₦airaland Forum

INTROVERT:
No hope for 2.2


Lwkmd


Even the first class self no be all go enter....



Police nko.. Still on hold.



Only God can help drive flies from the body of a cow that has no tail.

hope dey for third class even in as much as he get person for Connecticut lol.

clevadani:
Nice
Why's there none in the core North? Seems they do not care about their illiteracy problem.

saying far north would have been better placed. Kwara is North central.

*MARIAGE FALLACY*
--- by Tola Adeniyi
If we Christians keep insisting on this fallacy called One-man/One-wife, too many ladies will end up sleeping with different married men secretly while trying to make money and waiting for their own husband. Too many ladies will remain in their parents house till their 30s and some will live alone till their 40s. Most women who lose their husbands in their 40s and 50s will never find another man to marry them legitimately, they will end up sleeping around with different men.
GET IT RIGHT: Men and women are not equal and God never made us to be equal. Lets stop adopting all these American law that force Christian men to marry only one wife, while leaving several Christian ladies without husband, leading to many of them doing "bad things" in secret.
Sincerely, I was at a Church Service recently for Widows and a Pastor who wanted to give food items to the over 100 widows said: "Any woman in this service who can boldly say she has not opened her legs for any man since her husband died should come out to the front". Sadly, the number of women, in their 40s and 50s, who came out were less than 20.
That is the reality that we Christians are hiding from. Full details below...
Read this very interesting piece by Tola Adeniyi: THE AGONY OF MONOGAMY
It was at the church service for the 90th birthday of the legendary matriarch of the Awo dynasty Chief Dr Hannah Dideolu Awolowo in Ikenne that the thoughts that prompted this article began. Some well known highly placed gentlemen and their wives were called upon to partake in the wine sipping, bread breaking ritual called Holy Communion. As soon as these respectable ladies and gentlemen, all of them past age 70, and amongst whom were renowned professors, high court judges, legal luminaries and business moguls, finished their spiritual blessing and were returning to their seats, they caught a pitiable sight in their over-flowing garb of hypocrisy.
They wore forlorn mien plastered with furrowed frowned faces like some one afflicted with putrid smell of heavy dose of fart. They looked as if they were mourning a three-year-old boy mistakenly killed by his own father, or the passing of a poor woman who has just succumbed to excruciatingly painful cancer.
They clung to their wives as if they were newly wedded. I temporarily forgot that I was in a holy church, the spiritual enclave of Christians. I almost laughed my head off because I knew each of the ‘holy’ ‘monogamous’ men intimately and by Jove, I knew of their second, third or fourth wives/liaisons/mistresses with whom they had sired several children. To the whole world they were champions of monogamy, but to their hearts and conscience they were celebrated polygamists, or at best, serial monogamists. Pshaw!
I saw pain written all over them, the agony of living a lie, the unease of hypocrisy, and the shame of going through life pretending to be what you are not.
This is the sort of agony a lot of the so-called monogamists go through all their lives. The series of lies they sell to their wives, and the double life they present to their pastors and church leaders, most of whom are actually equally guilty of hypocrisy and double life living.
This piece is not set out to condemn or criticise monogamy. Monogamy is perfect for those who believe in its concept and can genuinely keep to it. I too have been married to one lovely woman for almost 45 years and it has been like a marriage made in heaven. I happen also to be the promoter along with some friends the 35-year-old Family Club of Nigeria which is dedicated to the upliftment and celebration of marriage and family values.
The article is designed to expose the hypocrisy and pain associated with embracing false notions which are really not observed by any culture in the world, and to advise those who erroneously sentence themselves to a life of sadness and emptiness because they were deceived to believe that there is some utopia somewhere called monogamy.
I am very much aware that this article will generate a lot of controversy most especially from those who live holier-than-thou life and have continued to deceive the world that they are upholders of a doctrine that is not supported by true and enlightened interpretation of any religious doctrine.
The White Men, I am yet to see any human being whose skin colour is white like that of chalk, came and told the unfortunate lands they invaded that the cherished cultures, traditions and religions of such lands were rubbish, and instead indoctrinated them with values which they themselves never believed in or truly practiced. We know of King Henry Vlll, and several major historical figures in ‘Christian’ Europe who had more than one wife in addition of a string of wives who their ‘laws’ forbade them to address as wives but who nonetheless perform all the functions of wife minus name.
God bless President Mitterrand who openly confessed to having two women in his life, with the one in the other house with whom he fathered an 18-year-old daughter at the time he passed on.
I have schooled, worked and lived virtually in all the continents of the world and I make bold to say with all emphasis at my disposal that no culture on planet earth truly practices monogamy. My Greek, Italian, Russian, British, American and other Caucasians routinely visit their other wives [called by other names] with whom they have children. But back in the homes shared with the one carrying the ring, they are monogamists!
If God had wanted humanity to be monogamous, He or She would not have made the pigeon the only monogamous creature.
The cultures that practice polygamy had always known that at any given time, the number of available marriageable women far out number available men plus the fact that an 80-year-old man, if he has money, is still very much in the market whereas a 60-year-old woman may not be that lucky. The biological limitation to a woman’s productive age is also a factor. Why should a woman therefore remain on the shelf till age 45 when she could jolly well get married as second wife to a man who can afford to share life’s responsibilities with her? Why should a woman leave a man with whom she is No 1, simply because took a second wife and end up being numberless in the hands of several men with whom she naturally shares bed just because of some doctrine she hardly understands?
All the women who should go and marry but are saying they do not want to share their man with another woman in a polygamous setting, are sharing current boyfriends with several other women. Where is the logic?
The argument that children in a polygamous house are always at each other’s throat does not hold water. Many siblings of monogamous families are known to have had worse and irresolvable, irreconcilable squabble, with dirty bitterness over inheritance than children from different mothers.
The agony suffered by both men and women in the hand of unnatural laws and doctrines is too stifling for comfort. In 2002, 502 Reverend mothers were reported to have died while procuring abortion in Rome. Nigerian Tribune wrote an editorial on the unfortunate incident. And stories of Reverend fathers having children and sodomising young men in their care are legion! Why the hypocrisy?
Why should the world continue to live the life of Ostrich?
A well known Nigerian journalist hid his other wives from his wife because his religion would not permit of it and his wife, living in monogamy should not hear of it. At his funeral service, other wives surfaced and the woman parading the ring collapsed. It was the grace of God that prevented double interment that day!
The Western world which had not learnt the art of living amicably with more than one partner under the same roof has indulged in multiple serial marriages, divorcing innocent wives under flimsy excuses so that another woman can move in should not be measure of standard for the world. Thank God Hillary Clinton in the US and Mrs Cook in England were very much wiser. They refused to allow "some indiscretion" on the part of their husbands to ruin their marriages.
There was a well known American actor who passed on about a decade ago and all his 11 ex-wives with their numerous children attended his funeral. To ridicule the lie of their hypocritical existence, all the women were recognised and addressed as wives. As far as records show, the man had 11 wives!
Society, especially we Nigerians just like Kenyans and others have done, must start to rethink this issue of pretentious monogamy vis-à-vis polygamy so that in the not-too-distant future we do not end up with millions of unmarried women whose life style would be worse than prostitutes’ and millions of children whose fathers would be nowhere to be found.

emdeesodiq:
is there any whatsapp group I can join to get information on nysc and meet ppl, 08183818899 should in case it exist.

sorry no call me over sabi. But should in case is a tautology. So its better u use should it exist or in case it exist, but not both.

Welcome

Well placed priorities girl. You want equality you achieve equality. Dont expect only men to pay your bills.

Sodiq3:
Rivers, Lag or Kano...

good. All the best bro

Where will you keep your $100m
A. First bank
B. Gtb
C. Eco bank
D. Manchester united midfield

Okay. But what do we actually learn from such topics? . How they make FrontPage self I no know.

Coolboi05:
It was super ok...
How was yours??
May the Almighty continue to help us all

It was a fly!!! Ameen.

Coolboi05:
Aliyu hw far with results??
Ours was out since tuesday oh

yeah I know you smashed it? Ours was released on Wednesday

Deejah123:
Something like that. I saw a bulleting on that before I left school. But, no specific date was given. So, which state do you intend to serve?

Am going for katsina, Gombe, Ogun, and dunno of the far south yet. What about you? Tho I prefer katsina.

Jamez122:
Update nysc camp feb or march? .... A17 mobiliazation december or january,feb sure

whot does the above mean? Sorry

Sodiq3:
Ha! Aliyu! Congrats too bro. It has been a tough ride. Its not easy. We hope for a better future.

Insha Allah!!! Heared there will be convo, how true?

Only upcoming rappers will react like that.

So? I know blame the op, na etisalat I blame for giving me free mb.

Because it is south no one is blaming Islam. Now everyone sees the fault in the people and not the religion.

JBoss25:
Abu is a very daft school, when will they release our admission list

guy its not how far but how well. If dem like make dem reach December( which aint possible), make ur name dey there na im be the koko.

Sodiq3:
ABU, ZARIA.

Mass Comm.

2016.

Rivers, Ogun.

started from the bottom now we are here. Congratx bro

Coolboi05:
Not yet o..but we are expecting it any moment from now
how about yours?

not yet but will not exceed this week.

Coolboi05:
Fellow ABUSITE I sight you oh
Hassyno
Computer science
2016

great brother. Is you guyx's result out yet? I heared most are out considering the proposed convocation.

Heared there is a proposed convocation for the recent graduates. How true is that please?

Ali
ABU, Zaria.
Accounting
2016
Katsina, Gombe , Ogun and Dunno

Please must all first-class serve in universities?? Knew of someone who had same but wouldn't want to.

YorubasAreStupid:
which modality is Abu using to admit her candidates. Is it only jamb or waec grading?

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