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Your posts are usually off-putting but the one on this thread seems much better today.

In my humble opinion, there's never a "mistake" involved in getting into bed with someone else.

There are always signs, but when neither party chooses to address them, then there would be wonders.



As for me... well, it can't happen to me.

I can smell BS from a mile away, and if I like you, I'll avert the danger. If I'm ready to drop you, I'll just wait until I have enough evidence and then it's night-night for us.

advanceDNA:
I'm cold ......mumu.....is your room Russia or alska?? that's green flight for rush me.....

I don't want my clothes to stain...give me ur top to wear....haaa ..seduction 101 just entered final project approval.....she wants to kill u with pointing nipplés....

The easiest code to miss...."I've only had sex once this year".....that's a two in one code ...she's forming she doesn't visit or fvck guys anyhow and also she's overdue for correct pounding.....

Thanks, man

advanceDNA:
Oga...u are just jealous....they did night vigil.... if u want to join ...tell her



On a serious note.... u are just naive...U no sabi woman way.... dont u read comment from most married men here? wife wey dem marry for house for years still form saint when it comes to sex..be using indirect moves..

Women will always pretend when it comes to sex....make it look like u made them do it...like they never wanted it...like they are doing u a favour....woman will visit u amd be saying....."i will soon be going oo" ... go naaaaa...na lie ooo...na their green light be that for off pant...

na their way.... ur own is to make a woman feel desired and let her off pant by herself ..all those i am a chorister, i pray twice a week are just mind games to make u feel she's a good girl...

saying u are helping her focus and blocking her is telling her u are a mumu or that u dont desire her anymore.... u know how many sex starved idiót dey her dm waiting for you to fvck up...she will just respond to their chat and u have replaced in a second... na husband hard to see for woman.....fvck boys full everywhere ..

Yo, man. This is a funny post but it's also true. I'm curious, what other green lights do women give?

I'd like to know from an academic perspective

Cos I've heard that women can sometimes signal a guy ten to fifteen times before he finally picks up on the fact that she's into him.

It is said that a child's height comes from his dad and intelligence is gotten from his mom.

It is goes beyond being able to conceive. If, as a man, you're the breadwinner of the family, in all likelihood, your woman would have more contact with the kids than you would.

Imagine your hear your wife teaching your child, K for Kabbage.

Can a person who's not educated and exposed enough stand for you as a man when you're not there?

Imagine you have a Masters in Petroleum Engineering and you have some colleagues over for dinner and they try to engage such a wife in conversation?

It's gonna be a disaster of epic proportions.

Apart from that, how do you engage your wife in conversation? It means that a large chunk of the common ground education would have provided won't be available for you guys to connect on.

How can share stories about adventures in school, friends you made, wicked lecturers, difficult courses, and the like?

I could love someone from a distance. But wifing a lady... hmm, that's a big, lifetime decision that I won't take very lightly. Of course, her education has to come into play.

I'm not a fan of using people. If I know I don't have you in mind long term, I'll clear you from the get-go. No use getting someone's hopes up.

But God forbid, if I'm forced to marry someone like that, she's going to continue her education in my house, as a distance learning, part-time student until she gets all her degrees in order.

If she doesn't like this plan, then we're definitely not compatible at all.

Big ups to Izzy. Stayed up all night to watch it.

I'm a huge fan and I'm glad the King is back.

Pereira ain't getting near that belt any time soon.

Fira09:
I think it's your own browser, mine isn't so.

Lol. You weren't online when it happened.

Was everywhere.



It's all back to normal now, though

Winters23

Holla. I'd love to connect with you. Say, a phone call if you've got spare time.

I'll assume you're not interested if I don't get a response after 48 hours.

✌️

Cheers.

Disclaimer: Before I say anything, I want you to know that sustaining a friendship or relationship is not easy.

It takes time, hard work, patience, maturity and many more things missing from people's lives today...

Of course, you and I know that if you want to live a better experience, you need to leave her.

But then, just know that you must give yourself time to do that. You may be unsuccessful the first few times you try to forget about her.

The memories would be all over the place and the pulling desire to go back to her would be very strong.

Allow yourself to fail, but never stop trying to disconnect from her. Each time you try again, it becomes less difficult

That said...

I think you have low self-esteem. The world is looking at you and treating you the way you treat yourself.

If you don't treat yourself badly, talk down on yourself, castigate yourself, feel bad about yourself, no human being on this planet can make you feel this way.

"If there's no enemy within, the enemy without can do us no harm.

I think you haven't really discovered yourself.

Do you know your temperament traits? Do you know your love languages? What are your goals—financially, socially, relationship-wise, career, spiritually, over the next 5, 10, or 25 years?

What are your personal convictions? The rules that govern your life?

Lol...

If you fix yourself, no biatch would be able to dictate to you and that's a fact.

9182736455O1999:
Are you really real? Or you just dey catch cruise.

I can tell you your future too. Send me a DM and I'll let you know what the conditions are.

labake1:
You be seer?
See my palm 🖐️

Aha. Lemme tell you what I see.

I see you being wary of men. You have been disappointed in the past.

I see you giving up on true love. I see you being with a man you don't really love but someone who you're compatible with. He would not be much older than you.

This man would be comfortable but not very wealthy. I see you having petty quarrels with him over little things.

I see you having 3 kids.

labake1:
Because men are distraction

**Some men are distractions.



If you show me your palm, I will tell you what your future with men will be like.

labake1:
Relationship advice? I am a Celibate

See? We already have something in common. BTW, why are you abstaining?

labake1:
Kilode

I sell very quality relationship advice. Let's chat.

Failure2019:
Simp


Using money to get women only gets golddiggers

May God grant you good eyesight to see things well and the commonsense to understand simple English.

brightmorningst:
I get money

I hope that's not all.

Money is very vital in a relationship; just like cement is vital in building construction. But you cannot make a house out of only cement. Them fit use your own money run you street if you no sabi.

What's her mental capacity? How mature is she? How has she added value to your life and your future plans since she met you? Do you guys vibe together? Does she have good energy? Is she your spec physically? How is she on a spiritual and moral level? What are her convictions? What are her views on issues important to you?

Do you know her love language? Does she know yours? How do you deal with conflicts? How does she relate with other people? Who are her friends?

You're asking about spicing things up and you say you have money, but I think you need to determine whether you're in a relationship first.

If you are in a relationship, is it built on good foundations? What are your plans/goals about the relationship?

Abi you wan just chop clean mouth.

Don't be in a hurry to hang the title of relationship on anyone's neck cos half the people in a relationship today don't really know what they're doing at all.

Good girls are everywhere but God dey disguise them well well so the bad guys no go chop them before the real good guys dey ready.

LOL.

Seriously, though. They're everywhere. Either, they're not your spec (some of y'all won't look at any girl if she doesn't look like Nicki Minaj). Or you're not patient enough.

You can do many things to spice up your relationship and I can give you a few pointers.

But I don't think "spicing up" this situationship would help you.

In my own little experience, for a long distance relationship to work, you need to have spent sufficient time with the person physically. And I mean, a lot. Build a strong bond face to face first.

It's that bond that would help both of you when you're apart.

If you haven't met the girl yet and claim to be in a relationship, you're joking. If you met her and don't spend ample time with her face to face, you're joking.

I have many more things to say but I don't think you're ready to hear them sef. BTW, op, what qualifies you to think you're ready for a relationship?



labake1, what's up?

engrchykae:
I think she should tactfully tell her friend to investigate her man

Yeah, that's an option. I'd even suggest doing it anonymously. But for someone that's already pregnant for him, I dunno if she'd be will be willing or able to back out.

And if she's blinded by love (or the man's money), she'll turn her friend into the enemy of her marriage.

The same way Buhari promised us army to stop intimidation of voters, yet soldiers didn't show up.

People still burned and stole ballot boxes. Election was still disrupted all over the country. Where were the soldiers when Yahaya Bello was busy destroying the road?

Abeg rest. Audio, work-from-home soldiers.

You've surrounded yourself with useless youths which is why you think they're all useless. Same way earth dwellers previously thought the earth was flat, until they moved beyond their abode to explore.

Besides, it's highly suspicious to call everyone useless without it looking like a reflection of you. If everyone around you is useless, then there's a very good chance that you are too.

Change your circles.

Congratulations to them.

They should just do family planning because as much as I'm happy for the husband and wife, the current economic and political atmosphere in Nigeria is not the one where a couple multiplies children to themselves thoughtlessly.



That man is a sharpshooter, though.

If you tell her and she reports you to her fiancé, what would happen to you? A wealthy man who sleeps with cadavers can probably pick you up with police for trying to ruin his family or he could visit your destiny spiritually.

Do what you think is right but prepare for the worst possible outcome. Talk and be damned, keep quiet and be damned. You're caught between the devil and the deep blue sea.

akwesenana:
How do you ascertain if a man is a virgin?

You'll just have to trust he's telling the truth.

Most single moms are in full survival mode. Meaning, the welfare of their child comes first.

The best way to build a committed relationship with a single mom is if an agreement can be reached that the woman's child would be cared for outside her new lover's home (if they plan to settle down).

If the said child lives with two adults trying to build a romantic, committed relationship, it's gonna put a strain on everything going forward.

Single moms have a lot of baggages. They usually either have a deep-seated distrust of men or they're still very much attached to their baby daddy (unless he's dead).

A single mom wouldn't be my first choice, but people sometimes get a second chance at love; who am I to question them?

Smartguyboy:
If you are looking for virgin in Nigeria you will never get married trust me . Unless you want to turn to Pedophile. Even some of the teen below 13 are having sex .
Have not seen a virgin before I and I am 32 I gave up 🆙

Lol. There are virgins. Immature, inexperienced, but they exist.

You just have to change where you're looking for them.

I am friends with more than three girls who are virgins. Bella, 27. Lizzie, 20, Martha, 24 and some others. I'm not a fvckboy else I could have bedded any of them I wanted.

But being a virgin isn't the first thing you should check for in a lady sha. Apart from being fine, the thing I wish for most is a lady is one who gives me peace of mind.

I hate stress in this life.

Is she the first woman you fell in love with? Those ones are usually the hardest.

If you feel you can't let go, then maybe you should swallow your pride and try to iron out your differences? She may be missing you too but pride is just choking both of you.

Lol. It's going to be worse if you see her being openly intimate with another guy. If you cannot bear it, either solve your issues with her or get out of that physical space.

Put some space between you guys. Also allow time to do its work.

Get involved in work, new projects. Do some workouts, blow off some steam by exercising.

If you know any girl who really likes you, hit her up, go for a hangout or away match (depending on your relationship with said girl).

That can help boost your ego and could also have the added advantage of making your ex jealous.

✌️

Good luck.

1Sharon:
Did the OP say he was looking for a virgin

Apparently, you need to change your lenses.

Where did I mention the OP in my post?

Guys that chase girls, how do you cope?

Lol. That's how this girl chatted me up yesterday and two minutes into the chat, I just realized this is the same girl who ghosted me, forming "busy" because of school work.

Like me I don't have work to do myself.

But now that she's on break cos of election, she has my time.

Lol. Naso I just lockup.

The one who doesn't know my value, I keep at arm's length.

I like to say, I'm not afraid to eat alone because I know what I bring to the table.

They're supposed to be proving themselves to you, not you proving yourself to them.

BTW, op, are you ready to settle down?

If not, just focus on work and creating a comfortable environment for your future family.

Isn't it funny that guys with a high body count are looking for girls who are virgins?

Barims:
People go just dey issued out Stupid advice as if it's that easy mumu

Torr. Coming to this world is not easy so why didn't you die in your mother's womb? Shebi you want an easy life.

Man starts to struggle right from birth.

If you sit down instead and say, y'all should have handed me a soft life, well more power to you.

And it's not an advice. I'm just stating my opinion.

No need to get your panties in a wad cos of it.

Love and commitment doesn't know race or tribe.

Just be with someone who gives you peace.