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How do you people feel involving parents about a bf/gf relationship?
Sorry about what you have bn through, but you deserve it.

Depending on the level of intimacy between you and your mom.

aisha1314:
I'm a 19 year old lady who just started her 100 level in university. On Sunday I had sex with a guy who I met last week Wednesday and asked me out.
Something in me wants to talk to my mom about my new relationship and sex life but I'm not so sure if and how I should go about this. Should I tell my mom that I've lost my virginity?

This is my WhatsApp line, 07062544543, I'll love to share from that nice experience, thanks.

ericmaestro:
I finished with a third class too but currently work for one of the best fintechs in nigeria with a good pay( though it wasn't an easy journey). There are some things I'll like to share with u that will help you get a good job..drop your whatsapp number so I can chat u

Me that I'm looking for plenty rich kids to have as friends, why will I hate rich people or their children?
Wo! Let's be friends jare.

kenzysmith:
Don't kW if any other persons is experiencing this ever since a guy whom am close to recently knew my Dad owns 3 hotels he started hating me unnecessary.
Even when I try my best to be free with him this is not d ist time is happening to me . I just have to hide my identity to people as for now on to be free with them.

Haba

ennyrah:
That looks good!

Hmmm

I'm serious ooo

Blacckkk:
Lool

You wan thief am?

I'm not going to get attracted, I'm just surprised as to how you explained the situation.

Divoc19:
Sure I am. Don't be attracted though

Hmmmm
Are an older lady?
No offence pls, I mean no harm.

Divoc19:
It's a normal feeling for guys that want to grow up fast. Older women are stress free but check that she is not jealous. Jealous one are deadly. Trust me

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You are a man.
Marriage rite is the next stage.....
Abi how can you f**k someone you don't want to marry without condoms.
Congratulations bro.

Youngerikan:
Should I accept the pregnancy, I don't won't to be termed simp if i accept the pregnancy and I'm not even sure it'd mine!

Can I take the risk?

Pls answer this.
Are you OK with the way a 35 years old man can't take decisions on his own?
Are you OK with the way he's telling his mom everything discussed by you and him?


General advice to ladies
Ladies pls be sensitive when it comes to marital issue and relationship.
Somebody ghosted you for two good years with no explanation, he came back and you accepted him, what kind of desperation or level of inferiority complex is that?
Why are you selling urself cheap bcoz u want to marry?
Do you know marriage is one of the simplest things happening everyday, so why acting as if it's some kind of big deal.
Pls rate urself high.
to the issue jare..
if you will be sincere with urself, u are enduring what you won't tolerate on a normal ground, but bcoz u want to get married and they have noticed that, that is why they are using u as a backup plan to their original plan, I will advice you to be sensitive enough to know that, they have other plans.
Since u are doing well for urself you can behave as if the marriage is not important and its not a do or die affair,just for them to know that they are not doing you any favour, as it is, they have the feelings that they are doing you a favour by wanting to marry you, so make them stop taking you for granted.
Concerning the canceled introduction, I blv you know how to call ur ppl to apologise for the mistake, and don't make the mistake of begging that guy to change his mind or begging his mom to not to cancel the introduction, don't force anything to happen by begging or persuasion

Angiewhite:
Good morning everyone ! Pls I have an issue bothering me and I haven’t slept for days, I need advice please. I’m a 30yrs old lady who is dating a guy of 35yrs old that’s the only child of his mother, his parents has separated since he was young and the mother later remarried but got divorced,the mother has been trying to have another child ever since then but she couldn’t. When we met after talking for some weeks he suddenly ghosted me for two years for no reason, no quarrel no nothing! He just stopped talking to me. Then after two years he resurfaced and started disturbing me again that he wants to settle down with me, since I had no one I was dating I accepted, he told me he had always wanted someone who he’s at least 10yrs older than so the person can respect him but since he likes me he doesn’t mind the age difference between us,I was surprised one day when after a little argument on phone over something that will actually favour him when he started yelling saying “ this is why he doesn’t like dating ladies who are 28,29,30 or 31” that they will be pressuring him for marriage that to be honest with me what he told me about dating someone he’s 10yrs Older than is not because of respect but so that by the time he’ll be ready for marriage the lady too will be ready that for example the girl his mother introduced him too is just 23yrs old and currently doing her NYSC and by the time she finish and ready for marriage he’ll be ready too” , I’m surprised at all these because I’ve never pestered him for marriage before even when he ghosted me for no reason I never asked why. I think the reason for such decision is because he once told me even up till now he’s mother who’s in her late 50’s is still trying to have a child, and that he had decided not to get married until his mother has another child because his mother will be lonely if he gets married but since time is going and his mother can’t conceive yet that’s why he has now decided to marry .
The following day he apologized, so I observed he has anger issue, he gets angry easily a lot and usually say a lot of mean and hurtful things after which he will start apologizing that he doesn’t mean any of what he said. He’s also a talkative, he talks a lot and he usually tell his mother EVERYTHING WE DISCUSS, at first I had no issue with that because since he’s the only child so I feel like he’s the only one the mother talks to, but there’s no privacy in the relationship at all! I mean even things that are meant to be between us he divulge everything to his mother.He also told me that immediately after we get married his mother is going to move in with us because she will be lonely, he didn’t say when she gets old and maybe needs someone to take care of her , he said IMMEDIATELY after our wedding meaning it’s me and his mom who will move in with him at the same time. As if that’s not enough we planned how he’s going to take me to his father to introduce me to his father and his relative , we’ve planned everything and I’ve even bought things I will take for his grandmother only for him to inform me that his mother said he shouldn’t take me there yet so he cancelled the whole thing, I was surprised but not hurt I felt his mum knows better.
But the one that happened now that has been giving me sleepless night and I’ve cried my eyes out , he called me some weeks back to inform my family that he wants to come with his people for introduction, which I did , only for him to come back again and tell me to inform them again that he’s not coming because his mother said it’s not yet time that when it’s time they will come and do it for him on his behalf, it really pained me because I’m an orphan and I had to call all my family members together I did a lot of traveling to pass his information across to them , so me now going back again to inform them sounds like I’m unserious and just messing with them and these are elderly people for God sake! I actually did that since he insisted that’s what his mother said, it really pained me and I cried and cried, he’s been telling me since then not to worry that when it’s time he’s sure according to what his mum said they will come and help him to do the introduction. Please advice me I’m tired, I really love this guy but this is getting too much, I would have said maybe his mother doesn’t want him to marry me but his mother talks to me everyday. I’m not desperate at all and I’ve already decided before I even met him that if by 35 I’m not married I will adopt and live my life since I’m doing well for myself, so It’s not like I’m desperate. Please has this happened to anyone before? I even overheard him on phone with his mother one day his mother was telling him not to over show me that he loves me that he shouldn’t love me too much I was surprised because this is same woman who talks to me everyday. Who has gone through this before or who has the slightest idea of what is happening?.

Pls help me ask if he has gotten the desired apartment, or can you link up with the discussion?

Naijaisshitho:
See what someone shared on Reddit. This guy basically plan to move to Nigeria. From what I've read online and this nairaland especially, Nigeria is a cursed country where no one can be successful. And everyone in the country is poor and can't afford to eat or cloth themselves.

All my attempts to make this guy see reason not to come to Nigeria prove abortive. And not a single person on that thread reason along with me, maybe they're all non nigeria

Christ shall reign.

abrahambest:
Hello all,

Thanks for clicking the link to this post.
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I am budgeting between 3m-4m to get a clean tokunbo and would like to hear similar experiences from people who have been in this shoe before. I am married with just a kid. All ideas are welcome and again thanks for viewing this thread.

I have where you can get the car of ur choice.

Hello everybody.
I understand that having a means of survival can be very difficult if you don't know how to go about it.
After which I lost my job a couple of months back with all efforts to secure another one proved futile, I come up with the idea of using my laptop and printer to help myself start a printing centre and small cyber cafe for survival.
I have been seeking all forms of assistance and trying to raise funds, someone gave me a printer as part of his contribution, but I have not gotten the fund required to get a shop and other equipment needed, ( the two printers' ink needs to be refilled).
Please all levels of assistance ( money, materials and advice) will be greatly appreciated as you will be making a great impact in making me have a means of survival.
Verification of my location and everything have said will be granted if there's a need for it.
If you have a school, I will gladly do all your typesetting and printing, I can also be your virtual assistant, virtual secretary etc.
Attached is a picture of what I have on the ground
Thanks and God help us all.

Ode

Pls what's the definition of attention?

Just 1 week gf, what do we say about a week marriage then.....?

What do you want us to tell you?
Pls advice urself

Ok, check ur email, I'm in ur dm

Ok12345:
Thanks

I am not oo

U are a very good woman, God bless you always, pls help this woman if there's any means, God bless you.
I understand what it means to have a very good woman, if you are broke as a man or you don't have a job, and the person next to you is a bad woman (either wife, fiancé or gf) plus the fact that you are not strong emotionally, only God knows what will happen to you, its what I'm currently going through, that's why I'm appreciating her.
Pls help her husband if you can.
Thanks and God bless.

dmdmdm:
I type this with a lot of pain in my heart. I feel sick and there's not a dime, last money was used to send our 2 year old daugher to school this morning and there's just 1 derica of rice left to eat, with nothing to prepare it, before she gets back.

Please help my hubby with a job, a driving job preferably.
He has experience driving on Uber, he's computer literate and can handle administrative functions too.

Happy birthday to you, may there be quick answers to all your prayers and quick deliveries of every of your heart desires.
Wait....
Are you married?

Ok12345:
I want to thank God for the gift of life.

Its my birthday and today also marks the day my life took a new turn...it has been ten years..

I thank God for the gift of life.

Nairalander wish me well.
Bash me small small oo my before and after picture na die


I will take it down soon tho

Fear who no fear woman

efelicity:
I opened a thread few days ago on my wife's strange behaviours and the wonderful people of nairaland had their take on it, i made use of the best advise and it worked for me.


Two days ago i decided to sit my wife down to ask her about her strange behaviours. She was like, nothing. To cut it short, i told her to feel free and it'll not bounce back negatively, she started shedding tears then she said she don't love me any more and that her behaviour was adopted to make me divorce her. She said she wanted to poison me but couldn't because i was a good person. Had it been I was abusive she would have poisoned me. She revealed to me that she was in relationship with the man who she wanted to marry for two years. I told her not to worry and that she can leave. She brought a pigeot and packed all her belongings, i paid for the pigeot services and also gave her pocket money.

We told our kids that she was travelling. I couldn't control myself when i saw my kids happily waving her goodbye.

If everybody don comot, make the last set no forget to lease the country before them comot too.

bmdondmix:
Immigration officer say dey try to attend to 10k passport weekly.

Which never happens b4 that d amount of renewal n new passport is all time high

Pls don't insult this guy, just reset how he thinks.
They won't insult you, bcoz I have made them to understand that all the mentioned red flag were not in ur mind when u were doing it raw, and they understand that anybody can forget anything.
Pẹ̀lẹ́

Crazychris:
I brought it here on nairaland last week about me and my girlfriend situation who got pregnant for me.
However, the issue on ground now she has refused to abort and I have persuaded her but she refused, she said she's scared.
This girl is my perfect taste, fvcking beautiful, nice ass and all that she's 18+ and I am very okay as a guy money couldn't be my problem. But my problem is her family I can't afford to raise a kid in that family.
Her mom is fvcking careless and wayward doesn't care, her mom is greedy, she likes guys with rides approach her daughters. i met this girl when me and my guy went to buy alcoholic drinks from her mom shop, immediately I sighted her I got attracted to her because of her calmness and beauty. Her mom was so hospitable when we were there I never thought na eyes service she dey dey do so i got captivated by that love and I collected her daughter's number. First day her mom was asking me if I was the one that parked that car there I was like ahhh what's wrong, this woman is so materialistic, I come dey feel na mom convinced her to get pregnant for me. Though I love this girl she's so young and innocent and she loves me but my problem is her family and there's no how all the daughters won't take after their mom.
Even one of her sisters has already taken after their mom as Yoruba adage says "Owu iya lōmō ngbòn". I just don't feel it's alright to raise kid in this shitty family.

Right now I'm thinking of inviting her over and force her to take pills but she has refused to visit me since cos she sense what I'm going to do.

Somebody advice me

Lesson time, let me quietly sit down.

Yes

Olamiooo:
Have you ever regret loving a particular being and what make you regret falling in love share you experiences

Pls mind your business, or is she one of ur family members or ur gf?
You can only feel concerned if she's affecting you in anyway.

kyber:
A girl just packed into my hostel
Well she is a beauty I must say, we exchange pleasantries and got talking sometime.I asked her what she does and she said she’s a student of my school,I said okay.

Here is the thing she doesn’t stay at home at night and she comes back home the next day at 6pm in the evening only to leave an hour later. When I asked she said she goes to her aunt house to sleep and also eat free food,she made mention that she couldn’t sleep in the room all alone at night.I don’t know how true that is,but when coming in the evening her mode of dressing doesn’t signify that she is a student and she doesn’t come home with books or leave with any.

I asked her one day to borrow me her pen,she said for where,she doesn’t have any,a whole student o,
She dresses recklessly .

So my Question is if she knows she won’t spend 12hours in her hostel or won’t sleep there at night but goes to her Anut place as she claims,why then did she rent the hostel?

Why doesn’t she carry books and pen to class and how does she attend lectures?

Please can any decipher the real a occupation of this girl or is she just wasting her sponsors funds?

Please I need answers

This op na learner oooo
Lol
Something wey Justina dey do for me back then, even for inside class (University days), ask me where Justina dey.

kenzysmith:
Once a relationship reaches this stage... There is no breaking up.

This post have answered some of my questions.
Thanks.

Michelle70:
Give them some break biko.
Its not always their fault.

Some tried to build something till late 20's only for the man to run away. e deh happen.

Some left school probably at 24 and build a career till late twenties, afterall if they didnt build, u will still tag them leech and how they didnt bring anything to the table.

I have read a story on NL where a married man decieved a lady to marry him, only to find out he was married on her wedding days, how could u blame her?

Please being a Nigerian is enough to torment us, do not force someone into depression with ur words, Alot of kidnapping, rituals, forceful marriage is going on cos the society has decide to force a standard down our throat

If Warren buffet had set a standard for us, everybody was suppose to be a millionaire at 29yrs.

Hmmmmm
Bestie!!!
No be all Bestie sha, but I know wetin dey happen between 99% of Bestie (s)

Bradford111:
Happy Sunday NL I have been dating this girl for a while now, she told me once that a guy she likes(crush) asked her out but she declined she even told him she doesn’t have a boyfriend yet according to what she told me I was jealous as at then but didn’t react I just found out from her that she is now friends with this same guy, like besties…
I’m just confused and heartbroken don’t know what to do even tho she tells me they are just friends


I need advice please