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Family / Re: As I'm Enduring This, Am I Really Making My Children Better? by abbey621(m): 2:59pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
People hold elaborate weddings, go to church and take the oath for better or worse, they enjoy the better but protest vehemently against the worst! This situation is a case of a chronic gambler struggling with addiction, there's no sign of violence just a man that you knew was a gambler and you married him anyways, now you're acting all new as if his behavior is strange to you. Now you want to leave him, take his offspring and leave him in a state where he's even more susceptible to his gambling demons.....Women! Let me shock you some more, if this guy actually hammered from his gambling, I can confidently say that you wouldn't have problem with it, you wouldn't see it as a bad role model for your child and that in itself says a lot! Now with that said, leaving him is probably the best solution for this situation. It will either break or make him! Since rehabilitation is a foreign concept to most Nigerians, the man must be baptized through trials and tribulations, there's simply no other way! He must hit rock bottom before iyanu can shele! 2 Likes |
Nairaland / General / Re: Nairaland Is Partially Back; A Work In Progress by abbey621(m): 11:25pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
airsaylongcome: That's right, at the end of the day, the owner must balance the cost and effect between people like you who would say bye bye and the risk of being shutdown again by a host or other regulatory body. |
Nairaland / General / Re: Nairaland Is Partially Back; A Work In Progress by abbey621(m): 10:06pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
airsaylongcome: I write scripts and develop algorithms for a living, I can easily detect randomized MAC, VPN, any solution is better than the rubbish that exists now. My preference and the easier solution would be to require multi factor authentication for all users. Your Nairaland account is tied to your phone number, your phone number can never be a virtual or pseudo phone number(Google voice) but an actual number tied to a device but like you said it affects user base. Ultimately, where there's a will, there's a way......The only person that can give a definite answer is Seun! Only he can say Niaraland is bringing so so in terms or frevenue and he's willing to spend so and so to sanitize it and protect it from trolls and spammers! You & I can argue all day but the ball's in his court! |
Nairaland / General / Re: Nairaland Is Partially Back; A Work In Progress by abbey621(m): 9:45pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
airsaylongcome: Subreds are part of reddit hence I maintain my stance, there is some type of limitation. Further it is really easy to validate based on Ip address tied to a MAC address, the intention here is to limit bots/spammers and make the ban system more effective, if the system detects more than one registeration from a MAC address within a month, that address should be flagged and suspended, new accounts should be limited from sensitive forums like politics and religion, this will effectively demoralize Nairaland trolls......If Nairaland is to survive in this new age, it must combat this problem through technology and innovation! 1 Like |
Nairaland / General / Re: Nairaland Is Partially Back; A Work In Progress by abbey621(m): 6:16pm On Dec 21, 2023 |
airsaylongcome: Yes they do, Reddit for example, you are restricted from certian activities based on your registeration date and reputation. In fact certain subs can limit you based on other criterias. Verification is not just at time of registeration but an on-going process. The single most effective solution for Nairaland is to tie each account to a verified phone number and an I.P. address, it is fairly simple to do and will reduce the spammers and abusers down to an acceptable level. 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Without The Intervention Of Young Igbo Men, I Would Be A Dead Man - Moyo Okediji by abbey621(m): 9:13pm On Dec 17, 2023 |
It burst my brain that some people are still so clueless how certain things work! Why would you travel from the USA and decide to do a cross country tour of Africa via road, ALL ALONE? Being a professor, surely he knew of current events and how dangerous things are right now, I sincerely believe the false sense of security and entitlement provided abroad made you think the same applies in Africa especially in Nigeria......Joker! This is someone's grandfather, someone should have hinted him on just how bad of an idea this was, even those of us who were raised to be street smart still encounter difficulties when traveling to Nigeria not to talk of Professor dingbat that does not realize we have known and unknown gunmen in Nigeria, the known ones are the police and the unknown ones are the others......JI MA SUN! 4 Likes |
Politics / Re: Goodhead: Wike, others responsible for the Murder of DPO Bako by abbey621(m): 10:11pm On Dec 15, 2023 |
Foolishness of the highest order, you knew all his atrocities but you kept quiet because it was still favoring you and your cohorts.....Now that things are no longer rosy again, GBAM,......You remember the people of Rivers.......WEREY 50 Likes 1 Share
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Travel / Re: US Customs Seizes Undeclared $68k Cash From Nigeria-bound Family by abbey621(m): 6:27pm On Dec 10, 2023 |
Definitely illegal money, no family carries that amount of cash to Nigeria, this is 2023 not 1999. Dorm accounts, wire transfers, crypto, Western Union etc. So many options but Ogbon Sodiq people dey always over calculate......Cheers Fam! |
Family / Re: When A Deadbeat Dad Gets Old And Weary. by abbey621(m): 1:46am On Dec 08, 2023 |
WE ARE NOTHING BUT PENCILS IN THE HANDS OF THE CREATOR........ 1 Like
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Education / Re: Why Do Some School Teachers Sleep With Students? by abbey621(m): 10:20pm On Dec 04, 2023 |
Oluwatobiloba07: Again you're daft! You're a corper arguing with someone that served almost 15 years ago, you see say you're mental? Which kind temptation you wan face wey we never faced before? Some of us live in a civilized country and the first thing they teach you about underaged victims is that the law will always expect the adult to be the voice of reason! Your excuses are just lame and foolish, temptation, what she's wearing blah blah blah.....Don't worry you'll soon be dropping the soap in the slammer, continue! 2 Likes |
Education / Re: Why Do Some School Teachers Sleep With Students? by abbey621(m): 6:23pm On Dec 04, 2023 |
Oluwatobiloba07: I'll tell you how you cope......When you think about the prison sentence and the damage to your reputation, that should be incentive enough......Of course since you live in a zoo country, the law is very slow to catch up or care but if na sane country, you would eventually meet your waterloo either via the law or a parent with 9mm aiming for the middle of your head! 4 Likes
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Politics / Re: Eko Row: Benin People ‘Owned’ Lagos, Awori Paid Royalties To Them - Erelu Abiola by abbey621(m): 7:53pm On Dec 03, 2023 |
Iamgrey5: You know what they say, na over calcu dey worry most of us....Awon ogbon sodiq |
Politics / Re: Eko Row: Benin People ‘Owned’ Lagos, Awori Paid Royalties To Them - Erelu Abiola by abbey621(m): 7:52pm On Dec 03, 2023 |
Kukutenla: You're still ignorant, you just admitted cultures differs yet you compare the Romans with the British. Go back to your comment that I responded to, you were seemingly asking why Yorubas ended up speaking English but you failed to state as opposed to what exactly? |
Politics / Re: Eko Row: Benin People ‘Owned’ Lagos, Awori Paid Royalties To Them - Erelu Abiola by abbey621(m): 5:24pm On Dec 03, 2023 |
Kukutenla: You mean we speak English before Yoruba? You're mental . Focus on the point made, if Yorubas met Bini, is it not proper that a large percentage of Yorubas in Lagos would speak Bini language as well? 1 Like |
Politics / Re: President Tinubu Meets King Charles III To Discuss Climate Change by abbey621(m): 12:27am On Dec 01, 2023 |
KingOfAmebo: Followers that have the power to overthrow a leader, those ones are the ones you want to completely influence? E.g. passing the budget without the SUV for the lawmakers, you want to start a riot? It is easy to hide behind a keyboard and fantasize about theories but practical fit run you wotowoto.....When the country is serious for true change, it will come via a bloody revolution, for now make we all DEY PLAY! |
Politics / Re: President Tinubu Meets King Charles III To Discuss Climate Change by abbey621(m): 9:10pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
KingOfAmebo: Well we've had fitter presidents from Obasanjo to GEJ, what did they accomplish? Majority of una still dey ignorant for this platform, one man does not decide what happens in a country, una focus on president but leave una governors and legislators to loot as they please.....No be juju be that? 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: President Tinubu Meets King Charles III To Discuss Climate Change by abbey621(m): 6:18pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
KingOfAmebo: Pray make nothing happen to you to ever require back and leg surgery . You've never seen 40 year old retired sport players walk with a limp? You've never seen cancer survivors or sickle cell patients look weaker than grandpas in their 70s? If life happens to you wahlahi you fit dey waka like person wey don shit for body 1 Like |
Family / Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by abbey621(m): 6:14pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: We'll just have to agree to disagree, pregnancy and childbirth is not something you bring to a marriage, it is a natural part of it, yes it presents certain dangers and sacrifices but it is still a normal part of marital expectations! This cannot be what you bring to a marriage and call it done and dusted! This is a disservice to all females out there and I will never agree to such train of thought especially since I have a daughter who INSHALLAH will be more than a baby making factory to her future husband......I REST MY CASE.....PEACE! |
Family / Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by abbey621(m): 5:30am On Nov 30, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: Yet the argument was never about it not being tangible, my premise remains the same. It CAN'T be the ONLY thing a woman brings to the table, you having a child is not a favor to your man, just like a man's risking his life to provide financially is not a favor to his woman. You can make babies yayyyyyyyy but is that all you're good for? Okay fine I don't want kids at least not until you're old and in menopause then what? What ya gonna do? . Do you still have a purpose in the marriage or will your world suddenly unravel? I'm simply saying women gotta be worth more than just a baby making machine.....Ya dig? |
Family / Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by abbey621(m): 12:08am On Nov 30, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: So judging by the bold part of your comment you feel pregnancy is a favor to the man? You don't see it as a natural part of any marriage? If that's the case, would you equate the risk/danger to a man that risks his life everyday to provide for his family? Would most women be content with a man that says he does not want kids? Would most women consider such a man an ideal partner? So basically you're saying women willingly take on this danger and should be rewarded and that it can't be compared to for example, men who willingly put themselves in danger to provide financially for their family? Please make it make sense! |
Family / Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by abbey621(m): 9:44pm On Nov 29, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: Isn't that the same as saying a man that only brings huge prick or very good in bed is a plus to the marriage......Keyword here is ONLY! If a woman's only plus is her baby making skills......Is that not an insult to such a woman. I already stated earlier, I won't spend millions to send my daughter to a top notch school only for one guy to tell her you know what, just stay home and make babies |
Family / Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by abbey621(m): 12:45am On Nov 29, 2023 |
Rukevwe999: i think you're not looking at this discussion from a global perspective, for example a country like USA has tripled the population of women who do not want kids. Same nation has elevated women to a position where they are equal opportunities for women to earn serious income. So in such situations, how would women still value men? If men are the so called leaders but society/government started stripping them of their God given role, what happens? Whether we like it or not, marriage is transactional, a man promises to build a family with a woman and there are certain expectations that comes with that, similarly a woman agrees to build a family with a man and such man suddenly expects certain things. The problem starts when a woman is no longer seen as a woman but Mrs. somebody or mama somebody. A woman with no life outside of her husband or kid, such women usually end up filled with regrets. All it takes is life taking a wrong turn and the dream becomes shattered! For men, all it takes is a divorce or worse and then that so called service that you said is a man's purpose becomes meaningless! So I repeat my premise, whether you be man or woman, you must bring something else to the table other than your natural talents! Not for your spouse's sake but for YOUR OWN SAKE! 2 Likes |
Family / Re: As A Husband, "Before You Ask Your Wife What Are You Bringing To The Table". by abbey621(m): 2:33am On Nov 28, 2023 |
Rukevwe999: The bold part of your comment is highly subjective, for men it can be tricky asking what a woman brings to the table but I bet you 100% for most women, their main focus is what the man brings to the table. This is why most men get triggered when people use something like sex or childbirth and equate it to what a man brings to the table. It's also kind of detrimental to women because we are at the age of empowerment and feminism, are we saying all women are good for is making babies like a factory? Society already tells men to be men by providing for their family, extended family, friends and still be a responsible member of society while it teaches women that all they have to do is have a banging body and be fertile......CAN'T IMAGINE I'LL SPEND SO MUCH MONEY TO GIVE MY DAUGHTER FIRST CLASS EDUCATION & ONE MAN WILL REDUCE HER TO BABY MAKER 2 Likes |
Sports / Re: Who Is The Greatest Nigerian Goalkeeper Of All Time? by abbey621(m): 3:31pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Questions like this makes no sense. These goalkeepers did not play in the same era or have the same team. A goalkeeper most times is as good as his defense. Peter Rufai was a more efficient keeper than Enyeama when you factor in the entire team. Most of the players on the national team when Rufai started playing were relatively unknown and unrefined. The defense was made up of bricklayers and plumbers facing off against more established players especially at the world cup. Enyeama had a team of European players, battle tested and refined but they still underperformed! No way yo ucan rank him above Rufai in terms of efficiency! |
Family / Re: An American Woman With Two Husbands And Three Children Is Causing A Stir Online by abbey621(m): 3:19pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
izadi: Africa is not a country, so please be specific, which country in Africa are you talking about? Which tribe? I know for a fact polyandry is a taboo in Yorubaland and you can't show one single evidence that it was practiced. I know for a fact no Hausa or Fulani tribe practiced such so can you clarify? When you say Africa, you must be referring to other nations in it, right? |
Family / Re: Any Time I Turn Him Down He Goes To Bed , Is Everything Alright? - Lady Seek Adv by abbey621(m): 6:08pm On Nov 22, 2023 |
MadamExcellency: Read the next few verses and you'll see nothing about the verses you quote forbids men from marrying more than one wife! |
Travel / Re: The Only Type Of Nigerian Who Will Enjoy The Japa Lifestyle Of The West by abbey621(m): 7:55pm On Nov 18, 2023 |
I hate when people generalize, I see such people as low intelligence humans! There is plenty of time to socialize abroad, in fact based on your education and career level, you will never work a weekend again in your life, that leaves you with at least one or two days to socialize. Further, if you are wise and actively investing while you work, your job provides you at least 2 full weeks of paid time off each year along with 5 or 6 holidays, why wouldn't you be able to schedule time for partying or vacationing? Finally we have people making money while they sleep in the USA, there's no free money abroad but some money are easier to attain than others, places like America allows you to work remotely, some of my goons are working 2 jobs remotely cashing out big time and if they are really really good at what they do, most of their daily tasks takes less than 4 hours to complete, the rest is spent playing PS5 or chatting on Nairaland/Instagram. Ji ma sun! 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: People say Age Is Just A Number. Do you agree?(picture) by abbey621(m): 7:43pm On Nov 18, 2023 |
siofra: Some early 20s girls have been through more than 3 breakups, sexual abuse or multiple abortions......Don't you think they need a more matured man in their life? Isn't the goal of most relationships durability? 1 Like |
Events / Re: About To Cancel A Marriage Scheduled To Hold On Sunday. by abbey621(m): 7:05pm On Nov 18, 2023 |
Zooposki: Ah now I understand you fully......You haven't taken your meds......Get well soon |
Events / Re: About To Cancel A Marriage Scheduled To Hold On Sunday. by abbey621(m): 4:51pm On Nov 18, 2023 |
Zooposki: Hogwash.....First you criticize those who look up things on Google then you use the same Google to try to bolster your weak ass claim.....You're not bright are you? So you don't personally know one person that has successfully given birth without sperm, chimoooo |
Events / Re: About To Cancel A Marriage Scheduled To Hold On Sunday. by abbey621(m): 4:12pm On Nov 18, 2023 |
Zooposki: Still spewing shit....Still waiting for the first evidence that proves your theory....Nature this, nature that but you can't name one person that can be verified as being produced without the need for sperm.....No be juju be that? |
Events / Re: About To Cancel A Marriage Scheduled To Hold On Sunday. by abbey621(m): 3:46pm On Nov 18, 2023 |
Zooposki: Ah yes Bible and science perfect combo.....Nigga you're cracking me up . Even that theory is flawed because I recalled it required the holy spirit to complete the process so it is not self conception.....Nice try tho
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