₦airaland Forum

Tolu121:
if you dey sure of your bet

Why you come stake N250 on top a whole 4odd

H2ho:
op will offer you a teaching job 30k....while you can get a free 10odds here

cceenntt:
It is that time of the year again where we reach out to help those who are ready to face reality and leave this gambling lifestyle. Last year we were able to help as many as possible that were ready to work. Some where given employment others were trained to acquire skill to be entrepreneurs and still others were given a token to establish themselves. Note that for you to benefit from us you most vow never to engage in gambling and be willing to be resourceful. This is mainly open for graduates, however non graduates are also considered. If you meet the above condition and are willing to stay completely away from gambling please quote this message stating your willingness and your qualification, thereafter we will reach out to you to send your CV and necessary documents. Please only honest and sincere individuals should quote. Thanks

Mjpem23:
People like you will support the passing of social media bill into law and people like you will be later shouting that the bill shouldn’t have passed.
I reply to ur comment in a kindergarten voice

danietohbadt:
How does this relate to "social media bill" ?

MightySirKay:
Yes, i was there from start to finish
The burning of the altar was as a result of burning tyres that were thrown into the church coz of the "human fence" mounted by the ushers, police and security of the church. It was when things has gone beyond control that people were able to video
My questions to you are, what were they protecting? Why didn't they allow people video the altar and church premises before it was set ablaze?

MightySirKay:
Why did the police and ushers beat up the press that wanted to cover the incident?
Why didn't they allow anybody (press included) have access to the altar except 2 kingmakers from the palace who had earlier accussed the child's mother of lying at the oba's palace? And those kingmakers left without saying anything to the people outside
Why destroy the phones of those that tried to video the church before it was razed?

erifeoluwasimi:
Bro, God bless you ooo. Those supporting him should continue. The next victims are their children.
I am just happy this is coming after I recently discouraged someone from attending"as e dey hot" churches.
Next is PCCG ....pls don't quote me to ba Fe she Odun ayo

bakescos01:
Countless times the Nigerian Police have lied to us severally. How can you easily believe they are saying the truth now ? The police and the politicians lie to us several times and you feel it's only the citizen that this fake news thing should affect. The government is trying to set us all up so that when they lie against us you wont be able to say anything and whatever you say would be categorized as being fake. You people better use your senses before this government enslaves you all for life.

rawfact:
Kindheartedd, this is going to be very long and deep so don't just scan through. My guess is that you are married to a Yoruba man. I can't tell the tribe you are from. But whether you are also Yoruba or not, you need to know who a Yoruba husband is, whether he is in church or not. Because church or whatever will never take his culture away from him. "Husband" according to Yoruba Culture is know as Ade Ori (Crown) of the Woman, and not just Head as declared in the bible. You can't afford to raise your voice back at him or those other nonsense I read from your previous post. He must have tolerated all that while waiting for you to outgrow them. Because such is for Boyfriend/Girlfriend Stuff - never a Yoruba Marriage. You will have to learn on how to humbly follow his lead. After all, you trusted his leadership before saying yes to his marriage proposal.

With that said as an introduction, you will permit me to abuse you where necessary despite the fact that you seem to hate such. Meanwhile, learn that abuse from a loved one that is above one (parents, elders, husband, uncle and co) is for one's good and never an evil nor intended as such. This is Africa for goodness sake and not some white man's land, where the wife throws out the husband out of his house while his kids calls him by his first name or even shuts him up. Even some good friends can abuse someone to stop one from making a wrong decision. No wonder your bible recorded that the sting of a friend is better than the kiss of an enemy. Anyway, I took out time to read many comments on your thread and I really commend the likes of Newguyhere, Triniti, TheRedpillguy, PrinceMajestic, tunjilana and a few others who were not timid to serve you raw facts. The rest commenters literally boosted your pride.

If you are Yoruba, certainly you will understand those that are mocked as "Iyawo Asiko" (modern wife). I am going to give you an excerpt of your words and remark each, not for you because I dare say that you will resent each remark but it is particularly for the single ladies you could dare advise.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

You bear "Kindheartedd" as moniker but this plan of yours alone reveals the opposite. Firstly, you want to abscond from a husband (not a boyfriend). Meaning of that culturally is running or deserting the one that paid dowry over your head and received you into his lineage (not just family), not as a girlfriend or baby mama but as the glorified (wife). Aunty, I hail you! Secondly, you used the expression "my kids". Very laughable. Culturally, those children (particularly the male) belongs to your husband's lineage which you are now part of if you are genuinely in it. Therefore, those kids belong wholly to your husband first, before your very self who happened to carry his sperm (child) for 9 months before delivery. You claim to be a christian but you certainly have no idea of the spirituality of marriage nor acknowledge fatherhood or headship of your husband over your household. Who will fix that rot in your mind? Certainly not God, aunty but your very self if you would. Finally on that, you plan to have the best not minding if it will destroy lives (your husband and the kids), changing phone number and living a new life. Some commenters that chose to be honest with you labelled the act selfish. I particularly recommend you get natural therapy for mental health.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

Listen, followers command the leadership they get. Whether family, company, state, or nation. Mere humility from you will change this same statement of yours to "He is loving, caring, wonderful though difficult to understand at times". Also, know that many Nigerian husbands really get cocky when denied sex by their wives. Too much testosterone in the body as some puts it. Some manage it well while some really get cocky and wouldn't tell the woman. But give your man good sex regularly and stay humble and watch that statement change. Never forget this: Yoruba husbands get very cocky on arrogant wives.


He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.
Your "Ade Ori" is owing you money? As in your husband? Who owns you and your money? Or are you building another family outside the one he is heading? Sister, you are not ready for Yoruba marriage yet o. Listen, if your husband that is carrying the weight of the house as the head, whether you are supporting or not, borrows money from you, particularly for that household, in your mind, settle it that you contributed and not that you borrowed him. Even if he ended up using the money on himself. Lots of girlfriends looking forward to a guy having serious relationship with them or even marrying them do lots for the guy without feeling owed nor trumpeting it around. Abeg, give yourself peace in your head because it's obvious you carried lots of garbage from Telemundo, feminist and other "fake lives" into your marriage (reality).


I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.
Your Husband (Ade Ori) o. Not even just a lesson but a hard lesson. Aunty, you need serious mental checkup. Your brain is filled with explosive pride. At this point, I think your husband should just release you back to your people through divorce so that the court can oversee the issue of child custody because it's obvious your brain cannot be humbled. Your stubbornness and arrogance is something else. Even the verbal abuse (though not the best) your husband use regularly to check/reduce the depth of those bad-luck characters is also taken wrongly. For you trying to even change your number from friends and family that could change your heart also confirms that your husband can never succeed over you. This is why fathers shouldn't spoil their daughters before giving them out in marriage. They become a pain in the head of the gullible men that marries them. Daughter wey dey shout back at hin papa, go do more for hin husband. Some wives will be competing with their husbands rather than complementing his leadership, causing unnecessary problems, particularly for the kids. See, you practically want to lead yourself, and your financial capability is also strengthening you in your rebellion. This is why a humble woman that has no money cannot really be termed humble. In fact, you entered into that marriage mistakenly, maybe for the wedding dress, ring or kids - never for the mission marriage requires, that is, if your husband ever communicated that to you. And if he did, I dare say your type will gladly rebel.

I don't want to quote others again because I know it is worthless for you and several of your supporters. But I know one graceful lady out there whether churchy or not will pick wisdom from my remarks when it is time for her to build her own home. Your bible records that a foolish woman destroys her home while the wise one builds it. Not a foolish man o. Go and search for where it is in your bible. If you hurt or destroy your home as a woman, you will be the chief beneficiary. Same way, if you avoid satan building a castle in your mind and heart through stubbornness and arrogance, you will certainly be the most beneficiary of a happy and joyous home whether u dey go church or not.

Seenyo:
This lady and beef!....
''#epaindem'' is absolutely un-necessary at this delicate state!

Focus your energy on healing first.

Confirmedzombie:
Me that fly private jets at least five times in a week, I dont make noise. But all this fools on Nairaland will keep forming .

Shoe has size so I deserve respect on this forum.

anochuko01:
In my late 20s, never had sex, and haven't been in a relationship for the past eight years....

Randy100:
will you keep quiet. Back to the topic, I decided to be a celibate on sunday feb 10 2019. I arranged one girl that I just met through a friend come my room, while other was in church service, I was busy sweating ontop of this girl. The life changing moment came when I ejaculated only to see that my condom has scattered. The vagina fluid has soaked inside and at that moment I became jittery cos my guy had already warned me that the girl is wayward and she may be probably HIV positive. I turned to God for forgiveness and prayed throughout the night. In the morning I rushed to hospital (teaching hospital) to demand for PEP and in total I spend 3thousand naira to get the drug but I didn't mind. I started taking the drug which the side effect was terrible, the nauseating effect of the drug is second to none but I didn't mind. On thursday 14 feb 2019 I woke up to notice that urinating is as if I am urinating hot water. It was burning my penis. I went for test and it was Gono and I was given Rocephin injection and it vanished. After 6months I went for HIV test and the stupid guy doing the test said I should enter room with him, my soul left my body and this stupid guy kept saying that I should practice safe sex and I should buy my personal clipper. He later handed the result and I was negative to both Hiv 1 and 2. Since feb 10 till now I am still a celibate, don't kill yourself because of mere 15mins enjoyment.

gypsey:
Whatever, I knew people like you will come on here to Support the Crooked pastor.


I don't even believe in God or Jesus, because they don't exist.