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@OP I rebuke this foolishness in the name of Jesus. Women NEVER accept another person's reality as your own and NEVER accept someone elses truth as your own. Have your own vision for your marriage. SOME cowardly men have allowed themselves to buy into the lie that being unfaithful is okay because that is how he was created but if that were true, God would have created more than one wife for Adam. |
MzDarkSkin:Indeed! Gotta go Massa is calling lol |
omo_to_dun:Classic example of a EPIC FAIL! lol Try again tomorrow hon. |
emmatok:lol I was here long before the "hyphenation" discussion. |
Princek12:I know what my options are, but thanks for reminding me. :-) |
livedit:Excellent advice! |
omo_to_dun:You want to go there? Okay let's do that! You really think that you are free? Puhleez, NEPA holds your arse hostage EVERY SINGLE DAY! You think you don't have a identity crisis? Then how come Nigeria worships any and everything WESTERN? From clothes to cars almost everything is imported from the west! IF USA is so bad how come YOUR brothers and sisters will beg borrow and steal just to get a toe into US? You are a liar and there is no truth in you! US doesn't have one of the highest paid governments in the world and still doesn't provide BASIC services for its people. US is not laughed at around the world for talking about how much money it has in oil reserves yet can't provide steady power to its people. US is not considered the number one scamming nation, Nigeria is! Or how about when I applied for my Nigerian visa I got a letter in the mail that pretty much asked if I was sure I wanted to visit. Folks at YOUR consulate don't encourage people to visit. I won't even talk about your pathetic court system and your institutional corrupt police force. Yes my family were slaves. So what? How many of your brothers and sisters sell their bodies and souls VOLUNTARILY just to get papers to stay in my home country? You can look down on USA all you want but when men are sending their pregnant wives to USA in droves to give birth so their children have a opportunity for a better life we must be doing something right! I tell you what, when you get steady power and can talk to me on the internet without using a generator then MAYBE we can talk again, but until then, you can take that pseudo bravado and shove it up your "free" arse! *Adamsrib is sorry if this post offends other Nigerians. I got nothing but love for most of you.* |
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Why is it that the women who call themselves feminist act the least feminine? Ladies don't be fooled. Ain't nothing cute about a grown woman acting like a rabid dog to make a point. Feminism is meant to EMPOWER women. True empowerment does not come at the expense of the entire male gender. Most hardcore "feminists" don't even like men. They seek to denigrate and destroy any man who crosses their path for any reason. If you can only feel powerful by insulting men and carrying on like a lunatic, that is not feminism, it is just another brand of crazy. A real woman can get her point across intelligently, and has the ability to hold a decent conversation on some level. I love having my husband's name. I couldn't wait to be called "Mrs. XXXX". When I got my first piece if mail with my new name on it, I screamed from excitement lol. But that is not for everybody. Every woman and man must be true to his or herself; the rest will fall into place. |
Since you said not to, now I have to ask. How did it happen? |
I would never have married a man if I wanted to keep my own name, but that is me and my choice. Every couple must do what works for them. Several of my friends use their maiden name as their middle name and the husbands name as their last when they got married. My best friend who is a Dr uses her maiden name as her professional name and her husbands name for everything else. Thank God every couple is allowed to do whatever they think is best for them! |
Awww she is so beautiful! Congratulations! May she bring you nothing but joy and happiness always. |
@190 I know it's frustrating. Just tell her how you feel and let it go. People who are happy and have a purpose and vision for their life do not go around fighting all the time. The Bible says that by their fruit you shall know them. Give her no more time or energy and watch your mood improve. :-) |
My husband proposed without a ring and I was so relieved and happy. God bless him but his taste in jewelry sucks lol I picked out my own ring and it was so much fun! |
Don't ever feel guilty for not offering to change something you love about yourself for someone else. It is important that you like and love what you see in the mirror. A womans hair is her crown, wear whatever you have proudly! |
I'm very sorry you are hurting right now. I know it is hard to see at this time but she did you a HUGE favor. She has freed you to find a woman that will love you the way you deserve. You both deserve better than a one-sided relationship. You will be okay, just give yourself time. |
My real life husband. He is a member but I don't think he has ever posted. Hi Baby! ![]() |
Glad you reopened this thread and just deleted posts instead. Wow, I see nothing has changed around here. |
Jaybee I understand that you lock threads that have moved from original topic. That seems unfair. When it is done on purpose I understand why you should lock it but when conversations flow naturally in another direction I think it should be allowed. Just my two cents. @Mrs Chima I don't know if your comments in that thread were intended to be facetious or if you were being serious, but it had a "antagonistic" overtone to me. In my opinion it is not fair to expect Jaybee to be impartial. He is human like the rest of us and as a foreigner on this website you should not expect to be able to say whatever you want and then not be prepared for the backlash. There is no US Embassy to run to in NL. They can talk about Akatas and Oyinbos all they want to here and you want to know why? It is a NIGERIAN forum. If they can't talk about it here where should they? What happened to showing simple respect while in someone elses house? It is possible to have a good experience here, but calling people names and talking about Nigeria like it's gum stuck to the bottom of your shoe, isn't conducive to that. You offended me in that thread talking about Nigeria doesn't have engraved plastic, and I'm not even Nigerian! You don't have to like something to offer it respect. You may not want to live in Nigeria, and truth be told neither do I and we have talked about that but that gives you nor me or anyone else the right to denigrate those who do. Is it really EVERYONE else or is it you? Only you can answer that, but I do know everything ain't for everybody, and maybe this site just ain't for you. |
aminalib:My husband says I'm adjusting beautifully. I think I'm just doing okay lol The power situation is my biggest hurdle. Once I understand there really is no one you can call to fix it, I'll be okay lol The majority of the people have been so warm and welcoming. It is gradually beginning to feel like home. |
MzDarkSkin:lol and didn't he say she left his cash and just went for debit card? OP got mad jokes lmao |
190:People forget that Nigeria has only been independent for 50 years. I daresay that 50 years after America won independence it still had a lot of work to do also. Nigeria is no different, but at least you own your country. That puts you ahead of many countries. Those who fight progress always lose. Nigeria is going to be just fine. |
aminalib:I'm still a newbie. I moved here in early March. When all you ever see are the slums, projects and ghettos it is very easy to adopt that mindset. When they come visit, they will see for themselves how beautiful and breathtaking Africa really is. |
190:To be honest, I thought the same thing, until I visited/moved here. The western media only shows the worst parts of Africa unless it is S Africa or Dubai. |
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Wow what a thread lol. Blanket statements being made all over the place. I'm not sure if it is the same throughout Lagos but the majority of the places I shop in Lagos accept both credit and debit. |
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As Chaircover mentioned it I just have to add my two cents; The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is the BEST wedding gift my hubby and I received. I almost finished the book during our 18 hour flight from US to Lagos. I recommend every person in a relationship read it. It will completely change how you communicate with your partner. To OP my only advice is that you nurture the traits and qualities in your husband that you want to see on a regular basis. No matter how little it is if he does something right you show genuine appreciation. Show him that you are very easy to please. Some men stop doing many things they used to do because they feel unappreciated. A good man wants to make you happy, but if all he hears from you is what you don't like he honestly may not know how to please you. I believe strongly in the law of attraction. Whatever you put out is what you get back. If you want more love, give more love. If you want more understanding, give more understanding. If you want more kindness, appreciation and consideration then you give more of that. Now this does not mean you don't let him know when he has done something to hurt you, but if you can, keep it to a minimum and don't nag, holler or scream. Express how you feel simply and trust him to hear you. Learn to speak his "language" and watch him become all the things you want him to be and more. I'm praying for you both. |
Wow. Just wow. lol |
kokoye:I'm glad we understand each other. :-) |
The older women I know are not envious of us younger women. Matter of fact most of them say they love being older because they are wiser and dont care about what other people think as much anymore. I think the bitter older women are the ones who have never learned to forgive themselves or other people. When you live in constant regret it is very hard to be happy, no matter how old you are. |
livedit:Amen! Especially the bolded part. |

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I moved here in early March. When all you ever see are the slums, projects and ghettos it is very easy to adopt that mindset. When they come visit, they will see for themselves how beautiful and breathtaking Africa really is.
