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She noticed the body sha and she criticized rightly but that won't stop us from enjoying that male privilege |
It is sweet to condemn domestic violence each time it comes up. At least we are standing up for the "victim". But then, she is a girlfriend and that means there is no seal on the relationship yet. Her self-esteem should be the issue here right now. If she knows being with this guy is like walking on egg shells, then it is better she left the relationship already. Being stuck with an abuser is not the right way to fight domestic or gender violence. |
He looked extremely contented. The smile on his face accentuated by his brisk movement was in sync with the calm bustle of the morning. He bounded up the steps, and followed a trail of partitioned offices. He stopped some three doors away from the stairway. He opened the door to a calm and refreshed office, already cleaned by the sanitation staff. Friday seemed a while already. Yesterday and more recently, the time he spent in church had been some of his enjoyable experiences. In such moments, he seemed free of the raging battle in his mind. He looked around the office and his eyes settled on the bookshelf. The books in the shelf seemed to transport him to a world away from freedom. This was his major weapon and also the door to his vulnerability. He had always wanted to be an academic and had met the erudite professor Frank who has provided adequate mentorship. He had made a rapid ascent up the ladder and he was certain to become a professor before he clocks fifty. He grabbed a textbook and browsed through it. The words looked interesting enough to capture his attention. He was already relaxing into its ambience when he heard a tap on the door. He looked up shortly and turned to the book. The sound was clearer the next time and he stared at the door, contemplating for a second, the best answer. “Come in,” he said. The door opened and he saw her. She was the fairest of them all. A well sculpted face, sparkling eyes and a beautiful feminine physique. The top of her blouse hung loosely revealing the cleavage of her supple breasts. He had noticed her among the students as usual but had not thought of inviting her. Unfortunately, she had come to his sanctuary. "Good morning sir," she said. “Good morning, what can I do for you?” “Sir, I have a challenge with ECN 302.” He could guess as much. Four units course was a lot for any student and it offered consistent prey for desperate lecturers. He offered her a seat. “So what is the challenge?” “I understand little each time I read the course and the few materials I have are not comprehensive,” she said. A sense of déjà vu flushed his mind. He probably should not have let the girl in judging by his past. Is it not true that the past was gone and he was a new man? So he soliloquized as he thought of an appropriate response. “Miss…” “Sophia…my name is Sophia.” “Sophia…everything you complained about is probably what you should be doing until you are able to understand the course. Also, you can get any of your mates to teach you.” “I have tried all your suggestions sir.” “So what else do you think I can do?” He thought of the implication of the words as soon as he said it. He felt overwhelmed immediately, and wished he could retract the words. He averted his gaze and once he turned to face her, she had a twinkle in her eyes. “Dr. Patrick, I can do anything for you but to read and pass.” He understood that voice. It usually did not sound that way all the time but the end was the same. A day or several days of sex with every girl who had approached him in like manner. She had done her homework and this seemed to put him in a corner. He rested on his chair. She was unrestrained, watching him earnestly. Her beauty was really enticing, probably more than any he had encountered in the past. He was thinking for too long when he remembered the admonition: flee from every form of sexual immorality. Suddenly, he felt like a prey. He, who was supposedly the predator, realized that he had been a slave to sin for too long. “Get up,” he said slowly. “Sir.” “Get out of my office,” he barked. She startled and got up hurriedly. The clatter of her phone on the floor proved a distraction. He turned to look at the phone and got attracted to the screen. “What is that?” he asked. She looked unsettled. She was visibly frightened and looked from the phone to him. She mumbled some indistinct words and bent down to pick the phone. “What is that?” he asked again. She said nothing while trying to get the phone in her hands. “Let me see it?” He felt in control and stretched his hand to have the phone. She gave the phone to him reluctantly and he touched the screen. It came on and he saw that it was on record. He looked up in alarm at her shaking figure. He stopped the record and played it. Few seconds passed before a knock on a door and he heard his voice. She had been recording their conversation. “How dare you?” he screamed. She knelt down quickly and moved her hands rapidly, pleading with tears suddenly taking residence in her eyes. He averted his eyes and went to sit on his chair. He was confused for a moment, unsure of what to do. He could easily punish her but knowing how much he had sought mercy recently, it would certainly be him playing the role of an ungrateful servant. She cried and pleaded at the same time. “Get up,” he said. “I am so sorry sir,” she pleaded. “Please, stand up.” She stood up and gathered her bag. “Sit down.” She sat slowly, his eyes watching her cowering under his gaze. It was a look of mercy rather than one inflamed with lust. “Who gave you this idea?” She bent her head and mumbled some indistinct words. “As for your request, I can only assist you when you have distinct questions. I suggest you meet up with any of your mates who understand this course and they can put you through.” “Okay sir,” she mumbled. She stood up and was about leaving. “Wait, have your phone,” she took the phone. “Do not try this with any other lecturer as you might not like the result.” She left the office. He watched her leave and suddenly he felt free like a bird in flight. He had found the right path and was prepared to fight the demons of the past just to enjoy his newly found peace. |
RedPanthar: |
I will desist from calling him a simp, rather it will be worthwhile to say that chasing someone for too long can diminish you. I hope he goes for the available ones. |
After much debate the right thing is about to be done. |
Good narrative |
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I have two movie scripts in the romance and Crime genres. Both are over 60 pages long. Romance log-line: an uncompromising lady uses her friend to keep her love interest closer Crime log-line: A professional wrongly imprisoned, comes out of prison, intent on revenging his father's death with the help of his uncle who is the main enemy. Interested, let's talk on mail, prosperous650@gmail.com or click on the number on my signature |
minicky:No |
minicky:Do you have a talent you can develop which people can pay you for? There are many skills you can start learning but to become good at any you choose, you must be determined to succeed with it. |
Integrity is a personal decision taken by an individual no matter what the "system" might dictate to that person. Thanks @op for your elaborate response. |
Double post . |
I like answering questions like this from a personal standpoint. I think love is all that matters in striking a point between who should earn more ideally. A lady who will submit will do no matter how much she earns. I hate pretense. |
Quite sad indeed. For those who are doing well already, keep on doing good. |
This is a father and daughter relationship cum marriage not to talk of him being a perfectionist. What does she think she will achieve in such a Union? |
It is a weird fact that the sooner we are born, that is the moment we are set on a journey of competition. Hundreds if not thousands of babies are born at the same time and this is not lost on elderly ones. Some go as far as praying for the new born child in these words: “May you be above your equal.” There you have it. Competition is rife especially in places where opportunities are “limited”. As people work hard to get better, they unmistakably aim at the supposed active and passive rival with ideas ranging from fair to the devious. Competition is used as a template to implement all sorts of strategies against your supposed opponent. The question many usually ask is how to get ahead of the competition. That question have as many answers as any human subject that have become commonplace over the years. The fact is that competition is here to stay hence the need to answer the question. My simple take is to learn how to compete without competing. No one sets out without a desire to win. Even if the desire is not clearly expressed, somewhere in the inner circuits of the mind, there is that desire to succeed. The business world is one place where humans play to achieve both career and material goals. This inevitably leads to competition with early entrants or predecessors. Do you compete or just play by the side? Even the lesser path you choose is not lacking a rival either. I will like to buttress my earlier antidote using football. Football, love or hate it, is one of the most competitive and watched sports in the world. France was the overwhelming favourite going into the Euro 2016 final against Portugal. France had a good team coupled with a potent attack. Portugal had a decent team but had an attack almost reliant on the brilliant Cristiano Ronaldo. The final played out as predicted. France dominated but could not score a goal and Portugal had their major attempt at scoring during the extra time. Tragedy struck when Ronaldo was forced off the field with an injury and in came Ederson who was miles away from the kind of threat posed by Ronaldo. He scored the winning goal few minutes before the end of extra time. Portugal held on to their advantage due to the strength and good organization of their defence. They eventually won the Euros. Portugal had one way to compete and that was playing to the strength of their defence while finding a way to help the attack which was their weakest link. To compete without being in 'obvious' competition is to hold your strength above your weakness. Putting your area of strength into perspective is the best way to get over your fear of losing out. On social relations, this is quite tricky as our sense of self is safer when we realize that no two persons live the same kind of life. Contentment is what should be your focus. If you are unsatisfied with where you are now, then you have to think of how to get ahead. Rather than focus on that in your neighbour’s hand, it is more pleasing if you can enlist their help in doing that which is necessary to get what you want. Celebrating your wins and being thankful for what you have is a springboard to growing in strength and abundance. |
I am tempted to write this as a reaction to some insensitive comments about pastors. Another reason is the desire to affirm the importance of Christians contributing to the welfare of the priest/shepherd. The Levites who started the line of priest-hood are a veritable example for today’s discussion. They were mandated not to work and also not to own a portion of land. They were only given a share of the land of Israel. They and their descendants were subject to a life of basic living. Unfortunately, as it is with man and his nature, some deviated from the path of righteousness. The coming of Christ only strengthened the position of the priests. Jesus was not against men working but he made winning souls the major concern for his selected disciples. The case of the Seventy is a vital example. He instructed these men to go out there, preaching the word without taking any meal or element of sustenance along. His insistence was the fact that recipients of this good news will take care of their needs. Jesus recognized the possibility that humans could circumvent his teaching, thus, he warned against falling prey to the teachings of fake priests. One of his seminal teachings was on the difference between the shepherd and the hireling. The shepherd takes care of the flock (Christian congregants) while the hireling is only concerned with how much he can get from the people. The tradition of priests living off the contribution of congregants has carried on to the present. The early missionaries depended on the benevolent offerings of the people to fund their activities and indeed, we are beneficiaries of this earlier efforts. The question right now is where have we gone wrong? It is simply in our disposition to the persons that wield the mantle of the gospel. Some persons due to the activities of “hirelings” and religious charlatans have become abhorrent to the concept of taking care of the needs of the men of God. They see their need as a luxury rather than a means to obey the command of God. For all the lack you can point to, you possibly might get the solution you seek when you tend to the needs of your pastor. If you are so blessed that you have so much to give, then do not hesitate to give to your pastor. One thing you might not take into cognizance is the fact that members or persons in need will likely approach a priest for a help than a congregant. In focusing on the luxurious living of some men of God, we have forgotten that there are men toiling in places far beyond our imagination. While it is important that you tend to your pastor, do not hesitate to help a priest outside your denomination or environment. The guidance of the Holy Spirit is all you need. Taking care of God’s servants is one of the ways to honour his lordship. |
Really funny. She seems to be paying more attention to what really don't matter. |
The potential for corruption is the biggest problem here not the number of persons. If the governor is not using this opportunity to siphon money then I hold no challenge. The idea of a big public sector is not bad especially when it generates healthy return for the people. |
So sad that the devil left to finish the act on your own. Now you are set for a lifetime in prison. |
Obviously this is a new one. An Igbo guy getting married to Yoruba is not too common. A bad shot for the tribal war here and hopefully they have a long and fulfilled marriage. |
haymekus:I participated in just one camping activity before Nysc and I can tell you that it stands as one of the best experience in my life. Being an introvert is not a prison sentence. Put your best foot forward, participate in activities and you will likely enjoy it. You can easily grow confidence in such settings as you are surrounded by mainly strangers. Lastly, if you have got good roommates, then you will have a blissful experience. Be ready to enjoy the experience without being swayed by the challenges that are bound to come your way. |
I hold this statement in high esteem, the secret will eventually be known. It is best you establish trust before a partnership rather than in the process of living together. Be honest upfront as nothing kills trust/love faster than dishonesty. |
I just finished reading the arguments of a journalist and a lawyer before happening on this news. She was right in her judgement going by the arguments of both. This is not a case of political fix but one that talks about what is right. Let us not fault due process. In other news, content writing should not be a problem. Just a message to the number in my signature will help. Thanks. |
Content that sells your goods and services is not rocket science. You have to understand the need and desire of your targeted audience to truly produce the right content. I will offer you a real life example in order to help your understanding. Why should I prefer Oral B to Close-up toothpaste? The question above is simply a guide to asking the right question about your product in relation to your competition. Oral B and Close-up are different brands in the keenly contested mouth cleansing market. Customers are forced to make a choice and sometimes this is dependent on cost and access. If you are to write a winning content for your product, you have to write one that speaks to the need of your customer. Their need is not looking to the features to help them but rather the materials contained in the products. I will use the example of Oral B and Close-up to drive my point further. Oral B promises to make your teeth strong. Close-up is always touting it's potential to give you a fresh breath. The features of both products are different but they are hardly talked about in their adverts. If you are not sure of my point, here it is. If you want to talk about your product or service, tell how it will benefit the customer. If it is necessary to talk about the features, make sure you use the benefit as an additional information. |
Durhleepee:It is a personality trait which I have struggled to overcome. I counter my thoughts each time I think of the past with happy ones. I have the challenge of writing better than I talk but I have tried to improve on this aspect by reading to myself. I guess it helps me think faster when speaking as well as writing. I hope this helps. |
MP time to calm down. You can't be trumpeting finances and not have trophies to show. Don't play with fans emotion. |
Good idea. Sometimes a surprise like this make the occasion more beautiful and glamorous and above all, a rich display of culture and tradition. |
This is more like trophy chasing and you know what happens to winners. They celebrate for a while before a new challenger comes. Stop the chase and let her decide without pressure. |
May be it's time OP advise ladies to bring their own ring along for a proposal so as to solve this problem. |