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MrsBreezy:
Well my childhood was spent in America so I guess to you its foreign.

Lol I guess .

I spent mine in Dubai, Ghana

farano:
I used to think boys must not see dah pantie but now

but now You must complete it ooo

omarlee:
This man is a transformer, he did it in Abuja and sure will do it Kaduna.

Oya go and hug ya transformer

Over the years, many points of view have been put forward as to what causes one person to be attracted to another. These have come from scientists, relationship experts and everyone in between.
And while some of these views can sound accurate and as though they reflect reality, it doesn't mean this is actually the case. Women are said to go for one thing and men for another and one doesn't need to look very far to see there are always exceptions.
Nevertheless, if one matches up with what is classed as attractive everything could be fine but if they don't, it could make them believe that they are therefore 'unattractive'. The first person is likely to end up feeling good about themselves and the second person could end up feeling hopeless.

Physical Appearances


While it is possible for one to change their behaviour or how they come across to others, the same can't always be said about their appearance. And as it is one's appearance that is often said to define whether they are attractive or not, there is only so much one can do.
Cosmetic surgery is gradually becoming more socially acceptable but even with surgery, there are limits. A woman can have breasts implants or have bottom implants and a man can have liposuction, for instance.

No Guarantees

If one doesn't look a certain way it is going to be normal for them to admire people who do have certain features. They could wonder what their life would be like if they looked the same and this could even go as far as them having cosmetic surgery.
And while being physically attractive can make one's life easier (it has been said that one's physical appearance can play a part in how far they go in their career and if they are charged or let off for a crime), it doesn't mean that one is going to have fulfilling relationships.

Men and Women

At this time, women have more options than men do when it comes to changing their appearance. And as men are more visual than women, this doesn't mean that men are therefore worse off.
For a man it is not so much about how he looks as it is about how he behaves. So while man can look right, if he doesn't behave right it is not going to make much difference. As for women, they can look a certain way but unless they value themselves and are emotionally together, they are not going to attract healthy men into their life.

More than Appearances

What this comes down to is the fact that one's physical appearance is just one part of the equation; the other part is what is going on inside them. For example: a car might look incredible, but unless the engine is up to standard it won't be going very far.
How a car looks will create attention but once one is in the car, it will all come down to how it runs. And the same could be said about people - how they look might create interest, but after a while it will come down to what else they have to offer.

Individual Requirements

However, if one is only looking for a surface level relationship and not one where they open up, it won't matter about what's inside as it will be all about appearances. In this case, how the other person makes one look and the image that they present to the world will be the only thing that matters.
Yet if one wants to have relationships that are real, it will be important for them to focus on what is taking place within them and not just how they look. Once one does feel comfortable on the inside, they might find it easier to accept how they look on the outside.

Attraction

On one side, there is how one is attracted to another person based on how they look and then there is how one can be attracted to someone because of how they feel. This is not to say that these two aspects are separate - what it means is that one's emotional needs can take precedence.
Here, one won't be focused on whether the other person looks right, as they will be consumed by their emotional needs. Although the ideal is for one's mind, heart and body to work together, this doesn't always take place.

Abandonment

When one feels emotionally centred they are going to be attracted to a certain type of person and when this is not the case, they are likely to be attracted to people who are completely different. So if one feels abandoned for instance, it could cause them to go with whoever is available.
Due to how powerful this feeling is, it might not matter what their mind says about the other person; they are in pain and they want of feel different. And while the other person will regulate how they feel, they could end up going with people who are far from healthy.

Short-term Solution

In the short-term, one will no longer feel abandoned but if this is the only reason why they are with the other person, there could be other problems that arise as time passes. The other person might not be compatible and they could end up being controlling or abusive.
This is partly because one is coming from a place of desperation and neediness. The people they attract are then likely to pick up on this at a deeper level and to see them as easy targets.

A Closer Look

It is often said that it is not possible for one to feel abandoned as an adult and how this only applies to a child. Yet, if one was neglected during their childhood and these emotional experiences have not been processed and have therefore remained trapped in their body, they can feel like they did all those years ago.
As a result of being left as a child, not only will one have felt abandoned, this would have affected their ability to regulate their own emotions (as it is through being regulated by one's caregivers that one develops the ability to regulate themselves). One is then in pain and no one is there to regulate how they feel, and as they can't regulate themselves, the pain would have ended up staying in their body.

Awareness

The years go by but one is still carrying the pain within them and they can't regulate how they feel. So it is only natural that they are going to be times when they find it hard to be discerning and end up being drawn to whoever is available.
These emotional experiences of the past will need to be faced as released and this takes place, one will gradually develop their ability to regulate their own emotions. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. They will also provide the positive regard that one didn't receive all those years ago and this is a vital part of the process.



http://www.abiolainfo..de/2014/12/relationships-is-fear-of-being.html?m=1

Blakyclyde:
Bros, it is advisable to read the whole write-up before you hit the ''reply'' button.
There's no known prize for making front page, and the whole purpose is defeated if your comments doesn't reflect on the issue at hand.

Back to the matter:
Good thing, if you ask me. Maybe the demons have run out of female suicide bombers.
Where on earth are the security agencies situated at the various schools during the whole time?
Somebody needs to answer for this negligence, I tell you.

Nice one but my prayer is not a big ask from God

Olaolufred:
[size=14pt] ONLY A FOOL LIKE ME BELIEVES IN EXPERIENCE THAT NO ONE ELSE HAVE.[/size]

really

Awon omuti in the house

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Olaolufred:
IS THERE ANY PRIMARY ELECTION ORGANIZED FOR THE ASPIRANTS?
THAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING.
IT IS NO LONGER BUSINESS AS USUAL FOR TINUBU.
APC IN NO LONGER THE SMALLER ACN.

IT IS A FOOL WHO SEES OTHERS VIEW AS NOTHING BUT HIS.

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Who have the highest stake in APC And who is the owner of a company with a share of 51 percent[that's why i said n co.] I'm talking from experience bro ,not after what i saw in osun!!!

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donphilopus:
Amosun clinches APC governorship ticket with 3,554
votes



http://www.vanguardngr.com/2014/12/amosun-clinches-apc-governorship-ticket-3554-votes/

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It is very clear that APC primary is a mere cajole.... After agreeing with the movers and shakers of the party, some mumu go con come here dey fool themselves like say na free mind election.

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Olaolufred:
THANK GOD YOU COULD SEE A DIFFERENCE EVEN THOUGH IT IS SMALL.
THE DIFFERENCE WILL GROW BIGGER AS TIME FLIES.
REMEMBER PDP HAS 15 YEARS TO MAKE A VERITABLE STATEMENT, BUT MESSED UP THEIR GOLDEN CHANCE.

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We all know who is going to emerge because of the party leader's(tinubu n co.) bias interest and that's how it is ''in every other states''...........

uzolexis:
they should be done already and let us know the winner

In Aregbesola's voice "se ofe kan wa loju ni, se suru jawe"

I pray this girls won't go on the loose and become a serial killer ,may God protect,guide and take control over the lives of this girls

brownlord:
Did the vote count?

Money can buy vote when it comes to APC primary politics, if you're in tinubu's camp ,you have 45percent of the vote already you only need to work for 6percent on ur own while other contestant will share the rest and u will win automatically

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PaulJohn1:
Who won't be envious of a party where true democracy is being practiced? APC is actually setting the pace. Many neutral Nigerians are impressed with the way APC is practicing true democracy, void of imposition.

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True democracy in ur wildest dream right Are you not there when isiaka adeleke was selected and impose on other candidates without doing any primary election after which other candidates have collected form for the senatorial seat of that district. I see no big difference btw Pdp and Apc...

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ichidodo:
[color=#1980BC] How can there be peace without social justice? Jagaban and his stooge have refused core Lagos Indigenes their birth right..Vote out jagbajantis..Vote Credibility for delivery...Sai Okoroji for APC Alausa 2015. [/color]

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And you think okoro is a true lagosian right Which state is okoroji from Why can't he go and rule over his people first Find a good answer to my questions and stop weeping!

shafanik:
My broda, Check the history, Ogbomosho is a land of valians.

But I could remember the day we were protesting back in the days, we burnt(set ablaze) alot of motorcycle(okada) and we seize two armour tank and 5 patrol cars then before they later deploy full military force to gain possession of Ogbomoso back.... So that's a taste of ''anything can happen'' never say never

shafanik:


**packing my bags and lugages out of Lasgid to Ogbomosho**

Tired of all this sh*t in this land.


Bombing today bombing tomorow...



I BEG I DEY GO VILLAGE

Ogbomoso is not far from the north so you're getting closer to what you're running away from

Firefire:
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Why don’t you slip into something more comfortable…like a coma. amukunmeko, arindin

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That's too harsh

maylisa:
Hansom man and cute son.

I love ya idea ooo.... If man don get money hin don handsome be that

TheRealMrStan:
http://www.punchng.com/business/business-economy/winning-bidder-offers-252m-for-nitel-m-tel/

Why is GEJ selling everything I will be out of Nigeria b4 this man go sell all hin citizen join

macpetrus:
Welcome development

This is distrastrous ,our politicians are getting it all wrong.... Why not use the money he wasted to provide job opportunity or support for the youths.

Nmeri17:
don't u know a pen is mightier than the sword

Go n use ur pen to fight boko haram then anofia

holatin:
ok, anyway counting down to General buhari installment as President of Nigeria

Installment payment of the money he borrowed right

bankyblue:
NA UR TYPE THEY CARRY VAIL PUT BOMB UNDER.
AM WATCHING U
AND SO IS THE NIGERIAN POLICE, DSSC AND EVEN THE LOCAL VIGILANTE.

what's the meaning of dssc

LajaLaba:
Muslims must be very angry with this

But why?

I see outdated moderators everywhere, they're running out of ideas and spreading gabbage news and misinforming their superfans, oga seun helepu me tele ur modi to changy the title ,thanks

nekaa:
mstchwwwwww
Which mod sent this to the front page?

nice question The mod is a learner

missberrypop5:
i don learn o. Though i don't agree with everything here.

Same here

kristina1:
Sometimes,you need answers to some questions.

But attimes most ladies don't use to ask the qustions in a polite manner!!! You know what happen; when a lady is angry now