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sisisioge:
Cos its all written on the wall...I know loving eyes can't ever see. Pele.

Hmmm ! I love that madam, though for now we have settled our differences, she admitted the closeness but she said she is not dating him. I know sth is very wrong somewhere I will surely get to the root of the matter.

Chai ! She just spoke the truth

sisisioge:
Yes she is

You said the affirmatively . Why are u so sure about this?

baby124:
The guy might be a playboy and knows how to flatter women. Women love attention so she may be getting it from him. But that doesn't mean she wants to be with him. Why did he give her his memory card?

I don't know ooo, because the present phone she is using i was the one that bought it

Guitarlife:
Op pls answer these questions.

How old are you ?

What kinda job do you have ?

Are her parents richer than your parents ?

How old is she ?

Lemme tell you a story that happened to me.

I used to date a virgin too. A young girl corper who was about 9 years younger. I loved her and she knew. But these were he mistakes which is the same mistakes young ladies make :

1. She believed she was too young for marriage - same with ur girl friend.

2. She believed she had the potential and beauty to hook a far more "succesful" or richer man.

3. She was not too eager to let everyone around her know she was engaged. Same as ur babe.

4. She was dating me but at the sametime she didnt want people to know, this right there is the first sign of an opportunist.

When I saw all these I knew she did not love me. She was only with me because I was the best at the time and if she was lucky to get someone better she will leave me.

I kicked her out as you would have guessed.

Remember this , as a man if your woman is does not feel lucky for having you as a partner and she now hides you from her fb twitter etc and is forming single please run.

My final advise, forget her hymen which you aint even sure is intact.
Tell her its over. Be firm and let her see you will not tolerate bullshiit.
If she comes back to you fine and if she doesnt well , its life.

You will meet someone who will adore and respect you.



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Let me ans little of the questions u asked in order not to reveal much identity about me. I'm in my early thirties she is in her early twenties the age diff is about 8 years, our parents are not rich but I'm doing well as a guy though I'm that rich. I have done a lot for her that's not d issue because in life we are meant to impact positively to the life of others. Sincerely I think she loves me I don't know what is really wrong with her, she has even called me several times today.
Also she use to say it that I'm different from other guys she has met before me. Truly I'm a nice guy who doesn't believe in taking advantage of any lady.
Well I will try and do some finding if turns out to be true then I can know decide on what to do.

baby124:
Well now that you have given more information, the guy could be the one into her. Also I don't buy any story that the guy is married so nothing. He could be married but on his way out divorce-wise. He could be a very disrespectful person to his wife as well. The truth is your fiancée did not initiate the disrespect, he did. I am sure she was surprised at his action and was afraid at yours. I feel if you want to marry her, you go ahead. But if not, then you have to deal with her having admirer's till you marry. Even when you marry she will keep having admirer's. My own mother still has admirer's. Should my father have put her in Hijab or locked her at home or killed himself when he was alive?

Well said, the guy is Muslim and u know they can have many wives as possible, when I check the guy timeline he has never for once declared his love to his wife which I'm not even sure the wife is with him , so u are very correct about your assumption about the guy. A very young and beautiful lady will always has admirers , but what do we call that if u are giving ur admirers attention.
She has actually met with the guy and currently when I saw many of d guy pics on her phone she said she collected d memory card she is using now from the guy.
What do u think about that?

NoToPile:
Hmm to the one I love ..., he may just have a crush on her or something and it could be more you never can tell.

Dig deeper , and since you are a Christian pray hard about this, nothing is hidden.

Like you said one cannot afford to marry someone one doesnt trust.

You will find the truth.

Thanks for your wonderful contribution, I will try and do something to it, there is something she is still hiding.

AllforJesus7:
Bro I think you worry too much.

1. The said guy who posted on facebook is married and his wife may see the post. Meaning he would not publicly do any thing that could jeopardize his own marriage and reputation with friends. You can easily deduce from this that the said facebook post is just a friendly banter, which the poster's wife and friends who see it have no problem with. So, why do YOU have a problem with it then?

2. Some ladies do not feel comfy with fellow ladies but have tonnes of males as friends. Asking them to cut off from these males is asking them to have no friend at all. When she gets engaged, most of her male friends will give her space. They are still around because you have not officially proposed.


Conclusion:

She is just the friendly and free type, and there is no evidence that she is cheating.
Be a man and outgrow your insecurities if you really love her. Accept her personality and help her get better. Otherwise, call off the relationship and step aside for someone who is mature and deserves her.

I'm not saying I was preventing her from having friends perhaps she has many male friends, there are some I know that I do chat with occasionally. But if u notice some things in d life of a woman u want to spend your life with is better u do some finding before it is too late. If she cannot receive some calls in my presence though I don't touch her phone but sometimes she delete her chat history what else is she hiding I'm not accusing her of anything yet because there is no concrete evidence.
Marriage is life time journey I cannot avoid to marry someone I cannot trust, the examples I sighted is just few of several things I have discovered about her, so for me to find out some things about d person I want to marry u call that insecurity, is my life to live not yours . I won't wait till I catch her in bed with a man. To avoid story that touches I need to take actions now! Thanks

emmyN:
She's probably flirting with men. Such girls are attention seekers, they just enjoy the troll around them. It's called emotional cheating, which could mean that she's not in an active relationship with either one of them.
As an earlier commenter opined, table your evidence before her and let her know you are not comfortable with such actions. And in case of future similar occurrence, rather that imagining things in your head, simply talk it out with her. Communication is key in every relationship.
Bliss

My guy it seems you are on the way oooo, she loves attention more than anything, she is a kind of lady u must call several times a day, she calls too very often and also she loves chatting very well. She out of city for now we chatted about it initially she was not taking it very well later she succumbed and she admitted that d guy has wooed her before but she said she is not dating him. She later said she is sorry and she will do sth about d closeness with the guy.

GoldCircle:
ol' boy, pack your bags...you are about to carry an ant infested wood into your bedroom. Do not complain when the ants come pouring in.

A word they say, is enough for the _ _ _ _.

Pls stop speaking in parable oooo, pls say it in plain language.

NoToPile:
What I have a problem with is a guy uploading a picture of a lady you have proposed to and has accepted your proposal online , professing his love for her publicly( except if he just uploaded it as a friend) and she liking the post.

I thought once someone accepts a proposal you guys are engaged to be married, Christainity takes the bethrotal very serious in fact its the first stage of the marriage process. Your fiancee is liking the post of someone who claims to be her lover on FB that's are very bad sign, a red flag. She also has many of his pics on her phone (anybody can have pics of people but this one is too much to be a coincidence)

What were the exact words he used if you don't mind?
What type of chats did you see on her FB? If you could raise an eyebrow then its something you are not comfortable with.

You need to dig deeper, find out exactly what it is. There's something she's hiding if she can't receive some calls in your presence.

this is a no sex relationship so I believe you can still think rationally without being clouded by emotions.

That girl seems to be hiding something from you and all arrows point to that FB guy, I just hope she's not sleeping with him for fun and then marry you.

If you are patient enough in a matter of weeks you will see exactly what it is. It may end up being nothing.

If you find out she's sleeping with him or any other person for that matter please call it off.

Seriously I don't expect a lady who is engaged to behaving like that, actually this is what the guy wrote. *Happy birthday to one I love* ................. .Pls let me stop in order not to reveal too much identify.
Yes, when it comes to women I cannot be easily manipulated,I'm not saying I'm a saint but I have never cheated on her also I don't allow any unnecessary closeness with any lady. Before I proposed to her I waited for 10 years without having anything to do with any lady. Not having sex or hot romance with her is a personal decision I stood on that and for me being a Christian that is what is expected of me.
Concerning the Facebook chat I won't say much about that now. Thanks for your contribution.

NoToPile:
What I have a problem with is a guy uploading a picture of a lady you have proposed to and has accepted your proposal online , professing his love for her publicly( except if he just uploaded it as a friend) and she liking the post.

I thought once someone accepts a proposal you guys are engaged to be married, Christainity takes the bethrotal very serious in fact its the first stage of the marriage process. Your fiancee is liking the post of someone who claims to be her lover on FB that's are very bad sign, a red flag. She also has many of his pics on her phone (anybody can have pics of people but this one is too much to be a coincidence)

What were the exact words he used if you don't mind?
What type of chats did you see on her FB? If you could raise an eyebrow then its something you are not comfortable with.

You need to dig deeper, find out exactly what it is. There's something she's hiding if she can't receive some calls in your presence.

this is a no sex relationship so I believe you can still think rationally without being clouded by emotions.

That girl seems to be hiding something from you and all arrows point to that FB guy, I just hope she's not sleeping with him for fun and then marry you.

If you are patient enough in a matter of weeks you will see exactly what it is. It may end up being nothing.

If you find out she's sleeping with him or any other person for that matter please call it off.

Seriously I don't expect a lady who is engaged to behaving like that, actually this is what the guy wrote. *Happy birthday to one I love* ................. .Pls let me stop in order not to reveal too much identify.
Yes, when it comes to women I cannot be easily manipulated,I'm not saying I'm a saint but I have never cheated on her also I don't allow any unnecessary closeness with any lady. Before I proposed to her I waited for 10 years without having anything to do with any lady. Not having sex or hot romance with her is a personal decision I stood on that and for me being a Christian that is what is expected on me.
Concerning the Facebook chat I won't say much about that now.

SirVintageCock:
She said that she is a VIRGIN

Since I haven't heard sex with her and I don't intend to do that until marriage. But her action is now giving me a serious concern

[quote author=Mayflowa post=56592707]Did you see how Banky W quickly announced to the world his love for Adesua Etomi and went ahead to do the introduction? That was because Adesua started crushing on Jidenna and professing her love for him on Twitter.

So ask her if she would want to marry you and marry her or at least do an introduction. Then watch if he still chats with the boy? She probably likes you but just want her last fun b4 marriage. She may be missing romance too since you are acting too Christian-like. Goodluck[/quote
We are planning towards that introduction, she was the one that said we should put it on hold till she graduated.she love me I know that very well, sometimes ago when I raised similar issue she was crying like a baby. She calls me often and I do call her too, sometimes she doesn't give me space.
Concerning the issue of romance u maybe right or wrong, I do take her out hold her hands or hug her, no any form of hot romance because we both decided that we only gonna have sex until after marriage and we have stood on that. She also said she is a virgin.

baby124:
Since you have not proposed to her, you are still friends right? Why do you think chasing all her suitors when you are not yet her Fiancé is the best option for her? If she was your daughter will you advice her to chase all her suitors for someone who is courting her and has not proposed yet?

Well, I have proposed to her, I have made my mind known to her since the beginning of the courtship. All my families know her, I have even met with her father and mother and made my intention known to them. The guy is married she can never marry d guy even if they are dating, she may be doing that for the fun ofit, she is young and just graduated.

I'm in a Christian courtship with a beautiful lady, we have been planning to settle down this year. What I discovered about her right from the onset of the relationship is that she has so many male friends and it doesn't bother me much because I trust her and also I discovered that she really love me through her action. Let me say few things about her she is respectful and homely lady and she doesn't demand much from me though I take properly care of her.
Sometimes again I stumbled on her chat in Facebook and I saw her chat with some men which made me raise and an eyebrow though what I saw did not establish it that she is cheating she apologized and we settle it. Lately I discovered that she has been very careful with her phone and also she wouldn't want to receive some calls when she is with me.
The last thing that gave me concerns was that few days ago she celebrated her birthday and a guy uploaded her pictures and publicly professed his love to her as lover on Facebook the post generated a lot of comments and she also like the post.The same guy that she has so many of his pics on her phone.
My question is that could she be cheating on me? Though I haven't confronted her with that, there are so many things to say, let me stop here in other not to reveal much identity. Any reasonable advise or bashing is welcomed.