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zolajpower: this same lung problem killed the venezuelan president(hugo chavez). having breathing difficulty. may God spear his life.Amen

Urine: God bless you!

9lifes: what about

-Mumu (at least 10 times a day,for 20+ years)...lol..i am very serious
-I.d.i.ot

-wasting my money putting you in a private school

-dumb (wrote SSCE 3 times,wrote JAMB 4 times)-just finished my masters in engineering abroad without his help

-arranged a vocational training for me because he lost hope..lol..boy i frustrate that man,my own no goo too

-beating, some times for no reason(my own no get part two)

Effects:
-It took me years to overcome low confidence despite being one of the smartest kid in school (words affects,especially when they are said in serious tunes)

-I became very defensive,expressing myself became hard no matter the environment(that was then)

-It took me years to forgive him..i became bitter towards him

-I had issues with authorities,infact anyone i perceived to be the head

-I still react till date when i see his abusive attitudes in parents around me-sometimes i confront them

-I became verbally abusive as well,and hot tempered too..it took me more than 5 years to put this to rest

Yes when you become an adult,one is expected to take responsibility for their actions,but sometimes we fail to admit how messed up most adults and parents are due to their upbringing. Your words affect people,especially those looking up to and depending on you.Don't just say things to your kid ,if they must be punished it must be for a specific reason and make sure that reason is well referenced.Discipline is important,but parents should also learn to discipline there kids wisely.

Anybody,woman,man,sister,mother,grandmother,father, grandfather,including my dead ancestors,wey call my kid any funny name..wahala go dey ooh!

ogaju007: ogbomosho & the rest====== Unknown

ogaju007: It depends though

UK == 18
US == 22
Naija === 40

ikamefa: ^^^^^^^

kai lafta wan kill persin hia

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Tokotaya: For your information all: Nigerian Who Faked Kim Kardashian's Tweet Unmasked

https://www.nairaland.com/1238889/nigerian-faked-kim-kardashians-tweet#14958184

Ada Nri1: that's exactly what I'm saying. You know what is working for you and you do it. I know my children don't like doing another person's chore so I use it to threaten and it works.I know too much beating or punishment doesn't work, that's why I talk, talk and talk before I act. Believe me children are very wise. They know when your resolve is weak or strong and they test you. You just have to learn them and stay one step ahead

nickel kid: I believe everyone has a conscience. We obviously know our rights and wrong, but what if the kid no longer fears the rod. What do you do?

Ada Nri1: in my child's case he has an option of getting it, but there's a condition. Its just basically teaching him/her to live with and respect our rules or else
In your own case any1 who tries to take those things from u or any1 is cruel. It can't b justified. I'm just saying a holiday is not the end of the world, but your sight and your hands! There's nothing that can replace 'em for you

occam: I will never compare my child with a goat. Why not simply tell him to behave himself. Adults in Nigeria must be respected. True that. Kids too must be respected

Bullies abound in schools and sadly kids are forced deal with it. However, children that have respectful and open conversations with their parents are more likely to tell their dad/mum about the bullying. If you insult your kid, he/she may be hesitant to report bullying in case you call him a "weak goat"

Ada Nri1: why is that? I've threatened it twice and my child seems to be in the best of behaviours. But please, enlighten me. I feel for you sha. Seems like your dad is the King and everbodyelse the kingsmen. No queen prince and princesses. He's lucky to have you guys sha, some people will rebel.

Ada Nri1: I'm not saying beating is good or not. Moderation in everything. My people say that you don't beat a child the day he spills oil. It means choose the worst offences not just hitting a child anyhow. For me its talk, talk, isolate, punish, beat!!!!!!! Talk .... Removing beating out of it is only when the child is over 7 and you know that there are worse methods without physical contact. I can make u wash all the toilets, clean the kitchen and iron everbody's bed spread. By the time I cancel your holiday trip twice, you'll buckle up. That won't stop me from beating o. I even threaten leaving in Nigeria with nana in the village

ayodot: stubborn ke, me I chop cane sotey I gentle

dowjones: You obviously dont know what it is to be abused..i'd suggest you review what you posted. My dad constantly told me i was not going to be anything in life..hell, he told me to mark his words...he would be very graphic on how i was going be a failure it was actually scary and mine was still mild compared to my elder sis. We were well behaved kids cos the fear was instilled to us...i used to stutter seriously as a child and my dad will make fun of me.(he too was a stutter but became very eloquent) mind you i had been expelled from 3 primary schools becuase i almost killed students who laughed at me so i also planned to kill the man but thats past now..you obviously dont know sh!!t

Ada Nri1: There's a different between insult, abuse and curse.
When your dad gets angry and tells you "don't be silly! Or silly!" Go and hang yourself. As far as I know my mum used to say we should stop behaving like goats, that's when we acted foolish, that didn't stop us from changing and behaving like human beings. And the next thing you'll hear her say is "my children are very wise" all these sabi sabi people here telling some1 how to raise their kids, I hope your children are going to be 100% well behaved everyday. Bottom line, correction with love is better than trying to avoid insulting your child and loose him to terrible behaviour. Spare the rod and spoil the child.(They'll soon tell me it wasn't meant to be followed literally)na una sabi sha, I dey my house, I raise my kids how I want. Main goal; useful and well mannered children with great fear of God

xynerise: what about calling them Antelope?

valinda: rubish...go n tell my dad dat n he ll insult u [b][/b]

chibyboy: Ok too