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*1. We care more for the dead than we do for the living!*

*2. We spend more to bury a person than we do to save their life.*

*3. We will not travel to go see a sick relative but will travel to bury him /her*

*4. People will rarely respect you while alive but will want to "pay their last respects" to your casket.*

*5. A person may NEVER receive roses in their entire life but they will get lots dumped on their graveyard!*

*6. We will spend a night at a neighbour's funeral and it will be our first time to see the inside of their house!*

*7. No one gives a damn to know your village until you die and they will all fill car after car to "escort" your corpse*

*8. We will take the dead to the mosque/temple/church knowing fully well they had nothing to do with worship while alive.*

*9. We might not have granite tops in our kitchens but use the granite in the graveyard!*

*10. An entire village might not have a single house with cement floors but the only place with cement will be a graveyard!*
11. We say how dear a person was to us after he died. When he is alive we do not tell him.

*It is proposed we have "Cultural Reforms". We have a culture of "hypocrisy"... a culture that is "Pro-death" and NOT "Pro-life!" We need to value life BEFORE death.

The Bible made us to understand that after death comes judgement which will decide whether one's spirit goes to heaven - a place of extraordinary beauty and peace or hell - a place of everlasting torment and horrors.
But there have been stories where neither of the above happened. For some reasons the spirits of some dead people remained with us.
Below are some stories people shared with us on a Facebook group. I will not be revealing the names of people and the Facebook group in other to protect the identity of the people.

These stories beg the question where do dead people really go?

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I lived with mum's sister from '95-98. My mom relocated to Lagos after being sacked as a non indigene in Cross River, to look for greener pastures, and since I'd just gained admission to jss1, I had to stay back and start school,

In 97 we had a guest, someone who was a family friend. I was about 13 then. He came all the way from Kaduna. He never missed anyone's birthday in our home. He slept in my room, while I slept with my aunt in her own room. Every morning I got up to prepare for school,

I would always go and tidy my room and lay the bed before leaving. I always saw ugly black ants on my bed, where the guy slept. I had never seen such ants in the house before, so it always baffled me. For 3 straight days. He left on the 3rd day. My aunt and I saw him off to the park. The bus was empty when we got there, so we sat in it with him, and gisted a bit.

When other passengers started arriving, we got off the bus, and then said our goodbyes. We walked to the exit gate of the park, and then my aunt remembered something she wanted to tell him, we both hurried back( a space of less than 45secs after we left him). But he wasn't in the bus.

We asked the passengers about him, but no one seemed to know who we were talking about. We went into the park office to ask about the guy we came with but no one seemed to know who or what we were talking about.

We left. My aunt got upset and said that if he had wanted to go see someone else, he should have told her instead of making her think he was ready to travel. The next day was Tuesday, and I had just returned from school to see my aunty home. It was unusual, I was always home before her. I noticed she had cried a lot and was still crying. She told me to sit down and narrated everything to me.

She had run into an old acquaintance who served in the nysc with her and Uncle Usen in 1991, way back in Kaduna. They got taking and she excitedly told the lady that Uncle Usen had visited us over the weekend. The woman told her it couldn't be, that Usen had died in a car crash 7 months before. There was no GSM then, so we couldn't call anyone to confirm.

By Thursday, everyone who knew about his death came surfacing as if they knew we needed confirmation. My aunt wrote a letter and sent via Nipost to the office where he worked in Kaduna, they had retained him after their service year ended in 1992. They sent a response the next week, the guy was dead, really.

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In the 1980's I think 84 or 85 I was very young then but it's an incident in can't forget ever. My young cousin , uncle Sunny who was serving in Kano came back wearing corper unifirm we were so excited and hugged him and gave us biscuits and said he was coming. My dad's office was just across the road. Few minutes later we saw uncle Sunny pacing up and down the main road and wouldn't answer our calls. He didn't say a word to us after that. Minutes later he disappeared and we thought he went to see my dad. Hours later my dad returned and we were like Papa where is uncle sunny? He asked us which uncle Sunny? We were like our cousin who lives in GRA he was here and brought us these biscuits ( showing dad the biscuits). My dad just got up and left. Minutes later he came with uncle sunny^s dad and they sat us down and asked us to repeat what we said. When we repeated the incidence, the man started crying and told us how uncle Sunny died some weeks ago in Kano during an appendix op. We were speechless.

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Yeah, it happened to my mom. She welcomed and even served food to her late brother in kano many years back. He ate and stayed while gisting with her for hours. He left and my mom said she heard a knock at d door almost immediately and it was my dad, returned from work with a letter from home that, that same brother of hers had died over 10days. She was shocked.

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Wow. I was doing my internship at FMC Gombe at the accident and emergency unit. At about 1 am on a certain day while on duty, I went into the call room to rest a bit. I locked the door and decided to sleep a bit (with the light on) but woke up suddenly about 2 hours later to see a lady fully dressed in a beautiful housa native attire and crawling towards me. I blinked to make sure I wasn't seeing things and started kabashing. She seemed startled by my reaction, turned back and vanished into the wall. I made enquiries and found out that a critical accident victim fitting that description had passed on earlier. I fell sick for about 2 weeks.

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It happened to my mum too. When she was pregnant for my younger sister. Her mum promised to come for omugwo but unfortunately the mum died before she put to bed, so they went home and did the burial. She said when she had her baby, her mum keep visiting. She said whenever she's busy washing and the baby is crying after sometime she won't hear the baby again by the time she gets inside she will meet her mum sitting on the bed carrying the baby and curdling her and as soon as she comes in she will lay down the baby and leave. She said this continue for sometime until she surmon the courage to address her mum "why did you die and leave me when you know you should help me and care for my baby? Pls go and rest and let me live my life. She said her mum left with tears dripping from her face and she never showed up again. My beloved sister too is a finster.

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Another person told me that his brother had this bestie that always spends holidays with them. The guys usually rotate whose house they spend the holidays. One particular holiday, the friend came again as usual. They were gisting and having fun. Around evening, the brother got a call that his friend has died. He said it's not true that he's at their house. They said the guy died earlier that day in an accident but the guy didn't believe. The friends family told him not to say anything that they are coming. When they got there, the friend was in the sitting room with the guy, immediately the friend heard the voices of his people, he disappeared.

So please where do dead people really go?

It is now year since Daddy left us. I miss you like mad. There are some many things we shared that I can't share with any other person. I really wish you can see me now, am becoming that man you wanted me to be and you are not here to see it. Sometimes I wonder how life would be if you were still here. They keep telling me you went to a better place but how could it be that good without us there with you. I would give anything to see you again, laugh with you, share our jokes and stories together, comment on books, discuss business ideas and more.
I know you said you will not be with us forever but you never said you will leave this early. You said we were going to be great people but you never said you will not be here to witness it. You said we should travel and see the world but you didn't say you will not come with us. Now you will not see your grandchildren that have asked us bring up just as you did with us.
You are gone from this world but not from our hearts. I miss you, we miss you but am sure mummy misses you the most.

Definitely it is new and has never been used. She looks smarter than to eat from a toilet.

Filashade:
Think we are at the last stage.

Although my man has never farted infront of me and I dnt think I am ready for that yet.

LOL, u are lucky. My babe does it in front of me steady. She even tells me first b4 doing it.

progress69:
Hey look here, I don't bloody care about you or any fool that was doing MMM. Is that clear?
Popular on NL does not add a kobo to my pocket, so u thinking. Is wacked and shallow. Cos I have been popular on NL, long before now. All this emotions will not bring back your money, so don't pour your fraustration on me. I don't bloody care about u. I only care about potential victims wicked people like u will lure in so as to get your money back. I hope that is clear?

In b/w education does not mean smart, an illiterate who had money to participate but refused is 10 times better that u educated illiterates. *Spits,

LOL, from our conversation, it is clear who is frustrated and pouring emotions. I wish I bloody give a Bleep about you. Who made you the Moses of the potential victims like you called them?

#2
The last and most important stage is the committed and comfortable stage. When you get really comfortable with your significant other you guys are definitely in love.

#3
The 4th stage is the most difficult stage to get past, the power struggle stage. If you get past the power struggle stage you have something pretty special.

#4
The 3rd stage is the stability stage, most couples don’t usually get to this stage because they usually end.

#5
This is the romance stage, this is where nothing is going wrong and everything is going as planned and everyone is very happy.

#6
This is where it all starts, the first time they start the conversation and feel that there is definitely a spark between them.

There are many different stages in every relationship, which stage are you? Here are the 5 most common stages of a relationship.

Please do share with us which stage you in.

Source: alexanderbusybrain..com

progress69:
There have been so much fuss about the MMM saga in Nigeria, with the media playing a major role.

But the actual fact is that the main MMM killer is the surge of numerous Ponzi schemes with more promising reward with lesser risk.

On my last count, i was able to identify over 10 schemes with mouth watering rewards with lesser capital.
I will not be going into details about them.

As it is well known that MMM promises just 30%, where as there are so many schemes that promises as much as 200% in less than 30days which are actually working for now.

Many if these schemes require lesser capital, with greater reward.

For instance, you have to PH as high as 1million Naira to make a minimum profit of N300,000 in 30days, but there are schemes circulating where u can make the same N300,000 with just N50,0000 in less than 30days.

This has made MMM a liability with a higher risk and less profitability, making people shift to spreading money in numerous schemes with the idea that everyone can not fail at the same time. If one fails, others are back ups.

The fact is many MMM participants are already involved in some of these schemes, and silently praying to collect back their money and quitc to a less riskier scheme in terms of capital. MMM as already proven that it is also vulnerable, so are the other schemes. The difference is one is less riskier in terms of capital than the other.

WHO THE HELL WILL PUT HUGE CAPITAL FOR LESSER PROFIT IN A SCHEME THAT HAS FAILED THEM ONCE?


Note that many of these schemes also giver referral bonuses.

I forsee a total restart of MMM Nigeria just like it was done in Zimbabwe and South Africa. But remember, old mavros were not recovered. Don't let any guider deceive you. They have made their money from you.



PS: IT IS NOT MY MONEY

EVERY PONZI SCHEME IS BOUND TO CRASH!

My brother stop acting like your care about the people involved, you are just looking for cheap publicity. You can’t going about telling people what not to do or do. Your opinion doesn't matter Fucking matter. The people involved knew the risk before taking it and you are smarter or more educated than most of them.

scobaba:
Somebody is telling you the truth u say he is hating. I dont understand o.

Like you dont believe that there are more GHers than PHers? Like you need a pastor to tell you before you believe?

In my office alone, from the people i know who did MMM and expecting to GH this january , in total they are expecting over 100million Naira. Imagine the total amount of money to GH in the whole Nigeria. How many will PH in this hard january to cover over 1billion Naira GH?

Somebody presented it to you in ratios and u say he is hating. Na wa.

And you think the people in charge of MMM don't know that before they went and also returned? ITK

teric4love:
I thought is only Igbo's that is found of this, I never knew abokis do such.. well Rip to the young lad

YOU smoke beans?

Watermelon seed is actually one of the sweetest part of the watermelon. I don't ever throw it away.

The Bermuda Triangle is just like very other place in the sea. There is really no proof that any ship or plane disappeared there. A ship that once got missing around it, was later found some years after. No demons or supernatural forces reside there.

chukxie:
How about 'Sky Burial' practiced amongst the Tibetans living in very high altitude? Because the topography is very rocky, and can't be dug to make graves, what the people there do when someone dies is carry the corpse up a sacred mountain where it's cut into bits for the bald headed vultures to feast on.

That's weird and really creepy.

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benzics:
*facepalm * is science a belief?

No, it is not. But everyone believes in something one way or another.

benzics:
Atheists have no commandments.. atheism is no religion or belief... As an atheist, you simply do what you like!

Really? So u don't believe in anything not even science?

Source: http://alexanderbusybrain..co.ke

These Ten Commandments are gotten from The God Delusion - A 2006 best-selling non-fiction book by English biologist Richard Dawkins. 

 In The God Delusion, Dawkins contends that a supernatural creator almost certainly does not exist and that belief in a personal god qualifies as a delusion , which he defines as a persistent false belief held in the face of strong contradictory evidence . 

He is sympathetic to Robert Pirsig's statement in Lila (1991) that "when one person suffers from a delusion it is called insanity. When many people suffer from a delusion it is called religion. With many examples, he explains that one does not need religion to be moral and that the roots of religion and of morality can be explained in non-religious terms.

Below are the Ten Commandments from the book, please feel free to share your thoughts on the comment box below. 


(1) Do not do to others what you would not want them to do to you.

(2) In all things, strive to cause no harm. 

(3) Treat your fellow human beings, your fellow living things, and the world in general with love, honesty, faithfulness and respect.

(4) Do not overlook evil or shrink from administering justice, but always be ready to forgive wrongdoing freely admitted and honestly regretted.

(5) Live life with a sense of joy and wonder.

(6) Always seek to be learning something new.

(7) Test all things; always check your ideas against the facts, and be ready to discard even a cherished belief if it does not conform to them.

(8 ) Never seek to censor or cut yourself off from dissent; always respect the right of others to disagree with you.

(9) Form independent opinions on the basis of your own reason and experience; do not allow yourself to be led blindly by others.

(10) Question everything.

Dawkins uses these proposed commandments to make a larger point that "it is the sort of list that any ordinary, decent person today would come up with." He then adds four more of his own devising:

* Enjoy your own sex life (so long as it damages nobody else) and leave others to enjoy theirs in private whatever their inclinations, which are none of your business.

* Do not discriminate or oppress on the basis of sex, race or (as far as possible) species.

* Do not indoctrinate your children. Teach them how to think for themselves, how to evaluate evidence, and how to disagree with you.

* Value the future on a timescale longer than your own.

Pluto16:
Then You must be fooling yourself..You don't want to be an atheist or you don't wanna accept the fact that you've discovered God doesn't exist

I have not yet arrived at a conclusion whether there is no God or not. Am looking for someone or something to help arrive at one.

Pluto16:
that was how i started my journey to atheism..after much thinking,imagination and exploration within my mind, I later turned into an atheist.....

I think am on my way there too. I need help to stop, I don't want to be an atheist.

stylochime:
Chai!! Its lyk u entered ma mind nd saw all d questns i ask in ma mind. I can lie on my bed for hours my mind just drifting nd whn am in d midst of pple conversing i cnt seem to do well i just prefer being by d side nd observin pple‘s actions nd reactns.

Mine is mostly at night before falling asleep, but currently am using it to pen down my new book. I just imagine the whole scenario, how the characters are to react n act. It is really interesting, you should try it.

Funnyguy83:
Me too. sometimes I ask myself , youngman are you ok ? Mine ranges from mysterious things , my future , how the world could be like in 10yrs , what if Jesus never came , what if there is no religion. I never knew am not alone in this threshold of life . Thanks nairalanders for making me understand who really I am . I LOVE YOU ALL !

U are not alone at all. Mine takes me to many places most times, what if reincarnation is possible? Who was I in my previous life? What if Jesus is never coming? What Christianity is not the main religion that we made to believe? How hell going to contain over 5billion pple? What if there is no life after death? What are we really going to do in heaven? Men I have to put down my pen here but believe me you are not alone.

greatgod2012:
Lest I forget, you'll be a very good writer if you see it and develop it as a talent.

YOU are so right, have a mind like that n did not put it into good use till I started writing. I play every scene in my head b4 writing it and it has been a very interesting journey.
It is a great gift OP, please do put it to gud use. See u at the top.

Odkosh:
hahahahahahaha, so you know history. Av you heard the story of the fulani man that said if not for the hard fight of the yorubas in the west, the would av entered your east. He said you ppl should be thanking yorubas for that. By the way, how far about your ppl being killed in enugu lol. Hope your governor has stopped crying lol. Sorry okay. No be by mouth and e-ranting. Tribe of keyboard warriors.

Abeg which fulani man share that nonsense story with you to appraise your ego?