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Thermodynamics:
I Don't usually pity Politicians, Lecturers and Police men when they die because most of them are wicked people who has spent their lifetime causing pain and suffering to others.
Well, I know there are still a few of them who are legit, if this guy is a legit lecturer, then R.I.P to him.

You are right bro but death is a greater revenge so let's just learn to let the offences go.......their own wickedness was a lesson and blessing in disguise

fullblast:
Life with it's twists and bends. Wife, children and his true friends will be in serious shock now.
May Divinity heal them all.

Serious shock and disorganisation....so many plans for the kids, so many unfulfilled projects with the wife and so on that have gone down the drain......this is the beginning of life for the family.

doggedfighter:
Exactly,Dave
Sudden deaths are devastating

Its been 7years I lost my immediate sister and the shock has never left the family.....I commensurate with the deceased family and pray for the fortitude to bear the colossal loss.....may God be with us all Dogged

doggedfighter:
What a sad loss !
A breadwinner gone.
My sympathy to the family.

Taking pictures of corpses and posting when we already have decent pictures of the person.

Its always so painful.....

Officialgarri:
Be like say the man the fly color o

When person time reach nothing man fit do, though we should be careful in whatsoever we do.........

DamnnNiggarr:

damnn niggarr!

Chai!
thi§ is terrible, my heart goes out to the family and friend and pray that God grant them the fortitute to bear the loss.

no member of our family and friends shall experience accident of any kind.
Amen! Amin!

Amen in God's name......

LeeMason:
Fatal accident not ghastly.

Noted and effected.....thanks

More pics

With a very heavy heart and free flow of tears ,we regret to inform you of the sudden demise of a colleague an incumbent Asup Chairman comrade Akpituren M. B America of Delta State Polytechnic Ozoro yesterday 24th day of May in a ghastly motor accident along Asaba Benin Express way on a Union assignments .May God comfort his family and those of us he left behind.

BluntTheApostle:
They are very difficult to please, and that in itself can make a man run mad.

I blame those who keep saying women were created like that, especially those stupid men who have never been with a troublesome woman all their lives.

My mom was not created to be troublesome. And I won't train my daughters to feel that nagging is a natural behavior of women. My daughters must be well mannered, and must learn how to talk to their husbands because respect is reciprocal. You can't be rude to people and expect to be treated like a queen in return. That only happens in silly romantic movies.

Nagging is bad, and should be condemned. Any woman who nags her husband is a beast, and should be treated like a beast.

Thanks so much for your understanding
Bless you and yours

obontami:
Another stupid post. BTW how old are you?
Motherfuckers always coming up with fake stories.

After knowing your moniker and seeing your signature, I have no choice than to reserve my comments..... Bless you

Beatswim:
when we talk about church now.. U will say we Christians follow daddy GOs sheeply and u will be making jest of Christians but see where u have led your family now... Now your wife is now pushing u to rob at th highway despite how comfortable you are.. Its a shame... Do u know some men dont make a quarter of what u make per month and their wives still give them peace... Do u wanna know why Pls join us we sheeples....my wife is a choirmember in church.. She belongs to 4 other departments in the church... She doesnt use earings.. Dont use trousers.. When i wake up.. I teach her the word of God.. When we wanna sleep we study the word of God... We go to vigils 4times in 7days per week.. And now leme ask u... How will such a woman turn out weird of a sudden... U better take hold of that marriage and return to Jesus.. Else if your wife sees an avenue to follow rich daddies she wont hesitate the way shess looking for money now oo..

Shes a church person and going to church isn't a criteria because most church goers are pretenders.....Judas was with Jesus for years and despite that he sold our Lord Jesus Christ....

ngwababe:
I mean let her go, until when you will decide to bring her back. Maybe, her conscience will come back, when there are gossips flying.

Ooooh I understand better now

lereinter:
Use your brain if you get to weigh the consequences of your wife and yours

Beat her blue black, na me you beat

It is well

Oluwaiphee:
It means she made herself new friends and the wrong ones at that. Her recent behaviour shows she is being influenced negatively. Watch the friends she keeps.

Alright, thanks I appreciate

Poorboy:
from the thrash you put up here

1 you will never get married

2 if you get married you will never be happy

3 have you ever wondered why what you are dreaming of hasn't materialized?

4 Do you think a man marrying a woman is an investment that needs to funded

5 Marriage is for happiness and to kill boredom and it comes with a particular type of satisfaction that can't be compared to any kind of money in the world

6 Have you ever seen poor people love and get satisfied live a low but Happy life

7 My dear change your mind, money is not everything

8 your writing is full of selfishness be selfless, that's only when you can have true satisfaction.

9 You can choose to remain single, but don't get married if you're not ready to be of any help to you husband.

10 your husband can be rich at the time to you getting married but one thing is certain in life that's changes, if the man suddenly go broke will you leave or stay.

11 I told you earlier life is all about choice nobody choices to be poor, it's God that choices to bless any man the way it pleases him.

Leave marital matters it's not quantifiable with money. Thank you

I pray she adheres to this

Honeysheabutter:
She could be motivating you to a greater place. Continue with the struggle and don't be carried away to do otherwise. Pray for God's blessing. There's nobody that doesn't like money.

Exactly my thoughts and I believe if she just appreciates the little it will definitely gear up my morale to do more....but always condemning the little will make things more difficult

BluntTheApostle:
Don't mind them. Many of the commenters here have never been in a toxic relationship.

They expect a man to keep quiet, but a woman can nag.

Imagine such nonsense.

And nagging woman are so difficult to please because they won't listen to you, reason with you or even accept their flaws.

Expresswriter:
Involve a responsible marriage counsellor who knows both of you to advise her. She's become too familiar with you and will not listen to your advice at this point. Why? Because I suspect she's being influenced by a new friend or company.

She wants to compete or measure up with her fellow women who have been gisting her about their experience and how their husbands are spending heavily on them.

What she fails to understand is that these things are in phases. Like you said, it's gradual. Don't give up. I will advise you start praying for her and for both of you. It may not be easy now because you're hurting and feel offended. However, God will give you grace in these times.

It is well. I speak healing into your marriage. Let love return miraculously this moment.

Amen, thanks so much for this.....I render my unreserved appreciation

dayorich:
As you ask me now, who I go ask?

Na me born am?

You nor date am take know her behaviour?

I beg park wella and carry your cross because you don carry oooo

I definitely did but this life should be all for one and one for all........you will definitely need people some day

ngwababe:
Bros, let her visit her family for at least a month.

She does like 2 or 3 times yearly due to distance

mydeporch:
This is how they turn the remaining good men to another thing. Women got to thread carefully in marriage. Greediness ain't a good thing. Am amazed at how some are faulting the husband...@Ademidedavid What you wont tolerate at the long run, dont start taking it now. She is exhibiting some characters which you need to be cautious of....@emmaodet and @exc2000 have said my mind.

I do tell my husband anytime we are talking nd he says some women did some crazy things, I would say dy need just one resetting slap. Just as people will be saying men got problems.....av come to realize some women own sef na craze level....if u cant sit down nd reason on ur own, u get people to reason wt u nd u no get am too....people dealing wt u need to wise up.
Just as some women dont have appreciative husbands, we have men too who despite everything, they will still tell you u have done nothing. When we are not in peoples shoes, we dont seem to understand how hurtful berating words could be to an hardworking man.
I only read 2 pages nd I dont like some peoples response....
Op please pick the wise pieces of advice on this ur thread...

Thanks so much for this.....much gratitude

litigator:
Give her a matching order. You are the man of the house. If she wants to go into cream online without selling her body, leave her be and support her. If she nor sell cream for the first 6months, body go tell her.

Also, give her upkeep funds in bulk for the entire month. She will be tempted to waste it in weeks, once she does, let her have nothing for the rest of the month.

Tell her to fall back on her cream business to sustain the family and mean it. She lacks financial management skills. She will change if you start allowing her to handle some financial decisions like managing feeding and upkeep budget for the house monthly.

If you stand your ground for the first two months without doing as if you cannot live without her and trying to over spoil her, she will learn. You are used to taking full responsibility for the family upkeep and going the extra mile in making your family comfortable, sometimes you even paint stories about your reality, making her think it is always easy. If you are worth 100, make her believe it is 70 or 50, that way she will keep her taste at 40 or 60. If you tell her or make her believe it is 300 when it is 70, you will slave to keep up with her taste.

She will get advice that you are being selfish and she go begin change am for you. So you need to check yourself too. She was not so from the beginning I suppose. So, hold a meeting with your self, by your self and with your own mind and tell yourself the truth.

Monitor her online business and if she wants to start sleeping with men for money, you can't stop her. But allow her make a decision on which way to follow. If sleeping with men is her decision. Separate yourself and your kid from her and leave her house, or have her leave the house.

I deliberately allowed my wife carry our house expenses since April cos I have not been paid for two months. Guess what? Where 30k will hardly feed us for a week before now, 5k will feed us for a week now. Although I spent a chunk stocking the house with basics.

My woman spends carefully now because na her money. Me self don adjust my taste, and I often discuss the lessons I am learning from her with her and we laugh over it. She accuses me of been a wasteful spender over the years and not saving for rainy days. I have stopped having HBP simply because I want to give my family the best.

My self-confidence don dey increase because I dey learn from her. And give her exactly what she truly deserves and not what she wants. We keep it as it is, while I go out of my way to spoil her silly at times. But she is learning contentment. Hope you nor dey do side chicks and waste money on strangers only to come here and complain? If she changed suddenly, chances are that she knows, and na why she dey change am. Nobody be fool na.

Mind you, this is the same woman I desperately wanted to divorce in 2017-early 2019, because we had become torn in each other's flesh. What changed? I just stopped caring too much, started acting like a better man and learnt her psychological games. Two can play the game better. Where she deliberately does things that will ordinarily push the old me into anger, the new me keeps calm, analyses her actions/possible intentions and will not play into her hands. I use her intentions to yab her until she almost starts crying. Emotional blackmail nor dey work again. And she no longer knows my next move. I find myself dancing or playing good jamz and singing along, when she expects me to be mad as hell.

If you want to keep me because of money alone submit yourself for ritual money so the family can have a better life, accept the life I can offer at this time while we discuss ideas on how to better our life financially, or get the Bleep out of my life and go meet those better men out there you just recently discovered. I am not holding you. That is my new philosophy and she knows. If she corporates, I will give her mad TLC she won't need 21K diamond rings to make her feel like a woman. And we can build together and buy that for her cos she deserves it.

You should listen to Dale Carnegie's how to win and influence people. It changed my perception of how I was handling things. And believe me when I say that I am now enjoying my marriage because I have developed better people skills.

Develop better people skills, and your wife will humble her self or move out of your life and spare you the stress.

This was what worked for me and all my marital problems disappeared. My baby is even more beautiful than she was few years back because she has peace of mind. Trust it solves your marital problems.

Shalom.

Thanks so much, I sincerely appreciate and a lesson to learn from.

Shalom

BluntTheApostle:
Walking away from unresolved issues can land one in a mental home.

Anyone who thinks physical abuse is the only damaging abuse, then they are living in darkness and ignorance.

Emotional abuse which may result from constant nagging can land one in hospital. It can land one in jail.

For example, a woman nags her husband. Husband rushes out of the house. He drives out without concentrating. He runs over someone, and lands up in jail.

How about that?

Very true......thanks

BluntTheApostle:
So, marriage is a school that only men must attend?

Women are allowed to be immature, but men are God who are above anger?

Men are perfect, and should never get angry? But women can throw tantrums?

Listen, you people should stop encouraging bad behaviors.

If a woman is allowed to nag, a man should also be allowed to slap sense into her.

After all, women like to talk, and men are more of action than words. Abi no be so?

The thing just weak me, how can a woman you call your wife shout at you on any little issue?
Experience is really the best teacher

[quote author=isartha2000 post=89784188]stop justifying your misdeed and listen up!.Beg your wife, be open to her on financial strength,look for ways to raise funds to set her up, wittingly separate her from her mischievous friends and above all,a family that prays and read the words of God together stays together[/quote
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You are speaking from the dark, all these I have done.....my financial strength that I made opened really worsened everything to the extent that every of my kobo must be accounted for into to... Can two walk together except they agree.......(the prayer aspect)

Olumyyde:
My brother, it has happened already, no need crying over spilt milk, just forge ahead.
Make ur wife understand life is more real than flamboyance n social media fake life. If she still doesn't see things clearly, then it's a toxic relationship which isn't good for ur health. Bro, ur happiness and peace ain't negotiable. GOD bless you sir.

Thanks so much, I appreciate your concern and advice.

jay2smart19:
You no fit tell me say you self no see this behaviour during courtship

Yes I saw it but thought my jobs can cater for it

lereinter:
It seems the op na woman wrapper

Gerrout jare

So I should beat her black and blue and you will still be the 1st person to crucify me

grandstar:
ademidedavid
You have to be firm and she must know you're a no-nonsense man and you'll never soil your hands. Once that message sinks in, her brain will reset and she will accept things.

Do you think Buhari never faced pressure from his wife to be corrupt when he was under PTF? Most upright men face pressure from their wives or children yet they stand their ground. It is simply not in their character.

Do you want the better things in life for yourself and your children? Do you think the federal job can achieve it? If not, start putting in place a plan B

Can you engage in private practice? If yes, then do.

If not, you can make plans to retire and enter the private sector either as an employee or as a self-employed person. Use your present position for networking so as to position you well when you're into business. Make friends and connections now by doing a great job and leaving a good name.

Even if you start PP now, you may have to keep it from your wife lest she starts living a flamboyant life. You may eventually have to retire so you can live well.

I was actually working with a private sector before moving into federal sector just because I will have better time for my PP, all in the name of making more money........I thinking keeping certain sources of income will go a long way in solving the issues .....much gratitude

funmisticqueen2:
she is telling you to switch gears, see it as a challenge and don't dissapoint your family.

Also try to talk with her and get her on the same page as you

I am very hard working even her family can testify but althesame, thanks for this.

m140:
My brother, it's like you really cool. Woman matter levity hands no be am ooo. Do wetin you fit , no go kee yoursef ooo.

I am a very cool person but with short temper which made me give her the slap but slapping her at the back wasn't the best choice either......doing most things for our daughter