₦airaland Forum

MR Admin. I did not justify murder in my post!It was meant to be a joke. Read the story fully. Please remove the warning from my private post immediately. You must learn to have a sense of humour. I repeat,I do not encourage rape or murder .I only narrated true stories that happened,and that I witnessed. I am appalled at your misunderstanding and the stern warning. Next time,inquire before you take such measures.I think I deserve an appology!

Non! Read your book!!

It depends on the arrangements during her training.If it was agreed that you will get married after she finishes her education,then she has done wrong. It can be a serious problem oh! Ladies (and boys) should not do this to anyone!

<<snip: story justifying murder removed>>

In 1983, someone I knew quite well, committed suicide. He was married with 6 children,but had trained a lady through the polytechnic,only for her to run off with someone else after finishing.To make matters worse,he was under investigation for fraud. My elder brother's girl friend broke up with him,immediately after he supported her through school,and got married to someone else-he was traumatized for a long while.He is now married,and the lady has tried to make amends by giving him financial assistance when he was in need.

Me, I won't assist anyone with any ulterior motive, other than charity.

Gentile

Isolate

Sorry you had to go through this. The baby probably is not yours,that is why she left. Hope you get over it soon and get the girl you truely deserve.

appluad

Hotstepper :This is the dating zone, what else do you expect. All those who want to be hooked up, have to throw their lines here and hope for the best. I hope they do not drown sha. Good luck all you guys and babes eh,

All this people advertizing for "love". I think you should give more info especially in your profile oh, may be more people will respond if them see beautiful babe photo etc. Like Aqua,am talking on behalf of others oh,

Nigerian doctors work under the most demanding conditions-no facilities,no drugs,no water,no light,no better salary,a demanding society,family and friends expecting a certain standard of living,and people always for asking for their financial assistance and free treatment! Who won't be de-motivated!!
Turning away accident victims,is not the doctor's decision,but hospital policy.WHY?! Because of inadequate facility if a serious injury,but most importantly,because of police involvement/harassment. Same reason people with bullet wounds are rejected.
There may be a few out there who are unscrupulous. BUT most harm are done by quacks,but qualified medical doctors bear the brunt and get the blame. ?Not everyone who works in the hospital is a doctor,not everyone with a ward coat is a doctor!

Can be quite embarrasing,when someone is peeing in public,and you are passing along that route.Worst is ,if it is a lady(woman)! But because of the lack of or inadequate public toilets,it is sometimes is inevitable .My suggestion:Dont do it if you can.But if you have to, then choose a secluded spot!!

Congratulations Nairaland. Seun weldone oh, Iknow it has not been easy!BUT may you live long and Narialand live forever! Happy birthday Nairaland!

Wow!
Are you sure?
you must be joking!
You look great!

Sometimes "single mother" results because the responsible man has refused to be "responsible"and denies or refuses to accept the pregnancy. For this,the lady has no option but to cater for the kid,until some other(nice)boy comes along and accepts her and the baby.

But,there are ladies who make a conscious effort,to get a baby like Seun said because they have given up hope of getting married. The Nigerian/African society,may not very well appreciate this kind of action. I once knew a lady from Canada,that at age 37 had given up on marriage,but wanted a child. She did not want adoption,but wanted to carry the pregnancy herself. She did not want intercourse etc,but wanted a sperm donor(but someone she knows).

The increasing difficulty in getting marriage partners will probably lead more ladies to seek the option of "single parent hood" in Nigeria and the rest of the world

Guess work

Weev,Sorry you lost your spouse,sounds like he was a great husband! I met my wife in NYSC camp in July,by July the next year,we were married and have remained so till date,9 years after. There are people who court for several years,and divorce soon after they solemnize the relationship. The decision when to get married depends on a lot of factors. The age, status(still schooling ,job searching etc),and may be financial situation of the guy. a guy will not be in a rush to get married when he is still young,jobless or not sure of his financial situation. However, once you meet someone, your heart tells you is the right person, you will probably want to get married as soon as possible. For those who want long courtship,to study the potential spouse, goodluck oh! You can not know all about a person,as long as they want to hide a trait from you. A marriage based on a firm religious foundation is more likely to survive,than one where the partners do not have religion. BUT, marriage is indeed hardwork(As Weev said),and you have to work hard at it to make it work.

Destruction

Miky: Wether or not,there is a good replacement for OBJ is not the issue here!It is the rape and murder of democrazy. The constitution of the Federal Republic has been changed solely to acccomodate all those currently in office,who aspire to a 3rd term(not only OBJ). TELL ME,IS THAT RIGHT?! The US has been operating 2 terms for so long, Has anyone changed the constitution so a "great" president can rule a third term?! WE ARE IN TROUBLE!God help Nigeria.

"Do not covet thy neighbor's goods". these are strong emotions, that can lead to unbelievable actions. Learn to love (agape),and then aspire to achieve your own special greatness.

Sorry sir,there is no excuse for sleeping with someone's spouse wether male or female. Infact the Bible declares that infidelity/adultery is the ONLY excuse for divorce. Believe me,it is not the best relationship to be engaged with a married person. The sex may be good,the experience thrilling,BUT man,the fear of being caught(and you eventually get caught!) is not something to live with. Long ago,I got involved, I still wake up in cold sweats sometimes when I remember that period in my life. There are some parts of my state capital,I walk with dread,because I know there is someone out there,who is still looking for a way to pay me back for my evil deed!A word is enough for the wise! Oh , her excuse was that her husband was no longer interested in her,but they are still married and have been for more than 20 years!

A national disaster, and a coffin in the nail of democrazy ala Africa!

cripple

They say 'a clever man dies,a clever man buries him'(Connie man die,connie man bury am). Chinua Achebe said "Ewi the bird says since man has learnt to shoot without missing,he has learnt to fly without perching"
A woman who uses love portion is saying "since boys have decided to be unfaithful,ladies have learnt how to prevent them from straying". Unfortunately,a lot of this love portion business end in sorrow, heart break and sometimes death! Ladies,please if a boy does not love you naturally,don't think love portion is the answer!

Hey,what would you rather do!? You got no other choice but to move on. You want to hang around her and make a fool of yourself? That's not right.!Lots of girls in the world out there man!

Ah ah, which one is the "Nigerian way"?! Actually Obtaining a Nigerain paasport has been made easy and with less chance of corrupt practices. All you need do is show up at the Passport office,fill some forms,and get your picture taken. It is a computerized system, and With a little patience, you don't have to "settle' anybody. Unless you are a JJC(Jonny just come), and some guy plays you for a fool! BUT things may have changed now oh, as some of the computerised machines may have broken down etc. Dual citizenship?Dont know much about it! Some countries like Netherlands,require you to submit your Nigerian passport before you get Dutch citizenship.

The phone is an asset to be used by each individual as he sees fit. Those who cannot afford to maintain a phone line,should not get one(aka flashers). If you dont want too many calls,then do not give your number out. When you dont want to be distured,switch off your phone or put it on silent/vibration. If the phone rings, you do not want to answer-then DO NOT ANSWER. Everything has its advantages and disadvantages. Some people just want to be seen as having a phone,when they can not sustain one. I would not want to stay without my phone(s),it is a vital part of me and my daily activities.

I guess we can all define what we want "active members" to be. I dont think making a post just to be classified as active is ideal-then we will get a lot of junk,fights etc, just to have a post. Membership should be registered members who sign in(wether thy post or not!). Makes it simple for everyone. I am not sure I understand the criteria Idiot has listed out-Am sure happy,I dont have to decide who is active or not!

Hey! The first Advise is to be yourself. Don't try to change your behavior just to impress your future in-laws. Ask your partner what his/her parents are like,and what he expects from you.
I remember going to visit my partner's family in 1997. Am from Cross River and she is from Oyo state. The father was so cold,and the mother patronizing. They were rich and I was a poor youth corper(or so they thought). And they were speaking Yoruba and making derogatory comments. Little did they know(even my partner),that I understand some Yoruba. Imagine my wife's shock when she later realized I had heard all their discussions. Today we are married with 2 girls,and we practically carry all the family load. I don't begrudge anybody, BUT I was interested in their daughter not them! Anyone who refuses to marry someone because the family does not not approve of the person,should ask his/family to choose a partner for them, abi?! But it is still quite common in Nigeria for family members  to resist marriage from certain tribes,simply because of stereotyping if we were to listen to this, a lot of people will remain single for life!

Hey people,let's not forget that there are some philandering husbands out there(I don't encourage infidelity mind!). The wife of such a guy will probably have a lot of anxiety every time her husbands phone rings,and it's a female on the line. I am not sure I will want to answer the phone if I were a woman married to such a guy.Blissful ignorance! What you don't know wont harm you abi!?