MzDarkSkin:

I can't believe this thread is still 'on and popping'.
I refuse to read what I missed. No telling what
type of garbage I might find and subject myself to.

Mrs.Chima:

You still begging for punny Crooky?  With all the money in the world you claimed you have and STILL BEGGING FOR PUNNY.

SMH.

desholah:

@Topic.

I know this comments is definitely going to annoy some Nigerians but i got to state it . . . . Yep i got to be fully explicit and not implicit like most of you!

If you are to reply those who diss your country with most comments i'm seeing here . . . .Then you are not a real Nigerian But A naughty person!!!

If there are some unclear points to some Foreigers on this Website Then Our mission is to make it clear and correct in a good manner not the way most of you people use with them to express the point.
Instead of us correcting them in a polite way but we choose to it roughly,angrily and totally disrespectfuly . At the same time other Foreigers had to interfered to defend out great nation ''Nigeria'' politely while we are here bashing and dissing the poster.

The so Called Tpiah or Taba . . .Whatever . . .Should be banned entirely from surfing this Website . .If i'm just the Mod .wouldn't hesistate to implement that . . . . , Such A FAKE NIGERIAN!!!

Katy.
My advise is to visit the country,Try staying for while and come back here to tell us what you experience . . . .Period!!
I think our country is enough to defend itself.
At the same time ,I agree with you if you say any bad things about my country . .It's just your view.
Tomorrow i might be able to say bad stuffs about your country . . . . . . Enjoy!!!

Nekai:

I just caught up on Katy86's posts and I really feel sorry for her. A woman knows when her man's heart is not with her. She has mentally prepared herself for the day when they are no longer together.

The unfortunate part is that her man may be picking up on her attitude towards him and creating an exit plan based on the fact that he can tell she isn't 100% invested in the long term.

It could be a big misunderstanding based on other people's situations, and stereotypes.

Or she could be seeing the situation crystal clear.

Why immerse herself in his culture, develop a relationship with his parents, and force herself to cook food she doesn't like, if she knows at the end of the day she will look like a fool when he walks away. He lied about how many siblings he has. That's such a small thing to lie about. If he lied about that, maybe he lied about other things as well. Imagine learning to speak his language only for his family to mock her as soon as she gets off the phone. And feeling like her kids are not going to be a part of their family anyways becasue they are his "white" kids, well that must hurt like hell.

Or because she doesn't see herself with him in the long run, she doesn't immerse herself in her man's culture. He probably feels likeshe doesn't care about his family, or his homeland. He is disappointed to have kids that will know almost nothing about the life he grew up living. This causes him to act more distant from her. He probably feels like he will make the most out of the situation by providing for his kids, becoming financially stable, and starting over back home.

In the end they will end up reinforcing each other's stereotypes. 

N.Delta:

Lol @ Adamsrib.
"pale face from germany" lol isn't that a bit harsh. Glad you didn't break up with your husband because of the paper thing. I meet an AA chick online and we somehow clicked. Swapped pictures, facebk etc with time started talking on phone and eben we arranged for her to visit me in the UK and she was very existed about it. Then suddenly she developed cold feet. When I asked y? She said every single person she told said the same thing. Oh his just after the papers lol. But your cute and I like you besides am in the UK and its easy to marry a white woman here. Infact I had had a white chick who left because she said I was only using her for sex but she wanted more. But the A.A chick won't take any of that. We eventually drifted apart. That was my personal experience. I think they've got to understand that there are several African guys who genuinely want them just for been black and curvy lol. Lol. In the UK the white women don't always think like that because there are several black white couples all over the place especially in London.

Mrs.Chima:

You just proved my point on the things that people say on here can cause others who are not NIGERIAN OR AFRICAN to have such views about them.  For some strange reasons, they are saying ONLY the media is painting them in a bad light but what is HORRIFYING is the VERY people that the media is painting in a bad light ARE collaborating with the media. 
Now that is sad.

N.Delta:

Ok guyz now I think you are better of with the black women. White and black relationships have too many issues.

(ME) They'll learn. But the hard way. The brotha dating the pale face from Germany is going to learn that the hard way. Since the dawn of mankind black women have had your back. Some people just have a very short memory.

@ msdarkskin
Jamaican-American that's a raster combination lol. The only problem I have with the A.A chicks is that they always think you want to use them for papers.

(ME) When I first met my husband I thought the same thing. Especially after reading this site. I almost broke up with him, thankfully he talked me off the ledge. I married a Nigerian who doesn't want to leave Africa. He loves Nigeria and wants our children born here. The western media is brutal in how it portrays Africa. The BBC isn't much better either.

Mrs.Chima:

Katy86:

This thread is quite interesting 

I think this kind of relationsships often do not have a real chance, because most of the time the African part is not really in love with the white partner and loves the paper and the money from the person more than everything else.
I also think that the relationships often break because of the white man and women who only want to have an exotic sextoy on their side.

This kind of relationships can not last for a long time.

For all the people who are really in love, other problems will come to them. I know a lot oft this couples. They are living poor in Europe and can not pay all the bills every month but the phone never stop ringing because the African familiy needs some money again for handy, clothes etc.  This kind of terror can destroy a good relationship.

I am togehter with a man from Nigeria since more than 6 years now, but when  I think about future I do not see us as couple. [/b]I know that he wants to go back one day. He says he want me to come with him but hey I will never leave my country and go and live in Nigeria. Thats crazy.
The time we know each other, we never think about this, but I am getting older and I have to be honest to  myself. Last year he travel the first time to Nigeria. It was hard for me to let him go. [b]I was really afraid of him, but this time show me, that we are not good for each other.  I cant sit at home and wait that he caome back from his travelling. I am to young for this kind life. I can still search a good partner who have the same dreams about future like me.
That is a reason why I don not want to have contact to his family. They do not need to be worried about that we can stay together forever. No. I think about traveling there with our two boys so that they know their grandparents but I  am not sure if that is a good idea. I mean ok, they are his sons, but is that family in Africa the family of my two boys?
I dont think so. I see it often how this people are treating their "white" children. It is like they are not their real children so why should I hurt them?

For me I would never want to be in a relationship with a African man. If I want to have another relationship again( man are so difficult ) I would prefer an European man.

pro01:


You can never go wrong with that mindset, I have to say. Some of your fellow women would prefer to rant about how 'insecure' or 'overprotective' their man is for having a problem with their shady moves; later they would wonder how their relationship/marriage crashed. Thank God you're wiser than that. . .and a steady, peaceful marriage would most likely be the dividend of such wisdom.

MzDarkSkin:

False.
Typically it is the woman who falls the quickest
but I tell you one thing, when a man FALLS he FALL HARD!!!!
A man who is in love is so in love it appears obsessive! I'm telling you!
They know it too, hence their reluctance to show it.

niecy:

I am a united states citizen and am planning on marrying a Nigerian man in June 2011 what documents do i need to bring to marry my nigerian man and how do i find out the cost of a courthouse wedding and the costs of marriage certificate? and do they perform weddings on weekends? what days are they opened to purchase a marriage license. Do i have to be present to obtain a marriage license or can my Nigerian boyfriend purchase marriage license and pay for everything if i send money along with my passport photograph

aisha2:

Why re you the one paying for the wedding and license? Am sorry to say but in a real Nigerian marriage it is the mans responsibility, why are you paying? I think it is more important to answer those questions first

Ms. Potato:

Who be your cousin? 

Ladies! Ladies Ladies! Yeah its a free world to choose who you want to be with but do you honestly think that sticking to your choice and ignoring what your family has to say or do would do you any good? Like i said, you ladies have not been trough this so you obviously dont know how does it feels and how hard can it be. Being in an Asian family, one's parents can go to the extreme just to have you get married to my own kind. You can even see it on Jay's posts earlier on when his gf's parents wanted to kill him and got all the higher authorities involve just to get rid of him.

Just thank God that you have feelings for your own kind and pray it stays that way.

Mz Dark Sweety, So now even the discriminate people whom have the same skin tone colour but different country?  

Mrs.Chima:

I am mad at you Cousin!

LadyT:

Yep different strokes for different folks.  But as far as I am concerned I woudnt go out of my way to confront her shes a non entity a waste of time and space. And the fear of not knowing what I can do will kill her slowly. But if our paths cross she will regret it because I was insult her she will not eat for three days but I will do it all with a smile on my face  

Mrs.Chima:

See MBJ! That wasn't a good mind bleep! You is PLEASED on all levels when you get the RIGHT MIND bleep. I am telling you what I know.