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Time to put your big girl panties on and deal with this. You had many chances to back out of this before you got married so why didn't you? Your husby may not be educated but he's got your number. You had several suitors and you chose him. Now you must live with it.

You are a woman. Do you not know how much power you wield in your home? Get a VISION for your family. Share your DREAMS with your husband. INSPIRE him to be more than he ever thought possible and see that man become everything you desire. It's not going to be easy and it won't happen overnight, but if you are willing to work at it, your marriage can become a beautiful thing.

It sounds like depression or extreme fatigue to me. I think you should take him to the Doctor. If it turns out there is nothing medically wrong, then he's just trifling and I'd get the Elders involved.

I am so sick of these single women going after married men! The number of women I've had to deal with since being in Lagos, its ridiculous! These women didn't take any notice of my husband until he got married.  My husband will tell you no only once, then it's my turn. Next time one of 'em heffas roll up on him I got something for ya a$$! Bet!

My advice to poster, stay prayed up, make sure your man has got your back no matter what, and then take them heffas out one at a time! When folks start coming up missing after "prophesying" they'll stop. I'm from Florida, we got the Everglades, I know what to do with the body.

This is a tough one. I can see this from both your points of view. Three years is a long time to be away from each other. Timing was not your side either. I think some people have an idea that things must be a certain way before they get married, and there is nothing wrong with that but things will never be perfect.

My husband vowed he would finish medical school before he got married. We got married a month ago and he has three years of school left. I was willing to wait but he wasn't. I said that to say that maybe you all could have gone ahead and gotten married and she could have gone abroad with you. Instead if it being all "you" it could have been "us." Your plans did not match the reality of the situation and now she's gone.

I'm sorry but all you can do is chalk it up to experience and move on.

I think men in earrings is very sexy. I love it when my husband wears his studs. Not every man can wear them well, but the ones that do, ooooh lawd very yummy.

How can any man who is looking for a job be called irresponsible?

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=625358.msg7928210#msg7928210 date=1300327163]Awww. Sure thing I would love to come over and kick it with yall. How are we going to exchange info on here? I got a Facebook page that we can keep in touch on and I been trying yo get Desso on the facebook page for six months but he acting like he SPECIAL.

I understand how you feel because I was homesick too. I was enjoying myself but HOME IS HOME. I was so GLAD TO SEE USA when I left Africa. Nothing against Africa but USA is my home and I love my country although we got some issues but it still my COUNTRY.[/quote]My email address is Bleep. Once you have it let me know and I'll take it down. Just put Mrs Chima in subject and I'll know its you.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=625358.msg7928135#msg7928135 date=1300325884]Girl!  Before you left home you should have gotten some Avon's SOS that poo works like magic!  The problem is when it wears off them beetches come flying.  So you have to keep your body saturated and forgot my bottle at the guesthouse.  I regretted ever leaving that bottle behind because them mosquitos bleeped ME UP.  I was trying be all sexy wearing a silk skirt with a halter top.  I dressed like a muslim woman the rest of the time during night tiem because they are worse at night.  

You coming home anytime soon?[/quote]LOL at Muslim woman, girl I feel ya. Before I go out he's checking every nook and cranny to make sure I'm covered. My Mum has ordered me some Skin So Soft so hopefully I will get it soon. I was so busy getting packed up and getting my shots etc, that mosquito spray was the last thing on my mind. Won't be home again until Christmas. We just got married moved into larger flat, paid his school fees so money is stretched right now. I knew I was getting married and moving to another continent. I knew I was leaving my life behind and building a new one with him, so I knew homesickness would kick in, but didn't expect it to be this bad. I love him so much so I will always be strong for him, but tonight, it really really got to me. You have no idea how just talking to you has made me feel so much better. I know God sent you to me. Please, please let me know when you come to Lagos, we will love to have  you and your family over for a soul food dinner.

@Advocator (hug) Thank you so much for understanding.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=625358.msg7928074#msg7928074 date=1300324929]Girl. Yes! I love Florida! How those mosquitos in Lagos? I remember when I was over there I had to bumrushed them mosquitos. They are some nassy fuckers. They whooped my arse though I ain't gon lie! I will be heading back soon.[/quote]I swear these things saw me coming and told all their friends. I'm getting eaten alive. My poor husband has tried everything but to no avail. Hopefully my system builds some resistance to them soon. It's sooo hard not to scratch them, but don't want to end up with scars all over so I'll keep taking my oatmeal baths and pray they leave me alone soon. I'm so happy I got to talk to someone from home tonight. Am very homesick. Thank you!!  

Sorry Advocator!

Advocator:
Sometimes you need to do multiple trials to understand the dang lingo that certain person who are going out with IS USING when texting you! Patience dear patience is needed in all aspect of life.


A reminder - to the flying pests, please don't mess up my topic - if you have nothing better to say get the f-u-c-k out.

You are absolutely correct about patience. Def words to live by. And be nice. I don't post regularly so she took a minute to ask me a quick question. No harm intended.

Ahhhh!! Hey Cuz!! lol Now I'm homesick. Im a Florida girl thru and thru. Lived there almost all of my life. I love St Augustine, some of the best beaches in the state.

[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=625358.msg7928014#msg7928014 date=1300324031]Adamrib,

What part of USA are you? I have a reason why I asked.[/quote]Central Florida but now I'm in Lagos.

Advocator:
You kinds I find cocky and full of themselves. Dear, you won't understand every words that is thrown in your direction SO you might as well find some ways to analysis the gibberish that will be on your ears.

I'm too busy during the day to try to decipher a text message. If he is too lazy to make it easy to understand then I'm too lazy to respond. If that makes me cocky then so be it.

MzDark, you and 190 are so cute! But I'm still gon pray for ya lol.

Do grown men really act like this? This seems sooo juvenile. Honestly, if I can't interpret his text, he won't get a reply. Problem solved.

Bad things don't happen to good people. The Bible says there is none good, no not one, for ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of God. We are all born in sin and shaped in iniquity. We are worthy of death and were it not for the grace of God in our lives we would perish. Thank God for mercy!

Does he frequently make unreasonable requests from you? Is he a insecure man who views anything that takes up  your time as competition?

If he is neither of those, then I would take his request seriously. Take a break from it for a while, let him know that he is more important than NL, stroke that ego and assure him of his place in  your life. After he's feeling better then you can come back. NL ain't going nowhere. Your man on the other hand, (sometimes the best defense is a good offense).

tjskii:
wow,this is freaky,the exact same thing happened to me,only i met my husby to be 6days after i split from my ex

Congratulations! May you have a wonderful blessed marriage.

I definitely believe it is true. I had just gotten out of a two year relationship when my husband found me. He found me just eight days after I walked away from my ex. I wasn't looking, and I promised to give myself ay least six months before I started dating again. I was worried that he was just a rebound, but over time he worked his way into my heart. We are very very happy together.

Mobinga:
Wow! Being the moderator of the GAMING section I couldn't let this pass.

You girls on this thread are absolute empty brains. My man Harakiri has put you dumb britches in place.

And Tosinville it is fine to be mindless clone who can't think for himself.

The hypocrisy on Nairaland is just too animalistic. It is beyond normal. Fake Lives.
Most of you all have nothing to do with your lives than come to this website and pretend to be what not.

I am a gaming enthusiast. I am not a casual gamer but something else. I have a high-end laptop specifically built for gaming. I don't use consoles, I don't like them. First off, What is the meaning of a Real Man? Anybody who as referred to gamers as not a real man doesn't deserve to be alive, you are a disgrace to nature and you should be instantly stoned publicly to death.

I see most women and men not doing anything at home but to come online and post absolute and utter garbage, most of you are online for 20 hours a day. Imagine that! That's amazing. You do the same generic thing for 6 years and you call men who enjoy video games childish? You are daft. What happens to those at the Sports section? What's the difference? Some of you even suffer emotional trauma when dissed on this website. Please stay offline for a week, lets see if you wouldn't die. Phucking Hypocrites with fake lives. Some dumb britches even claim they are married??! Who the phuck does that? Some of ya'll even have as many as 5 different ID's now tell me do you live a sensible life? I mean the hypocrisy, the lies and the filth have eaten deep into you Christless souls!

I shouldn't even continue spewing venom. My man Harakiri has cremated you all.

Peace.

Not every woman in this thread thinks playing video games is silly. But if you weren't so intent on generalizing you would have seen that. Calling someone a name just because they don't agree with you is the definition of immaturity. After that diatribe I know I won't be going to the gaming section any time soon. If this is how a Mod talks, no thanks.

kodewrita:
I play games but I refuse to take this assertion by Goldieluks personal cos I Know life's real cool right now and I have fun with games being an occasional hobby. However i see no reason for guys attacking her rabidly.

You already see the hypocrisy in someone spending his/her day on NLand and @ the same time insulting gamers, so there's no point insulting people's parents/ other detestable insults.

Am a proud nerd and tech freak. Yet one-on-one with your so-called real men, I intimidate easily. why? cause its balanced. We work hard and we play harder (games are just a tiny part of that).

Its not anathema and its just a preference.

Simply. Live and Let  Live.

When we get down to reality, your girlfriend can still leave you for an exceptionally rich and handsome, soft-spoken game-player with the right attitude.

where love is concerned, there are no givens.  

otherwise  
,[list]
[li]poor guys would never marry[/li]
[li]cute girls would never marry ugly guys,[/li]
[li]the young would only marry each other [/li]
[li]and love would stay within genders(on record: I am against homosexualism. definitely unnatural).[/li]
[/list]  
 
Enough said

Well said! I love gaming so does my hubby. It's a great way for us to spend time together. Its called personal freedom and choice.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=620337.msg7881106#msg7881106 date=1299711179]HALT THERE!!!! madam, identify your sef. u gots nyansh and u light skin? [/quote]

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=620337.msg7880947#msg7880947 date=1299709336]Was you looking in the mirror when you said that?

Because words circulating that you look like
[size=22pt]Forest Whitaker on the movie THE LAST KING OF SCOTLAND[/size]
[size=18pt]POOR, BLACK, FAT, SHORT, AND DEAD EYE having nukka[/size][/quote]LMAO! Mrs C ya still holdin it down, good for you.  I first came to NL to learn broken english so when I moved to Lagos I could talk it and understand, but you guys kept me laughing and I couldn't leave. The more I understand the funnier you guys are, there is no other forum that compares to NL. Good times lol.

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=620337.msg7880520#msg7880520 date=1299704981]When A Nigerian man is about to marry an african-american woman/lady ,The first thing to know is how to steal her money,Secondly how to get out of her life and how to enjoy the the money [/quote]Thank God all Nigerian men are not like that. My hubby and I have the same core values and that has nothing to do with culture. If your fundamental belief system is compatible, everything else can be worked out. We haven't run into any major issues yet but when we do, we will handle it like everything else, together.

Last night. He has a cold and women you know how they act when they are sick (pray for me). I kinda snapped at him and apologized because I was grumpy due to being tired and hungry.

Absolutely yes! He is the person I know I can tell anything and he will have my back. At home I can be wrong, but in public I can do no wrong. I love him and I always will.

[quote author=Ms. Potato link=topic=617750.msg7875025#msg7875025 date=1299631261]I am naa. Just that I never thought of people would think like that of me

Being real is one thing but to be demanding is actually an attitude problem. My brother dated this girl for 5 years and she was demanding. Telling him that if he dont this and that, the relationship is over. My brother had to work his a55 off just to get what she needed. I told him to let her go but he insisted that he keeps going cause of the so called blind love. Anyways, to cut the story short, they officially got married last year in October 2010 and since than she continuously keeps demanding for things for her and her family. Like this year she told my brother, u must bring my whole family to Singapore or else I will loose face. My brother had to come to me to borrow money to bring them to their yeye holiday! Im like WTF! This b1tch has an attitude problem. I swear! [/quote]She showed her colors BEFORE they got married and your bro married her anyway. He had a choice to continue the relationship or to end it and he didn't. If he is complaining, he can't say he didn't know, because he did. He made his choice, now you all get to live with it. Good luck with that.

190:
[color=deeppink]Do ladies expect us to skip ropes with them!!

A lady playing video games especially wrestlemania is surely gonna look strange to me

KMT they should concentrate on their Ten-ten, skipping ropes or stay in the kitchen and leave the games 2 the boys [/color]

You think you only deserve to have fun? After working all day, doing laundry, cooking dinner, getting hubby ready for the next day and cleaning. I'm more than entitled to have fun in my house. If you find women playing video games strange, then I suggest you find something else to do. All of my female friends play. And we even have our own Madden league. :-o

I LOVE playing video games. Everything from MADDEN to HALO is in my library. I have XBOX, PS3, and the WII. The key is not neglecting other important things in our lives just to play. But it  really helps me relax after a long day.