₦airaland Forum

Karleb:
Everyone is on the side of the other woman probably because she's legally married.

But have you for a second empathized with the lady that got pregnant in 400 level probably out of wedlock? Gossiped by this same now legally married woman? Have you ever imagined how hurtful it can be to be the laughing stock of your department?


Two wrongs don't make a right but a popular saying in my area goes thus: "First to do no dey pain".

the blame on the first lady has nothing to do with " turn the other cheek",their reason is born out of sheer stigmatization of single moms and not because of "it is best leave to God".

Many of the moniker blaming the SM are ones that I have read their posts on revenge sex and how to get back on spouses.

I see revenge as a waste of time and don't endorse it,but if we are advocating forgiveness and forgetting,let us advocate for it genuinely and not when it suits us

CHoccolaTE:
This is what many people on this thread came to tell her but she kept denying it. I am glad you see it too

when ladies open threads telling other ladies to marry only rich men,do you and mynd44 see it as "infringing on ladies choices?"

You have no case against the Op for sharing her opinions

Ariza:
I see you suffer selective comprehension, you read and understand what you only want to understand. Earlier before, you mentioned that I mock/insult Buka for her thread but for the fact that you are inconsequential to my being here I did away with the desire to ask you to point out where I insulted or mocked the lady and graciously ignored. However seeing you have the this uncontrollable urge to drag me into whatever feud going on with the ladies here, I will not watch you label me as what I'm not or create a false reputation of me.

Any further attempt or mention to involve me in your childish tantrums/controversies here would be reported. It is advisable you have some self respect and maintain your lane. Thanks.

oh please grow past that calling of mods you aren't a kid.

To show how hypocritical you are,you want to call the mods to ban me for expressing myself yet you felt those ladies that called bukatynes names has the right to express themselves.


Spare me that,adjudicator...offer a rebuttal to my post or ignore,don't cry to the mods you are more than that

Ladyhippolyta88:
Do I know you?

Have I ever seen your monicker before.
Did I come at Buka on that thread or publicly disagree with her or attack her on her views so why the mention

my apologies. I always mistake LadyGCrueDKila.B with you...

Remain blessed

MrBrownJay1:
who needs enemies when you have such "friends" in your life...

the important question here IS: should your friend have a different view about "unmarried women having a child", simply because you were one?!?!

having a view is different from going around gossiping about her and mocking her.

You are biased in your judgement, if you feel the woman that metes revenge is the enemy, is one who gossips about you your friend?


To your question,does her view on barren married women have to change because her friend is currently one??

There are still people who hold on the stereotype of men being the perpetrators (they don't call this stereotype,they only call "women are naturally more emotional than logical" a stereotype )

This people abuse traditional people as archaic, they don't realise the mantra they keep chanting of women being oppressed are archaic themselves

bukatyne:
Until you see some colors together, you really can never visualize their combo.

"A woman should marry " "A woman should not marry" are both constructs that cages people's choices
The traditional people are guilty of using the first statement.The non traditional (woke and feminists) are used to using the second statement.
Sadly the woke ones don't classify the second statement as oppressive as the first.

When one fights against people living out their "traditional beliefs",it is called enlightenment.
When one fights against people living their " modern beliefs " it is called oppression.

True enlightenment is giving room for those that wants to be traditional.

People like LadyGCrueDKilaB ,biglittlelois,dande55,ariza,fieryy ,liberalchick et Al that came for your head will never understand this.

We should live and let live.

Their choice,their life. We should neither judge them for marrying and subtly judge those who value marriage(as woke people do to traditional women)

emmaodet:

this ladies never seem to amaze me. It is obvious bukatyne is one who loves the traditional way of marriage,her post is for those that adhere to it. Not for everyone.

All humans will have their own paths,they are people who the modern way works for others it doesn't work for them...look at how they are crucifying her for her "own truth". When these dolts open threads and have males storm the thread they cry foul but now they have started talking about freedom of expression as an excuse for their caustic bashings on her.


When you don't agree with them as a woman you are a pick mesha.
What shocks me is that monikers I never believed would stoop so low to throw shades and mock her like ariza,biglittlelois,et al

These same women will cry foul when men troll their threads and insult them.

The hallmark of enlightenment is recognising that humans have their individual paths which should be respected.

Some accusing her of enforcing her rules on them ,if she opened a thread talking of how ladies should milk rich men,they will say she in imposing her choices of them

Modernity has no place for traditional women. They insult them and call them pickmesha. The modern and traditional women can live in harmony,one who stays at home and cook and one who has a thriving career are both good women,none is lesser than the other

efosky1246:
I think the OP wrote with a hypergamous viewpoint.

but if you're coming to it from this angle, I totally am with you on that.

most of these women fail to understand that to get married to a well to do man who is a provider, and not just date short-term. your chances are quite low if your intrinsic values as a woman is in the gutters.

No right thinking man with resources will want to be a retirement plan for what your red-pill brothers would refer to as a post-wall thot.

the op had no issue with hypergamy but the shaming.
She said they has no right to call them useless,because she notices the trend of insulting men with that online.

The thing is a lot of motivational speakers mess up their heads into believing they should set standards without improving themselves so that they can attend their standard. Every girl screams rich man and yet they don't know what rich men want so they keep meeting the same circle of broke asses.
Its not just saying it but improving yourself to warrant it. Or they think the guys don't have standard?
You can meet him in your 30s with sagged breasts,baby whale body and average look? How many of them gym out to have flat tummy or do do something about their stretch marks? lol!
The mantra "Be yourself,set your standards and a real man will love you the way you are" peddled by motivational speakers is what destroys ladies. One of them opened a thread about a high value woman being a woman with confidence and no nonsense type of woman- I slapped my thighs laughing as I saw it.

They don't know what a high value woman looks like to a man. They take advice from their fellow women and manginas who don't know how men think.

efosky1246:
stop being extreme. most guys aren't paying any woman for a relationship. except its strictly a transactional one(sugar baby, escorts, e.t.c).

there is nothing wrong with a woman being hypergamous; seeking the highest value mate she can attract in order to ensure
her comfort and that of her unborn children. that's how its always been. and that's how it'll remain no matter how liberal we'll
evolve to be.

you guys claim to be red-pilled but still fight this basic reality.

even most right thinking career women are looking for a man of a higher financial prowess. that's just how it is.

And I hate to break it to you. the intrinsic value(youth, beauty, sexual purity, nurturing capabilities) a woman brings into a man's life would
always be valued more than any financial value she might bring.

a beautiful 18 year old virgin would be more sought out for than a Linda Ikeji.

If a woman has to spend on a man to be deemed valuable, there is something wrong, she has lost woefully.

Only men who have not achieved much in life will be intrigued by a woman's money.

I am not in anyway encouraging a man to start playing husband role in a courtship. but stop making it seem like its wrong
for anyone in a relationship to watch out for his or her own interest. that is the only way to avoid deep resentment down
the line from either party.

I don't think you get the message.
The issue here is not hypergamy(most men have no issue spending at all).
The issue on ground is the broke shaming and yet this dolts can't take it.
Most of us dragged on this thread (caps,Emma and I) earn very well,I don't think any of us will have an issue with giving wisely to a lady having no money.

I met my lady when she had no money(dependent on parents ). Infact I will advice my daughter to date rich men.

The problem is why do these same dolts cry foul when we men hold ladies to high sexual standards? When we say we desire virgins or young feminine women they call us names,misogynists, paedophiles...you need to see how the thread of ubunja on why you should marry a lady from 19-25 struck nerves on this forum.
We have accepted the hypergamous nature of women,why can't they accept our own nature?

The loqacious animals dande and sexylassie2 have called out and harassed redpillers for stating their spec (what they perceive as slut shaming) yet they broke sham men they know zilch about.

If you want to state your opinions and spec as a lady dont frown when men state theirs

sexylassie2:
i dont waste time with your type, energy suckers, argue from morning to night like it is a paid job

lol,who doss that if not you?you that sleep on redpillers thread,stalk them,dig up information on them...

When you goof up in an argument you accuse people of playing victim.

Go get a life of yours,we are happy ,are you?

Bye!

sexylassie2:
superior white man

Lord jesus, someone is suffering from inferiority complex, so you mean a white man is superior to you, so you are his slave.

Some black men sha...

lol,you are dumb ! If you can't get sarcasm then you are not smart...
I used quotation mark to show that my message was from your lens of seeing white men as superior to Nigeria. If you didn't get it then you are dumb.


Is it this empty head the white man will love?

sexylassie2:
you dont have to be scared..grandma will wait for you

btw i cant date or marry anything not black.

if they find you worthy...
If the average naija man will not find you worthy that how much more "superior" white man?

The best you will get to see them is on your TV. I know they don't wink at your ilks...even the ones that work in the sewers or the masons,the hungry ones can not wave you

ibkayee:
Roles? I don’t believe the average man in a Nigerian household is the sole provider like the yesteryears. Dual income households are pretty common, forget all the sensationalism about gold digging you see online. On top of this she’ll be doing domestic work and looking after the children alone. And this same guy will be demanding sexual purity.

no!the same guy will not be demanding sexual purity...men now marry women with several body counts.
It is less likely to see both husband and wife as both earners. Even when they are,the man brings more in most cases.
Families are having house helps,washing machines etc to reduce the workload.

I am not saying such cases of equal bills but higher house chores by the woman doesn't occur,they occur,and I advice the ladies to not settle for such.

Actually this thread was about dating, broke shaming men when ladies are themselves broke.
Men that have the money dont mind to spend it,at all!(I am speaking from personal experience)
Marriage and dating are two different games. In dating the man does the toasting for months with gifts,and inputs more in the relationship but marriage may be different.



My issue is with the dragging of men online that you don't even know as broke.
People have called me broke not for having an opinion(even some of them have PMed me for financial assistance and I helped)


So I want to know ibkayee,why men are held to high standards financially and when men hold women to high standards morally/financially you ladies complain and want equality.

Do you feel it is justified?
(My concern isn't if the male or female fails to live up to their expectations as you illustrated but I am only asking if its fair that women should set their standards and when men set their standards ladies claim they don't deserve it)

sexylassie2:
continue writing fantasy.... you go know soon, dont provide ok, depend on her ok, another black man will be the one to collect her, you guys are faraway, how are you sure, she is not climbing on another man's dick.

you see that redpill you love to read, was made by white men because of their women.

dont worry, you will learn a great lesson soon when you start living with that white woman.

i know she is a granny because that is only the type of women that give green light to lot of nigerian men

be decieving yourself!

Even a white janitor can not even wink at you
I am engaged to a typical naija woman based in Nigeria.

Stop projecting your bad luck on me

sexylassie2:
stop acting like a victim, it is a free world, you can decide to set any standard you like, nobody is stopping you.

me acting like a victim?are you not the one who acts like a victim when men set their standards?

Dont you get worked up when redpillers want young fresh virgin and start trolling and insulting them?

sexylassie2:
stop hyping foreign women, many of them wont take shit from you the way nigerian women do..

he who pays the piper decides the tone. We may act anyhow to naija women because we feed them. If I provide for a girl why wouldn't I expect much from her?
A white lady split the bills with me. We cook together,clean together,enjoy sex together,(she doesn't use sex as a weapon), she drives me to work,she isn't boring,she helps type my office work for me while I fix the car..etc so why should I not behave my best with her?

When I owe a naija girl recharge card for just chatting with her and how they behave. Why will I value them and act my best?

do not provide for that so foreign woman and see her emasculate you or throw you out except maybe you are dating a white granny like your fellow nigerian men do.

White women love true romance and not money...they prefer who will tickle them and get them flowers than who is giving them money.
When I took a lady out one time and I offered to pay for our meal she felt insulted that I was belittling her or insinuating she is poor.
A lot of white women feel that if their partners are responsible for them financially they will control them so they are independent.


When you naija girls go abroad do you burden men with bills or you respect yourselfdo you do rich men or just normal average guys?even the popular rich naija girls when they go abroad it is the same average guys you run if you were in naija you jam

Since i know a typical naija girl will give me nothing close to this except from sex why will I act my best?

Me dating a white granny? white women both old and young find Nigerian men great and look up to dating them. How many white men look forward to dating naija girls and speak good of them?

I am dating a Nigerian but she is based in nigeria

sexylassie2:
i have nothing to write to you. you are archaic

i pity for the woman that will live with you.

what i know about you guys is you have different rules for foreign women and different rules for Nigerian women.

most of you dont mind if you are the number 20 guy entering a foreign woman pu**y

you ladies set your standards and when men set theirs you call them names...you are dishonest and biased. If a woman can decide what she wants then men can decide what the want.

Modern women are working,they are not depending on any man and you claim wanting a rich man to foot your bill is not archaic?

sexylassie2:
pot calling kettle black

provide proof where he has slut shamed a girl or STFU

sexylassie2:
i have nothing to write to you. you are archaic

i pity for the woman that will live with you.

what i know about you guys is you have different rules for foreign women and different rules for Nigerian women.

most of you dont mind if you are the number 20 dating a foreign woman.

I am archaic and a lady who insists on dating a wealthy man when she is broke is not archaic?double standard.
You had no rebuttal to my post.

Foreign women are not parasitic like naija girls. They are not hypocritical like you.
Naija gals want to eat their cake and have it. They want what is good for them but when we want what is good for us they call us misogynists.

You are so much archaic for believing broke women deserve broke men

Eyeness:
Emmaodet, sexylassie, arthur2021, Martinez39 pls be civil on my thread.

There's more to life than trolling each other.

I draw the line when insults are thrown or dirty laundry is aired in public.

Contribute to the thread with becoming rabid dogs and disgracing yourselves. Sexylassie pls take note

you didn't call out ybabes and sexylassie2 for rudeness?lol you are a hypocrite

sexylassie2:
Their intention was not to date broke men.

same for guys,our intentions is to marry virgins and not used products or second hand goods.

I can tell you that a woman can tolerate your brokeness in relationship but not in marriage.

no man can tolerate a sexually active woman in marriage and dating. During sex as a married couple,if the women shows so much experience,he will doubt she is faithful and not sleeping around.

If you don't improve yourself, she won't blink twice if a comfortable guy comes along and he is ready for marriage. So continue living in your fairytales.

if ladies don't stop having premarital sex and increased body count, when we say a young fresh virgin,we will dump her

sexylassie2:
Yeah, your type are virgins. You are not a player, player or what ever they call themselves are not surprised about the reality of life.

If you want us to keep conversing:
Dont give false information about my personal life if you are not sure(I have not done that to you) just to score cheap points. I have never assumed you to be old or a slut,or single because I dont know you


I have a son,I am engaged and was due to be married earlier this year but for covid-19(my fiancée and I live continents afar)

She was a popular female on this forum,I can give you her contact if you wanna confirm it.

sexylassie2:
It happens, also many virgin men marry non virgin women. It is an everyday thing, nothing special.

If you can slut shame a woman so you should be comfortable when she broke shame you.

50/50 no cheating.

it also happens many women are dating men that are broke,its not new too.it is an everyday thing too.

have never slut shamed a woman on this forum until now you broke sham men.you go about broke shaming men but cry foul when ladies are slutshamed?is it 50/50?
When a lady is slut shamed you get pained and involve the guy mother and sister,but you are broke shaming men.
you are a hypocrite

sexylassie2:
Sorry sir, you can't use and dump women, now a days, many are getting smarter, it is the men complaining everyday, no wonder every day, you see them wailing here each days.

on just this forum...lol...do you know the girls I have dumped?lol..
.

Dont derail our discussion.
If broke women deserve rich men then players or pick up artists deserve virgins as wives

sexylassie2:
Rich men can marry Broke women.

Men are being drag for being broke because, many are comfortable being broke.

Non virgin men can marry virgin women.

Women are dragged for being hoes because they are comfortable sleeping with men when not married

sexylassie2:
Even you sister isnt a virgin but you want to date virgin girls.

lol...even broke girls want to date rich men too...

Hypocrite!
If broke women can want rich men,non virgin men can want virgin women.

You want women to date men above their financial class,but you dont want men to marry women more sexually disciplined than them...

ibkayee:
Not many

'Average' women get married to average men every day in Nigeria

I think the problem is many of these guys wailing are shooting above their weight with 'slay queens' rather than looking for someone on their level

Nigerian men who actually have money love spending on their women

to be honest men go for their class...I don't know of a broke guy that will ask a slay Queen out.

The issue is why are men always dragged for being broke?

sexylassie2:
I just saying, anyway, broke men should not complain when broke girl do not give broke men sex.

then non virgins should not complain when we use and dump then as not good enough.

The highest broke men can offer is sex.

the highest non virgins can offer too is sex

I have not seen any girl that went out with the intention of dating a broke man.

I don't know any man with the aim of dating an evening newspaper or a lady with high body count

sexylassie2:
Let's be serious, how many men in this poor country have money?

Nigeria women are trying keeping up with Nigerian men especially the broke men. The men should be grateful.

how many women in this country are virgins?we are keeping up with hoes. You all should be grateful we give damaged goods and second hand products chance

ibkayee:
Patriarchy, a system men created told men their value and worth lies in money and status, and women, their beauty. Therefore a broke woman can technically get away with telling a man he is useless since that isn't where her 'stock' lies

so why do ladies cry foul when men hold them to high moral and sexual standards?
Patriarchy shackles both men and women . why do women want to fall short on the expectations on them by patriarchy (like Virginity) and still want us men to fufill our roles?