Op, I don't see any hassle in your marriage, try and ungrade her in your own way,pick out outfits for her in her wardrobe, speak eloquently to her and allow her to ask questions if she doesn't understand you, open a small scale trade for her,I believe she would handle it well, if so then upscale the trade.use condom or have a partial or permanent vasectomy. You will be glad and proud of her eventually. God blesses

I am a worthless sinner, not claiming to be a saint, but the affection that I show my wife in the 6yrs of marriage has been outstanding, my parents don't communicate with me, my siblings see me as been jazzed by her,at a time told me I was in an unviable relationship, I went with that same wife to the siblings wedding, had a lot of convincing to do cause they said it to her face. I still declared my love for her.asides her being a Christian, she lost faith in God ,saying why should God allow her to go through this, my remarks are,Is there ANYTHING God can't do.I am a living testimony to two miracles which I would share after God does this! I am short of words but after all my travails,God shall take all Glory. I pray for peace that surpasses human comprehension in all your lives.God bless you all.

enabledgoddess:


you sounded so sure that she can't change. you saw the attitude long ago yet you ignored it and thought pure love could reform her? no one can change any one except they make personal decision to change.
Any union that the parents are against are often times not fruitful. you are in this already so I won't be quick to say you should divorce her. on a second thought, why are you living separately? and you are trying to conceive? since she is operating her own shop, what stops her from joining you in your base? the distance alone has put strain on your marriage . both of you should find a way to go appeal your parents and gradually work on your flaws. she can't be all at fault you have your own part too. As for the money part, she's probably reacting . if there is love, communication, closeness, agreement I don't think she will find it hard to give her hubby 20k when she is expecting 800k from you. she was able to erect a building without informing you because the distance has create a hole in your relationship. work on that first and gradually watch things fall in place.

she told me categorically that she can't relocate to Abuja cos of her shop.I promised to get another one in Abuja and restock. She said that she has established herself in ogudu GRA,claiming that sales would never be the same.

Latest update- she just called and started Trying to explain her way out of her rash behavior,which she is habitual of doing for the past 6yrs.she would want to rationalize a mistake claiming the Bible said women are the weaker vessel. Men have really been undermined ,well new year new system. Dem go hear am.I rest my case.God bless all the people in the house. Shalom

Efewestern:


Sir I admire your courage and perseverance, even after knowing she couldn't conceive easily you still kept your vows, trying everything to make her happy, why she on the other hand was living her life just for herself, that's selfishness bro.

@ bolded, am naturally not a religious person, I'd burst her bubble if she tries using that as a tools of controlling me.

What's up with your new wify, hope you are treating her right? ,

Na man you be.

imagine my so called loving wife calling me after 4 days of leaving Lagos to Abuja.I told her I didn't have anything to eat and was broke, she didn't ask I am faring.I was the one that actually texted before her call.she said she didn't know if I would pick the call.see lame excuses.

olisehcom:


You've been cheating on her all this time....and she knows.......she hasn't given u a child.......your family don't like her......



I don't blame her at all

ladies like you are the problem, you assume that things are worst than they seem. My parents kicked against our wedding, I stood my ground and kept my vow.after feeling used ,I decided to move on.I didn't fight her. So what's the big issue?

Efewestern:


Bros good morning sir!!

Read through all your post, believe me your wife don't have your interest at heart, I read a place where you said you saw some signs in your courtship days but you ignored, bro that was the genesis of the problem.

And I hope you are also building your own house somewhere, do whatever makes you happy man.. and 6 years is not too long she can still get pregnant. am more concerned about her attitude. (modified : mogbe the issue strong o)

You seems to give more in this relationship, marriage is a two way thing . Just know this , the power of every relationship is the hand of the person who cares less.

,God shall bless every work of your hand. If I told her marriage is an effort of both partners, she would reply, that the Bible said a man should provide everything for the home. See brainwashing! Men please be aware of the use of religion to coerce in marriage

eyinjuege:


Only one person has no ovulation, blocked tubes, fibroids.
For every point raised here, you have a counter argument.

Just last week, you claim to have married a new wife, who is joining you in Abuja.
So many important stories you're coming up with when questioned which you never mentioned in your initial post.

Are you sure you're not just making things up as points are being raised?

In all honesty, I have been truthful in all I shared.I want people to learn from real life issues. I have been silent for too long.if not for the grace of God, I would have been admitted into a mental institution.

Vyolet:
Imagine o, all these men know is to see that a woman suffers and loses in everything.
She has been married to you for 6years,no child, you went ahead to marry another woman which your wife is aware of,as well as all your other escapades all in a bid to father a child, now you expect her to carry you along in all her plans as who exactly? She moved on faster than you and doesn't want to be left behind. It will be her fault when she loses her marriage with no child nor any asset to compensate for the years she wasted with you. African women are getting wiser, the world does not revolve around men alone.

A piece of advice, check again to be sure you are not the one with infertility problem, once you new wife says she is pregnant, be sure to do a DNA test after the delivery.

,her test results show, blocked fallopian tubes, uterine fibroids and no ovulation.. What magic do you expect I do?

I don't usually talk about my experience with the public, but I beg men in the house. Even when women treat you badly,use wisdom to defeat folly. Never use a bad experience to react in a new relationship. People are intricately different. Life comes with its ups and downs.I thought I would depressed and frustrated but being an optimist, I rose up and moved .no curse,no resentment .the ocean is big enough for all types of fish.karma has a funny way of getting retribution.

Last Saturday, I was in my house with my wife and got a call from my girlfriend that she wanted to see me for bleeps.I was startled that she wanted to come to my home. We usually had fun at a guest house,my head ran thousand thoughts, I decided to take her to my friends apartment in my compound upstairs with the room window facing my apartment. My wife was home, I played with her and gisted and told her I was going out.I called my gf and told her to proceed to my friends place .I tactically went upstairs and laid prey.when the babe arrived. I was Hot as a horse.I discharged my friend and gave my gf head.she was screaming, daddy which my wife incidentally calls me,I had to cover her mouth when she started calling my name!.mogbe,had to move to the living room and gave her a bleep she would never forget in a jiffy. She was shaking so much I had to give her a shower.I didn't know I was looking for more trouble. In the shower, I bleeped her twice again and she gave me head in a running shower, I was thinking that she would be uncomfortable with water running into her nose while her mouth was busy, so I turned of the shower, she told me to switch the tap on, ok after 50min I told her to rest.she felt hungry and I gave her money for lunch.and quietly went down to my house, as I got in my wife was like you went out for five hours,close the curtains and come to bed, yepa!after 6rounds.ok I proceeded to give my wife head too and bleeped her.as soon as she fell asleep, I just picked my clothes and went to my gf house.in matter of minutes. We were in each other arms kissing. I told her to cool down and give me time,that I had just done home service. We laughed and spent time talking till I went home.

I see responses saying I feel hurt for not telling me about her project! Wrong, I am happy about her success, but when a woman you support to be a success uses your kindness to elevate herself and wants to run you into penury.be wise,at a time she borrowed 400k for a project and I ended paying the loan,I sold my old car,borrowed another 300k to meet her needs.As a rule to make her feel loved, I never for once in 6yrs requested what I wanted.I made sure my provision for her needs are what she wanted.just imagine, I lost my old job in 2014.even without a job,I sold my assets to take care of the home. After making sure I was broke, she would leave me in the house with N200 to eat till she came back from the shop. When God now gave me a federal appointment in Abuja, she told me to resign and come back to Lagos. This is just the tip of the iceberg, if I talk more.I would break the Internet.

Iseoluwani:



So u bleeped d new wife... Mehn una no get Patience oo

?iku o lojo arun o doshu,white hair don full my body. Abeg live and let live. My last born kid brother is 36 with a kid.

Iseoluwani:
What an elder sees while sitting, even if you climb cocoa tree, una no go see am... They warned you, you said their mouth is smelling.... Broda, carry your cross..

Divorce isn't an option


Your problem started when your parents never blessed your union.. But toto won't make u think well


Oyo is your case.

Madridguy, that place isn't for you, you stole it continue ooo



Op...

sorry for yourself, this happened last week Monday, on Tuesday I bleeped my new wife.she is on her way to Abuja to replace the other one.life goes on always have plan b,c,d-z

She can't change. I saw this attitude long ago,but thought pure love and affection could reform her.if I continue in the relationship, she would ruin me into debt.

After marrying a girl against my parents wishes, for 6yrs with no child. I have never, cursed, abused or beaten her. I pay for two houses, one in Abuja and Lagos cos I work in Abuja. I provide for the home and pay her allowance and pay all utilities. She has a shop in Lagos.

I found out that she is building a house without informing me. I knew she did this cos she thought my family would chase her for her childlessness. I confronted her and she denied it for 7months. Only to own up after her pastor scolded her.

She wanted me to give her 800k to roof the house which I obliged. I now tested her by telling her to lend me 20k to sort out a small issue, only for her to tell me she can't afford to, in spite of a balance of over 200k in her account.

I quietly left the house for my base in Abuja, she didn't even escort me out of the bedroom. My relationship with her is over.

MEN, any woman you sacrifice for and she can't do the same for you is not worth it.

Wonderful Lord!well when security agents see this their morale go high,do the right thing .

carammel:
What is this baba using?

,stem cell technology, he and several big men use infant stem cells therapy to get longevity.

tintingz:
I would love to tattoo 666 on my forehead.

ehen you just dey yan!if na tattoo the guy do, I will take him seriously. Na quack joker

ayourbamie:
Na real gun o

are you a learner

UbanmeUdie:




I used to think suicide is an act of cowardice,

Alas, I now know better!

Suicide is an act of bravery that only a few can dare. It is a good thing he paid the ultimate price to join his wife in the world of the spirits.

I sincerely appreciate this man's choice to leave this world.

He is in a much better place!

Abi you be ode ni,ok I see, your village people are calling you with turaya satellite phone, pick d call. Alabode

When you get an education, apply it's principles to daily life and become a solution to challenges. People would call you names!

Damage control, SGF,fire media team for blunder

ObamaOsama:
I no the person who did it

oya blow your whistle

True

Let us wait for cabinet reshuffle, leadership of different types of people is not beans

Save your destiny, hustle find a place to sqaut and plan for a place of your own under the shortest possible time. Start your life of Independence and watch how she would come to adore and respect your individuality. Pls never hit a lady,God bless you

Our politicians would trade millions of people for a select few. Who would try to feed thousands from their loot.na the select they recommend for position of authority. Anywhich way jagaban shall follow buhari for second term so that, Fowler, ope,akabueze and likes see slots

anuoluwapo884:
It's now a game of denier how would he be reinstated without Head of Civil Service been aware. Bunch of lairs, what a failed government

just imagine, HOS staying she has no knowledge of the reinstatement. who now posted him.she gatta go.

They should have negotiated their way through dialogue rather than protest, you wey never do confirmation dey protest. I rest my case, God will see them through

NGOs seeking relevance in the political lockjam would cash in on this issue, but their meaningful contribution to the advocacy for the protection of women and children rights is nothing to write about, Our leaders need to be more proactive to burning issues and the followers should take their lives in their own destiny.think of what you can do for your country in your little way,if something happens in us or Europe, they would first help,air the event and rally for support, but naija,if your people no show when yawa dey,ahah! #OYO

Use wisdom to defeat folly, act as a mature man in all circumstances and let God heal your disappointments. Women are generally weak rationally. It is well bro