MrBrownJay1:


you make absolutely no damn sense.... 1st and foremost, religion has absolutely NOTHING to do with the school teachings. anyone regardless of their religion can attend the school, thus my asking why should a hijab wearig person be a problem?
furthermore, since all y'all wanna bring religion to this issue, may i ask you to show me where in your holybook does it say that teaching a person with hijab is forbidden.

you people are so hellbent on bringing division in this world that you are ready to make BS ignorant laws to create chaos!

Magnoliaa:


Okay. Take it up with the Op. Or yeah, whatever works for her. How did that enter my mention?

Magnoliaa:

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More or less. But then everyone's an hypocrite and like to pick the part of things that favours them, so she can be traditional and whatever else all she wants.

Don't say it like it's some indictment. It's y'all wishes.

Magnoliaa:



The lady is saying she's a traditional woman and a man is the provider and she's a multiplier of whatever you bring, someone that runs the home. Why exactly are you people disagreeing with her?? You're not the heads no more?

22o62021:


The said guy has been coming to pick her up even in my presence

I never had issues with that but she made me miss all my activities of the day because she asked me to stay back and turned to leave me and go out with the guy

Na my anger be that

See finish

derecho:
Fine is subjective friend.BTW we aren't talking about things working out fine, we are talking about deliberately training a child to live right.
Why people smoke/steal isn't within the discuss.

Except you are trying to suggest that proper home training is useless and it is the child who decidescwhat he likes.

derecho:


I don't know how versed you are with scriptures. But let me assume you know the scriptures fairly well.Ever read of kings serving God but "not with a perfect heart"?
The peter you mentioned, what happened to him when he repented?

Change is normal but could mean improvements too.
Humans are naturally inclined to evil but a good trainer with God's help prunes those inclinations.

I asked why is it that everyone doesn't choose to change negatively? Why ?
A person who fully understands the danger of going the wrong way, will never try it.
For people to change negatively, something went wrong somewhere. That's why I obliged you less than 20% (for those who choose to become tearaway) and a possibility of over 90% for people that were properly trained.

If training your child doesn't yeild good behavior/character why waste time?

derecho:

You seem to mix issues.
So someone just wants to eat shit because he wants to eat shit? Funny u

Every man is prone to immorality but some are know/understand the consequence better than others.Where they weak, they ask for grace and flee but the foolish one rages on and is destroyed.
Let me ask you,
If you are sure you'll die if you entered a car, will you enter it?
Many of us misbehave because we believe there's a second chance.
It's our level of understanding and knowledge that's shown when we are tested.

The smoker ting don't believe what's written on those packs.

Do you remember the days of Ebola or what's the name of that pandemic that the Liberian brought into Nigeria?
How many Nigerians played with it like COVID-19?
Nigerians don't fear COVID-19 because they are not convinced. That's what happens when the training you gave ur ward is not believable. If you as a parent are lying or having extramarital affairs, why would ur ward believe you?
There's what gives authority to you as a parent-Leading by example

A sinner that is sinning, still does so because he hasn't tasted of the grace that empowers him to say NO to sin.
Some of those sins may be an avoidable addiction

derecho:


There are somethings you've not grasped.
For you to think every pastor/priest is convinced speaks volume.
One thing is clear, that verse is inerrant. If you want to know what it means to be convinced, read and digest what Paul meant by "I am fully persuaded... That nothing can separate me from the love of Christ"
You should have asked yourself why others are not yielding.
Like I said, understanding matters.

If you studied your Bible, you'll know that many not accepting Jesus then was foretold.
Finally, if you train your child well, he'll turn out right..

derecho:


You raised many questions but they shouldn't be difficult if you are a Christian.
Let me start this way,
Why is your child not the one influencing his peers?
I believe you know the answer about moral training now and in the past.No need to waste time on that.

Singing in the church means nothing. There are people who sing in the church who will never veer into secular music BECAUSE they know what they are doing.By the way, going to church or working in church doesn't make you a Christian.

Those turning Yahoo boys were not convinced it was bad, they only parroted it until the true test came.If you are convinced that killing humans for rituals is evil, for example, you'll not want to do it even if everyone is doing it.You'd rather opt for an alternative.

Same thing with right teachings. It's about conviction. It's just like saying, I'll now come and say there's no God because of some unfavorable circumstance.Some things are settled from experience not because someone told you.
Training helps you experience things.For example, I am more likely to believe prayers are useless if I HV never seen God intervene when I pray.If all I know is someone forcing me to pray, why won't I abandon prayers when I don't have a relationship with God.

derecho:
I find it difficult to sift ur response. Every thing is within the quote.

derecho:
I find it difficult to sift ur response. Every thing is within the quote.

derecho:
I'm not digressing o...by the way what do you mean by the bolded?That that scripture is outdated?
The issue,friend, is what training entails for a child. Just like saying, if a good teacher teaches a child, he won't assimilate and that he/she would deliberately go and fail. The child would most likely fail if he/she wasn't taught or didn't understand.
Sure there'll be temptations but a proper training makes many of them a non-issue.For example, there are kids who will NEVER deliberately become armed robbers or hired killers. There is a reason it's easier to find terrorists amongst people trained in a certain way.
Many of us would have been cultists if not that we were shown the Truth early and we received grace too.
Evil communication corrupts good manners...and He that walks with the wise will be wise.

Lest I forget, sending you to the right schools, raising you in the right neighborhood,parents living by example,choice of the place of worship etc would greatly influence a child.

The stats is commonsensical na.

In the past, most Nigerians were honest.Was it because they were not capable of stealing or corrupt practices? No....but because it was a norm.A good name meant so much then.Parents instilled those values-Not a church ting.
Everything changed when making money took the place of spending quality time with family and leaving your children to be trained by people who care less about your kids...

Show me a trained child, who is a good ethical hacker who wants to be a yahoo boy?
Something would need to happen to his psyche for him to condescend.People want to be better.If the parents have been able to show their ward a more excellent way, THEY'D NOT DEPART FROM IT for a useless ignoble way of life.

No one said it's rocket science. That's why I reminded you that parents are caretakers and must get the map for each child. I also mentioned the spiritual side.



Summary,
A child who knows the difference between jollof beans and fresh faeces would NEVER opt for the latter.
As parents we need divine wisdom to train our children. We just can't give what we don't have.

derecho:
I'm not digressing o...by the way what do you mean by the bolded?That that scripture is outdated?
The issue,friend, is what training entails for a child. Just like saying, if a good teacher teaches a child, he won't assimilate and that he/she would deliberately go and fail. The child would most likely fail if he/she wasn't taught or didn't understand.
Sure there'll be temptations but a proper training makes many of them a non-issue.For example, there are kids who will NEVER deliberately become armed robbers or hired killers. There is a reason it's easier to find terrorists amongst people trained in a certain way.
Many of us would have been cultists if not that we were shown the Truth early and we received grace too.
Evil communication corrupts good manners...and He that walks with the wise will be wise.

Lest I forget, sending you to the right schools, raising you in the right neighborhood,parents living by example,choice of the place of worship etc would greatly influence a child.

The stats is commonsensical na.

In the past, most Nigerians were honest.Was it because they were not capable of stealing or corrupt practices? No....but because it was a norm.A good name meant so much then.Parents instilled those values-Not a church ting.
Everything changed when making money took the place of spending quality time with family and leaving your children to be trained by people who care less about your kids...

Show me a trained child, who is a good ethical hacker who wants to be a yahoo boy?
Something would need to happen to his psyche to condescend.

Summary,
A child who knows the difference between jollof beans and fresh faeces would NEVER opt for the latter.
As parents we need divine wisdom to train our children. We just can't give what we don't have.



oh my God are you serious
So you’ve never heard of peer pressure or influence?
So you’re saying that nobody doing yahoo Now was ever good?
So everyone who steals now was always bad?
Well, let me give you an instance, a lot of our popular musicians started singing in the church. (Ie, it is Considered a good character) Along the line they started doing secular music
Do you have an answer to that?

You said in the past “most Nigerians were honest” , No doubts
Everything i have said so far is centered on the present society, i base what i say on the current situation not the past...
You talked about the yahoo boy thing,
It still brings you back to everything I’ve said earlier, you can train a child all you want, at the end of the day, the child might decide to dumb all your teachings and training...

You said in the past people were honest
Well i have a quick question, why do you think people are no longer that honest?

is it that parents no longer train their children in the right part? They answer is they do, but the society is not what it used to be true or false.

People have drifted from good teachings
We have priests who rape church members
We have ministers who use church members for rituals
Some of these people started out with the right training and teachings
True or false
It’s a no brainer... the answer is true.

derecho:
The bolded is the most important.
"Foolishness abounds in the heart of a child but the rod of correction will drive it out"

Never underestimate the power of good/proper parenting.

Finally, and most importantly,The God factor is key because parents are caretakers but the children are God's and He can inspire them to eschew waywardness.


Everything you said still came back to the Grace of God i talked about.

derecho:
Note the bolded.
Besides, if you leave 100 children without training, you can't get up to 20 children who will turn out right.
Whereas if 100 children are properly trained, you'll get about 90 who will turn out right.
The idea is train/mould up a child IN THE WAY you want him/her to go.Training entails alot, friend.
The spiritual slant is to arrest the unforeseen.

derecho:
God's word is forever settled, friend.
Can you compare a child trained and one left to himself/herself?
Every child is unique and for you to train him/her, you must understand that child. Most parents are blind spiritually and don't know more than feeding, flogging and school fees.
Imagine having a parent who will tell you what you are about to do, and what will befall you if you try it.
Nobody will tell you to adjust if you experience those things.
Children will respect those who know more than them.

derecho:
God's word is forever settled, friend.
Can you compare a child trained and one left to himself/herself?
Every child is unique and for you to train him/her, you must understand that child. Most parents are blind spiritually and don't know more than feeding, flogging and school fees.
Imagine having a parent who will tell you what you are about to do, and what will befall you if you try it.
Nobody will tell you to adjust if you experience those things.
Children will respect those who know more than them.

BadEnglish:
Proverb 22:6 comes to mind,

Train up a child in the way he/she should go: and when he/she is old, he/she will not depart from it

oyatz:



How people live or their destinies is their own cup of tea.



Certain problems in this country will not disappear irrespective of whoever becomes the president.

uncleck:

We take calculated risk. It is better to learn from experience than out of experience. Like I said, keke business doesn't worth it. Why invest 1milion naira in a business that has no growth prospect while there are many better alternative and better business you can do with a prospect of growth?

Y'all can go ahead and do whatever business that suits you; but I'm advising everyone, based on experience, that there's no road here. Only do keke business just to keep yourself busy, maybe in the meantime, but NEVER do it as a long term business

Advocate500:
i don't think she have a choice at this point, because she have started begging for the cost of framing it,which is 7k,at this point i don't think mrs attention seeker is interested again, all she care about is how to post the story on social media. If the girl told 120k is based on how she valued you ,which personally i think it was wrong. But i am seriously feeling for the young girl for the extra cost she must have incurred while doing it.

ariesbull:


But she told her to frame it

chronique:



She did not contract the girl to do an artwork for her. She only wanted to encourage the girl. The girl wasn't suppose to bill her. At best, she could have just said "I won't mind anything you can give to support me". That artwork right there isn't worth 120k to be honest.

Advocate500:
Madam forget talk and tell her how much you will buy it abeg,you guy's just love to chase clout. The young girl actually put in some resources into it,maybe she wouldn't have told you price since she is hoping you will do her a favour, all the same pay her whatever u can and forget social media .

ariesbull:
if it is a gift then you don't need to ask to be given anything...


The artist has the right to put a price tag on her work please

EkehPraise:
Top of the morning dear Nairalanders..

I think I have found the girl of my dreams and she ticks all the boxes for me except that she has said our relationship should be a no sex relationship till marriage because we intend to settle down this year by God's grace.
So please if you have been in a no sex relationship kindly share tips on how to preserve it and be steadfast till we tie the knots.
Thank you.

I really need good advice because I want this to be my Bus-Stop.

mariovito:
Liar liar, cassock's on fire.

Most of these people are Machiavellian, they don't play by the same rules of morality and accountability as the rest of us "lesser mortals".

Reason they have no qualms prevaricating, recanting, lying.