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Family / Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Alexpetra: 5:24pm On May 12, 2020
MizJaY:
Sorry for the long message but this lockdown period might favour reading long msgs.

I'm the quiet type so I have never opened mouth to insult my husband during any misunderstanding. Just arguments and my voice may go up a bit trying to explain or clear myself but he will start saying im raising my voice and talking back at him and start saying all sorts of things.

Honestly sometimes I wished I could unleash the anger deep down and screammm but I always have self control. If u sit with him, he will give u a million reasons why I'm not a good wife and if u don't know me well, u will fall for it because he tells it so well. I will not say everything he says is false, but 80% is. Only those that really know me, will know he is d one that has problem. He's too difficult at times.

In an office, there's usually that one person that quarrels with everyone am I right? But I end up being d only person that dat person doesn't quarrel with cos I try as much as possible to avoid quarrels that's just d kind of person I am. Calm and quiet.

When I met my husband NYSC days, he was very close to God, organizing programs in church and handling them. That was the main reason I got close to him cos I wasnt so spiritual and needed someone to help me grow spiritually through life. He told me he was called to be a pastor and that excited me but I'm not seeing that now lol. He's spiritual life is almost zero. And back then, he had nothing, we would spend all my money even to reach his sick mother in the village I would buy all the foodstuff to send to her.

The way he talked he sounded promising that things will get better with him, but today, I still suffer, I have no savings, all my salary is on the house. He works too and earns but he's salary covers rent and the children's school fees finished. I do the rest but he doesn't appreciate the fact that I sacrifice everything I earn to feeding the house. We are family of 6. Everything provision, food, children school snack, fuel for car and gen, gas filing etc etc it's me. And that's how my whole salary will just go fiam.

if I ws getting a little appreciation I for no mind but rather I get insults o. It's my fault that
Money is finished, it's my fault that we have no savings, I don't know how to manage money, I'm hoarding my money etc etc those are d words that come out of his mouth o.

I used to be a beautiful woman but no more, I wear one shoe everyday to work, can't buy myself clothes shoes nothing I had to cut my hair to relieve myself from hair money lol. I'm stressed out thinking of where money will come for feeding when my salary gets finished before month end at times I have to beg my sister or my dad a pensioner or hussle one way or d other. I now developed high bp and today I'm living with hypertension taking drugs everyday. It was my parents that gave my husband d job he's doing today. He is not in talking terms with he's dad n siblings. Before he's mother died, things were not too good between them. My husband likes to always form man of d house and want me to apologise whenever there's a misunderstanding saying that I am d one wrong, I'm always wondering how am always the one wrong and he's not � every time.

Sometimes self I don't know what I did that mks him angry he will just start carrying face. Today makes it a week we are not talking cos he has been carrying face since 7days now, and went to post something on wassap yesterday that a woman that cannot apologise to her husband cannot stay in marriage.

My brothers and sisters if I know of anything I did that I have to apologise for yet I refused to apologise that is making him carry face, may God strike me. If u know I did anything wrong why not come to me and tell me u don't like what I did and tell me what i did rather than carry face up n down. He always does that. At times I do ask him and as usual am always d one at fault. Maybe it's cos I'm a quiet person he's taking me for mumu.

The national anthem now is that because he does not have money that's why I don't respect him the way I'm supposed to. I'm always careful with my word when gisting with him cos make I make mistake say Donald duke is d current governor of rivers state haaa problem don enter and it may spoil d sweet gisting we were having. He go almost insult me and become uninterested in gisting with me again cos i don talk mumu talk.

So how can I handle such man cos if no be say I be quiet person, I for don receive serious beating black and blue from this man cos he has done it earlier on in our marriage not serious beating sha but I had some bruises. If not that my parents are still alive and warned him. Tho he still attempts once in a blue moon I go jus arrange myself. But I'm kind of tired. I have no money cos trust me, if I had, Maybe i for don dey plan my move sef I no dey enjoy marriage life at all
youre not the talking type doesn't mean you are not the vexing type.... That anger (fire that's you're burning inside will one-day go out of hand ) you're accumulating will one day lead to something that you won't be able to explain how you got there even if you explained yourself will people believe you ...before then, PLEASE try see a Pastor or a marriage counsellor.
Politics / Re: Shekau Weeps In New Audio, Seeks Protection Against Nigerian Soldiers' Firepower by Alexpetra: 3:52pm On May 12, 2020
So with the audio file they know it [b]shekau[/b]voice??
Crime / Re: Nurse Steals Money From Dying COVID-19 Patient In US by Alexpetra: 6:37pm On May 09, 2020
kinglee007:
The topic of the post still summarizes the epistle, "a nurse stole from a dying COVID-19 patient".
It kinda reminds me of a certain group of leaders of a "country" taking advantage of the COVID-19 crisis currently taking place in their country and CASHING OUT BIG.

I guess the nurse must have a bloodlink to those leaders from that country.
nigeria leaders are the full story of what's happening ... That hospital staff is the summary.
Politics / Re: Fresh $319m Abacha Loot In Uk, France - US by Alexpetra: 4:00pm On May 07, 2020
make dem die make Nigeria fit collect her money... former minister of petroleum and even OBJ
Phones / Re: Will Lockdown Affect Prices Of Phones In Nigeria? by Alexpetra: 2:51pm On May 06, 2020
baillers123:
Well, since most phones are made in China, currently, Nigeria is on international lockdown including shipments.. This makes the available product in d market limited. Definitely, their prices will be inflated cos they r limited
it's an A B C thing
Foreign Affairs / Re: 2 Ex-US Soldiers Attempt To Assasinate Maduro, Venezuelan President by Alexpetra: 2:48pm On May 06, 2020
Bekool:


The Trump's administration must be very dumb to believe he can successfully overthrow and capture the Venezuela president with just these few men with less than 10 short guns.
maybe he use them so if the mission is accomplished he will start firing comments that the government is so weak and stupid that his 2 amazing amateur soldiers took him out
Foreign Affairs / Re: 2 Ex-US Soldiers Attempt To Assasinate Maduro, Venezuelan President by Alexpetra: 2:44pm On May 06, 2020
because it's a failed assassination, so it not from USA government...assuming it was successful na another story for dey nairaland now.
e sure me Donald Trump will even say those soldiers are not American citizens

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Politics / Re: FFK: Bill And Melinda Gates Are Satanic, Demonic by Alexpetra: 7:24pm On May 04, 2020
how we're so fast in our pointing finger, come tomorrow he will write apologizing letter to Bill& Melinda.
Pets / Re: I Caught This In Lagos: Is This A Tortoise Or Turtle? by Alexpetra: 4:10pm On May 01, 2020
ifex370:
You can train him to become a ninja too
hahahahah ...guy why
Health / Re: After Child Birth, How Long Should A Woman Stay Before Having Sex? by Alexpetra: 3:39pm On May 01, 2020
Eulalia:

Your 1st answer is ok for the questionaire to take home Ok.
Health / Re: After Child Birth, How Long Should A Woman Stay Before Having Sex? by Alexpetra: 3:35pm On May 01, 2020
Some men shaa. So you and ur partner had sex, she get belle(which you want)she carry the pregnacy for 9mnt with all sought of pains, and went to labor room (which if you no get mind you no fit stay inside) wit the pain of another humanbeing coming out frm her private part. Without the time-frame of 6mnt-1yr sef, if you love her as yursef, you go put her health into consideration in any kind of way. Na dsame men go stil say the place don wide con dey look outside if e no enjoy am again, and na you by ursef pour sand sand for ur gari.(your wife is ur everything, not a kind of material you use anyhow cus u want to kill selfishness) WISDOM IS PROFITTABLE DIRECT.

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Politics / Re: Reps Insists On Two-Month Free Electricity For Nigerians by Alexpetra: 2:31pm On May 01, 2020
Na since dem talk dis tin now, nepa no gree give us light again.dey can enforce the law, na who go force nepa to ON light now be the problem.

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Phones / Re: Phone Needed! by Alexpetra: 3:29am On Apr 30, 2020
Mgada1:
Please i need a clean fingerprint sizeable phone.My budget is 25-30k.
Techno CX AIR 28K
Education / Re: See Why You Have Not Receive Your 20k From Federal Government by Alexpetra: 4:39pm On Apr 10, 2020
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Health / Re: Boss Mustapha: I Never Knew Nigeria’s Healthcare Infrastructure Was In Bad State by Alexpetra: 3:41pm On Apr 10, 2020
His papa...how he go know? E no get sense to know now, since all this while we the people dey shout them think say na shouting device we be?. Thand God for corona virus

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Romance / Re: Reply To: Chai! Nigerian Girls In Canada Are So Lonely! by Alexpetra: 7:44pm On Apr 09, 2020
@alexpetra ..what do you want? Is it Good life or Good relationship? ...
I, I, I don't know again Sir/Mar.
I sorry for you.
Agriculture / Re: Just Killed This Animal But Don't Know It's Name. by Alexpetra: 4:22pm On Apr 07, 2020
Wake am up and ask am na...
Abi im mama dey nairaland.
Phones / Re: TECNO Camon 15 Premier (N95,000) Vs Camon 12 (N53,500) Speed Test (photos) by Alexpetra: 4:01pm On Apr 07, 2020
Wyzkyd:
Camon 12pro is da bomb
bomb wey no go blast undecided
mtk is mtk

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Crime / Re: Ilekura Samson Ajayi Is Soldier Who Killed Joseph Pessu In Warri, Delta by Alexpetra: 3:24pm On Apr 06, 2020
It I'll sound somehow but that uniform dey intoxicate some
Religion / Re: Coronavirus And 5G: Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo Addresses Conspiracy Theory (Video by Alexpetra: 3:21pm On Apr 06, 2020
Romanoff:
I just weep for the level of ignorance in this country.

Yearly we dish out graduates in thousands, millions I'll dare to say and this is what we are arguing on social media?

That 5G causes Covid 19?

So advanced countries in the world that has been using it, that's why they have Covid 19?

The 4G we have currently, person no even fit do proper WhatsApp video calls without distortions.

When countries of the world are using WebEx for meetings and newsroom reporting, our 4G can't even let us use it conveniently, we are hawking rumours of 5G causing Corona Virus.

God go help us o.
this discussion turn argument for one group wey I dey...
Try to explain things to dem , one of them con end up saying Dino melaye get sense pass me
I just laff and leave them to there ignorant
Health / Re: UK's First Coronavirus Mega Hospital With 4,000 Beds And Cubicle (Pics) by Alexpetra: 3:02pm On Mar 28, 2020
softwerk:
angry

I hate being a Nigerian this period!
am still wondering how I became one of dem
Science/Technology / Re: Things You Might Want To Know About Nuclear Weapons (Photos) by Alexpetra: 1:56pm On Mar 26, 2020
goldfish80:
Sub Sahara Africa would be largely safe from any nuclear war between Russia and USA or India vs Pakistan or North Korea vs South Korea. Africa will be the Eldorado after they nuke themselves.
what if the wrong coordinates is sent and the bomb land in Africa?
Family / Re: How Do I Tell My Parents I Have A Daughter? by Alexpetra: 3:37pm On Mar 11, 2020
Dynamic33:
I met my baby daddy three years ago. We met on my 21st birthday. I went out to the nightclub to celebrate my birthday and I met this handsome 32 years old. He couldn’t stop staring at me until he approached me and introduced himself and we exchanged numbers.

He called me the next day, we chatted for about an hour and he told me he was married. He has two kids but they now are separated. In the process of divorce but they are still living together, separate bedrooms while he is waiting for the house he is building to finish so he can move out.

I was jealous and angry at him. I told him he is lying to me, they are still together and still fucking he just want to use me then dump me but he promised me that there was nothing between him and the wife, and that they had stop having sex when she was pregnant with the second baby and the baby was now 8 months and he has proof that there was nothing between them.

We were meeting at my place and staying together until 2-3am. Sometimes he doesn’t go back until the next day and on those days that we don’t meet, we chatted on the phone until late 1-2am while he was still in the house so I was happy that there’s nothing between them.

He brought the children to me, I fell so much in love with them and will be spending the day with them and it felt great to bond with them.

Then later I got pregnant, he told me to abort it because they are in the process of divorce. If the court finds out he impregnated someone somewhere else everything will go against him. I told him not to worry I will keep it as a secret until he sorts out the divorce but he insisted that I should abort. I didn’t like it. We had a misunderstanding. In anger I hit him with my heels shoes and injured him on the forehead. He was bleeding but he didn’t fight me back. He just left and I was very sorry. I kept begging him, asking for forgiveness, he kept ignoring me and for three months we didn’t contact each other because he was still mad at me.

Then few months later, he called and asked to meet me and I begged him for forgiveness for everything I did to him and I accepted to abort the pregnancy. I was already 5 months gone and two days before the abortion he came to my house and told me that while we’re on the break, he was stressed and started drinking and mistakenly had sex with his wife and she is also pregnant. He said that she lured him to have sex to stop the divorce process but he do not care about it. He will go ahead with the divorce because he still loves me and wants to be with me and he pleaded with me to do the abortion for him so he could win the divorce and custody of his children. I was very angry that I threw a plastic chair on him and asked him to leave my house and to never come back that it was over between us. I deleted and blocked his numbers and removed all his pictures on my phone. He was begging my friends to tell me to forgive him but I rejected him and I now have my beautiful daughter, my joy, my everything.

But the only problem I have, my parents sent me abroad to study, I dropped out three years ago and they don’t know I'm not longer in school and that I now have a child because they keep sending me money every month thinking I’m still in school. When I’m not so on December I did traveled back home to my parents and I left my daughter with a friend for 2 whole weeks. I couldn’t sleep or eat and my parents said Now that I’m in my final year after finishing it, they want me to come back home for good by July and where will I leave my child ? I don’t know how to tell my parents about my child? And also that I left school three years ago my dad is very strict and am scared.

Please I’m very sorry for the long post and advice me on how to tell them please?
the baby is the certificate you present to them.

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