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Please help me out!!!
There is this lady I'm in love with more than 8 years ago. During the 4th year, I didn't know what cause our fight, she just breaks up with me saying she is no more interested. I cried bitterly but vow never to engaged to anybody until when she comes back into my heart.
Last year, we chat and she asked me Am I still in love with her which I replied yes just because she is my first and I never engaged since our break up because I love her from the bottom of my heart. She told me what transferred between those year we break up because we are not schooling same place.
Last Month, she seems to behave irrational. I told her elder sister and she said I should take it easy with her. I'm curious of whats wrong with her so I went to where she works to inform her boss may be she will talk to her boss of what happened.
Fortunately, she told him everything and vow to change that she just recover from her previous boyfriend death. Through her boss, I now find out what causes our break up. We break up then just because I tagged her engaged which she accept then.
Since then, my trust and love for her disintegrate to the bearest minimum.
Should I continue with her and How will her love comes to my heart back? Because I'm scared of another
NB: We have done pre-introduction between the two family.

Nonso23:
Don't waste your time defending an adult that just wants to be a baby again.

Will the boss rape her??
NO
Will he kill her if she says no to his advances??
NO

Then there is no problem.
If she values her dignity and relationship over the job she'll 'defend' herself, if she eventually succumbs go for an extravagant Thanksgiving because you have just been delivered from the hands of the wicked.
No one should blackmail you into making silly decisions.

Got it

cococandy:
authority over her indeed. You mean you adopted her as your new kid? abi are we still talking about an adult lady here?

Well to the topic, it's not your job to 'protect' her as far as this kind of situation is involved. She's an adult and that comes with making life decisions. So she can decide to call his bluff and lose her job.
Whatever she finally plans to do, you may then chip in to help her if it requires two people to implement successfully.

If she's pretty she could be getting a lot of male attention anywhere she finds herself even if she leaves this job. Are you going to be running after her every time 'protecting' her from any man who tries to get down with her? You will soon get exhausted. trust me on that one.

I get that the knight in you is rising up to fend off anyone who tries to trespass on your tuff but Let her be an adult and stand up for herself.

That is what I told her ooooo. She worth to protect herself but still insist. I even told her if I travelled to my working place, will I be coming from a far distance to be protecting her.
I dont know what to do again.

Chubhie:
Good you've got something worth fighting for though, I maintain that the best form of defence is to stay out of range. As long as your lady is still visible to her boss he will be getting more hardened hard-on the more she continues to put up a front. This is natural-more like a sublime catch me if you can massage to her boss.

This is where you come in. Distort the signals and shake the boss into reality cos once a mans loins is locked on a potential prey he becomes unreasonable until he off loads the fire that burnth.

The how's? You've got to send the boss a message. You will start by dropping your lady off to work, popping in unannounced some afternoons to check on her and coming to pick her from work. Dress nice smell nice and make a friendly impression on her co workers in the office. Make them like your style.

Next who is the boss wife? You have to know her and study her but don't let her in. If possible seduce her with your charm but let their be distance for the idea is to let your boss see or know you know who the wife is.

Is the boss the church going type? The elders and deacons in church? The pastors friend? You shall adopt whichever church he attends from this moment. You will sit closer to him where he can see you in church. Be ready for awkward moments when the pastor is preaching on infidelity.

The first stage is to distort signal and shake him into reality and put heats on him. He wants to operate in darkness on code and you will be an angel of light by turning on the lights.

How well you did in the first stage will give you an upper negotiating power once he's reasonable and calls for a sit down.

Downside- if it is a one man business and you over do and turns the heat too much he will wake up one day and sack your babe. Careful study of the boss will give you a feel of the nature of a man he is before you proceed.

This is the time to be closer to your woman and extract all details you need to fashion out your best formations without her knowing your intentions. May the gods be with you and empower you to reclaim your world. I'm cheering for you Bro.

Really appreciate your kindness toward solving my issue. May God reward you abondantly

Chubhie:
Depends on what value you place on her. How much is she worth to you? Is she your sunshine,your world?

You can deliberately refuse to play her games and let her slip away if she's not worth the stress but, if that lady is your world-A world you built with your hands-hmmm. I can give you ideas to reclaim your world both legal, metaphysical and otherwise.

After God & my parent, she is the one. She is my world and everything. You know what I mean.

Chillisauce:
No mind her. N'a wayo she dey do. She wants you to hurry up with the wedding plans

Nigerian women, na their way be dat

Wedding We always discuss on that always.

Chubhie:
She's indirectly telling you to wack the guy. You either go behind her to reason with the boss and if he's not a reasonable guy wack him.

Women can be funny atimes. Don't be surprised if she finally gives in to her Boss demands and turns back to blame you for not giving the needed protection.

That is what I'm scared of Chubie. Should I go ahead to let her boss wife aware of it or I should wait?

veave:
You say she is your woman?




Ok.




Why not marry her properly next weekend. Make sure you buy a ring with a very big stone. That way, you do not get to park outside anymore when you come to pick her. Rather, you walk in and say hi to her boss first, then help her with her handbag.




You did not pay for something, the other person did not pay too. And you came here to ask me how you can own what you did not pay for. Are you a thief? Both of you should be deceiving yourselves. Mtchwwwwwwwwww.

Mind you veave, I have been giving the authority over her by her family. We are just like a married couple.
The worst part is that her boss knows me vividly and he is married too.
I dont even know what to do. I'm scared that she might later succummed to her boss and blame it on me for not protecting her.

lagunna1:
you can try magun

Ma what?

My fiancee needs protection from me. The issue is this:
Her boss where she works is disturbing her either to marry her or have sex with her which he always disturb her everytime.
She told me of recent what is transferring between she and her boss. She always leave office by 8:00pm. I questioned her always but said always busy with work.
She now told me to come and be picking her from work and to protect her.
How should I protect her?
Advice needed urgently.

bukatyne:
If you don't want her to come, tell her not to with reasons.
Full stop

I have explained to her with reasons... Thanks bukatyne

Jamean:
I just tire..

If I was the fiancee...I would be happy not to attend. I really don't like too much familiarity with a family I'm not yet married into.

If you go there now no gree assist to work, they will start envisaging bad wife.

Abeegii..

I dont want familiarity between them now

Jamean:
I just tire..

If I was the fiancee...I would be happy not to attend. I really don't like too much familiarity with a family I'm not yet married into.

If you go there now no gree assist to work, they will start envisaging bad wife.

Abeegii..

Thats what I want. I dont want them to be familiar with her now

Mariecakes:
Introduction is usually just for family members n shes not family yet, if it were other celebrations, like birthday or a naming party, wedding ceremony.. only then Will there be a problem if you dont invite her...yyou can just let her know bout it n that it's strictly family

Got it Mariecakes. Thats my thought also

tearoses:
Why dont you want your housewives to know her yet?
Is she not the woman that you want to marry?
if she wants to go and work, its up to her
Just tell her not to come complaing that they told her to clear the plates or any other menial jobs as the "youngest wife" in the family.
It also depends on how big the intro is. Some are sitting room affairs with house cooking and some are canopy affiars with caterers. If if its a big one and other not so close family members and frieds have been invited, then she should be there.


Pls what is pre introduction? As in both families meeting each other informally?

I dont want them to know of her yet just because of house wives gossiping nature.
Meaning of pre-introduction: They have accepted me by her family being her fiancee

debolly:
Op which one is pre-introduction again....anyway introduction is supposed to be within the family except for people that have money to waste, so just tell her to cool down & wait for the d-day, when she'll be highly welcomed.

I pray she understand.
Thanks debolly

justi4jesu:
Introduction is no biggie compared to the marriage proper, Introduction is mostly family members only so she shouldn't be upset about it. Just let her know and I'm sure you will be fine.

Thank you bro

My sister is having introduction next two weeks. I have informed my fiancee but I didnt want her to come.
The reason being that I didnt want all my house wives to know know of her yet and there is no how she is come without assisting them.
NB: My family and hers have done pre-introduction.
Please advice?

Labour unions in Osun State on Monday
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demand for payment of their six-month
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The Chairman of the Nigeria Labour
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address of the labour unions at a press
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begin on Tuesday, May 26, after the
expiration of a 14-day ultimatum given to
the state government.
The address read, “That an indefinite strike
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2015 due to the failure of the government
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The labour union alleged that apart from
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Narrated Ubai bin Ka'b: The Prophet said,
"Once
the Prophet Moses stood up and addressed
Bani
Israel. He was asked, "Who is the most
learned
man amongst the people. He said, "I am the
most
learned." Allah admonished Moses as he did
not
attribute absolute knowledge to Him (Allah).
So
Allah inspired to him "At the junction of the
two
seas there is a slave amongst my slaves who
is
more learned than you." Moses said, "O my
Lord!
How can I meet him?" Allah said: Take a fish
in a
large basket (and proceed) and you will find
him
at the place where you will lose the fish. So
Moses set out along with his (servant) boy,
Yusha' bin Nuin and carried a fish in a large
basket till they reached a rock, where they
laid
their heads (i.e. lay down) and slept. The fish
came out of the basket and it took its way
into
the sea as in a tunnel. So it was an amazing
thing for both Moses and his (servant) boy.
They
proceeded for the rest of that night and the
following day. When the day broke, Moses
said to
his (servant) boy: "Bring us our early meal.
No
doubt, we have suffered much fatigue in
this
journey." Moses did not get tired till he
passed
the place about which he was told. There
the
(servant) boy told Moses, "Do you remember
when we betook ourselves to the rock, I
indeed
forgot the fish." Moses remarked, "That is
what
we have been seeking. So they went back
retracing their foot-steps, till they reached
the
rock. There they saw a man covered with a
garment (or covering himself with his own
garment). Moses greeted him. Al-Khadir
replied
saying, "How do people greet each other in
your
land?" Moses said, "I am Moses." He asked,
"The
Moses of Bani Israel?" Moses replied in the
affirmative and added, "May I follow you so
that
you teach me of that knowledge which you
have
been taught." Al-Khadir replied, "Verily! You
will
not be able to remain patient with me, O
Moses! I
have some of the knowledge of Allah which
He
has taught me and which you do not know,
while
you have some knowledge which Allah has
taught
you which I do not know." Moses said, "Allah
willing, you will find me patient and I will
not
disobey you in aught. So both of them set
out
walking along the sea-shore, as they did not
have
a boat. In the meantime a boat passed by
them
and they requested the crew of the boat to
take
them on board. The crew recognized Al-
Khadir
and took them on board without fare. Then
a
sparrow came and stood on the edge of the
boat
and dipped its beak once or twice in the
sea. Al-
Khadir said: "O Moses! My knowledge and
your
knowledge have not decreased Allah's
knowledge
except as much as this sparrow has
decreased
the water of the sea with its beak." Al-Khadir
went to one of the planks of the boat and
plucked
it out. Moses said, "These people gave us a
free
lift but you have broken their boat and
scuttled it
so as to drown its people." Al-Khadir replied,
"Didn't I tell you that you will not be able to
remain patient with me." Moses said, "Call
me
not to account for what I forgot." The first
(excuse) of Moses was that he had
forgotten.
Then they proceeded further and found a
boy
playing with other boys. Al-Khadir took hold
of
the boy's head from the top and plucked it
out
with his hands (i.e. killed him). Moses said,
"Have you killed an innocent soul who has
killed
none." Al-Kha,dir replied, "Did I not tell you
that
you cannot remain patient with me?" Then
they
both proceeded till when they came to the
people
of a town, they asked them for food, but
they
refused to entertain them. Then they found
there
a wall on the point of collapsing. Al-Khadir
repaired it with his own hands. Moses said,
"If
you had wished, surely you could have taken
wages for it." Al-Khadir replied, "This is the
parting between you and me." The Prophet
added,
"May Allah be Merciful to Moses! Would that
he
could have been more patient to learn more
about
his story with Al-Khadir. "

Abuamam:
That is why the prophet (saw) pointed out that the Shaytan goes after the lone muslim the way that a wolf goes after the sheep that strays from its herd... or words to that effect.
Try to always stay in countries/ regions where you can increase in your faith by interacting with muslims who are conscious of their hereafter. Whenever one is about to fall, the others lift him up.

Jazakumullahu Khaeran

Salam Alaykum
I would like to seek for advice and some du'a to be making or reciting when its time for solah.
Wallahi, it always pains my heart anytime I didnt perform solah. The issue is this:
Any time, any moment, I always think of performing solah but ones its time, it goes off my mind. I always prayed five times daily when I'm with muslim colleagues.

Jazakumullahu Khaeran!!!
May Allah SWT make me a good husband for my wife to be Insha Allah. I always cherish her right from day 1.

I love you mum

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Temptee101:
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