having a double standard is still beyond me.

Stop being a bebeto and read the initial comment, it shows exactly what I responded to, I'm not interested in gender bantering, just strictly inheritance and how things have changed for most wealthy men since 1990.

Kobojunkie:
The poor in Nigeria number above 170 million(women combined). And most of those men in that bracket have no real inheritance to offer anyone, including their children. Now, if the vast majority of Nigerian women "learn" and decide they should remain single, una go label them evening newspapers with bad characters? 🥱🥱🥱

The topic is inheritance, what business does a poor man have with inheritance? Read my initial comment and reply accordingly, I don't give a flip about man or woman dynamics in 9ja but the topic of inheritance is not for poor people!

FreeIgboho:
See your conditions for the female to get what should be naturally hers - "Many educated wealthy men now have wills". How about no education, no wills? How about traditionally?
Check the villages. A woman can't be seen with a man for years after her husband dies, while a man can be sleeping with his second wife same night! In the old days the alive wife actually gets buried alive with her husband!
Just admit things are unfair to women because it is men that set it up!

We are talking about now compared to 30 years ago, WHY WOULD ANY WOMAN MARRY A MAN WITH NO EDUCATION, NO WILL & NO PLAN? Una no dey learn? The people you're describing are mostly poor or average at best, MAJORITY of village men are not leaving behind a mansion or enough money to secure his family for the rest of their lives. We are not talking about a million or two or that old village family house but REAL INHERITANCE!

FreeIgboho:
Just admit that life is unfair to women BECAUSE IT IS MEN THAT SET UP THE SYSTEM!
A first-child woman can't inherit anything. Everything goes to her younger brothers.
Unfairness everywhere.

Even the Bible says a man should leave his parents and cling to his wife. Society changed it to a woman should leave her parents - because it is men that set it up!
And he can tell her to pack and go back to her parents anytime.
There are countless other unfairness. Just go the villages

Wake up, this is 2025 not 1990! Many educated wealthy men now have wills that takes care of their daughters, some are even giving their daughters the inheritance while they're still alive. The growth from 1990 to 2025 is astronomical and truly wealthy parents are not leaving anythhing to chance or societal whims!

WriteerNg:

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So you had to resort to Google to be able to argue with me, with your high IQ??

Is it that bad?

How else would you believe without seeing? If I used my experience living in the US and a father that worked at the Pentagon you would yinmu and doubt it but if you saw it on Google, you have no choice than to chop your L in peace