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The bolded,
That is wrong. Why should a man be fired for flirting especially if the flirting is well received and encouraged? Flirting and harassment are not the same.

In Overmars case we don't have much information. So we can't accurately judge it.

sukkot:
oh we are not saying it doesnt happen in the west. however if you are caught you will be fired. in naija if you are caught you may even be celebrated. AHHHHHHHHHH BABA RERE NA YOU DEY SMASH NGOZI FOR ACCOUNTS SECTION ? AHHHH IN FACT I AM GOING TO INCREASE YOUR SALARY BECAUSE I HEAR YOU ARE DOING A GOOD JOB IN ZE OZA ROOM WITH NGOZI


you get the point

In a way, yes.

NaughtyBrainiac:
Which means that Sir Alex Ferguson started to sink the ship himself?

Gbam!!

It does not make sense! How would you put males and females together and don't expect sparks to fly?

It is feminism that has emasculated western and made flirting a crime punishable by firing the man

ThierryJay:
Lol, it's like you havent seen work colleagues get married right? I have few colleagues in different department in big four firms who married one another. Were they mixing business with pleasure when they were dating? Or you think the guys didnt send their eventual wives texts during the toasting period.

The potential ramifications of this trend is very vast o. A realistic check is critical.

Lol they frown on it but it still happens.

Some guy somewhere is banging his secretary right now in the UK. Some guy in the US is sleeping with his female intern.

The westerners are the biggest hypocrites ever

For me where it becomes inappropriate is if the man or the woman is not interested but the other party continues to sext.

sukkot:
the ones you mentioned, you can mention them because they made news because people took offence to it. so meaning over there they frown on it. but in turd world naija you sext from 9am to 12 pm. take lunch break and go and eat 4 pounded yam and nkwobi. come to the office and sleep for 2 hours. wake up and continue sexting till 5pm and then go home

Exactly!! and it is wrong. If she does not want his flirting she can tell she is not interested. If he continues after that, then, that is harassment.

ThierryJay:
You and I know that in today's first world, it will be deemed inappropriate so long as the lady says it is even if it is just "you are looking sexy today, sweetheart" that was sent.

She only has to claim that she felt mentally harassed sexually by the most harmless of appreciation from the guy and boom he's toast.

ermmm who said anything about touching?

LordReed:
No women are waking to fact that they no longer need to tolerate unwanted advances or unwanted touching especially from people in leadership positions. Don't flirt with your coworker in the office is not a hard thing, your libido can wait 8hrs for satisfaction.

Lol, the ones I wanted to list actually happened in the west

the uk health minister that was kissing and embracing an aide

Also, Nigeria is not a 3rd world country because of sexting, that is silly.

sukkot:
maybe in nigeria. in saner climates you will be fired. which is why naija is 3rd world. turd world

niggas spend 9 hours sexting on the job and no job is done and wonder why naija is turd world country

Lol, bro sexting is normal. It has been normal ever since smartphones came with camera.

Also, it does not matter the position of the man(in a sane world. the west is no longer sane). Lets assume the genders were reversed, the woman is in the dominant position and the man is the one sexting her, does it make it wrong?

Look feminism has succeeded in destroying the natural relationships between men and women. And that is why men are being punished for flirting with women.

If it is inappropriate because he is married then I agree 100%
If it is inappropriate because she was not interested in sexting, but he continued to sext, then I agree 100%

Druss:
Sexting is not normal oh. He is senior to the lady and married. That puts him in a dominant position.

Advice for any young person - do not engage with sexting with office colleagues especially if you are positionally superior.

Bros forget that talk. Put man and woman in any environment sparks would fly.

The problem is that feminists have succeeded in labelling innocent flirting with sexual harassment and rape culture.

LordReed:
Why flirt in a professional environment? Why can't you wait till you are in a social or less formal situation to make moves? Don't mix business and pleasure, that has been a wise saying for a long time.

How do you know the words in the messages are inappropriate?
Please list out the words that are inappropriate while flirting.

baralatie:
No it is not!
It is the appropriateness of the words that is the issue

The bolded,
That one na story for the gods. Do you want me to list the number relationships that have happened in a work place environment?

Besides, what made me focus on you was the word "pervert", so, since when has sexting mean a man is pervert?

sukkot:
sexting is normal in a corporate environment ? brah your head need factory reset


you never hear that phrase NO SHIT WHERE YOU DEY CHOP ?

Feminism has destroyed the relationship between males and females. And western men have been emasculated

ThierryJay:
Basically, it's now a crime for men to flirt with a woman in a professional environment. How then do office colleagues then get married? By reading one another's mind and jumping to the altar ba? How can one know when to draw the line? O ga o.

This is no longer sexual assault but just flirting that is bringing great men down.

Send a quote from songs of Solomon to a female colleague in appreciation and you are a goner. It's well.

hmmm how do you know it was harassment?

Last i checked sexting(if that was what he was doing) is normal between two parties that are interested in it.

sukkot:
a corporate executive harrasing women ? this is what men in your family call normal behavior ? if i slap you ehn

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Vickyvice:
Europe na sane place. Like say na here, no need to waste time send text, na waste of time, the babes naim go make the call, book room. Dem no even send if u dey" do";all of them in d office. Khai. Nigeria is a free country. Just do anything u like, as long as no be robbery or murder. This country been no bad before oh

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What the boundaries?

And how do you know he actually crossed a boundary?

fasho01:
Such a shame. Men need to understand boundaries and set parameters not to cross that line. Most men are guilty of this

What behaviour are you talking about?

sukkot:
oh this is acceptable behavior in your family ?

Lol
Western men have been emasculated long ago. They are now trying to do the same in Nigeria, Africa and the rest of the world.

Kingcalls:
Men should stop allowing women have the day

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sukkot:
pervert

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That is actually stupid.

The west is just confused when it comes to male and female colleagues in the work place. I would not be surprised if in the future they introduce segregation.

Maxymilliano:
Na so dem suspend Canada-based Nigerian doctor for hugging and blowing kiss at co-worker

These days it is even very dangerous to flirt.

We were never told the contents of the messages. We were just told they were inappropriate.

But let us assume it was sexting.
Sexting is not inappropriate if it is done between parties that are interested. So lets say he sexted a woman and she was not interested, but he continued sexting, then that is inappropriate. But if she did not show her disinterest and he continued sexting then it is not inappropriate.

We don't know the details.

The truth is that the feminists have succeeded in creating an environment were men lose their jobs for little things like flirting.

paulolee:
this guy was a key player for barca n arsenal and now working in a key slot in ajax which means he gat fame n money, so why sending bad messages to women dt he can easily get whenever he wants..?
it seems this year, so many footballers go lose guard ontop kpekus matter o

Well said

Fashionista01:
Girls should learn to be independent.

Attaching yourself to a man who does not care about you, is not good.

Living with a man who is not your husband is not good.

Learn to be independent.

Where did you see google pixel phones to buy?

Kaymicheal852:
Most poor people don’t have a life out of iPhone ,all they have to do is using all they have to purchase an iPhone and start feeling like a rich person and to impress people and show off

iPhones are very good and have battery than android (3100ah of iPhone 11 is equivalent to 4000ah of android)

But since all iPhones are flagship phones then we should compare it with android flagship phones as well like Samsung same notes series ,Google PIxel and many more


I still prefer my Google pixel 3xl camera to my Iphone 11 anyday anytime ,and the speed ,the simplicity and productivity is top notch on the pixel

Because I get 3xl ,I use 2xl and it’s the best phone I ever owned

If you think iPhone is the best phone try and get an android flagship phone,(phones with snapdragon 835 upward) and you will give glory to God

Stop comparing infinix and tecno to iPhones they are crap

Seriously?
I thought iPhones were better in terms of battery lasting, due to iOS not eating battery like Android OS.

DoingBetter:
Honestly, they need to do more when it comes to battery. I dropped my iPhone and got a Samsung simply for the freedom of being able to go a day without being attached to a power bank.
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Lol your number 3. You are projecting male sexuality on females.
Women don't all of a sudden start wanting sex because of watching porn. It does not work like that for them.

NoApology:
Three things are involved :

1. Hormonal change that lead to increased libido like you pointed out.

2. Like you said also, She may be seeing someone better whom i believe knows about you and is cool with playing the side kick since there is no strange calls.

3. She has been watching porns or reading sex stories or in one of these their women groups where they discuss sex.

It is actually a very well known tactic of women who sleep around to all of a sudden start wanting to have sex with their husbands.
So that in case of pregnancy she claim it is the husband's child.

The OP has every right to be worried.

donbachi:
Men!
Some of una no go make heaven.ur woman is trying hard to keep u by having a healthy sex life with u.u come here to shame her.
Tufiakwa!

This is just horrible. He should be in prison.

A marriage is dead, if there are secrets between either the husband or the wife or both of them.

If as a woman you can't let your husband know about something, then you should never had married him in the first place. same applies to the husband

The bolded,
You're right 100%
But unfortunately many guys have chosen to believe otherwise.

SmartPolician:
There are tens of thousands of good girls out there. Get active in your church and you will meet a lot of decent girls. However, don't go requesting for sex because some of them won't give you. You will be shocked to learn that many girls are still virgins. I have met them....graduates.

As for OP complaining that the only importance of women in the life of men is sex and children, you guys should take it easy on these folks. By design, God created all of us to provide companionship. The friendship between a man and a man is different between the relationship between a man and a woman.

In conclusion, we need each other to be complete. That's the way nature made us. Stop fighting it; just pick the decent ones among them. But then, you must be a decent man yourself. Don't ask for what you cannot give.

What is your definition of misogyny?

Konor:
The misogyny on nairaland is getting too much.
Seun can't you do something about this?

Marriage does not thrive on love alone.

If you see something that you don't like, leave. She did the right thing, by telling him about her challenges. He does not feel comfortable with the said challenges, the best thing for both of them is to end the relationship.

dawnomike:
She confided in you about her health challenges and now, you want to leave her. So much for the so called love

Man United is balling

Who is this Toni Payne?

She has money or what?

Yemi4luv:
Toni payne will never forgive 9ice with all what she did for 9ice, 9ice is very smart the guy use the lady to reach limelight and dump her

She looks pregnant