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NO but maybe if he is g-ay or its a brother or male cousin

harakiri:
The hypocrisy and double talk of women never fails to amaze me. So now that it's a married man involved, it's "risky" for him to have a lady as a best friend. These are the same women that see "nothing wrong" in a lady keeping male friends or a married woman having a guy as a friend/best friend.

No wahala.

I don't know what you are talking about and what I said is not a double standard cause I did mention that it isn't ok for a married women with a male friend unless he is g-ay(but that isn't common with Nigerians) & it is not ok for married men to have female best friends either unless it is his sister and female cousin. Sorry but that is the truth, plus this thread is about married men, so whats your point.

harakiri:
90% of Nigerian men are "looking" for means out of Nigeria? Where do you get your statistics from? What kind of men were you dating in Nigeria? Do you think it's every guy here that's desperate to live in oyibo land? My dear, a lot of us have great lives going for us and the only thing that would make us leave Nigeria is if the country breaks up with ethnic/tribal/religious/political warfare. A lot of us only travel for vacation/holidays/visitation for the sake of it and nothing more. Get your mind right abeg! Not every guy is eager to abandon their businesses/properties/assets/investments to come and live with you in that rented shack in whatever country you found yourself.

Nonsense!

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"Meagan Good was spotted with her mother. She told Rolling Out in an interview that her mother and family means a lot to her hear is what she had to say:

“After God, my mother is my everything, I am so thankful to have her assistance when it comes to my career, but at the same time, I’m glad that she is not a traditional stage mom. She has my back every step of the way, but has managed not to overwhelm me, and not suffocate. She has been able to find a nice balance, and I respect that so much. There are many parents that don’t know how to walk that fine line when it comes to being involved with their child’s career; especially after they have grown up. Even at 24, she is still a big part of my career, but she’s able to trust the fact that she raised me the right way, and that I will be able to make the right decisions and always carry myself appropriately.”

Source: Bossip.com"
http://theglamourouslife.com/articles/meagan-good-and-her-mother-photo.html
http://cdn.mediatakeout.com/38477/baby-pics-actress-meagan-good-was-a-cute-kid-and-you-can-see-that-she-got-her-beauty-from-her-mama.html

Megan Good and her mother
[img]http://bossip.files./meaganmommy.jpg[/img]
https://celeb.wohoo.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2007/09/meagan-good-party-in-atlanta.jpg

Megan Good
https://www.urbanpartylife.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/meagan-good.jpg

Oba234:
what is Nigerian wear because I get confused sometimes? Is it the same across all ethnic groups? I know what my fellow Yoruba people typically wear, but after being around so many Nigerians, I can't differentiate who is hausa, igbo or yoruba. Also, I went to a Ghanaian wedding a couple of weeks ago and I saw big geles or what people called head wraps and I also saw agbada those big clothes that men typically wear and I was so confused. I thought ghanians typically wear Kinte cloth Are clothes typically labeled as Nigerian clothing really Nigerian or typical west african clothing?

Actually clothes typically labeled as Nigerian are Nigerian not west african. When it comes to head wrapping that is West Africa but the "GELE" it self and the head wrapping of Gele is from Nigeria(specifically from the Yoruba tribe): http://www.gele-fabulosity.com/headties.html

When it comes to certain West african material clothing like brocade, ankra, and lace you will see it worn all over west africa but you tend to see it's prevalence in Nigeria followed by Ghana and etc because some of it originated in those countries but when it comes to they way it is worn and fashion, it is different in each country. Also it is true the kente cloth is the common and cultural wear of Ghana but it is nice agbada and Gele are worn in Ghanian settings but it is not originally Ghanian but from Nigeria particularly Yoruba sometimes the kente style has been worn by Nigerians as well in ankra style. Plus many tribes have spread beyond their original homeland and brought with them their cultures so it spread. I have heard from my Ghanian friends that are Ewe that they originally from Nigeria, and I won't be surprised if they brought their cultural clothing with them as well(it could explain why you saw some ghanians with the Gele and agbada syle in Ghanian weddings because the kente wear is traditionally ghanian not the agbada or Gele material): http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ewe_people#Origins

KENTE clothing originated from Ghana and ivory coast from the Akan people or tribe
https://africanfabriclady.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/kente-quilt-kit-008.jpg
https://textilesociety.org/images/ghana/chief.jpg
[img]http://2.bp..com/_OaqxqYYcNWM/TJ-yA4EtNGI/AAAAAAAAAGc/UtCWayvid8U/s1600/Ghana+clothes+02.jpg[/img]
https://www.saflirista.com/kente%20fashion.jpg
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kente
http://www.ghananation.com/tourism/Kente-Festivals.asp
http://www.theghanaianjournal.com/2010/05/15/kente-festival-launched/

BOUBOU is the traditional wear of west african men in all of west africa but their are differences from one tribe to another in West Africa, the hausa version is called Babban riga & the Yoruba version of the boubou is Agbada. I have noticed there are the general similarities but their are slight differences like I have noticed the Hausa and Senegalese style has a longer length then the Yoruba version examples:  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boubou_%28clothing%29

Yoruba version of Boubou is AGBADA
https://www.africastyles.com/images/mspe/frank-4pcel.jpg

Hausa version of Boubou is BABBAN RIGA
[img]http://3.bp..com/-fkeLqWeuBDU/Tkf4PRezQ0I/AAAAAAAAAGY/CEN-LhKyIAs/s1600/ali+nuhu.jpg[/img]

French speaking West African countries version of Boubou is GRAND BOUBOU
https://storage.canalblog.com/35/44/654592/44641691.jpg
http://africaqueen.canalblog.com/albums/grand_boubou_homme/index.html

The Senegalese version of Boubou is the SENEGALESE KAFTAN
[img]http://4.bp..com/_BmHr9OH-ABY/TGMYiDLmHNI/AAAAAAAAANQ/X5HtSseowlc/s1600/Senegal_July_August_2010+048.JPG[/img]
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Senegalese_kaftan

SO IN GENERAL THOUGH NIGERIAN STYLE & FASHION CLOTHING IS ORIGINALLY NIGERIAN. each country has their own unique way of dressing but the Gele & Agbada is Nigerian
Igbo women and men traditional clothing attire
https://www.motherlandnigeria.com/pictures/two_ladies.jpg
https://www.jaguda.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/isi-agu2.jpg

Yoruba women and men traditional attire
https://www.tunjisarumi.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/01/solaolumide_12-20-2008_-30.jpg

well with his two baby mommas and a bad track record with women in general what difference does it make now that he evens marry's; so who cares he is a joke when it comes to women as far as I am concerned

2Face and his two baby momma's(Annie Macaulay & Pero Adeniyi)
http://www.thenetng.com/2011/05/13/no-more-baby-mama-drama-for-2face/
2Face
[img]http://2.bp..com/_1uiZjBN0QmA/TU9HGCoyBGI/AAAAAAAAAH4/09WyiofAFBk/s1600/2_Face.jpg[/img]
Annie Macaulay
https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-kSCnbiRDRfg/TXUF7_diYxI/AAAAAAAAAWw/3IfHMn_n2R0/Annie%252BMacaulay.jpg
Pero Adeniyi
[img]http://1.bp..com/_u3lFqBksmrE/StOFyYLuXEI/AAAAAAAAYCY/jwRiydPBF9g/s400/25.jpg[/img]

WHO GIVES A DAMN, so it's news that a Asian women cuts John's hair

WHATS NEXT a white woman relaxes Uche jumbo's hair

The saying is; besides being lovers, the spouses are best friends to one another and you are each others number one best friend but that doesn't mean you can't have a best friend besides your spouse but it is easier for a married man to have a male best friend then a female best friend and it is easier for a married female to have a female best friend then a male best friend(unless he is g-ay but that is not common with Nigerians).

When it comes to a married man having a female best friend there are risk because the wife may think there is a affair when at times it is just innocent friends, especially if you do things like fun activities that you may not do with your wife, not only your wife but many people around you may think or get suspicious that there is cheating. Plus sometimes it can be a catalyst for cheating if the man is not from a perfect marriage in the first place.

Married men shouldn't rock the boat when it comes to having female best friends, maybe a regular friend at work but not best friend. The only way a married man can have a female best friend besides his wife without suspicion from anybody is if the female is a relative of yours like a sister or female cousin.

tom28:
There are nigerians even doing much better in nigeria than some of us nigerians living in the west so enough with this hypocrisy.

I agree, and it is becoming more evident now with the economic down turns going on in the western world. In Nigeria if you have money and/or a good job, you will live the life compared to America:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ic7dggkZBSE
I have heard many stories of Nigerians living comfortably more in Nigeria then the ones in America, England and etc now

ebonyvibe:
cos men are supposed to be the head.

Men back home can probably not support them and the ones that can are comfortable back home and will not follow them abroad anyway.

A woman is to marry a man that is better than her not one she is better than. Men might not like it but that is how the cookie crumbles

ATLgal:
because women don't want to get used. many a woman has gone home to marry only for the man to leave after he's gotten his papers, who needs that? men on the other hand can get the woman pregnant fast, who wants to marry a woman with kids? not a lot of nigerian men, so she's stuck with him.

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The real reason is because it's easier for Nigerian men to do that without easily being scammed, the risk is low with Nigerian men and they majority of the time find the right women for them whether she is educated or not; I have seen some examples of that but when it's Nigerian women the risk is moderate to high because there have been many cases where Nigerian women after these men get their papers, they run off and their are cases when they do bring the men back with them many times these men come with less educated backgrounds as them so their standards are lower and some of these Nigerian men at times get intimidated as a result and that boils down to drama. Lastly sometimes these men may already have a lady back home and are just using you as a green card citizenship ticket, once they get it they bounce and may leave you with kids they had for you while he was waiting to leave and that is worse because Nigerian men tend to not like to marry women with kids. Plus when you see a educated and successful Nigerian man in Nigeria and there are many of them in Nigeria, many of them are already settled in Nigeria and are not inclined to go to the western world and feel they can see many Nigerian beauties right in Nigeria.

To me there is nothing wrong with Nigerian women going back home to marry Nigerian men but there are EXCEPTIONS:
You need to do a background check of the man you are seeing(especially through the help of your parents because your mother will never lie or wish you bad because they don't want their daughter with bad news), ask questions like whether he is married? and etc if there is something fishy about him or he tends to not open up and not tell you things you ask of him or you feel he is hiding something from you or he seems to be too perfect or too good to be true, especially when he doesn't live the life he boast of and etc, don't ignore it; that is a red flag that it may not be a genuine guy but a 419, green card, and/or etc dude.

There are many other warning signs of course and I am not implying that all cases are bad, I have seen success stories of Nigerian women marrying back home but I have seen some horror and unsuccessful stories of Nigerian women who go back and marry back home.

There is more risk with Nigerian women(especially ones born in the western world but raised in the Nigerian culture) then Nigerian men that marry back home; unless direct family is involved and I am not talking about a distant cousin or uncle from some where(because I have heard scamming amongst family to), I am talking about direct relatives like your mother and father.

I don't know about other parts of Nigeria but in Yorubaland it is proper English(not Shakespearean English though) or the few that are uneducated will speak broken English(not pigeon though). However Yoruba language is number one amongst Yoruba's then English comes after but Pigeon English was not invented by Yoruba's any way; that doesn't mean they don't engage in speaking it but I have noticed Yoruba's respect proper English over pigeon English. Yoruba's tend to speak pigeon when they are engaging in conversation with eastern tribes of Nigeria but when they are speaking with non-eastern tribes they tend to just speak regular English.

[quote author=aloy/emeka link=topic=774700.msg9307435#msg9307435 date=1318215717]1. How are you very sure that Yoruba women are bashed by Igbo men?. As far as I'm concerned, there are many Yoruba men who are very quick to throw Yoruba women under the bus when it comes to Igbo women. Hasn't tpia opened a thread here sometime early this year to address the issue?. Didn't you see the remark I made about Wale who used Igbo women as symbolism for beauty in his song[my sweetie]?. Is Wale Igbo again?. As a matter of fact, Wale grew up in America and for him to use that symbolism means he hears it from fellow Yoruba men who are more conversant with his culture and Nigeria. It is obvious he is brain washed and I am 90% sure it wasn't by an Igbo person. Sjeezy/Sbeezy/Sbuzzy/Smugu is another Yoruba boy who can quickly throw Yoruba women under the bus over an Igbo woman. Now ask yourself how many Igbo men do that to their women?.
However, I do believe in saying the truth no matter the cost to me personally but why I am against the ugly stereotyping of Yoruba women is because it is not factual as well as Igbo women being muscular and hairy.
I am responding to your post because you are more level headed that buffons like Ybutterfly who acknowledged that she is on a revenge mission . Why level headed sane people like you decided to give an insane woman who is clearly suffering from low self esteem beats me. Be careful on how you roll with this people before they pass the virus to you like they did to Ileke Idi.

2. How many Igbo women have you seen fighting usual stereotypes of being muscular and hairy here?. Compare it with the number of Yoruba women who can do anything to fight similar stereotypes of being ugly and dirty and decide for yourself who is actually suffering from low self esteem. Check Thief of hearts and how she responds to Igbos and you will notice the same low self esteem issue ripping her apart. She resorts to tantrums, insults, kicking, biting just to stay afloat. I still pray for her.[/quote]Well we are not sure who are the ones bashing the Yoruba women in these anti-Yoruba threads but I don't think it is all Yoruba men, it doesn't have to be Igbo men either it could be other tribes. I was in one thread a month ago where a Nigerian man of one of the smaller tribes was bashing Yoruba's; I thought he was Igbo until I found out he is from another tribe, I think Ijaw if I am not mistaken.

any way I don't really talk with Ybutterfly, I just wanted to advise her that this retaliation thing isn't worth it as far as I am concerned

It depends on the type of person you are & what is important to you in a marriage. If love overrides culture for you and you don't necessarily care of carrying on your culture and/or race then it won't be a problem because if you potentially have kids with her just know they will be the culture of their mother, if you can accept that then fine because I have noticed a flip flop affect with Nigerian men who are married out of their race and culture to whites and etc

For me I will only marry a Yoruba man since I am Yoruba because I take my culture seriously when it comes to marriage and to me love can be found in your culture. So it isn't a issue for me I ponder over because, I have noticed the people that marry outside their race & culture tend to not care about holding on to culture and care more for love but if you are the type of person who cares for culture and carrying on other stuff over love then I seriously advise you to watch out because it can come out and haunt you. You also have to think of you family as well how that will effect the marriage to.

I would like to add though that To many old world cultures, which includes Nigerians, majority marry within their own race and culture; but new world cultures(many nations which are majority white in population) they don't, at least most of them don't really care what race they marry(America is a exception though). Non is bad that is just the way it is

Nayah:
Well sister I'm not Nigerian and I don't believe to stereotypes about Yoruba this and that, and I can understand why you can be upset but by ignoring this kind of message they might disappear, hope you understand ( good pictures too )

understood (thank you )

Goldieluks:
You welcome.
And there should also be the one for Southern/Bendel Nigerian women,too,lol.

I agree, I don't know why there hasn't been one on Bendal women there should be