₦airaland Forum

I think you must be careful to note the state of your heart if you are drifting away from reality.There are different kinds of feelings as regards to man and woman.Now that you don't have feelings for guys, do you somethings feel for same sex?
Are you coming out of an abused relationship?When did you start having this feelings? Have you had a relationship before? Let me know so that I can be able to help you out to know your state of mind.

The aim of NYSC has been lost for some decades now. The virtues and the purpose has been defeated. You only go there to waste a year for nothing only to gain experience on prostitution,

Student days are gone.What we have now are Garbage In, Garbage Out. People no longer study.It's a pity.We have lost it.Parents are sending their wards to Ghana and other countries to study for safety. most of these cultists are not even students.

Beautiful girl indeed. Looks natural.

Mercy, Good advise.Any of them that has ear let her hear because our ladies these days are drifting from reality.

wirinet: This is a touching story, but it highlights the contradictions within our society. That is why i do not support wholesale adoption of foreign religions and culture. Societies that mandate or allow young widows to re-marry the late husband's brothers were attempting to solve practical problems in a very pragmatic way. I am an advocate of women protection and women's right and it is sad that women (and orphaned children) are not protected under the Christian religion.

Now one can understand the European society practicing strict monogamy(in theory), because the society has developed a social system that protects women and the poor in the society, so a poor young widow or even an abandoned poor lady would not suffer. But the African society was built on family and clan social structure, so women, children, orphans and poor members of the family were cared for by the whole family or clan. In my example my father died before i was born and my mother was too young and poor to take care of me, but i was taken care of by my fathers family to the extent that i had better education and status than other children. So in the traditional African society, it made sense for a young widow to remain within the family for the social protection of the widow and the children.

But now that we have decided to throw away age long culture and adopt foreign culture, how do we solve the problem of widowed? Asking the woman to re-marry is impractical as which man would want to take care of another woman's 5 children, then would the late husband's family allow the woman to bring another man into the house they and their brother build? Asking the woman to remain single and celibate is very selfish of us, as a young woman still need the emotional support of a man and sex.ual requirements too. She would still need help to educate and raise 5 children.

To me the situation is a very complex one, but the best way to resolve the issue is for the whole family has to be involved in any decision taken.

Prof, good contribution as you have said it all.

lrguru: Not everyone here on NL is a job seeker, chartered palm-wine tapper or a broke azz like some people here, and lagos is not the only place in NIgeria (for those of u who think Lagos is where everythin happens). I will not start givin u a run down of how much i make or what i am worth, cos i know some people here would still ask foolish questions; Not because they do not believe it, but because they are so submerged in poverty that they think 200k is 200 million Naira.

FYI 200k is chicken fee anyday for me, and like i said i have spent more in just one day, not cos ama reckless spender, but because i have alot more so all y'all whining should kick ur azz ur self. Only men with class would understand what i am sayin so i do not need to explain to any poverty personified scumb@g here.

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No kobo has left my pocket since then for those ladies, and i do no care what happened to them.

All this people who are so used to keke-napep and okada thinks that a car can only take 4-persons max, but rethink.

Those hungry leeches squeezed themselves into my car, because they all wanted to go for ''chopping'' with two at the front and 4 behind, but that was ok cos i do carry my guys like that too when we want to hang out late in a bar close by. And by the way no road safety then cos it was evenin. So all those lookin for loop-holes should go ahead and dig more, if u like discover a loop-hurricane too

My brother, forget some people here and their state of poverty.

If they like let them believe you, if not let them crash.You did what you did and it serves them right. How much is 200k? Loaded guys do burn more than 1 million in a night club and what's the difference. Its some guy's level of poverty that make them argue.

Nothing do you.Never pay any bill back to any gadam chick.

The place is an eyesore in fact, I support what Fashola is doing at Ladipo.They live like animals in the name of making money. Too bad.

My brother, first I will have to sympathize with you for the untimely death of your loved brother,may God grant you and yours the fortitude to bear the loss.
Now to the subject matter,I think you must have to control your emotions and do not ask her to leave the house or advise her to marry after 5 kids.
Anybody that wants to marry her would only take advantage of her.
Only God can sustain her and with you people around. Please, rule out the issue of driving her out from the house and talk to her to control her emotions and look for a good church to commit her life to.
I have a similar problem but I am standing to see to the affairs of the family but not to grow emotions. Do send money to them.
Control yourself because I can see that you are emotionally disturbed which shouldn't be. Anything you are doing for her and the children is for God but any emotional attachment, is of the devil.
I have a very close friend of mine whose wife is just about 27 yrs old and the husband died and she wanted us to be intimate and I called her and counseled her that I cannot try that with any woman no matter how beautiful that person is. I cannot sleep with a widow.I do help her pay school fees when I can and I put it straight to her, that I cannot take advantage of the dead as a human being, I do not know my tomorrow. Stay off.

Kgdavid: andy ur wife is beautiful. all the best to yall!

Thanks for the complements

He is already heading for destruction.

3ndy: seems like their havin fun.. loooollll

I think having gone through your posts on the subject in relation to your family life, I would want to thank you for the pain you took as human being in giving the guy a chance to life as a partner and also making him feel like a man despite his short coming.

With your explanations here as stated by you, it is like you have lost interest on the young man and it will be a disaster if you have to live a life like this forever.
I am not suggesting you quit the relationship,but as it stands, it would be better to call a spade a spade and look for a life you 2 can build together rather than pretending.

Lord Have mercy. Let them take her to Synagogue Church of All Nations and she will get her deliverance.

Our problems are here in Nigeria is that we fail to do the right thing. Northerners has taken us to the dust and at the same time, crying foul.They are stealing the resources of this country hence they can plan evil through the use of Boko Haram to destabilize the country.

How can in a nation like ours, all the South South, South East, South West who own the oil has nothing to show for. Go to the north and see their road network, you pity this country.I thank Senator Ita Enang for bringing this to the knowledge of all to see that the north do not mean well for this nation.

Rokiatu, cus she is smart and lovely.Her contributions are perfectly in order.Nothing attached. Another smart guy, Ogugua cus of her intelligence.

great063: My guy,it's not entirely her fault.Put the blame on the experience,she has not recovered from it.

cy
My brother I hear you jari. No bi small thingoooooooooooo.May the Lord have mercy on us.

Temi 23: A friend came to me explaining how his colleaque of her in different location cant stop kissing her anytime they see. she told me that it first happens when the guy help her to book a hotel for a training they want to do and he came to check her in the room and that was how the kissing started. Note: The guy was his first kiss. So she always find it difficult to resist him and they are just friend. Pls what can she do to stop this act from continue.

I know say na you. But please work on your grammar.

Temy23 you no talk again? Na because of the grammar you run? You asked question and to know people's opinion, then off you go. Come back we are waiting for you.

DnigerianPrince: It's not as bad as your grade 1 English, I can guarantee that.

My brother, I wonder how a young lady like this would write as if she no go school. Na waooooooo. If she want to avoid entering them,let her improve her life and get better and she wouldn't find herself in there.

rokiatu: [/b]

LOL LOL LOL

This guy needs more than this kiss and he cannot get off it unless he sees something to kiss

[quote author=12 inches!]No... It seems u're either not listening or paying attention. My problem is not penetration (sounds lewd) as u call it. My problem is with not wanting kiss after caressing. If we cn start kissing tomorrow. I can assure u that by this time next week, the rest is history. I have my ways.[/quote]My brother, dem take kiss swear for you? Gum dey your mouth? sweet dey your mouth? Kissing, kissing kissing. Na your mama born am?Wetin dey your mouth wey you want to kiss? Na there your jazz dey? Immediately you kiss dem, then every other thing na history. Maybe the gilr don know your trick.You won jazz am.

rokiatu: hahaha I think not!! Shes just messing with his head for the fun of it. She knows that after caressing come kissing and then se..x. Cut out the kissing and se...x what happens? You leave the guy wondering, thinking intrigued and wanting more.

The funny thing is that guys never give up on girls like this cuz they think once they finally hit it, her pu..ssy will taste like something out of this world. (amazingly enough it does.)


But he need to stop giving himself blue balls cuz to success with people like this is like mission impossible cuz they are in to mess with your head, play their game and leave.

The girl understood the guy very well and is just using him to play ball. Women are the most intelligent specie of animals God created. A girl of 16yrs can bring down a man of 70yrs on her knees begging to be allowed to climb her or empty his bank account because of puss--y

rokiatu: Take it from me, and stop wasting your time. You ain't gonna get any.

Beside if you don't love this girl and just want se..x, then why don't you get it from some other girl out there and save yourself the headache? Unless offcourse you love her I advice you stop wasting your precious time.

Rokiatu, leave this guy as na only to penetrate be his problem.Let him go and sleep with his mama. Is the girl her property? Someone somewhere is banging the gilr and the only job this 12 inches does is to turn her on and she will leave him and get the rest from the right person. She will warm her engine and off she goes for taste driving somewhere.

[quote author=12 inches!]French kiSs is intimate but caressing me all over and allowing me caress her all over isn't rite? And yep, I'm thinking maybe she hasn't kissed b4 becos she's a churchy kind of person. But atleast me I know how. If u dnt knw how to do something shey u won't experiment and try and learn ni. Or like u said, maybe she's not that into me but jst enjoys touchy (which doesn't really make sense to me).[/quote]Pack your joy stick and keep somewhere. Even in the US, some ladies can admire you and say they wanna get on with you just for the fun of it and after that, they will tell you straight, just like you but dont love you just wanna get fun by laying you and off they go. Some will have fun with a guy and if you are good, they tell their friends and their friends can come asking to get on with you, just for the fun of it cus you get good dig and know how to make a woman feel real.So, stop saying the rubbish. You know nothing.

rokiatu: Shes not kissing you because she don't love you. Lawd!! why don't you take this advice from someone who have done this before. I don't know about you guys, but to most women french kiss is very intimate. Even more so than or..a.l sex. If you are not truly in love, you don't enjoy it unless offcourse you are drunk.

Rokiatu, please advise the guy. I advised him of what to do, he is yawning non-sense. If he is good, why come here to seek advise.
Maybe na mouth odor be his case.

2 days. if nothing happen, throw way the ring, find another serious person. After many days, you start having the law of diminishing returns. The man go start to play game or the woman go start dey nyash outside.
If you won marry, pray. Engagement ring no engagement ring, marry na marry and love na love. What of married guys wey dey hide their wedding ring and some married women wey dey hide their ring? A beg, forget these people and riing.

[quote author=12 inches!]Ehen. Then make let her carry punanu away comot for my side jare. She will cme to my house sleep on my bed and will be caressing me everywhere. Kiss she no kiss do she no do. What rubbish. Which kind of yeye game be that.[/quote]Since she is caressing you everywhere, bring out your joy stick and let her handle it. carry tell her to carry it for hand. If na me, na me go UnCloth sharp, let her play with anything she like. Na she go comot her dress throw way where she go dey try find am after action. Unless your joy stick no dey cooleeeeeeeeeee. Send her to me and I will tell you how far. Just get creammmmmmmmmmmmmm keep, na she go dey beg you. Oh boy, you never sabi how to make a woman wanna jump.

OgidiBoy: Very good, I don't condole violence but Nigerian embassy workers are the most lazy incompetent bunch of people. The Embassy workers here in the

States are just as bad. There is so much you can push a person before he pushes back.

I trust my Igbo brothers,we no pushovers.

Exactly. Our foreign embassies are the worst in the world. They treat Nigerians as if they are nobody.In the US the worst.

[quote author=12 inches!]Which one is direct highway... Or am I a learner?[/quote]Use your mouth and tongue massage the kongo and she will be yelling and you enter. In fact, buy a bucket of Icream an pour it there and use your mouth to send that koikoi wet and then, she wll be screaming for you to come on

I go chop money

I can understand OP your reason for this post. If na you dey that picture, why would you have consideration who to marry. Even if the guy get no job and no money, he is a blessing to you because I no know who fit marry you.Marry him with or without job

Use your mouth and do work on her direct highway,if you know what I mean, she will not know when you pack your 12inches enter