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The Bible says that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing. It places no restriction on where he finds her. My Fiance found me on FB. :-)

It means different things in each culture

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_dress

I'm not a internet novice so not a lot surprises me on the internet. However NL has an almost demonic force against women. It's actually scary that people not only have these thoughts but they take the time to write about it on a message board. Why this type of thing is allowed baffles me. Almost every thread turns into a fight. Is this what Nigeria is about? I'm moving to Nigeria later this year to get married and I hope and pray that most people do not hold the beliefs presented here. If they do, God help me.

Six months prior to our wedding I will be creating a website. But it will be password protected. The login info will be included in the "Save The Date" mailer.

Blackteeth:
What about girls who date married men? Why do they encourage the married men to cheat on their wives rather than discouraging it? Women cry only when they are losing their man to another woman, but rejoice when they are winning another lady's man.

Some women do encourage married men not to cheat on their wives. I know because I've done it many times. But you know what? Those men still ended up cheating on their wives with another woman. So what does that say about the man?

This is the classic biblical Adam excuse. "The woman you gave me made me eat the apple." Puhleez, it was tired then and it's tired now.

Blackteeth:
adamsrib, how do you expect the men to say NO to women's advances when women cannot say NO to quit tempting and luring men. Both men and women are responsible for the irresponsibilities of both sexes.

Responsibility falls on whoever is in the relationship. Taking ownership of your actions is what mature adults do. You can point your finger all you want at the other party but it doesn't change the fact that you are responsible for your own actions. Of course it would be easier to stay faithful if there was no temptation but that is not the world we live in. If my Fiance cheats on me, I'm not going after the girl, he and he alone will bear the burden of my wrath because his fidelity and loyalty should belong to me.

So men don't know how to say no?

I'm sorry you are hurting. But if we never hurt we wouldn't enjoy happiness so much. I know true love exists. So keep your head up, it will get better.

@MzD@rkskin lol

My Honeyboo definitely is! I wouldn't trade him for all the money in the world.

Do you really want to manipulate someone to get them to marry you? If you have to resort to that type of behavior you will never feel secure in your marriage. How you get to the alter is just as important as the person you've chosen to go there with. I know it's hard but you cannot do the emotional work for someone else. Nor can you rush the process. If you have to beg, plead, cry, threaten or manipulate to get what you want from him, then he may not be the one for you.

Been lurking for a while. Finally registered the other day and I must say this is hands down the funniest. thread I've read on NL lmao!