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Baronthecelebri:
My grandma is very short and wicked according to my mom

I've never seen a short gentle person in my life.

Typing:
The people of the North say NO to Tinubu's Yoruba tax.

Tinubu go beg tire.

Your eye will clear when they finally pass the bill.

Nazgul:
If he does that he should forget about 2027

Maybe you forgot how he became the president, you should go back and check again. The election result doesn't reflect the will of the people.

Villa12:
so money isn't important in marriage? Money isn't an important factor in marriage?

You lack comprehension

egobetter4me:
https://www.nairaland.com/7953428/mom-made-me-miserable-she

I posted the above topic before when I married the ugly village girl my mom insisted I must marry.

We've been together for 2 years now, no child. The problem is that she's always giving me one infection or the other. I've treated infection for more than 3 times and this is someone I married a virgin.

The other day, I was peeing blood and it was so painful coming out. I've never cheated on her and I'm sure she's not cheating but I don't know how she gets these infections.

Right now, I'm on a sick bed battling infection and other ailment....on a new year day. My stomach has been biting me for 3 days now.

I'm tired. I'm thinking of sending her back to the village before she kills me.

I've told my mom that I'm no longer interested but she keeps on begging and telling me that things will get better. Things are getting worse day by day. She's so dull. She just sits at home. No ambition....nothing! Just cooks, washes, cleans, then stays home all day watching movies. A graduate with masters.

I'm so frustrated!

You had infection 3 times and you didn't take her for general check-up?

CaveAdullam:
1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.

Very insightful and helpful



Thank you very much 🙏

Villa12:


Dey play

Men wey no get money

Which woman wan marry irresponsible men that can't take care of his family?

Responsibility is a mindset, an inbuilt character, not in money as you're seeing it. We have many men that have money that are not taking care of their families but spending recklessly outside their Homes.

I guess you're one of those youths that believe everything in life is all about money, change your mentality this new year 2025

IronCondemned:
Welcome to 2025. This is a new dawn and we individually hope to accomplish great things this year. Share your wishes.

Foe me, I wish to build a new house and buy a new car this year. I also wish to uplift many people in my community this year.

Just to mention a few

I intend to go deep in God this year

Achieve breakthrough in my career

And impacts Lives more this year


Happy new year everyone 🎉

Villa12:
men too no dey see woman marry them.. come my side con see 40+ men still single

No you're wrong, the men in your area are not married because they're too many wrong, indecent, and irresponsible women in that area.

No sensible man will have a useless, senseless and irresponsible wife as the mother of his children.


Hope you underdig🤔

hoeminique:
Same snow that the Canadians wish would go away so they can resume their life.

Poverty is bad

Now you're the one not understanding the situation. Is not poverty dear, is call shock or surprise. She has not seen something like that b4, so she used the opportunity to thank her creator who's the creator of everything for the new experience of snow.


Stop misinterpreting things, this case is not poverty-related.

MadamVanessa:


Desperate woman stoop so low like this, and the man have no iota of respect for a woman he claims he loves.

What's the point of all these? Can't proposals be intimate and private affairs? Some persons even go to the extent of dressing up, visiting a photo studio, and capturing the moment. So childish to me

As for me, I highly doubt I'll ever consider remarriage, despite having numerous suitors at present but if at all I made a change of mind. To any potential admirers, let this be clear, I will not be proposed to in a public spectacle. You don't have any right to kneel down for me while proposing, you don't have the right to expect me to kneel and accept a ring. Try that silly attitude and see me walk away from you.

Pls just shut up.

God1000:
Hmm, if Jonathan decides to run in 2027, it will be a big challenge for Tinubu and APC considering the poor performance of this administration, infact it's going to be a landslide victory for Jonathan


I'm sure they will try to persuade and negotiate with him

Stop deceiving yourself, Goodluck is not coming anywhere to contest, the north that hated him b4 for his good are now looking for him because they know he will only do one term so they can jump back to power.

Goodluck is done serving Nigeria politically.

Skooltynz:
I see no qualms dating or marrying a lady that smokes or drinks like myself even though I know most guys will call it quit,as long as she is not a LovePeddler or irresponsible but she must not do it where my kids are.

All I just want is a woman that understands or thinks like me and is willing to support me.

I dont know if I am weird or its just normal?

What is your definition of responsibility?

Godblessme1:
Oga rest why is the Christian God so weak when it concerns the defending of his church?


I'm a Christian I think of this everyday. A time will come the whole world will be destroyed by Islam and it's coming near.


If you know the sacrifices of the apostles in the middle east , how they preached and shared their blood to make sure Christ reaches the middle then after 600 years Islam came and destroy those sacrifices the apostles made.

Irag, Syria, Lebanon, turkey(formerly called Constantinople) was once all Christian nations, Islam came and sweep all away, killed almost all Christians for over 300 years. Jesus did nothing.


Same thing happening in Africa right now, I'm a Christian somethings I hate the teachings of weakness of Christianity. We're made to be seen as sheep without defense, this is what Islam used to fight Christians.


Enough of the teaching of slapping me and turning the other check, it makes Christians so weak. Today the European are weak because their strong men and rulers who where once Christians are now atheist.


Christianity is too weak something must be done or in next 100 years there won't be any Christian strong community in the world

Shut your trap.

festacman:
The fact is that no state governor is actually working to develop local economy. None including Lagos, Delta and Rivers you mentioned. All state governors wait, share, share and loot FAAC allocation.

Lagos was former capital of Nigeria with ports and other infrastructure put in place by FG. Lagos with all its massive revenue is still not there yet. Delta and Rivers has oil that FG in concert with foreign oil companies are exploiting. Beyond, nothing has been done about marine resources of Delta region.

So, don't make it sound as though only Northern governors are lazy.

Besides, apart from taxation, what has Tinubu put forward as his plan to diversify and stimulate industrial activities, entrepreneurship and drive local investment?

I don't think you understand the mentality of this northerners. States down south are far better than those in the north. This guys don't care about bringing investment in their states, they don't empower their youths to engage in small scale businesses, only to empower them to get married and give birth to almajiris in the society. They Don't like work, always waiting for allocation from federal government so they can loot and share among themselves. And majority of that allocation is from the south. So who's fooling who. Is high time their leaders wake up and do the needful, they have vast land for any kind of business or investment. No more parasite and host kind of system.

That reform bill must be passed. Simple.

udeh3:
The narratives of marriage is overrated is all time wrong. I understand the point of personal opinion, but not in this case due to your use of marriage and overated

You spoke about limitations, it's not the marriage that was limited but the players. No human being is created independent. Understand this and have peace

In business, you need the gig, in health, you need the professionals and so his marriage. If you want true independence, then, it's in the grave...

Marriage is an institution... An institution is built and heavily invested on. I strongly doubt your knowledge about marriage before you married. Maybe you thought it was the I love you I love you thing. You never understood marriage from the point of being an institution before venturing into it

Marriage is unique and it comes with it own challenges, but, it's worth the time, it's worth the confirmations, it's worth the investment and for men, do everything to be sure you're with the right partner to building that awesome but challenging institution that will stand the test of time

I come in peace

You've said it all brother. I hope Mrs Independence understands.

MadamVanessa:




That's for those that sees marriage as an achievement or winning laurel. However, those of us who have experienced it firsthand, we've realize it's overrated. Having tasted marriage and discovered its limitations, i no longer swayed by societal pressures. I value my independence and freedom above all else.

You have firsthand wrong experience because you got married to the wrong person or you're the wrong person in that terrible marriage of yours.

So stop telling us marriage is overrated because it didn't work out for you. Marriage is good thing ordained by God, is just that this generation don't seek the face of God before choosing life partner, and later they end up crying and discouraging others not to engage in it.

moneylatalks:
Three sides

No, just two sides which is the truth part and the lie part.

yinkkus:
They can serve, otherwise argument is coming from an ignorant hater.

TechCapon

Wait until he's sworn then tell ma if they can still serve.

godofuck231:
This woman is currupt and worse ,a prostitute, she has no shame , most likely was aware of the rape and collected money from the culprit, so he hot comfortable

There's two side to every story, wait for the truth before making conclusion.

TechCapon:
THEY ARE UNFIT TO SERVE... REMOVE THEM ALL

Exactly..... they're big burden to the US military.


I just love this man so much, very blunt and sharp ❤️

PulaPower:
Toh..

That’s his choice. If him never make money for Nigeria, him no go fit get money to enter UK..

We wish ham well..

He was aided through the support of his wife


Read again for better understanding.

Sonnobax15:
. Bro,feel free to call me a coward anytime you like ,I don't care......

But you see me, I'm the kind of person whose emotions can easily be altered by what people say.....That's one main reason why I don't like being in a gathering where hate and insults are being shared..

You don't just run away from issue ls like this, you would have addressed those that are displaying their immature characters on the platform, if there's no change you can then leave the group.


Sometimes you need to face people squarely in order to maintain sanity.

ezegenigbonine:
It only takes fear of God for either man or woman not to cheat.

Women takes revenge on there husband when they feels offended or cheated even without proper investigation, so it's only by the grace and fear of God that can quench there anger which might lead to cheating while seeking for consolation elsewhere.

Exactly, only the fear of God.

illicit:
Ok so what shd they wear for Halloween

Spiritual or physical clothes

What are u saying exactly

Read again for better understanding.

Pochettino:
You will only use loose girls

A woman worth her salt will not fall into the hands of elements like this

If you hang out with men based on material gratification like iphone 16 then you will fall into their trap because those are the things they use to lure their prey. High value women will not fall because from conversing with him you can already tell that he has nothing meaningful to offer.


We women should upgrade ourselves.

I love your last statement, we women should upgrade ourselves. But Nigerian women will never listen, instead they'll be looking for men that can spend recklessly on them.

There's nothing as good as adding value to one's life, personal development is very important if anyone wants to be successful.

Lade234:
• Walk with the God: desires a lifelong relationship with you. You cannot know how best a product can function except the template which the producer provided. For you to walk in the fullness of your purpose, you must walk with God.

• Believe in yourself: God has given men the power of their will. You've the choice of either accepting or rejecting His plans for your life. Most times, people wouldn't see what you're seeing about yourself, but it's fine. Don't ever allow people's opinion to make you settle for less. Confess God's word to yourself daily. Confess positivity.

• Get a skill: value attracts people. Value attracts money. Be valuable. You wouldn't get to certain places until you're valuable. Build up yourself. Growth is gradual. Start from scratch. Start small. Be a problem solver. There are opportunities to solve problems around you. All you need is to build yourself to be valuable.

• Jealously guard your relationships: You look like the relationships you keep. Make sure your inner circle are people who love God and are intentional about their growth, people who are valuable.

• Perseverance: Your plans would not always go as you desire, but what keeps you on the journey to forge ahead is the picture of the future. Some times, the people you love the most may leave you because they don't see what you're seeing. You must be strong in the Lord. Don't give up. You can do it!

• Be Accountable: For every desire that you've to be better, there are people who have gone ahead of you. You must prayerfully and intentionally let God choose your teachers, mentors, etc. Accountability keeps you in check. It keeps you from walking in error.

• Consistency and persistence: You must choose to show up daily to build up yourself. Success and failure are choices. You've the right to choose the one you desire. You'll be tried by fire, but you'll come out as gold if you're consistent and persistent.

Very thoughtful.


Thanks for sharing🙏

aariwa:
Emilokan! Tinubu is going to teach igbos politics

He's teaching everybody a great lesson now, more especially the fanatical north.

Mrwhite09:
I am addicted to porn, masturbation and football betting. its over for me. with these 2 destructive habits its crystal clear that I am not gonna achieve anything in this life.

I work like a slave and put everything to the bookies account and use porn and masturbation to calm myself down after losing my hard earned money. the juju that my village people casted on me must be very strong. I know all the negative consequencies of my actions but i kept engaging in it.

I work a hard labour job, working from 8am to 7pm but I still have nothing. To eat its a war for me talkless of buying other things, a phone I cannot afford, good clothes I cant afford even a decent shoe to wear I cant buy, but I kept staking everyday, chasing imaginary money, while enriching the cruel bookies with my hard earned money.

I watched my mates excell in life while I smell of cum truly I am a useless person. there is no hope for a 30 year old me.

Your village people didn't cast any juju on you, you made a wrong decision for your life and now facing the damaging consequences.

But is real simple, if you want to get back your life to order then you have to do away with those habits, stop watching pornograghy it corrupts your mind, stay far from betting or else you'll never use your money wisely. And lastly ask God for grace to help you change that habit, because you're under serious addiction.

JAPAHTML:
So someone is just like me out there 🥲 I usually visit my caring father, whenever am coming to his farm I will be observing him from afar how he is so hardworking and caring no matter the little he have😢 💔 same thing with mum, I don't know why we were made in this way, my siblings 😢 I will stare at them and be like so one day this one's will be buried 6 feet down 😭😭😭😭 including I 🥲 one day my children will cry cos they lose their father too

Soo Unfair

Dr Myles munroe said and I quote that "when I think of my death it makes me work harder". That is he wants to fulfill his God-given purpose and make a great impact here on earth b4 his death comes. And now he is gone.

That's a man to learn from.

I understand that feeling, but death is inevitable. Everybody must test death. So what you should be thinking of is how to connect with your God, live according to his words, fulfillment of your God given purpose , make great impact and set a good legacy before your time comes. Simple

Solofresh2:
The two things that makes me sad about life whenever I think about it is losing a loved one and a loved one losing me to death😥

Even if we pray to live very long can we really move on from living to see some of our loved ones die.

When I think about death, it makes me feel sad and heartbroken.

Death is a normal thing in this life, and nobody can run away from it. So instead of feeling sad about it start thinking of how to fulfill purpose, how to make great impact in your world and also to set a good legacy before your time comes. At thesame time pray for grace.


Thank you.

aariwa:
Jonathan go and sit down . Jonathan was a big coward behaving like a girl . If he had the heart of his wife nobody would have taken power from him. Ironically everything he was in life was through his wife starting from introducing him to Diette Spiff who in turn introduced him to Alamiesigha but the drunk fool abandoned the wife who made him who he was and started following diezani , person wife for thatì matter …smh..the fool deserve what he got

You need serious medical attention asap