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Yeah, let's leave her personality and life style(I don't know much of either!) out of this, it is a nice piece of work especially when compared to all the stuff we have these days.  It is a mixture of  many things, but clearly highlife is a theme. The concept of the song is meaniful and relevant to todays' issues, talking about "NO MORE to GENDER VIOLENCE". All in all,it is good,but there is always room for improvement.

Kai,I'll destroy every memory of her and become a hermit!
WWYD if you found out you are an adopted child?

Hmm..This is not an issue to be treated lightly or discussed conclusively here.You were earlier advised to read the church history.Whay dont you do that,and if you still have questions,then post again!Some of your comments or choice of words shows how little you know about The Church-enlighten yourself by reading-lots of info on the internet.Good luck

I'll run like mad,she's probably psycho.
wwyd if you suddenly found out you were prgenant.

Hmmmm....In the global village that we live in,such a topic should not even be discussed.The guy who does not speak his language,and is going to be head of extended family-na wahala be that oh !You better let your people know that all your deficiencies and let them decide if you can still be village head! BUT are you getting married for you OR for your family/village!? I have a similar tale as yours,except am not first son. So I packed my bags,as the Bible advised,-"a man shall leave his father and his mother" got married to someone from a different tribe(because that is whom I love and God led me to marry) and "am glinging to her". Do you know the implications of this village head thing you are talking about?! Ma broda,abeg be careful in this life oh!Good luck in whatever decisions you make.

This is by far the most interesting thread I have come across on the site.Keep up the good job guys/gals.Vexxy your story is na wa oh!Incredible,your husband must have guts-to propose out of the blues in church with so many people around!For those who have lost their spouses,sorry oh,may God grant you the heart to overcome,and with time try again.For those who are having difficult marriages,and thinking of seperation,may God give you all it takes to make the right decisions.For those like Seun still searching,may God grant you your hearts desires and soon(Seun,go get your own place pls).For those wondering if am married,very much so,and happy.My story-will come out one day,let me just enjoy more of yours.Hahahahaha

Trooper,you did it did you!YOU HAVE HAD YOUR FUN.PLEASE STOP,REPENT AND NEVER DO IT AGAIN!! .IT IS VERY VERY BAD.Dont decieve yourself,if you ,you will be caught one day-and I tell it is never a pleasant experience-I have been there before,and still have nightmares after more than 20 years!

Ideally, one's parents should be aware of and sanction ones marriage.However,sometimes circumstances may make this rather difficult or impossible. My advice is once you take a decision,be sure that is what you want,and be prepared to face the consequence(s).I have been married since 1997 and neither of my parents have ever met my wife even though all are in Nigeria. I took that decision based on my previous experiences with my father especially,and my mum had been out of my life since age 3yrs. The early years were tough,now we have 2 lovely girls,and are doing much better as a family. Me thinks,if you have a family that genuinely cares and love you,then you would not need to do things without their support.If you have a family that has shown over the years ,that they are more interested in your failures,and their benefits,than your happiness-then you do not need such people in your life,and they should not influence your decisions in life.Since the year I decided to start to make my desicions without involving my so called family,I have been more successful,that the years,where the family made desicions for me. But if the family has geniune concerns about whom you propose to marry,please do a rethink,and investigate further lest you live to regret!

Hey!Aji Okoko,Michille Maxwel,Ibrahim Musa,Ibrahim Mohammed,Akintunde Johnson,Edet Asuquo,Tunji Olobia, Osagie Osasuwa,and Valentine Egu,all of Command Secondary School Kaduna (77 to 82)where are you guys?!Get in touch with Benjamin at benjaminugbe@yahoo.com will ya!

hey,It's good to know that we have the largest computer market in W.Africa.But tell me how competent are the engineers,what is the quality of the goods being sold etc.I'll be much hapier to learn that we now manufacture computers in Nigeria,but I guess this is a good beginning.About banning advert of the prices-sounds silly to me!Is that allowed?What kind of marketing strategy is this one??Who thought it up!Seun more info please.

Vexxy,dont be puzzled by the replies you've gotten so far. The laws about driving,licence,insurance etc are all there,but people tend to advoid them.This is because of the fustration,and delays you get when you want to go through the proper beaurocratic channels. People like us who do try,are laughed at by society and all. Yes,I do have a driving license,but did driving school etc.At then end I had to follow the crowd and get the license through someone I never met,and certainly did not undergo any test!!!
PEOPLE , this does not only occur in Nigeria oh!...Here in Pakistan,my International staff colleagues have gotten both Pakistani and International driving license without any driving tests-and it cost much less than in Nigeria!Anyway Pakistan and Nigeria are both termed to be the most corrupt nations in the world!

Vexxy,thanks for the welcome(hope it is a warm welcome?!).nice to meet you too.Your views on Nairaland are indeed awesome and mature.Your journal entries are a pleasure to read.

Ah...Well no one has asked me mime,but I'll say it anyway- Benjamin.People tend to call me Ben(family and friends),Benjy(close friends);Bennie(I dont like this one at all!),and Benno(crazy colleague).I prefer Benjy.

I had the lofty idea of going back home after my studies in NL in late 2002. Got really frustrated at the treatment I recieved when I got back to my former place of work. It did not take too long to decide to check out again,for greener pastures. I honestly cant say for now,if I'll ever want to go back home to settle down. I visit frequently becos my wife and kis are still back there. The temptation not to go back home to work am sure is so strong.I mean,you get better job,better pay,better life,and better services-so whay would one want to go back!?

Also Dr Clement Isong was one time Governor of Cross River State long ago.He be dead now I think.Lord let me have Trillions of the real deal,and not the specimen 1000 naira notes.Amen.

Hmmm...I belong to the school of thought on sex and pregnancy after marriage!Marriage is not solely to produce children,but to share your life with someone you love.Parents who give this advice are saying they slept with their spouses before marriage?!Not too likely in the times past!that means you would have regular contact for some months,and how do you decide when to conclude that the person is not fertile?!This is just giving a good excuse for people to be promiscous.

Eh...sorry you have to give more information than this!How do you determine who is your match here!?

This person is not your friend!Forget her and get on with your life.lesson learnt?Never lend any one money,no matter how desperate they may be!Rather,give what you can afford and dont expect to get it back. Good luck

I guess there are no general rules about overcoming heart breaks. For me,just get busy doing a lot of different activities. BUT one thing not to do is to immediately start another relationship!

Me?I was directed here from gsmtoday e-zine.Am hooked by the variety of views exchanged on the site.I keep coming back cos I have learnt quite a lot,and made some contacts. I will keep coming back because it reminds me of niaja,and takes away some of the loneliness of being out the country without the family.I love the site because I found a real soul mate,kindred spirit and great friend on this site.

Hmm..young lady,some of us last answered such questions like 20 to 25 years ago!But I guess sulphur gives a foul odour when heated(if it does not explode first!).
Who discovered Electricity?

Hello,last I heard Eko Bank now offers credit card.Good luck

Well thanks for the update Tobi,but am not in Nigeria right now,just need info about availability outside Lagos-in Ibadan to be exact.Any of these services available in Ibadan,do you know?Thanks,and sorry am being an Oliver Twist!

Hahahahaha....That's my kind of guy!But it still does not explain why his car was packed outside the bar.Oh..he was looking for a free car space!?

Trouble

Wow!Are you kidding?! I miss Nigeria because my wife and 2 lovely daughters are there.It's being more than 2 months since I was last at home,and so many things have happened already. my first daughter grew up to be 4years old,and my baby is 5months old plus.Looking forward to October when I will be home again! .I certainly miss all the high CHO diets(pounded yam,garri etc),exotic soups and freedom of movement!

Seun,Please give us a complete run down of what this huge win means for nigeria,as per world cup qualification!An exhaustive analysis is required. As a doubting thomas,my heart is still in my mouth!I need someone to asure me that it is still possible for nijaa to qualify for world cup!Seun,Over to you! abeg,biko!!!

Hmm..hehehehehehe.As usual the Nigerian team pulls a surprise. 5 against 2!Unbelievable. Like I said, we need fresh blood!and they did it! Well,one more game to go and we will know where we stand. I sincerely hope we do qualify for the world cup!

I was told about the site by GSM-today, e-magazine. Sadly,I dont think John Adams is participating actively here himself! .It is a wonderful site indeed. Seun weldone,but take it easy with the disciplinary measures!Thanks for all your great contribution guys/gals. Keep them coming.

Hmm..Vexxy and friend,when a guy wants to get into a ladies panties,He is gonna do all he can to get there. This includes pretending to be who he is not,borrowing clothes,cars and even house to impress the lady(ies).Which takes us back to the earlier comments by Viktor. Ladies who want to be thrown off their feet,may end up being decieved by the experienced cassanova-so the advice to ladies" Beware of the smooth operator". Yes,there are some nice guys out there,but please dont get caaried away by supercial things,learn to dig and look deeper!

Machinery