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babyfaiz: i did all that buddie, I made some research. I looked straight into his eyes. I saw other people too and I borrowed a leaf from the successful ones. The thing is just that I might have made some mistakes but I am thinking what about the woman before me.. a school principal who said she is going on holiday and the consular asked jokingly... holiday, holiday, holiday and she humored him by saying a teacher needs to go on holidays when the kids are on holidays. To me she had a good interview but when the same consular rejected her. She was shocked and kept asking him what the problem was so she can address it next time since the consular said she is free to apply again. This dude (the consular) should be in his 50's. I guess he was the bad guy for that day, i guess the other guys in there 20's were lenient

Anyway, when most of them wake up on the other side of their bed, they will keep denying any visa applicant.
In fact, the day I got my visa, though student visa, there was a young lady we met at the American Embassy and when we were collecting number, the lady that gave her number 59, told her, that's a lucky number. She could not understand what the woman was saying until when she was called for her interview. The same woman that issued her that number was the one that called her on her desk. When she got there, the woman told her, Lucky lady, I am giving you visa and no interview, she now asked the lady, if she knew why she is giving her visa, she answered her 'No" She now told her that her mother turned 59 yrs that day and that she told herself that anyone she issues the Number 59 must be a Lucky lady because that's her mother's birthday.

She told me that she has been to the embassy 5 times and was denied visa in all b4 that D day

Maybe she was already using the boy to get se-xual satisfaction of which due to the size, she could not.
Also, she could be mentally challenged.

kingblosky: Chai; who go one abduct this one put for house now ?. E go be like say person carry JUJU come keep for house . Poor boy !!!!. Nairalanders help abduct this boy and give him a home .

So you call what God created JUJU? Too bad a comment when you knew within yourself that he is still an infant. You do not know his tomorrow. He could be rescued through this means and tomorrow, he can turn to be the president of this country.Never look down on people when they are down. Feel and have human feelings on this innocent boy than your comment which is uncalled for. Too bad because maybe you were privileged t have life.

[quote author=Mr..Cork]...what in the name of Mr Cork is my name doin on that list? [/quote]No mind the guy. If you and 190 get am, he will not that you guys got nothing to do with gay stuff. The guy needs to be taken to a mental home.

stainless40: In a relationship late 2009 and was happy with him . He sponsored my education up to 200level but after my first semester year2,his characters changed towards me. He refused to pay any kobo concerning my education both textbooks,feeding,everything yet we still moving. As if that is not enough late last year when it was time for school fees and other things he started playing games,continue giving me date and yet kept on failing it. We continue the relationship till this time we are about to take exam no school fees no house rent no textbook. I was so disappointed that the person i address as my hubby can lender me that helpless after i had spent 2-3years in school. Everybody was disappointed,even neighbours in our lodge. For a day i haven't think anything bad against this person in quot.

Were you married to him legally? How come your life should depend on him totally? Thank God he wanted good for you by helping you get into the University and up to the point his character changed. Don't you have parents? How did you get to 300 level after he stopped? Were you taken care of by your parents or Aristo? Do not let your life be dependent on anybody if not, you are gone on this earth. Only God can render help to you without asking for anything in return.
I believe that when he met you, you were fresh from the high school and looking fresh and he took advantage of your beauty to explore you and having known that you have developed and lost your youthfulness, he must have gotten another person he is taken care of. I have seen men doing that, mostly Housa people. They take advantage of you from 15,16,17,18 yrs and after that, they will abandon you for a younger one.

Brixtonyute: I slapped this naija chic two weeks ago for being obnoxious, and rude... But now, it seems ol'girl wants to be my chic... I guess my slap brings all the naija chics to the yard, and I might go on a 'happy slap' spree of naija chics.

They should first check your brain. Something has gone wrong. Until that is done, no comment.

sexkillz: [color=#000055][size=14pt]They go by the names
Mr Cork
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190 and Mr. Cork kee? If 190 gets you, you are gone.

That shows lack of interest on the kisser. She does not like the guy hence her action.

How come she went for such a white boy who even from his looks, is more like a demon. Too bad for her.

[quote author=uj_sizzle]Just curious...a guy's with a female friend(one he has compound interest in or maybe just a friend), and she's weeping all over him. He comforts her, lends her a shoulder to cry on and next thing he's kissing her . Does the female tears trigger some kinda sexual response from men? Or is there something else about it I'm not completely aware of?? [/quote]U no sabi? Nobi small thingoooo. When you are with a lady and she needed to be comforted, and a man renders his shoulder to comfort her, the end story is 'gbam gbam for foam' If say Abi o la is still alive, you for ask how him handle Mur--tala wife, she come get belle.Nobi small thing. When a woman become a widow and you see some men coming nearer to them to comfort them,watch out because the men has hidden agenda for that woman.

His brain has been taken away by the 65 prophetic spiritualist he visited and replaced with exactly that of Foluke hence equating her to 1000%.
He is gone already.Who spoke in that man is not Kayode but the spirit of Foluke that gave the interview.
When a man has eaten Obokun fish in a lady's house, he is finished.Only deliverance from a true man of God can bring out.

Maybe the lady don jazz his mouth and his brain and there is nothing wrong about this Foluke that he will accept.His eyes will clear one day and he will remember his first wife.

Dreal1247: U dont judge d sweetness of bitter lola by the sound. D best girl friend might not make a good wife. I believe that initially d 4mer wife was more attractive than dis 1. They received the nods of 65 pastors, wedded in d church, had 3 kids b4 discovering that they were neither legally married nor compatible. He was even cheating on on her wife and is trying 2 justify himself. How many pastors av told him dat they ar compatible(wit d new wife)? I think that what he truely needed 2 do proper self assessment his , right his wrongs, ask God 4 mercy and assistance, correct his 1st marriage traditionally. ((slipping the traditional marriage is capable of causing problem in d marriaged.. When u purchase a vehicle without proper clearance d vehicle could b empounded) And i believe he will av a new lease of life. I still wish him d best.

The truth well stated here by you. The taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage. If he was able to stay and produce 3 children from his previous wife and only discovered that she was not good for him shows that he is in sane. Same way that he will come here to tell us that 1,500 Prophets has prophesied that same woman was a mistake. Sick man

Shankboye: . Did u forget they are playing without a coach? Stop being sentimental and shatap.. Hw many big club can play without a coach.. They are still d best in d world..imagine madrid without mourinho..

Na coach go play the ball for them if they don' have coach? They are all professionals and should know how to go about playing when their opponent is 11 and they are 11 too.They are going down if care is not taken.If you like scream nothing they happen.

We should understand that we are one body ,one soul and one country. Stand like this young Ibo man and let us build up this nation. Take your time and go through this post it will help us build our faith in the youths of this nation and generation.

Families should look inwardly to the heart of their son or daughter inlaws and not outwardly and not the tribe they come from. The young man is an example of a true Nigerian.

Ugochukwu George Igbokwe just hates the craze for titles. Despite being the boss of Make Me, an upscale salon in Surulere, Lagos, Igbokwe prefers to tell people that he works with Make Me. And for his profile, he simply states this way: “I am a husband and father of two most beautiful chics in the world.”

Make Me is an ultramodern beauty complex set up Ugochukwu and his Yoruba wife Bukky. There’s has been a seamless blend of beautiful marital relationship that is also minting money in their joint business, which was established after they both lost their jobs in another salon where they first met as mere friends with no romantic attachment. In the heat of the Valentine’s Day celebration, Ugochukwu broke off briefly from work to tell his Bukky’s story.

Excerpts…

Tell us a little bit about yourself.

Unlike most people who are craze about titles, I hate titles and designations like Chief, CEO and all that. All I know is that I work for Make Me. I’m a husband and father of two most beautiful chics in the world.

A few days ago, the talk everywhere was about Valentine’s Day. Can you recall any memorable Valentine’s Day you spent with your wife?

(Paused, thought for a moment) My wife and I are both workaholics. And you know that the Val Day that just passed fell on a Thursday. I will be frank with you, everything that revolves around my wife and I is work, work, work because we have targets and things we want to achieve. We are pretty much close and working hard to push through and reach our target. However, there was one particular Valentine’s Day that fell on a weekend. My wife and I moved into Federal Palace hotel after work. It was real fun.

So what did you do about the kids?

I had my mum and my sister in the house. My wife’s sister was also around that year.

As working parents, how do cope with your children?

When my wife gets home, the first thing we do is to get the children ready for bed. Then she starts preparing food because she knows that I won’t stay long before coming home and want to eat as soon as I step in. But I can ‘grab’ anything and eat and that is fine. Besides we try to save as much time as possible to have rest rather than spending so much time cooking food. Usually, she tries to get out of the kitchen by 9 o’clock. When I get home I try to relax and also get some sleep because first thing in the morning we are out.

How did you meet your wife?

We met in our first workplace. I was already working as a barber in a salon where she was employed as the professional stylist. Her second day on the job was a pretty less busy day. Myself and some other workers were all sitting downstairs, chatting and ‘yabbing’ each other. At a point I think she got bored sitting upstairs alone and decided to come downstairs. As soon as she walked past everyone, my colleagues started ‘yabbing’ her too, saying that she was snobbish and didn’t talk to anyone. You know that kind of talk. I quickly hushed them and said, ‘Hey shut up, mind how you talk to her, she is my wife.’ She heard it, turned and looked at me. That was just all.

How come you made that statement?

I don’t know. I just don’t know. I just said it. Maybe I saw a pretty chic that was very quiet. I though, perhaps, it was because she was new in the place and didn’t know anybody. Anyway I just said it as a joke.

Okay how did you get her eventually?

At first, we became friends for a long time and remained so until we both lost our job at that place. Then we decided to set a business together, though we were married as at that time.

Did you know all along that she was going to be your wife?

Not all, marriage just happened along the way. Just before we lost our jobs, one of my aunts had called me and said, ‘we heard you are having something with Bukky.’ And I said, nothing oo! My aunt was not convinced that there was nothing between Bukky and I. She said there had better be something.

I was calm. But it was not just my aunts alone; two other people I have so much respect for also called me to ask about my relationship with Bukky. In addition, one of her aunts also raised the issue. Even our customers made the same observation about us. That was when I laid back and thought about it. I asked myself: what are these people seeing that I am not seeing in Bukky?

Did you have a girlfriend at the time?

Yes. Bukky and I were just friends.

How did she feel about your girlfriend?

It didn’t bother her. She didn’t pry into my personal affairs. Most of the time we only talked about our work, the business and how to make it better.

Then how did you propose to her?

That is the amazing thing. When we started working together, we began planning things together and making projections, setting targets together. We knew what we were going to do in four, six or 12 months. There was no special moment when I said to her, “will you marry me?” The reason was that we were doing everything together. As part of our projection we put in when the wedding would be and also discussed when would start having kids after marriage. We agreed not have kids until two years after marriage. We just worked together.

Then what happened to your girlfriend?

At a point I began to reflect because I never saw her as more than a mere friend and business partner. I suddenly realized that I liked her so much that I didn’t want anything that could jeopardize our friendship. But marriage I wasn’t sure about. I thought if I got pretty much closer in my advances, I might hurt her; so I decided to stay away and just leave it at the level of friendship. But at a point I started thinking, what I am doing? I have never seen anybody that has good character in terms of her mind, her being and personality. It was then that I started considering her as a prospective life partner.

She’s Yoruba and you are Ibo. Do you speak Yoruba?

No.

So how do you cope at first?

If anybody had told me I would marry a Yoruba lady, I would probably take it very personal. I probably would fall out with you, that you were trying to curse me. As somebody from the East, I didn’t know so much about Yoruba people. What I knew was what I saw on television.

I’m from Umuahia in Abia State and I grew up in Aba. It’s almost impossible for me to imagine marrying a Yoruba woman. You get to meet people and then you understand that what you see on television or things you hear about places and people are not what they seem to be. You really need to see and experience things yourself to know better. I began to see that personality has nothing to do with tribe – it’s just the two individuals; how you understand and how you feel for each other, and whether you are willing to tolerate each other and sustain the relationship.

How did your family react to your decision to marry a Yoruba lady?

At first I thought it was going to be an issue and I was pretty much prepared. From the moment I decided I was going to marry her, I didn’t care whether anybody would escort me or not. Yet I still had to inform my people. As a matter of fact, I made up mind to go ahead without even telling anybody. I just felt that nobody had said no to the relationship all this while.

It was just my mum that said what? A Yoruba lady? I couldn’t hold back replying my mum, what do you mean Yoruba? Because of my mind set, I was ready for anybody. I asked her, do you know anyone? Have you lived with any Yoruba person before? Or have you lived in Yoruba land before? What do you know about the Yoruba? She fired back: don’t you watch TV? Watch what, I replied her? Then I said: You don’t sit here and scream, Yoruba. You don’t even know the person we are talking about; you have not seen her before.

I had expected you to say to me, okay, go and bring her. Then I will leave her with you, so that when you are done, I will come back and pick her. I told her, for all I know she is better than you. My mum was shocked and looked at me, asking, what did you say? I said yes, she is better than you in everything. If you bet me, I will bring her and leave her with you. You don’t have right to judge her just because she is Yoruba. My mother didn’t take it lightly and I walked away. That was the last time any other person said anything contrary to what I was planning towards my marriage. Today, my mother is happy that I married her.

What did you find most attractive about her?

She has a good heart and a beautiful personality. I was convinced 100% that I had found a helpmate in her. I had a strong belief that whatever I wanted to achieve, it would be much easier to achieve with her involvement.

When does your typical day start?

We leave home at 7 am because we have drop off our children at school. Then we head to the office.

What has it been like working with your wife?

It has been a great experience, and it has helped me a lot. First, it has helped me keep my head straight and manage every aspect of the business better. Working with her is constant reminder that someone is here and watching over shoulder – so I don’t have to do as I please. Basically, her involvement has kept me on my toes and focused.

How do you feel when female customers give you a peck, especially when she’s around?

As far as I am concerned, a peck is just like a handshake. Somehow you feel a bit awkward shaking a woman’s hand because it’s really not what I am used to in this environment. People want to give a hug or a peck. That is fine as far as I am concerned. I don’t see it differently. I have been in this profession for over 12 years. So getting a peck from a female customer is pretty much normal.

How do you handle customers who particularly want your attention or insist that only you should make their hair?

Hair-do has to do with preferences. Both male and female customers have their preferences when it comes to someone touching their hair. Some say it is spiritual, some say they are not at peace when another person touches their hair. Individuals have their preferences when it comes to making hair. The only time I see people walking into a salon without preference is when they come for the very first time. Over 80 percent of people that go into a salon already know who they want to make their hair.

I think at that point it’s the creativity that speaks. It’s not any other thing and as far as I am concerned, I want every woman that comes into this place to say it must be Ugo that will make her hair. That way, you know you are on top of your game; you know what you are doing, you know that the client still needs your services and that you are relevant. The moment people start saying, oh he is not around, ok, and I will come tomorrow. Then I know am no more in the game. I have a lot of clients that come here and say it must be me.

They call on the phone to know if am around before they will come down. Even if I ask my assistant to do anything on their hair, I must still touch their hair for them to get satisfaction. I look at it as them wanting to get satisfaction, in terms of their hair looking good and being assured that they are looking beautiful and that a good job was done on their hair. I am not saying that other stylists are not good, but that is what obtains; it’s fine and welcome.

How do you cope with advances from women?

I don’t know how people see this. I have a lot of clients that are full of ego. I would not say that nobody has never has harboured such thoughts or feelings in her mind, but they have not done so physically or directly expressed it. I have a whole lot of people that are very friendly with me. I appreciate it so much because they are showing their friendship and at the same time patronizing my business.

I see it that I must keep up whatever am doing, so that they keep coming. If there is any other thing in their mind, I have not noticed it and I don’t look forward to seeing that. No matter what I don’t want anything that would ruin their feeling or make them stop coming. My customers are very classy people and I respect them a lot.

Would you want your daughters to get into this same business?

That would be fine but I will not force them. I would like to see them show interest in it, have willingness and the self-motivation to do even more than I have done. But if they discover their talent in other areas, I will give my support. What else can I wish for my children other than that they excel in whatever profession they choose. I won’t compel them to become stylists.
Source:
http://sunnewsonline.com/new/entertainment/my-mums-happy-i-married-a-yoruba-girl-ugochukwu-make-me-boss/

She is right in what she is saying. That is the right thing for him to do.Go and marry the lady in her Church and now take her to his own church.

At this point you people are still arguing what is right. Hope this marriage will not go down the drain as your cousin have stated claiming right.Na waoooooooooo

You are funny. How can you still wanna stay with a lady who wants to kill you?

BACA you can manage that one goal as Ronaldo has finished the work

Go for the lady that has kept to herself and please for God's sake, do not look at beauty when talking of marriage because it a life time issue. The taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage.

Let God help you and seeing her in your dream could be a way God wants you to heed to His love for you.I repeat, forget beauty.

IgboUK: poor nigerians, instead of u to discuss on nigeria being a failing country and how to improve it = your are obsessing over celebrities
Why is Nigeria, like most of Africa in SUCH AN APPALING STATE and no one cares!?
Look.

Slavery and colonization hundreds of years of oppression, caused many problems.

BUT NOW THE MAIN PROBLEM IS CORRUPTION / POOR GOVERNMENT - nigerian senators get paid 250 million naira a year, the equivalent of 1 million pounds.

People say, "Oh Nigeria is a new country you can't blame them" - it has been over 50 years!!!!

I am not saying they should be UK standard, but they used to have their own airlines, they had 24/7 electricity etc... but they don't have that anymore, they have poor infrastructure, dirty place, no roads, no electricity, no good education, no health care, appalling security - Nigeria is a country with so much potential but has become SO USLESS.

Even the younger generation are bad - can you believe I asked my cousin who lives in Nigeria, whether he wants to help change Nigeria and they BOTH SAID they want to be politicians, not to improve the country - but to steal money. One was kinder though, he said if he got 10 million he would steal 2 million and use 8 million, unlike the Nigerians of today who steal 8 million and use 2 million.

My friend shut d fu-ck up calling Nigeria and the younger generation a failed state. You are happy staying in UK and calling your country failed country. If you are that good, why not come here and make us know how good you are. We have spent yrs outside Nigeria and I sill believe your type hasn't been long in the UK where you are working in a restaurant or or hospital morgue and you are there saying rubbish.Just stop making noise and find a way to survive. You think it is better out there? Hell No. Most of you guys in the UK are suffering.

Her daughter is between 18 and 20yrs now. How come she is 35 yrs.Could it be that she had them when she was 14 yrs or 15? How come 35 yrs now? Just asking sha.

Akshow: I Swear the baby resemble melaye abi na wetin be dat lousy ex rep name

The baby resembles Dino Malaye a lot and he should be bold to come for the baby and not for the mother because the mother is an open door and a passage to Hell. Every man wants to pass through there and few can survive passing through. Dino got caught in-between and should be bold to come out. Nothing happen.