And you had to open a thread to make yourself feel special

To the idiots asking where he stole it from, what business or work is a 19 year old 100L university student doing to come about such amount of money? Some of you would be asking questions like 2 year old, with no intention to use your number 6

Some persons don't just have the virtue of shame

Martinez39:
STFU jare. She simply typed that she didn't understand the bible verse you gave. Mteww.

You are even more stupid than I thought. The question she asked is "Cheating or marrying more than one woman?" and it was in response to "its our God given right" which I said. There's no relationship between the question and the Bible verse, it seems you have a problem with understanding

Martinez39:
Hahahahaha . You know that I believe in the aquatic immortal pink elephant because you don't have evidence that it doesn't exist.

I believe in your immortal doppelganger who lives in another galaxy because you don't have evidence that she doesn't exist.

I believe there is an indestructible white teapot with green stripes in the centre of the sun because you don't have evidence that it doesn't exist.

Seriously? If your child told you that she believes in the Hindu god, not Allah, because you can't provide any evidence that the Hindu god does not exist, what would you say? When someone makes a claim that a religious god exists, the burden of proof lies on that person to provide proof and evidence of the existence not the atheist. If the person can't or the proof provided is not reasonable, then there is no reason to accept such. What are the irrefutable evidences of the existence of Allah? Muhammad told you that angel Gabriel visited him and gave him a revelation, how do you Muhammad wasn't lying?

The same way I believe you don't have a brain until the day we get to open your skull and check . Existence does not rely on proof just as a fish swimming in the sea right now, has its burden of proof laid down on your acknowledgement of you seeing it swim for it to exist as such

AryEmber:
A muslim man that takes a second wife the way Islam dictate it didn't cheat on his wife. He only cheats if he fornicates with the new wife to be.

Islam gives room for more than one wife, so it's debatable whether a Muslim having a relationship with multiple woman can have any degree of cheating attached to it since by law he can take as many as he chooses

Martinez39:
Even still, there many holy books does not mean all are open to interpretation because all holy books have their intended meaning. So nothing is open to interpretation, it either you take it as it is or not.

Where do you stand? You said many wives are your god given rights , which of the gods? You can't tell me you stand with one religion and accommodate/support the doctrines of another religion. So it's your god given right, which God and of what religion?

You said it's your god given right and you quoted the bible to support your view then someone asked for clarity and you started talking about the views of other religion. Where do you stand? If you stand on one, you won't be talking about other religion because your holy book would be what you need and others would be wrong where they contradict your holy book. What religion do you stand in to say it's your god given right to have many wives?

I won't argue with you again as this is not religion section.

You see why I said you are a slowpoke, her question gave room for further questions which was the reason I decided to come up with a middle ground answer to quell it. Relativism in interpretation as I pointed out simply puts to bed the sectarian questions which would have arisen should I have given a specific answer since God was the basis of the question in the first place.

Martinez39:
SMH. Nonsense, arrant nonsense. So it's no longer what the holy books mean that's important but how people interpret it? You see how unserious or stupid(no offences) one can become. You have holy books that are supposedly teaching us about aspects of our objective reality but you, probably for the sake of convenience or foolishness, reduced it to subjectivity. It's like telling me that if I assume reality to be "this and that," the universe will then conform to my beliefs and make it a reality for me --- talk about the subjective universe . If six persons come up with six different interpretations of a passage in a holy book, it doesn't mean all six interpretations should be considered legitimate for each of the owners of their corresponding interpretation because a holy book communicates one meaning. In reality, either five are wrong and one is correct or all are wrong.

The bible is not hard or ambiguous to understand if one is honest with oneself(which you are probably not). You should read your Bible very well because if you did, you would know that the verse you brought wasn't establishing or proclaiming a man's right to have more than one wife. If you read the whole chapter, it spells of the forthcoming hard times for the children of god because of their sins. That verse was describing how hard it will be for women and how desperate they would be to get a husband such that they wouldn't care if the husband provided for them or not. Please, read your bible and be clear on it's meaning rather than picking interpretations that suits you. Such unserious mindset will ensure that the shackles of religion(magical thinking) will continously enslave you

First and foremost, you are a slowpoke. How many Holy Books are there? How do these Holy books define marriage? whats acceptable to them and what's not? Compare and contrast the various teachings and then you would see why I said Teaching and Polygamy is open to interpretation.

Rextizzle:
Most Nigeria girls were disvirgined because of:

Indomie and can coke


200 Naira suya


500 Naira Kilishi


Shawarma and can coke


Jollof rice and chicken


buns and water


Free sometimes, you can add yours.

I will never marry a girl who countless dicks has ransacked her punny, never!

Why's it so hard to find people with common sense these days

AryEmber:
I don't understand a word you wrote.

The concept of cheating and marriage differ from one religion to another, for example, a Muslim can marry more than one wife but to a Christian it would be cheating and that's why I said it's relative, each to their own. And that's why I really can't pick any of the two options

Tell her to cry before her husband the same way she came crying to you and explain how she feels like she did to you �

AryEmber:
To cheat or marry more than one?

It is directed to people of all faith, the Christian picture was just an illustration. Interpretation is open to various situations, so the concepts of marriage and cheating is relative.

Martinez39:
Religious gods do not exist and all holy books are ridiculous garbages and falsehoods with no basis in reality. So arguing using religion holds no ground as far as reasoning and reality are concerned.

No offence but you sound stupid

Listen to the Op at your own peril, it's our God given right

Was young and in love, said she was a virgin and I believed her for 4 years until she couldn't bear lying to me any more. Even at that, The bitch still didn't let me be and made it her life duty to spoil my other relationships until she finally realised there was no going back

goneinahrtbeat:


My dear, I've been doing that. Cause the drastic change no be here. Now, he sounds like he's been in a bad marriage all this while

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Start shaping your mindset towards becoming single again, which is not a bad thing. Your husband is shameless and you also have a hand in your own problems, I don't understand how you made your snake of a friend become so comfortable around your shameless husband? Thank God you have no kids, start looking for money if you have none, the Nigerian justice system is not sympathetic to women in such situations. It's not gonna be easy but it's a necessary step in moving towards the right direction, you cannot change his mind, start hardening your heart towards him cos he's gonna take advantage of your emotions as he's already doing by making you feel you are the problem. No matter the offense you might have committed, his actions are despicable.

jobonnairaland:
Guys? Blame the chick, not the guy.

I said women are not exempted

Too many dangerous quickies to recount

So what do you want us to do now

Guys should stop this act of leading women on for years with fake promises. One month is more than enough for me to determine whether I can marry someone or not, this act of deceit should be frowned at, women are not exempted

ClintonNzedimma:
Attend the XegaCon.... One of the first video game conference in Nigeria

What's it about?

Such a woman can poison ☠ you

Stupid hoe trying to act smart

Let them flock in and start playing the victim card

December Don reach boys Don dey find blood

Most of them are here shouting feminism and later going to spread their legs for doctors to uproot

Saff:
I like you because you are real with yourself. You know that you are good for nothing, so instead of fishing for what you can’t get, you stay within your means. I like that, there’s nothing wrong with you, keep it up.

Never knew people who eat from the waste bins use phones, saying you have a mental disorder outrightly would be too benevolent

@ op, there's nothing wrong in wanting an easy lay, it's not a case of attraction, you simply want sex

pfijacobs:
Hello nairalanders.. i wont bother you with too much epistle.. i have a friend of mine who came for advice to me and i felt you guys can help me shed some light on the matter..

My friend is a basist who has been playing and acting as a music director for the past 11 years without collecting a dime in a church..

last year he went into some problems and needed about 180k urgently to sort out his schooling issues..

he missed church for 2 weeks to hustle some money and his name was removed from the ordination list and he was alienated from the church without any sort of help rendered..
he still returned, begged and continued steadfastly till 3 weeks ago when his house rent expired and his mother fell sick..

he met the general overseer again and asked for help not even for the rent but assistance to collect his medical license so he can at least source for a housemamship slot

The general overseer said there was no money as he was going for his mothers burial and that the church wanted to buy a land of over 3 million naira in the east where there is no single member but he would talk to some people

Following sunday he was told that so many stories were told about him (the basist) and that before anything will be done for him they have to hear from the mother.

He made up his mind to go and play outside for some cash at least for now till he can raise the money for the license and probably get a good job

He doesnt know if he's on the right path and the g.o has been using him to preach ever since making statements like money is not everything, stopp being proud with your talent etc..

Whats your take please??
Should he leave or stay?

P.S: he was inducted into the medical profession in February and has not been able to collect his license because of the seemingly unmountable challenges of his mums health and a loan she took sometime ago.
Please urgent advice needed. Thanks

Give me your friends full name so that I can look for him and give him a slap to reset his brain. What sort of stupid followership is he practicing? He's waiting for manner to fall from heaven when God has given him Tractor to use in cultivating for himself. Tell him that God would not do for him what he can do for himself

enuk80:
We were not in any relationship when she did it. She did that when she was 21 year old (about two years ago). She was still a virgin then and got disvirgin that same year by her ex boyfriend. Though, I have known her long time ago even before I asked her out. I didn't considered myself having anything to do with her as at then. I should have been the one to disvirgin her but I didn't feel anything for her then.

She is not a prostitute but her action for taking the family planning makes me think she just wanted to mess around with some random guys. Perhaps, her dad is a pastor and maybe she doesn't want to bring an embarrassment to her dad. I told her what she did was very bad.

She hasn't done any abortion before. I asked her about that several times but she said she hasn't. She only had sex with her ex boyfriend four times before they broke up. After that she didn't dated any other guy until I ask her out early last year. No one knows she did family planning, not even her ex boyfriend.

In terms of communication level, she is this type that hardly talk or express herself in public. She doesn't express herself in the present of her own parents. I have known her long ago even before I asked her out.

Okay o. If you are so sure about her as you just made me believe from your reply, then I see no reason why you created this thread in the first place, just saying. There's no harm in keeping an open mind, taking every word she tells you as though it's cast on iron is laughable. There are different levels to knowing a person and one can only take with a pinch of salt words of mouth that are not verifiable.

A 23 year old taking such a bold step leaves a lot to ponder. First of all, where both of you in a relationship when she did it? If yes, ask her why? If No, is she a prostitute? Because most of them who flow with the big boys engage in unprotected sex.
Secondly, she saying the decision was taken due to pregnancy could possibly mean she had done abortion in the past and might be preventing a repeat of the situation.
Thirdly, marriage is not you like me and I like you, both of you are not friends from the look of things, that's why the communication level is poor. Rethink this decision, it's a life changing decision