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nazablossom:
Why a man will train a girl he is not married to beats me. You don't have relatives that need help or what? Serves you right.

my dear.
Love as they say is blind.
So it's happening

She will cry whenever she will be sharpening a pencil

I smell attention seeking lies

delugajackson:
And what makes you think I will ever get married to an educationally disadvantaged lady?

If you love her, why not.
You marry her and help her to acquire more education.
Many ladies are being trained by their husbands in university

zicoraads:
Personally, I'm not sure I can even enter into any serious relationship with any lady now if she's not working as well. That liability thing is what I don't want at this stage of my life as well. You must be able to afford your basic needs at least. Train a lady in the university with the hope of marrying her? Not in this life time. Or even the next one.

some guys who do that also talked like you.
When a man is madly in love, you can't hold him

Where went nwamaikpe?

omochelsea004:
Hmmm... i am full of regret till date, but why is it that it is during NYSC mostly that they use to bring up attitude?

Do you expect her to bring up an attitude while in 3rd year?
When mugu Don fall, why do you expect not to play her wing well.
But all the same, it's bad

KadunaMafia:
Seriously I've never been wired to buy cream and drop money for hair for any girl.

I love independent ladies that we see ourselves in a light where we can take healthy decisions and compliment one another.


I have this lady friend that I sent money to because of a need that came up and after that I had to call up my mum to check her phone because I credited her account with same amount.


Maybe I'm weird

Financial independence for the both partners in a relationship is a goal.
Nobody loves a mosquito

delugajackson:
Only a foolish man would use his hard earned money to sponsor a girl through school.

Who the hell does that these days when the chances of her sticking with you in the future is slim! I'd rather use that money on a profitable business with a very high return on investment. I can't be doing the job of your parents all in the name of love.

What about marrying her first, then train her after the marriage?

donstan18:
I can't train any lady in school with the hope of marrying her, I don't wish to date an illiterate, I just don't want liability, not from any lady.


But if I find what I want from a woman in an illiterate, I'll kindly marry her and get her pregnant before sending her to school.

You want assurance

KadunaMafia:
I have sworn not to date a student or an unemployed lady. Can't waste resources and emotions in this Buhari era.

This one weak me

FRANNN:
Hmm.. I guess it depends

depend on something like?

donstan18:

teewhydope:
lol

whats funny

July is rounding up, August is around the corner.
May favour locate you in the new month to come
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I am going to be brief about this issue.
It's about those guys that love to complain bitterly about how they trained a lady in a higher institution with hope of marrying her after she graduates, only for the lady to graduate and dump him.
I have witnessed one, the guy a wealthy trader brought the girl from the village somewhere in the east,
Trained her in Uniabuja, she did a four years course, graduated and served in Oyo state, while in Nysc, she started giving the young man attitude in terms of communication,
When the surprised guy pressed hard to inquire About what the problem is from his "future wife "
The girl told him plain and pure that he should get another girl and marry, that if she get a job in the future, she may repay him all that he spent on her.
The downcasted young man attempted suicide by mixing rat poison in his food, it was unbearable for him,
All his profits he spent on this girl,
His friends warned him, his sister was not in support yet being a guy madly in love, how can you think he will listen to you.
Luckily he was revived at a hospital after a young cousin alerted his neighbors who rushed in and saw how life is trying to snuff out of him, they rushed him to the hospital for medical help.
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I felt so sorry for him .
Inasmuch as the girl was mean by playing with the young man emotion all along.
I strongly blame the young man for being stupid.
Had it been that he married the girl and then start training her, that's fine, many men do it.
But he placed his hope on that after training her, the girl will accept to marry him,
He took a risk but it backfired.
Had it been that he wanted to train her just for kindness sake and don't have any marriage objectives in mind, that would be understandable.
Both of them share in the blame.
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As a guy, Can you train a girl in higher institution with hope of marrying her after she graduates?
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As a girl, if a guy you don't have affection for offers to train you in the University, will you pretend to love him?
After graduating, if he proposes ,will you accept?

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Let's discuss

Must you make mockery of him?
Even if he made a mistake, so what?
At least he is communicating and he is very excited that his brother did well in school

Hahahaha this got me laughing so hard

That's how some of them will turn themselves Into sexx toy for guys due to desperation
Sweetheart never be desperate for any man .
The right guy for you will come .
Cheers

Kaduna that has no major water body has a refinery and now a dry port.
But Onitsha that has a major water body River Niger that connects it with Delta state don't deserve any port.
It's alright.
He that holds a man down holds himself - CHINUA ACHEBE

I have no problem with any Igbo who decides to join Islam,
There should be freedom of religion and worship.

TonyeBarcanista:
Everybody have their definition of success and to each his/her priority.

Some ladies (actually most) desire a man to be considered successful irrespective of other professional or life achievement.

Is it not funny that you, Amarabee, the author of this thread is married?

Funny enough, you pride yourself as "Wife" in your first introduction of yourself before anything else (check your signature). What makes you different from the Dr (Mrs) Medical doctors?

I put it to you that you are misguided, confused and you don't know your ideology.


I wonder your reason for these misguided topics (not that it concerns me anyway). I doubt you would take this path if you are really happy in your marriage, I doubt.

God save the young ladies that will fall to the scams of deluded group of people that called themselves feminists.


That said, you are still my sister

Did you really take time to go through the thread or did you just read the "click bait headline" and then zoom in to write this comment
Well let me give you a brief summary .
This thread focuses mainly on the shaming of single ladies due to marital status.
Focus on it and leave the DR Mrs part.(in fact let me remove it because you guys are obsessed with that part )
I chipped in that just to give an example .
Finally having a diverse opinion and postulation towards a concept does not translate to being confused

BluntBoy:
You are confused (not just unintelligent), hence your disjointed post.

Read an excerpt from your own worthless post:

Answering MRS is not the greatest achievement for a woman.

What is your problem if someone sees MRS as her greatest achievement? How is it your business? It is fine if it is not your own greatest achievement but that does not give you the right or authority to belittle or begrudge anyone who sees it differently.

Here is a part of the first excerpt which exposed your intolerance for other people's choices:

Answering MRS is not the greatest achievement for a woman. GET IT INTO YOUR THICK SKULL

Now, call me unintelligent again, I dare you!!!

I was talking to those who shame single ladies that answering MRS is not the ultimate achievement for a woman and also to single ladies who are feeling bad about themselves due to the shaming.
Go through the thread and read slowly.
It's like some of you trolls self-service off at my threads upon sighting it.
fix yourself and don't expect another reply from me.
Have a nice day .

BluntBoy:
I hope you learnt from her post? Your post is worthless because it didn't consider choice. You don't have to begrudge a woman for seeing her marriage as her greatest achievement.

Is the thread talking about women who see their marriage as highest achievement or is it talking about shaming single ladies?
At least pls pretend to be intelligent for once

pocohantas:
I think that headline wasn't intended to cause harm.
It is assumed that women have a harder time, combining motherhood and career...hence the tag 'working mum'. Heck! Some women even pride in it. That headline was more of sensational than belittling.

As for the woman that introduced herself as Mrs, that's choice. Marriage is beautiful to the right person,at the right time. If she is so proud of it, why expect her to shrink and trivialise her marital status or the fulfilment she derives from it? She doesn't have to do that to satisfy anyone's insecurity. As long as, she doesn't get in your own lane, everyone can coexist peacefully.

I only have a problem with people who shame, bully, stigmatise and pressurise people due to their marital status. Most girls that dive into marriage immediately after school are not so pro-marriage, it is just an easy way out of unemployment and brokeness for them. But since it works for both parties, the man gets a dependent submissive wife ad she gets a provider...we can only wish them the best.

Summary of my rant is, everyone is entitled to what they are so proud of. Don't tell me single ladies are frustrated, don't tell me most married women are unhappy. Live and let live.

God bless you.
Happy weekend

Hector09:
I wish i can hug the op the way people are obses abt marriage ehh, sometimes i dont understand people again cus of the way they looked down on matured single ladies, its our mentality here in Nigeria cus for me i dont see anything special abt marriage apart frm having kids, thanks sweety for this u reason like me

I pray more men will be thinking like you.
You are welcome

oloyede252:
dear men...

its called "click bait " in journalism.
When you read the content, you will see that I talked to the both gender

oloyede252:
is she not a mother of 5. the newspaper editors wrote that headline to give it more sensation and it proved effective to the agency

So why don't they apply the same policy to men.
All the male presidential aspirants apart from buhari, how many of their kids do you know that they have

Arthurwinner:
dis gal try and focus on ur gp so u can gt a beta life for ur self , stp coming hia to disturb us.

which gp?

ednut1:
The nigerian society is really lame and silly. Single ladies are being made to look like failures and incomplete being. From peers,church,events,parents,work etc are being reminded about marriage. Smh.

I tells you.
It's sad.

queenbetsy:
...waiting for them to come and shout "feminist!"



Meanwhile, its good to be back on nairaland after soooooooooooooooooooo long!


Only to see what you don't expect on the front page. It saddens my heart!

A feminist to them is that woman that does not lick their azz and kneel down to adore them.
And also accept being an inferior gender
Welcome back dear