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Irrespective of whether I m young or old, I would not like to be called 'Mam' nor do i like addressing anone like this. Let me tell you why:

1. Know your self worth: ever since I started working abroad, I realised how much Indians spoil their work reputation. Westerners have more self worth and think of their colleagues as peers. Where as our attitude is quite subservient. If you can't call your boss by his name, more often than not it means you are intimidated by him.

2. Difference between mentor and teacher: only teachers should be called as Sir/Mam as it's their official title. Mentors in life or workplace can be of any age. But you should always treat them as friends. Only then can you truly share your thoughts and learn from each other. Do you ever call your friends as Sir?

3. Respect comes from action not words: your work colleagues may be elder to you. But remember you are there because you have some unique skill/knowledge that others don't. Workplace is a place for peer learning. You give some you take some. Again peers are equals n should not be called sir.

4. Address age gap: u may want to call some1 Sir, because of your huge age difference. let me give you a tip. Instead of thinking of him as a fatherly figure, actually go n spend time with him as friends. Learn how he reached the top and gain from his knowledge. If you address him as Sir, you already have a mental block in your mind that he is an unapproachable figure.

5. Stay away from sycophancy: you are not going to please any1 by calling them sir.

6. Have confidence in your abilities : value your skills and know that your work truly makes a difference to your company. which means you are equal n as important as any other person. Don't devalue yourself by think someone needs to be 'honoured' in the office.


Source: https://www.quora.com/Why-do-some-people-not-like-to-be-called-as-sir


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I lost my younger and only sister, Morgan, almost exactly a year ago... on July 24, 2011 in a plane crash. I was 25 and she was 19. The thing that makes my story difficult is the fact that not only did I lose her, I lost my dad (who was the pilot of the plane), my mom, and our two dogs, Stan and Fran. It was my ENTIRE family, aside from our cat, Richard, who ended up passing away in March at the age of 16.

Because I lost all of them, I find it hard to think of them individually sometimes which I immediately feel guilty about because I think they deserve being treated like individuals. Then, as soon as I start talking about one of them, I feel guilty for not thinking of them all. It's this odd, endless cycle of guilt and I can't help it.

Anyway, I got the call the morning it happened from my mom's sister who lived out of the state. I didn't answer her first few calls because it was so early on a Sunday, but then I listened to the voicemail. I still have it and it haunts me. She just told me to call her back and that it was very very urgent but I could hear the trembling in her voice and it immediately scared me and woke me right up and I called back. When she told me the news, I was in my bed with my boyfriend who woke up after hearing me basically scream and cry into the phone. I couldn't even talk or make out any words. I couldn't do anything. My heart just literally hurt, there is no other way to describe it. I felt like all the air was sucked out of my lungs and replaced with weights. After awhile, I just kept saying "ALL of them?!" as if I thought it was some cruel joke. I can't tell you how many times I had to relive this memory in my head. My boyfriend and I ended up moving from that apartment just because I couldn't deal with being in that room anymore, too painful.

I obviously still struggle with being orphaned and being deprived of my sister and I think about them every second. I remember after I found out, my boyfriend and I drove the two hours or so to where my family lived and we went straight to my grandparents house where all of our friends and family were waiting. It was also the town outside the one where I grew up where the plane crash happened. Some people chose to go to the crash site, but I never did. I didn't need to see that to know they were gone and I don't think I could've taken more pain at the time. But it was actually one of the more beautiful memories I've ever had. I remember looking around and just seeing so many close friends and family (from both sides which rarely happend) in one room, hugging and crying. No one had to say anything. The great thing about my family is that they made everyone feel pretty special, so we were all hurting just the same that day.

Another thing I remember is just being furious. I remember just telling my Grandma, "Why wasn't I on that plane" and I remember how much she cried harder and it freaked her out. I was almost mad that they left me here, that I couldn't go with them (they were headed to Florida to take my sister to her internship and to relax at our family vacation home) and I even thought of how the last time I talked to my mom was on the phone and I begged her to let us watch the dogs for them, but she refused; she loved them just as much as I did.

I often times get angry that they were taken so abruptly. I wanted a chance to say goodbye and tell them that I loved them, but I remember to keep myself in check and be thankful that they didn't have a chance to suffer. In fact I like to think that's why they were taken so quickly, perhaps to prevent pain that they might have experienced later on in life. In fact, I don't even know if they knew what was happening to them. They hardly made it into the air before the plane toppled over from a freak gust of wind. That I am thankful for. I'm also thankful that we were not in any fights with each other, we always said "I love you" when we hung up. We truly ended on good notes.

I also find that I'm most upset about my sister because she was so young. She was super smart, athletic, talented, funny, hard-working and absolutely gorgeous. She made everyone around her happy and she never took anything too seriously and she was just an all-around really good kid. So my immediate feeling was just utter confusion and loss. Why would someone like her deserve to go so fast? She would've been a sophomore at the University of Chicago (which I loved because I live in Chicago too and I could see her often) and would've been finished with her volleyball season by now. It's the epitome of unfair.

So now, after a year, I have found ways to remember her. My boyfriend and I have a new house and we brought all of her furniture in (the paint color was even the same color as her bedroom at my parents house, it was freaky) and it fits beautifully. When I'm feeling sad or when I miss her, I just walk to the room next door and take a minute, or curl up on the bed and cry.

It is strange, though, because I constantly have dreams in which only my parents have passed and she is still there, or vice versa, or it's just one parent. Or sometimes they come to me, knowing they have passed away and say they've returned. I wake sometimes thinking they're still here and just a call away and it really makes mornings difficult for me.

Still, though, I talk to her friends often, some of whom I've known since they were babies and toddlers. I know they hurt like I do sometimes and I know they knew the funny/awesome side of her, but I still sometimes feel very, very alone because a sister's bond is unreal. I talk to my aunt about this often because she and my mom were very close and they were the same age apart as my sister and I were; I find it really reassuring. I have yet to talk to a counselor for reasons like this; I know that no one could feel the way I do. Most people lose a sibling, a parent,or all of them, but rarely this early in life, rarely all at once, and it's an awful feeling to be that alone.

For now, I try to do things like scan old family photos and share them on Facebook for our friends and family to see. It's comforting not only to me, but to everyone who knew her. I try to share her story. I don't know how I'm going to feel when I'm 50 trying to imagine what Moe would've looked like when she was 44 (probably ridiculously fabulous) but I'm hoping time will have healed some wounds by then. For now it still feels like a dagger in my heart.

EDIT---
After reading Nikki Van Noy's answer to this question (which I suggest you guys read), I'm compelled to comment on a few things that she brought up that I failed to mention.

1. The "neon sign" effect, or as I have called "the kid glove" effect in which people just know what you've been through and don't know how to talk to you or deal with you. Some people ignore it and are scared of it, some people smother you with love and won't leave you alone, some treat you like some weird psychology experiment and just creepily like your Facebook statues and don't ever say anything, and some are just straight upawkward. It changes everyones view of you, good or bad, that's for sure.

2. The jealousy that involves others who have lost someone. In my case, it's when someone has lost a single family member and tells me "they know how it feels" but they don't really, because they still have other immediate family members to grieve with. I also am jealous when people lose a sibling at an older age, and try to compare our situations. You got to spend more time with your sibling, you got to have more memories! It's frustrating. I've spoken to a woman who has lost her whole family, her husband and two children. We've lost the same number of people in our family, and it was our entire family, but even then, it is not the same situation and neither of us could pretend to know how the other feels.

3. "'Broken heart' is a LITERAL term" like Nikki says. Oh my gosh yes. The feeling is indescribable and literally feels like someone squeezing your chest with a vice. The feeling subsides for me from time to time, but it always aches in the background.

4. "For those of you who still have your siblings, try your hardest to appreciate them--even during the difficult times." Enough said.

Source: https://www.quora.com/What-does-it-feel-like-to-have-your-sibling-die

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Bags underneath the eyes are commonly associated with fatigue. But research has shown that allergies and clogged sinuses may play a role in the dark circles you get under your eyes.

The Mayo Clinic reported that allergies can create dark circles under the eyes, and a recent video on the popular YouTube channel SciShow explained why.

For starters, the skin underneath your eyes is very thin, so there isn't much space or fat to hide your blood vessels, which can dilate when you have allergies.

"Allergic reactions can trigger your immune system to release these compounds called histamines, which cause blood vessels to dilate," the video said. "Plus, itching and rubbing your eyes can make the puffiness worse. So besides the dark circles from built-up blood and inflammation, puffy eye bags can also mean dark shadows."

Nasal congestion can also cause bags under your eyes.

That's the conclusion of Kris G. McGrath, a professor of allergy and immunology at Northwestern University:

"Puffy eyes and dark circles around the eyes are caused from nasal and sinus congestion interfering with blood flow through the veins around the eyes," McGrath told Everyday Health. He added: "Treatment involves avoidance and medications to reduce the inflammation in the nose, sinuses, and eyes. Typically topical intra-nasal steroid or antihistamine sprays are used often with an antihistamine and mast cell stabilizer eyedrops; they are most effective beginning two weeks before the pollen arrives."

The Mayo Clinic recommended rinsing out your sinuses.

"Extra zzzs may not cure those dark circles under your eyes. One common cause is nasal congestion. When your nose gets congested, veins that usually drain from your eyes into your nose become widened and darker. Rinsing your sinuses with a saltwater solution (mix 1/4 teaspoon sea salt with 2 cups warm water) or over-the-counter saline spray can help relieve nasal congestion and your dark circles."

Allergy relief medicine can also help decrease the puffiness under your eyes.

"If you have allergies, which play a role in puffiness since they contribute to the fluid build-up under the eye, be sure to take allergy relief medicine to minimize the amount of puffiness you might be experiencing," dermatologist Doris Day told Cosmopolitan.com.

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Hi Forumers:

Thank you very much for your insightful answers. Your contributions are appreciated!

With humble regards....

I’m not Ibo/Igbo but I love them, because their culture, tradition and ways of life never cease to intrigue me.

I often hear EZE (think of Eze Goes to School), and I phoned one elderly man in Owerri, who happens to be my friend’s dad. He told me Eze has something to do with “king.” But he lived most of his life in Lagos before he went back to Owerri.

His children were born and bred in Lagos, and therefore, they don’t understand Igbo language.

Now, please, what’s Eze? And most importantly, what Ezemo?

Is it a name or a title or what?

I’d appreciate and answer by a knowledgeable person.

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Normal friends don't meet without planned arranged weeks in advance like it's a doctor's appointment

Neighbours almost never socialise

People are your best friends only when they're drunk. when they're not, they don't know you

People find it hard to greet other people on the street, whether they know them or not. They prefer avoiding the conversation.

They watch and learn about each other via a ridiculous amount of reality shows that "teach" you how to eat, live, manage your finance and what to buy

In many cases, they're nice around you but would talk behind you

Close minded when it comes to other cultures.

P.S: I'm not generalising, I'm not saying it's everybody, I'm not saying it's only the British, I'm just saying, whether this is British behavior or not, it's pretty common here..

ANSWER: We're not cold/ unfriendly. I think there are two problems here:

1. You live somewhere rubbish and are over-generalising about it. I'd be interested to know where it is (I live about 40 mins from London so it's possibly not far from me too).
2. You don't understand the difference between active politeness, and passive politeness. It's a failure to recognise the cultural distinctness of the UK from the US.

Countries like the US and for instance, Spain, practice "active politeness". It's considered polite to say hello to people around you and acknowledge them. To actively try to be helpful and friendly. Nothing wrong with that whatsoever.

Countries like the UK and for example, Japan, practice "passive politeness". We consider it polite to give people space, not demand their attention/ engagement, and if they want something - let them come to us in their own time. Politeness is about consideration for others without interfering with what they're doing. Nothing wrong with that either.

As for this...

"Close minded when it comes to other cultures."

This couldn't be further from the truth. People here are extremely well travelled, the country is very diverse, food and culture is diverse and open. You need to back up such an audacious statement if you expect it to be taken seriously.

It's also... frankly... rather ironic, given the context.


Source: https://www.quora.com/Why-is-it-so-common-to-be-cold-unfriendly-antisocial-in-the-UK

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I lived with a sociopath for awhile who told me herself, that she saw herself as so much more aware and intelligent than most people, that she found it entertaining (the "game" Ian mentions above) to see how simple it is to make others do what you wanted. Then when she accomplished it, she saw it as evidence that she was so much more "evolved", and felt the need to seek out people who were sharper, more of a challenge.

Many times, I witnessed her do this when someone offended her or if she found them suspect in some way (usually those she felt could see through her). She would manipulate someone to reveal personal info about the 'offender', then get another to do something that hurt the 'offender', their career or their sense of safety. Then would come the public commentary that would distance her from the whole exchange, indicating concern for the injured party, and disdain for those type of actions.

She almost never did her own dirty work, and viewed the success of each of these ventures as evidence of her own superiority. No boundaries, no responsibility, no concern for the damage to the lives of others, only the cold concern for her own welfare and reputation.

It was the sickest, most maniacally selfadvancing behavior I've ever witnessed. And quite frightening when living there, to realize how much more dangerous she became, each time she was successful, or especially so if she began to sense she might be revealed.

Source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-a-sociopath

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I got curious to know the answer after I saw this.

Almost eaten by a whale.

Most Species of Whales have throats that are far too small to be able to swallow a large mammal the size of an adult.

Assuming you were diving and got swallowed by a blue whale, in one piece. It is nice to know that you would likely not tear apart into pieces, as the blue whale has Baleen plates instead of regular teeth.

These row of plates that are covered with hair serves as a filter for the krill from the thousands of litres that the whale swallow in a single gulp. Having forced the water out, the whale then licks the trapped prey with its massive tongue.

In the other hand, you have a high chance of dying out of the force applied to you when the whale crushes its plates when closing its mouth. But even if that happens, it would not be able to swallow you. A blue whale's gullet is a largely a maximum of 10 cm in diameter 10 cm in diameter. That would not even cover the head of a newborn baby.

In fact, even the scary large whale shark, has a relatively small throat. Making it impossible for it to consume a human. Its diet mainly consists of small fish and fish eggs.

The only known whale that has a large enough throat to swallow an adult is the Sperm Whale. But this whale species usually only hunt its prey 1000 meters deep in the ocean, making even a single human encounter extremely unlikely. And, until today, there has never been a single recorded incident of that happening.

So the biggest threat is dying from the squash applied by the whale if it tries to eat you. But, supposedly, you survive that, and you held a diving gear with enough oxygen for few hours. Another danger you should be worried about is when the whale dives you to a depth where you lunges might collapse. According to Wikipedia, in technical diving, a depth below about 60 metres (200 ft) is the maximum safe depth before your body start experiencing oxygen toxicity.

Whales dive in much deeper distances than that.

So it's very unlikely, but if it happens, may the force be with you!


Source: https://www.quora.com/What-would-happen-if-you-were-swallowed-by-a-whale


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People have done this, and they have died doing it. For example, the crew of Pinnacle Airlines 3701, October 2004 (Page on ntsb.gov), was taking their aircraft from one airport to another without passengers -- a so-called "re-positioning" flight. They were supposed to fly at 33,000 feet, but instead requested and climbed to 41,000 feet, which was the maximum altitude at which the aircraft was supposed to be able to be flown. Both engines failed, the crew couldn't get them restarted, and the aircraft crashed and was destroyed.

The National Transportation Safety Board determined that the probable causes of this accident were:

(1) the pilots’ unprofessional behavior, deviation from standard operating procedures, and poor airmanship, which resulted in an in-flight emergency from which they were unable to recover, in part because of the pilots’ inadequate training;
(2) the pilots’ failure to prepare for an emergency landing in a timely manner, including communicating with air traffic controllers immediately after the emergency about the loss of both engines and the availability of landing sites; and
(3) the pilots’ improper management of the double engine failure checklist, which allowed the engine cores to stop rotating and resulted in the core lock engine condition.

Contributing to this accident were:

(1) the core lock engine condition, which prevented at least one engine from being restarted, and (2) the airplane flight manuals that did not communicate to pilots the importance of maintaining a minimum airspeed to keep the engine cores rotating.

Accidents also happen when the "density altitude" -- a combination of the temperature and atmospheric pressure at a given location -- is too high. At high altitude on a hot day, some types of aircraft simply can't climb. They might get off the ground after attempting a takeoff, but then they can't gain altitude and they crash because they run out of room in front of them or because they try to turn back to the airport and stall the aircraft in doing so. An example of this scenario is described in WPR12LA283.

There's a helicopter version of this problem as well. Helicopter crews calculate the "power available" at a given pressure altitude and temperature, and then compare that to the "power required" under those same conditions. The latter are different for hovering "in ground effect" (IGE, with the benefit of a level surface against which their rotor system can push) and "out of ground effect" (OGE, where the rotor system supports the full weight of the aircraft).

It's kind of unnerving to take off from, say, a helipad on top of a building and go from hovering in ground effect and moving forward to suddenly find yourself in an OGE situation, not having enough power to keep hovering as you slide out over the edge of the roof. This is why helicopter pilots always will establish a positive rate of climb from such environments as quickly as possible -- when you get moving forward at around 15 to 20 knots, the movement of air through the rotor system provides some extra ("translational" lift.

It also feels ugly to drop below that translational lift airspeed too high above the surface and abruptly be in a power deficit situation -- maybe you have IGE power, but you don't have OGE power. In such cases, you may not have enough power to cushion your landing as you don't so much fly as plummet. (Any Monty Python fans?)

Finally, for some insight into the pure aerodynamics at play when airplanes fly too high, I'd recommend reading the responses to What happens to aircraft that depart controlled flight at the coffin corner?

Source: https://www.quora.com/What-would-happen-if-a-plane-flew-too-high

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I recently read a fascinating interview with a behavioral scientist from Microsoft. In it, he explained how people buy products and services that either A) help them make a decision, or B) automate the decision for them. I was struck by how accurate he was with respect to my own industry. For example, there are two types of professionals that seek career help. The first kind are self-aware enough to know they need to customize and navigate their career path to suit their needs. These individuals identify their weaknesses and close their gaps in knowledge and skills so they can build their career confidence and achieve their goals. Then, there's the second kind...

This group of professionals doesn't want to put the time and energy into owning their careers. Instead, they try to outsource the process. [FYI - This article on INC magazine shares three reasons why you need to own your career in 2017, or it will own you!]

You Can't Automate Your Career Management!

Simply put, there are no short-cuts to getting hired, getting promoted, changing careers, etc. And, it usually requires some help. Why? Let's face it, if you could do it yourself, you'd already have achieved your career goals by now. Just like any other area of our life we care about (i.e. better health, improve your finances), it makes sense to seek the guidance of the pros (i.e. doctors, financial planners), in order to get the results we desire.

Example: "I've Tried Everything"

People sometimes come to me and say, "J.T., I've been looking for a job for six months and I've tried EVERYTHING." At which point, I ask them to list the exact steps they've taken. I usually hear something like, "Well, I applied to over fifty jobs online and never heard anything. So, after about three months of no luck, I decided it must be my resume. So, I hired a resume writer. He made my resume look pretty fancy. However, I've since applied to at least fifty more jobs online and I'm still not getting any bites. See? I've done everything!"

Hopefully, you can see that this person used job boards and a resume service to try to automate the real work of finding good job - and that's exactly why it fails to work. This is the point where I have tell them the hard truth: They've essentially been wasting their time. Since only 3 percent of applicants ever get contacted about jobs they applied to, job seekers, like the one above, are just spinning their wheels. No expensive resume re-write can fix that. The applicant tracking system (ATS) companies use to process your application will still toss your resume if you aren't a 100 percent match for the job. The solution is to learn how to conduct a proactive job search a/k/a how to build a personal marketing plan and find the right way to present yourself directly to employers you'd like to work for. Not only is it more effective, it's also a lot more rewarding... and, a lot less demoralizing.

Own Your Career = Be Accountable For Your Process

Taking control of your career means doing what it takes to master the problem and get results. The next time you find yourself stuck in your career, ask yourself, "What do I need to learn to be able to overcome this challenge?" Then, seek resources to help you. When you stop looking for the automation short-cut and focus on growing your skills, you'll find success easier to achieve.

P.S. Next, it's time you learned the difference between a resume and a cover letter. If you found the advice above to make sense, then perhaps you'd like to learn about another common mistake I seek people making? This article on LinkedIn explains how you should design your resume and cover letter for recruiters.

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Jeez! this is too long

It’s a pity. It’s only Nigerians that always complain that articles are too long. I’m very much active on more than 35 foreign forums and have never seen a single complain about any articles being long.

This brings a sad fact: most Nigerians don’t like to read and that’s why majority of us (including our leaders), have poor mentality. Poor mentality is the root cause of problems we have in Nigeria today.

For example, it’s a poor mentality that makes you believe you need to steal public funds before you can be rich. I’m very sorry. This is also true of “educated” Nigerians who stop reading after graduating. They went to school to get certs and they read only to pass exams. Contrast this to those who read to get liberating knowledge and improve their lots in life. Certificates are of a secondary importance, HONESTLY.

No-one begs you to read long posts.

Experts are finding that running could reign supreme in growing and maximizing our brain's power.

One of your most invaluable organs is cradled within your cranium and is made up of billions of neurons. The brain is the crucial conductor of your daily life.

We rely on our brains for everything from the simplest of tasks to the most complex navigation to success. Those people who develop superior functioning are positioned with a clear advantage. Yet for years little was known about strengthening and increasing the brain's power.

In the 1990s, scientists at the Salk Institute for Biological Studies first discovered a strong correlation between exercise and brain power.

This past February, The Journal of Physiology posted a new study that builds on those findings and may prove that not all exercise is created equal when it comes to brainpower. Researchers found that various forms of exercise produce different levels of neurogenesis (growth and development of tissue) in the brain.

Running, compared to other forms of exercise in this study, reigned supreme. The more a subject ran, the more new cells were created in the brain. There was also a significant increase in neuron reserves in the hippocampus, the part of the brain in charge of memory and learning.

For me, running has long been a passion and a daily ritual. The benefits from lacing up extend far beyond measured body fat. It's a release, a stress reliever, a time to think and recharge. The highly addictive endorphin kick runners experience keeps many of us constantly craving more.

The increasing pressure for success in the business world often is accompanied by a constant, taxing mental roller coaster. Running offers an aid for mental stability and now has been shown to charge and grow your brain in ways that were otherwise unknown.

Here are four tips to build a successful running habit:

1. Fitness trackers
Fitbit, Apple iWatch, and Garmin have upped the bar on the amount of data analyzed and recorded, allowing you to mark and achieve new running goals.

Many people don't know that you can even use your iPhone without an added device by accessing the free, pre-installed Health app, which tracks your distance and movement.

As someone who loves data, these trackers have allowed me to add a level of gamification to training, keeping even the most mundane workout interesting.

2. Community
Tools such as Strava provide the ability to track and globally compete with both friends and complete strangers. They also offer one of my favorite running tools for those of us who spend a lot of time traveling: crowdsourced running routes.

Every time I find myself in a new city, I fire up the app to find the best routes. It takes me off the beaten path and allows me to discover great local gems.

3. Apparel
In addition to the traditional running apparel companies, new brands have excelled in catering to fast growing markets.

Hoka One One developed funky looking shoes specifically designed for long distance and trails. The brand, owned by Deckers, has grown at a phenomenal pace and quickly earned a spot on the feet of many trail enthusiasts, like myself.

Brands such as Oiselle and Athleta's new Sculptek recently revolutionized the world of women's running apparel with superior products that not only fit a woman's body but also have an emphasis on technical performance. In the past, many brands focused on aesthetics over performance, leaving many of us more uncomfortable from our poorly fit shorts than from the hours of interval training.

4. Inspiration
Social media has become a great outlet to get inspired by running experts. I personally follow Kara Goucher, Bart Yasso, Josh Cox, Dean Karnazes, and Lauren Fleshman (her article "I Run Like a Girl" remains a favorite).

Nothing will get you more excited to lace up and hit the pavement than hearing others talk so passionately about the sport.


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At work, sharing the right aspects of yourself in the right ways is an art form. Disclosures that feel like relationship builders in the moment can wind up as obvious no-nos with hindsight.

Trouble is, you can’t build a strong professional network if you don’t open up to your colleagues. Doing so is tricky, because revealing the wrong things can have a devastating effect on your career.

You must know where the line is and be careful not to cross it, because once you share something, there is no going back.

TalentSmart has tested more than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90% of top performers, to be exact). Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.

Emotionally intelligent people are adept at reading others, and this ability shows them what they should and shouldn't reveal about themselves at work. They know better than to reveal any of the following, because these things will send your career careening in the wrong direction.

Your political beliefs.

People’s political beliefs are too closely tied to their identities to be discussed without incident at work. Disagreeing with someone else’s views can quickly alter their otherwise strong perception of you. Confronting someone’s core values is one of the most insulting things you can do.

Granted, different people treat politics differently, but asserting your values can alienate some people as quickly as it intrigues others. Even bringing up a hot-button world event without asserting a strong opinion can lead to conflict. People build their lives around their ideals and beliefs, and giving them your two cents is risky. Be willing to listen to others without inputting anything on your end because all it takes is a disapproving look to start a conflict. Political opinions are so deeply ingrained in people, that challenging their views is more likely to get you judged than to change their mind.

That you think someone is incompetent.

There will always be incompetent people in any workplace, and chances are that everyone knows who they are. If you don’t have the power to help them improve or to fire them, then you have nothing to gain by broadcasting their ineptitude. Announcing your colleague’s incompetence comes across as an insecure attempt to make you look better. Your callousness will inevitably come back to haunt you in the form of your coworkers’ negative opinions of you.

How much money you make.

Your parents may love to hear all about how much you’re pulling in each month, but in the workplace, this only breeds negativity. It’s impossible to allocate salaries with perfect fairness, and revealing yours gives your coworkers a direct measure of comparison. As soon as everyone knows how much you make, everything you do at work is considered against your income. It’s tempting to swap salary figures with a buddy out of curiosity, but the moment you do, you’ll never see each other the same way again.

That you hate your job.

The last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person, who is not a team player. This brings down the morale of the group. Bosses are quick to catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.

What you do in the bedroom. Whether your sex life is out of this world or lacking entirely, this information has no place at work. Such comments will get a chuckle from some people, but it makes most uncomfortable, and even offended. Crossing this line will instantly give you a bad reputation.

What you think someone else does in the bedroom. A good 111% of the people you work with do not want to know that you bet they’re tigers in the sack. There’s no more surefire way to creep someone out than to let them know that thoughts of their love life have entered your brain. Anything from speculating on a colleague’s sexual orientation to making a relatively indirect comment like, “Oh, to be a newlywed again,” plants a permanent seed in the brains of all who hear it that casts you in a negative light.

Your thoughts are your own. Think whatever you feel is right; just keep it to yourself.

How wild you used to be.

Your past can say a lot about you. Just because you did something outlandish or stupid years ago doesn’t mean that people will believe you’ve developed impeccable judgment since then. Some behavior that might qualify as just another day in the typical fraternity (binge drinking, petty theft, drunk driving, abusing farm animals, and so on) shows everyone you work with that, when push comes to shove, you have poor judgment and don’t know where to draw the line. Many presidents have been elected in spite of their past indiscretions, but unless you have a team of handlers and PR types protecting and spinning your image, you should keep your unsavory past to yourself.

That you're job hunting.

When I was a kid, I told my baseball coach I was quitting in two weeks. For the next two weeks, I found myself riding the bench. It got even worse after those two weeks when I decided to stay, and I became “the kid who doesn’t even want to be here.” I was crushed, but it was my own fault; I told him my decision before it was certain. The same thing happens when you tell people that you’re job hunting. Once you reveal that you’re planning to leave, you suddenly become a waste of everyone’s time. There’s also the chance that your hunt will be unsuccessful, so it’s best to wait until you’ve found a job before you tell anyone. Otherwise, you will end up riding the bench.

Bringing It All Together

Have you seen any of the above cause trouble for people at work? Are there any others that you would add?

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Technological craze.



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Anifik:
I would quickly close this thread and sla*p the op for bringing such silly thought

What you called a silly post has had far over 100 long comments and several millions of views on Quora. That’s what make Nigerians different: if it were a post about someone who cuts a head off for money rituals, many people will come to comment.

There’s a difference between those who read to pass exams/get certs, and those who read to get liberating knowledge and enlarge their IQs and reasoning powers for innovations. Many movies abroad are based on sci-fi issues like these and they made hundreds of billions of dollars in revenues. White people base their life on realities and possibilities, while we here, base our life on fantasies and narrow-mindedness. Now, who are those making more progress?

Go pick up my little brother.

Pick up my boyfriend.

Drive 6 hours to my sister’s.

Hope my other siblings meet us there.

Spend the last four hours in a giant, sibling-and-niece-and-nephew-and-sister-in-law pile.
Booze excessively for the last hour.

Probably wake up the next morning feeling awfully embarrassed that Y2K 2.0 was also a huge bust.

And also hungover enough to wish the earth actually did explode.

Source: https://www.quora.com/If-Earth-were-to-explode-in-10-hours-what-would-you-do

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I wonder why hooligans, hoodlums, goons… Toogi, etc., snatch ballot boxes during elections.

Why do they do this? What do they have to gain by snatching ballot boxes?

Are they going to sell them, or vote their own way through those ballot papers?

Who send them?

Are they going to short-change the oppositions? Are they just going to destabilize electoral purposes?

Why don’t the Government issue life jail or public execution judgments against these idiots?

Why can’t electorate fight them?

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I have seen first hand EXACTLY what happens when a sociopath and a narcissist get married.

A true narcissist and a sociopath together are a ‘perfect storm’ of dysfunction !

It happened in my immediate family.

My uncle, an outright sociopath announced to the family back in 1972 that he was getting married, to a woman he’d known one week.

This woman turned out to be one of the most detached, self centred, narcissistic people you could ever meet and the two of them did indeed get married within 3 weeks of knowing one another. Within a short time it became one of the most volatile, dysfunctional (and eventually violent) relationships you could possibly imagine.

She was a semi-hippie who took selfishness and emotional detachment to unprecedented levels. He was a uniform police offer with a controlling personality, an uncontrollable temper and a penchant for pathological lying.

They were totally mismatched and totally addicted to one another. They thrived in the conflict that arose from their differences and had a Jekyll and Hyde relationship.

She would claim later that she was the victim of horrendous domestic abuse, and there definitely was abuse, but she also thrived in the ‘high’ of the conflict and would provoke him deliberately.

He, the sociopath, would rage - and throw tantrums to get his way. When confronted about getting caught lying he would project and throw a tantrum to try and stun her and others into not asking questions. He once held a shotgun to her head during an argument and within a day she was back to sitting on his knee offering him a cup of coffee. This was the socio-narc dance that they danced.

She, the narcissist, would quietly go about putting herself first, second, third and so on in an ever-so-entitled-condescending manner, which would fuel their arguments.

They then decided to bring two helpless children into the equation.

This is where the trauma and neglect and dysfunction between a sociopath and a narcissist truly came to its greatest emotional carnage.

My cousins were the most neglected, unloved children growing up in that toxic marriage that I have ever personally experienced.

The sociopath and the narcissist guide to raising their children;

put yourself, your needs, your desires and your agenda before the children every time, all the time

sleep in until 11am and let your 3 year old child get their own breakfast (dry cereal without milk)

when the children are old enough, get THEM to do all of the meal preparations
continue sleeping in while that 3 year old dresses herself …. without underwear, and takes herself to a deserted playground on a Sunday morning

dump your kids on anybody who will take them …. ANYBODY. This can be a mom and daughter you just met at the park … if they offer to babysit, accept ! A neighbour you hardly know …. to hell with it, anyone will do as long as the narcissist and sociopath get to pursue their own interests and somebody else looks after their kids.

dump your kids on your sister in law, tell her it’s for an overnight stay then don’t return to pick up your child until 4 days later. Without any explanation. Hell, if the sister in law is stupid enough to do it, let her!

allow your child’s nappy rash to get to third degree burn stage until a carer such as an aunt or grandmother took care of it

as your children get older, tell them “I love you, but I don’t like you”
go on spiritual holidays to an ashram in India whilst leaving your 12 & 10 year old children at home on a large country property to fend for themselves. Make sure you show them all your holiday photos of YOURSELF on holiday to them when you return (hopefully they’re still alive).

when your daughter hits the difficult teen years, banish her from your house at 15 and tell her that “delinquent children need to be cut”. Then pack her on a train to her 80 year old grandfather’s house and let him and your in-laws take over the responsibility.
The list of what went on with these two is a sad, long story of breathtaking selfishness and emotional misery for their invisible children.

Ultimately, the toxic mix of a Narc and a Socio together seemed to result in them becoming obsessed with each other, and almost forgetting that they even had children. The Socio ends up being quite ruthlessly cruel and malicious (ability to cut his own children from his life the moment they become difficult) and the Narcissist just doesn’t care because s/he is unaffected by the plight of her children.

They really do create the ultimate blended personality disorder of abuse and dysfunction together.

Needless to say, my uncle and aunty lasted about a decade together which ended in one of the most acrimonious, hateful divorces I have ever seen. The sociopath uncle had to cut his ex-wife as though she had never existed and then set about trying to destroy her in the usual malevolent sociopath manner when they have been left by their partner. He hasn’t spoken to his daughter for over 30 years because he cut her when she was 15 and she reminds him of his ex-wife.

The children from this screwed up mess are now in their 40s and have only just started coming to terms with why they felt so unloved and unwanted through their childhood and have done years of counselling.

Their narcissist mother (now a teen counsellor … Yes, a teen counsellor !) tells them she’s “sorry they feel that way about their childhood” …. she says she has no memory of these “stories about their childhood” and only remembers them having a “beautiful childhood”.

Their sociopath father hasn’t had anything to do with them since he targeted the wealthy only daughter of a farming family and reinvented himself 25 years ago.

That’s my Narc Socio together story !


Source: https://www.quora.com/What-happens-when-a-sociopath-and-a-narcissist-get-married

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Could Russia attack and defeat the British military if no other country gets involved?

Without nuclear weapons, Russia could wreak havoc with cruise missiles. However, Russia lacks transports to deliver sufficient ground troops, heavy weapons, fuel and ammo to fight the British military. Whatever they have, the UK could defeat with submarines, shore-based artillery, torpedoes, anti-ship missiles and air defense. The total size of the Russian military is irrelevant, what matters is the capabilities.

With nuclear weapons, Russia could technically obliterate the UK, but would then suffer a second strike and lose most of its large cities, after which electricity, fuel and food distribution would collapse, and so would manufacturing, along with the entire economy. Note that UK submarines on patrol can launch nuclear strikes at Russia independently of any other countries if necessary. The question assumes that no other country helps Russia, leaving the Russian population doomed to starvation (recall how the US sent food aid to Russia until 1999 or so).

Moreover, even if no other country gets involved on the UK side, Russia would not necessarily know this. Without knowing this, Russia would expect a NATO response (according to Article V), and that would be devastating to Russia any way you look at it. So, Russia would not commit significant forces to an attack on the UK. Without a significant commitment, an attack would not succeed.

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"I saw that as a kid. The soft trees would break. The hard trees would grow and live forever..." – Jewel Kilcher

Jewel was broke and homeless, but she still turned down a million dollar check when she was 19 years old.

Jewel was broke and millions in debt after selling 30,000,000 albums, and built back from scratch when she was 30.

Jewel has switched genres, written music from folk to pop to country to even children's music. She wrote a children's book.

I love Jewel.

Abused from the ages of 5 to 15. Moved out of the cold barn she was living in at 15 to live on her own. And three years later she was homeless.

"I didn't want to be a statistic," she told me she was afraid when she was 15.
"I looked around at other girls who were in my circumstances and things went from bad to worse"

And yet… she ended up a statistic. She realized this when she was 18, living out of a car, and attempting to stuff a dress down her pants in a store so she could steal it.

When I was 18 I feel I was privileged. I had no real worries. I was "suburban lucky." Luck ruined me and made me complacent. I never would have made the good decisions Jewel ended up making.

That's why I love her. That's why I'm glad she came on my podcast. I'm sure she's done 100s of interviews to promote her new book, "Never Broken", an excellent book.

But I wanted to break her down. I wanted her to laugh. She was so smart and serious. Trust me: I got her to laugh.


A) Hard wood grows slowly…

Why did a homeless girl who sang for pennies in a cafe turn down a million dollar offer?

"Hard wood grows slowly," she said. "I saw that as a kid. The soft trees would break. The hard trees would grow and live forever."

She said: I knew I wanted to grow for a long time in this business. I also knew we were still in the grunge era and I was not grunge.

If I took a million dollar deal, I read that I would have to pay it back. I was afraid I wouldn't be able to and I would be dropped by the label and that would be the end of my career.

In fact, my album didn't do well the first year. But then went on to sell over 10,000,000 copies.

They didn't drop me because I was just that girl they paid twelve dollars for.

You have to think long-term instead of short-term always.


She was 19.

I do NOT think I would have made that decision. I think I would have made the wrong decisions.

How does one take such a long term view at such a young age. I think it was the ten years she had spent developing her skills, singing in bars all over Alaska, preparing for this moment.

Confidence is really difficult to develop. I don't know if I have it even now. But I'm going to remember this lesson on the next business decision I have to make.


B) Reinvention is non-stop…

Jewel has written children's books, gone from folk music to pop to children's to country. She's been a rancher. She's been homeless.

I asked her, "You had the benefit of really cultivating your talent from ages 5 to 15. You sang with your dad at gigs every week.

"Do you think someone starting from scratch at 50 can do this?"

"Absolutely," she said, "Reinvention never ends. It's every day. Pursue what you enjoy and move towards it and there will be opportunities."

I look at my own life today. I'm about to finish a children's book. I'm looking into TV. I'm working on a novel. I have other business things.

I don't know if any of them will work. But I know if I don't keep trying I
will slip back into whatever hole I constantly have to dig myself out of.

There are two days to start something new. When you are five years old. And today.



C) Create art for yourself…

I said these words: "So when you were talking to Neil Young…"


What funny words to say to someone, I thought at the time and told her.

Neil
Young told her: don't ever write for radio!

Meaning: don't write for the masses, write for yourself.

I asked her, "Isn't there a tension there? Like what if you write for yourself and then nobody likes it? Don't you want to write something that people like?"

She said, "We all have common experiences. Ultimately when you write
for yourself, you tap into that common cultural experience we all share."

That was eye-opening to me.

If you put in the time to develop the skills, eventually you will burrow so deep inside yourself with your art that you will tap into that same vein of blood that runs through each of us.

The key to good art is figuring out who
you are.

Writing for yourself, then, becomes the best way to write something that can be enjoyed by everyone.

Keep reading here for 7 more lessons I learned from Jewel (from forgiveness to self-medicating and how to change your day today)


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Since your homeland is invaded you have any right to defend it any way you can. However, in order to be treated by the Geneva Convention as a part of the armed forces of a nation (or country) you are required to : bear your armament publicly (not concealed), bear a sign or a mark that signifies you follow a specific leader, respect the rules of war.

If all of the above are met, then you are (by the Geneva Convention) part of your country's defence forces and in case you are captured you must be treated as a soldier.

If you pull out a concealed weapon and start shooting anything that passes by, then you are considered as a terrorist and treated as such.

So, if your country is invaded, join the official defence forces or form a militia and follow the orders of a very specific leader that is under the command of the leader (president, prime-minister, king etc) of your nation (- country).

Source: https://www.quora.com/Is-it-illegal-for-civilians-to-shoot-enemy-soldiers-during-war

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Who are some of the best role models for young black women today?

Great role models are all around us—the women who give their time and talents to our schools, our churches, our civic organizations and volunteer groups, our family matriarchs; our local business owners who give back to the community. We honestly don’t have to look far to find them.

Certainly this year has been full of #BlackGirlMagic, especially at the Rio Olympics. Any one of these incredible women shine a light on how to make your dreams come true with hard work, perseverance, strength and resilience.

Each month we feature outstanding Black women who can and do serve as role models for so many of us. We tell their stories so that others can be inspired. I’m encouraged by the brilliance of women like Shonda Rhimes, Uzo Aduba, Misty Copeland, Michelle Obama, Audra McDonald, Lupita Nyong’o and so many thousands others, who utilize their platforms to be the change in this world. These are the women we spotlight on our covers, so that others can learn from their examples, and perhaps dream bigger dreams for themselves too.


Source: https://www.quora.com/Who-are-some-of-the-best-role-models-for-young-black-women-today

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What's the saddest way to die?

There is only one way to die that is worse than being buried alive. It is to be lost alone in the catacombs of Odessa, Ukraine. They are a series of underground tunnels that span an estimated 1,550 miles.

It is rumored that there was a girl named Masha who was partying there with her friends once. She was very drunk, and she wandered off alone, getting lost.

Even if Masha had a map, and a flashlight with her, it would have been almost impossible to get out. The batteries for the flashlight would have died after only a few hours, and she would have gone mad in the dark. It would have been completely black, and totally silent.

She might have died of the cold. If it was too warm to freeze, or if she was running, dehydration could have killed her in a couple of days. She could not have survived longer than a week without food or water, not that she would know how many days had passed. Her body was supposedly found 2 years later, but they were unable to identify it.

This is proof that Hell is real, and it’s on earth.


Source: https://www.quora.com/Whats-the-saddest-way-to-die

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What has been your most unexpected betrayal and what did you learn from it?

Some harsh language:

Way back, in my first year in High school, I was a freshman and probably the nerdiest girl around. Pale, braces, glasses, short hair…the works. I was swept by this boy who wanted to date me. Nothing serious at the time bc back then I didn’t think about it seriously. He was fun to be around and a hopeless romantic. He was also African American.

All my friends were happy for me, as so I thought…

I remember one evening after doing homework, a classmate texted me, “Are you ok…?” I replied, “yes, why?”

He told me that I better sign onto my MySpace account and AOL instant messaging as quickly as possible! I was incredibly embarrassed to find that my name was changed to Nigger-Lover. My profile was filled with dirty things like, “I love big black cocks”, “white bitch”…stuff like that.

I frantically tried to change everything back to normal. Deleting every demeaning word and image. After I calmed down, I asked my friends who would of done this?! One girl told me that my best friend hacked into my accounts. My best friend? But why? I confronted my friend, she told me that she would never do such a thing!

After some time, she admitted that she was the one who hacked my accounts. But she assured me that she did it as a joke. She wanted to be funny. But it wasn’t, at all. I lost a couple of friends bc they sided with her, saying that I really shouldn’t be dating a black.

For some weird reason, I thought people in my school were not racist. I was kinda naive to think that everyone got along well with every race. My school was filled with blacks, whites, latinos, indians, yellow, green, blue, whatever. I never had an issue with anyone and I never saw them as different. But I guess other kids did…

I learned that everyone (including family members and best friends) have demons that they hide. It’s so hard to trust people and I don’t think they know how much it hurts when they do break your trust. I still remember how disgusted and betrayed I was.

Source: https://www.quora.com/What-has-been-your-most-unexpected-betrayal-and-what-did-you-learn-from-it

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Why would they disown those journalists? Are they fake journalists or have they done something that's unethical?



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A couple of summers ago we were on a Los Angeles-London-Paris British Airways flight. My teenage daughters kept elbowing me during the flight, insisting that the guy in front of us was Niall Horan, the "sensitive" singer in One Direction. I told them it couldn't be; if he really travelled commercial, he'd be up in First Class, not in Business. But I pulled aside a flight attendant and asked her if it was indeed the young singer. "No, not at all!" she told me.

But my girls were convinced the flight attendant was not being truthful in an effort to protect the boy's privacy (and prevent a mob scene in a confined area. If you know One Direction fans, you know what I am talking about.)

So they quietly asked the kid if he was Niall. He said he was, and chatted very sweetly to my girls for a bit. He was returning from The Teen Choice Awards. back to his base which was London. He was kind enough to do a selfie with my kids, which was the hit of the internet for about 3 seconds.

Source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-travel-sitting-next-to-a-celebrity

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Because the USA is the most powerful country in the world and what it does affects the rest of the world.

Trump’s ghostwriter for The Art of the Deal thinks that a Trump presidency would pose a very real risk of nuclear war and the end of human life. That’s a fear for the planet. But even short of that, Trump’s policies on trade, the environment, NATO, Putin and so on would be a disaster for many countries.

Source: https://www.quora.com/Why-are-non-Americans-so-worried-about-Trump-winning

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I once read a book about war memoirs from a long-retired combatant in the Nigerian Civil War and other bloody conflicts.

The relevant points I want to take from the book are these:

There are 4 ways to make Nigerian soldiers very happy, especially if you want them to perform excellently.

If you want a Nigerian soldier to be very happy give him these 4 things:

Money

Good drinks

Beautiful women

Sophisticated weapons

Most soldiers love the above lists very much.

When you give soldiers lots of money, they appreciate that and perform well. When you give them good local and exotic drinks, you keep them happy during their relaxation times.

When you give Nigerian soldiers beautiful women to spend time with (during their relaxation times), you make them feel happy and grateful.

Then give them cutting-edge, state-of the-art weapons, and you’ll see their top performances.

Is the writer, a veteran soldier, wrong about these points?


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saintfellow:
Nice thread op.
what about all the cities in NIGERIA?

Actually, some cities... some countries and some areas in the world are worse than Nigeria. Many people mayn't be aware of this fact.

Don't Travel Alone In These Five International Cities

For many travelers, the world is a magnificent place full of wonder at every turn. With every adventure, we learn something new about ourselves, the human condition, and how we see ourselves through the lens of other cultures. However, for all of the destinations we experience, there are also many very dangerous locations that may not be as welcome to foreign travelers.

The dangers go beyond petty taxi cab scams and pickpocket theft. In some cities, armed gangs can be brazen in their attacks, targeting western travelers. As a result, travelers may be assaulted, attacked, and injured in the name of terrorism, robbery, or other motives. Even with the best protection and preparation, many travelers may not know where they need to be the most vigilant for danger.

Some locations are more dangerous than others - especially for travelers who like to go alone. Those who are planning a solo trip to these five cities should either reconsider their plans, or purchase a strong travel insurance policy.

Bogota, Colombia

The vibrant and historic capital of Colombia, Bogota is an industrial city located in the heart of the nation. Known for producing some of the world's finest coffee and beautiful flowers, thousands of Americans visit Bogota and rural Colombia every year for cultural studies, volunteer work, and tourism. However, many who make plans to see this classic city don't understand that it is also one of the most dangerous destinations for western travelers.

Terrorist organizations, drug cartels, and armed street gangs all have a significant and visible presence across Colombia, especially in Bogota. According to the State Department, American visitors are often considered easy targets for crime. Furthermore, Officials warn that the threat of kidnapping remains high, despite the fact that the rate of kidnappings has decreased significantly over the last 15 years.

While traveling to Bogota can be a rewarding experience, it also comes with a high level of risk. Those planning to visit should make sure they have a safety plan in place, and make sure they keep a contingency kit in the event of an emergency.

Mexico City, Mexico

Every day, over 150,000 people legally cross the border between the United States and Mexico for a number of reasons. Whether seeking a vacation at one of the many coastal resort towns or visiting family and friends, Mexico is a popular and easily accessible destination for many travelers. The capital, Mexico City, is no exception.

While the media focuses on violence in cities that border the United States, Mexico City also has a violent streak, including mugging, assault, and even kidnapping. Women traveling alone are advised not to utilize public transportation at night, due to the risks of gangs roving the streets.

While many travel to Mexico City without any problems every year, it pays dividends to stay vigilant while abroad. Those with plans to visit this city should make a safety plan ahead of their travels.

Lima, Peru

Considered one of the most historic cities in South America and the gateway to Machu Picchu, Lima is a prime destination for those who want to experience South American history first hand. Because of the high number of tourists, criminals also occupy the city in the city, waiting to take advantage of unsuspecting tourists.

From illegal taxi services that have been known to take more than a fare to hijackings that take place on remote roads at night, Lima offers plenty of danger to the common traveler. Solo travelers who want to visit this historic city should consider limiting their travel plans to daylight hours and utilizing taxis recommended by their hotels or tour operators.

New Delhi, India

A budding commerce center of India, New Delhi attracts travelers on both business and pleasure. However, New Delhi is discovering not only their international identity, but also the dangers that come with expansive growth. One of those dangers comes in the threat of sexual assault - especially to women.

Both the British Foreign Ministry and the U.S. Department of State warn that sexual assaults of female visitors remains a concern for solo travelers. The alleged assaults have not been isolated to American travelers: travelers from Denmark, Germany, and Japan claim they have been sexually harassed or assaulted while traveling in New Delhi. Women with solo travel plans to New Delhi are encouraged to create a safety plan prior to their travels, and are strongly encouraged to travel in groups.

Jakarta, Indonesia

A popular layover destination for tourists seeking a tropical vacation, Jakarta offers travelers a healthy dose of adventure in a truly unique culture. However, what lurks just under the surface is a number of threats that can turn a dream holiday into a nightmare.

According to the British Foreign Ministry, threats of terrorism and kidnapping of foreigners are two main safety concerns that visitors need to be aware of. In addition, Jakarta also sits along a series of fault lines known as the "Ring of Fire." This leaves the region susceptible to earthquakes and tsunamis without warning. Those planning to visit the area should consider purchasing travel insurance early, in order to take benefit of all benefits in the event a trip turns bad.

While the world can be a wonderful place, danger is always just around the corner. By understanding the different forms the danger takes and which locations are most susceptible, modern adventurers can make sure their travels go without danger as they boldly traverse the globe.


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