sammiewrite:
I understand how you feel and I hope 2024 will be better for you financially. I too have been in a similar situation since 2020 even though my parents are still alive. Very little savings, no investment, very little spending on myself. The painful part is that, given another opportunity, our parents will still make the same mistake, as most of them don't even regret their actions to begin with, as they are always excusing it away with some religious shits like "kids are a blessing from God," "a child brings what (s)he will eat from heaven," or that "God said we should be fruitful and multiply." And this is not even the most painful or shocking.

I have engaged a parent who has three sickle cell kids. First, I wanted to know if she wasn't aware of genotype. Next, I tried to know if she wasn't aware that her first child was a warrior, and why she didn't stop. It turns out she was aware of the genotype mismatch and was also aware her first daughter carries the disease. The only reason she gave for her decision is her strong believe in her God and her believe in miracles. She even told me a concorted story of a man whose genotype changed from SS to AA after an encounter with one of their god of men.

Enough is not said of the damage religion has done but any attempt to raise this discussion is often met with attacks from those who are profiting from it. Religion has taking away the ability of grown adults to think logically/dispassionately and take responsibility for their actions. So far I have not met anybody with plan for a huge family whose decision is not informed by/hinged on religion. And this is not as if these folks are even financially capable to begin with.

U just described a typical African parents.
Just imagine my rebuked me when i ever i said I'm not gonna pass two children, telling me God has been the one feeding and taking care of us all these while.
Just crazy!

All those thinking of having more than 2 children, should remember tomorrow u won't be alive and what ll happen to those children?
We 7 in number, i remember always warning my mom after the 5th born to stop giving birth as the current situation in Nigeria isn't going to improve but ll get worst.
After the 7th child, we lost our dad. In 2017 she lost her teaching job and at that time, I'm the only graduate. From that moment till now, I'm the one shouldering the responsibility of my siblings. 4 of them are currently in the university. u can imagine how some parents can be wicked and insensitive.

Paraman:
If you can't provide a source, then you made it out of thin air. GMO foods were not banned by Putin.

I only know of labelling to differentiate between gmo and organic food in every food store

Enny2013:
I don't even understand.

Aswear, na the last paragraph gave me a small clue

Racoon:
Why should the electorate suffer for the iberiberism of INEC?
This is a long settled case.

I hope plateau state fellow suits

Anguldi:
Hausa amaka

When ll u accept that not everyone in the north is hausa?
Just like u have ur different tribes in ur region so also in north.

Valoromega:
We are currently expecting our first child , she should give birth within a this month.

She has requested money for baby things and I have given her over 400k but she hasn’t both the basic things she needs. She usually go with her mom to the market to get the things but they haven’t even both the things the baby will need in the hospital.
They went and bought baby wardrobe even though we already had baby wardrobe that was given to us on our wedding , she also both baby duvet without buying bed , the clothes she bought was for a month old baby , she didn’t even buy the first wear the baby would use , so far I haven’t even seen anything tangible she has bought with 400k plus I’ve given her, she hasn’t even bought the things she needs after delivery .

I don’t know if it’s her mom that’s telling her to buy those things, the mom doesn’t even care where the money comes from , she just demands that we buy this and that .

I was thinking the money I gave her would be enough to buy the most basic things she and the baby needs , now she’s demanding more

I blame you to a large extent. During my first baby, i bought 90% myself and gradually both online and offline. My wife only bought those things she felt the baby. I believe no matter how busy u re , u can always order online or even if don't know what to buy, u have ur mother, sisters or even female colleagues. Get involved

I didn't get it? Is that the reason why okne their student got killed? Instead of the school management to unravel how the student got killed and punish those involved they are here subjecting poor innocent student to a test

We aren't gonna applause anybody till we see the smooth running..

More cry/tears to their sympathisers

matify83:
Why persecute the bereaved?

You arrest the same people who were attacked on what grounds. That they are insiders in the heinous attack on their own people?

I believed, a household can never be defeated without an insider.

Davidnilla:
Btw electrical engineering and civil engineering, which is more broad and profitable?

I'm trying to pick btw these two courses. I'm naturally good at electrics and drawing

U study civil engineering but i ll advised u pick electrical. Be good at both electrical and electronics because there is a market at local level

citygarden:
Have Been thinking about this, let just mentioned few countries that practice this system and see how performing they are doing in governance and development. Like Qatar, Kuwait, Saudi Arabia, Labanon, Omar,
Dubai etc. This is the system that is been designed for Africa to progress but because we love glittery things is the reason we think democrazy is Gold. Africa have been developing before the West came. Oyo empire, Borno Empire, Benin empire, and so on. The resources is their for us to develop. This is the reason our government both military and civilian relegated the King to a ceremonial post. Even the UK the bought this democrazy can not do that with their king or Queen.

Those countries don't have many tribes or cultural differences we've here.
How ll the monarchy system of government work?

Too much grammar! What are they infringement??

Bmaster:
I am buying nearly every new coin listed on binance even before they got listed.
I missed many opportunities on $ORDI,$TIA,$ACE.
I won't miss out any opportunities again this 2024

How do one learn this things?
Hope isn't like forex?

MatrixReloaded:

Tomorrow marks it 3 weeks my baby is here with the mother(39 weeks 5 days). She did 4 scans all tru her pregnancy. The latest one was my concern when we notice discomfort amd the report didn't seems well. Remember induction is a forceful way to extract a baby and very painful and most tyms as I was told the baby might be too weak to accept such procedure. You don't want to have to struggle your baby out.
CS was our option, I signed the consent form and my spouse didn't have to eat anything. In the morning around 8am she was already in the ward. After anatesia, the doctor performed the cut under her belle line to expose her gauging uterus. The rest was pulling the baby out and the head was the last to follow.
I watched it like a movie scene with courage and praying.
At the end I smiled and the mother is OK and fully recovered. I don knack her one, but na slow slow 5 days ago self..

Ogah ooo, 3 weeks u don dey knack??

Aurelius1:
My heart is heavy and sad. They say its a strength for one to ask for help, but of what good is that strength when family and friends mock and ridicle you for being a failure. My dear family ( yes nairaland is my second home and you are all my family) I take a bow. Life has done me.

Don't forget to WILL ur phone/laptop to me

Daddyyin:
The family is damaged already. We can't know the fact through the social media but judging with what's available on the social media, the ex wife messed up by involving the kids.

The son is stup*t for allowing his mother drag him into their problem

Nebestore:


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Where is ur location?

essentialone:


From most comments, you will agree that people understand who a 'typical' single mother is. Those other ones you mentioned are regarded as Widows, not really single-mothers per se.

For the sake of emphasis, write it down today: A Widow is not 'really' a Single Mother. The word Single, in this context, implies Not married, either not ever married, or once married but divorced. A Single Mother can also be a mother who is presently married, but not presently married to the biological father of the lady in discourse.

Thanks, if you understand.

Yeah, thanks for the clarification.

essentialone:
What is your experience with ladies who were raised up by single mother?

Toxic
Time Bomb
Highly Irritant and Irritable

When putting a thread like this, try to differentiate it. Is it single mothers that lost their partners due to death or single mothers that pick babies from men and refuse their children the presence of fatherhood or baby mamas.

Hmmmm, when i go lay my hands on this kind money??

Nice2023:



U are very right.

Thanks for this intelligent contribution.

Next time don't cement the entire compound, leave some for garden to keep them busy.

Peter532:
I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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I might be tempted to say we re of similar character, its happened to me but not as urs.
A very closed friend we went to his girlfriend house to formally introduce ourselves to his inlaw when they started dating.
On d process he got the lady pregnant and was compelled to marry. He informed me about the traditional rite without informing about the reason behind the marriage. I attended the traditional wedding.
I only discovered on the white wedding day that the lady is pregnant. I felt betrayed honestly.

Beremx:
This is very bad if true. Zulum has never been reported on the news as a religious bigot.
Is he learning bigotry from the former governor of Kaduna state?

Haba he shouldn't do this

An average kanuri Muslim is a bigot except some few enlighten ones. I served in Borno.

Just need half of his knowledge and am ok.
Penetration testing no b beans

Babzrockman:
We are here in Kano waiting

Make una no go turn am to religion fight ooo

Obaofaba:
Impeach that guy asap.

No time, after the impeachment, he can go to court.

I don't support illegalities but once someone feed and in live in it, there's need to ruthlessly deal with him.

Demolishing the state house is hight of lawlessness.

Passing budget by four people is treasonable.

Moving the four people to your bedroom to do your biddings is unsurpation.

Declaring vacant the seat of the majority of the house by four people is treasonable and punished by death.

Do you have a quorum to sit talk more of deliberating?

Illegalities can't be used to cure illegalities.

There's a court judgement on ground before the bought judgement at the state high court, if the judge didn't vacate the useless order, he should be recommend for sack by the NJC.

Did they show u the mace in their front??
It is the symbol of power, they lack it.

Toooh, fingers crossed 🤞