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MR MAN, NO MONEY, NO RESPECT.

Some women are very respecting when their man has cash to display, once he loses his job, to hell with respect! One woman allegedly broke a bottle on her husband's head because he provoked her! He had lost his job and couldn't keep up with his promise to feed the family, the hot tempered woman kept losing her temper till she almost sent him to his early grave!

A counsellee told me this week his wife had been showing him hell. It is hell for a man to be ill treated because he has no money to give. It is as equally painful as being impotent! Now that he's got a job in the city in and doing well, the woman has been sending romantic messages, becoming nice and wants to move in with him. The challenge is, the husband is already having an affair!

Some women are pretenders! They are liars! Their love is fake! They only love you because you are the Manager of GTB, once you lose your job, the devil shows his real face, that is your wife! She rains abuses on you, curses you day and night, treats you like trash, throws your words to the dogs just because she now pay your bills and put food on the table!

The best time to know a woman who genuinely love you is when you have nothing. If you have to buy her love with money, make sure you keep rolling in the dollars or she will show you she's seven hundred men in a woman's skin! I'm not saying you should not have money, make plenty of it but never buy her love, never!

No condition is permanent! A man who has much today may not have anything tomorrow! He may be working in Shell today and find himself teaching in a local school tomorrow and he may have nothing today and be a multi-millionaire tomorrow!

Don't marry a man because of his money! Don't allow poverty to blind your eyes to a man's good qualities and run after his pocket. Marry him for his godliness, sound vision and good character!

Dear wives! Don't send your husband to his early grave with your mouth! I've seen men die in their middle age after retirement or they were laid off work and could no longer feed the family. Worry, depression, high blood pressure and paranoia killed them!

A virtuous woman stands by her husband through thick and thin. Be there for him! Encourage him, support him, pray for him, assist him, honour him, respect him, value him, affirm him, adore him, submit to him. Re-assure him that he is still the head and you will always honour him no matter what happens. That is what makes you a great woman, a glorious wife, a virtous woman worth celebrating, honouring and respecting forever!

You will not lose your place in your marriage in Jesus' name. Most times, these men are tempted to look for comfort else where. By the time the wife comes to her senses, she has been served divorce papers and another woman has taken her place in the marriage! May the Lord give you the strength to always do what is right FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
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MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND

One sure sign your relationship is sick is having nothing to talk about whenever you are with your partner. If you must always have sex to feel close to your partner, you need to end the relationship fast and get your bearing!

Marriage is more than sex! A successful marriage is about friendship. You are not going to spend the rest of your life rolling in sheets unless you have very serious spiritual problems.

Successful people have more to think about than concorting sexual images and looking for who to dump their passion on! You marry to fulfil destiny and your partner is to help you attain your highest dream. Most people are pathetic failures because they have nothing else in their head except grope, masturbate and roll in the dark!

Marry your best friend! Someone who believes in you and is ready to do all in their capacity to help you be all you wanna be. Marry someone who believes in you. Marry someone you enjoy talking to. Marry someone you can freely be yourself around. Marry someone who needs you, values you, respects you and adores you. Marry someone who sees beyond sex anytime you are together.

Marry someone you can reveal your fears, weaknesses, flaws and pains to without feeling akward or ashame -marry your best friend. If you cannot feel close unless you have sex, you have prepared yourself for divorce! You sooner or later discover in marriage that your sex life has gone stale and you need real intimacy -the communication, the acceptance, the sharing of your deepest feelings, dreams and goals to really feel loved and cherished. Pre-marital sex kills your chance of having a great mareiage.

I'm married to the greatest husband in the world. My husband is the deepest, most intimate friend I have. We talk about everything under heaven and understand each other so much. Someone once asked him whether his wife goes out he said NO. Goes out as in visit friends and all the likes, he shook his head. Whenever I'm through with the day's business, I spend my time in the company of my best friend, my husband. She further queried out of surprise, "doesn't she get bored?" He smiled heartily and still said NO. When he related the conversation with me, I laughed. Bored? 24 hours is not enough! We talk so much we pray for more hours to fill the day! Life with hubby is so exciting! Waking up and seeing him makes me come alive, full of confidence, happiness, peace and the readiness to tackle the day's challenge!

When people find it difficult communicating their deepest feelings to their spouse, it sounds abnormal to me. I'm not used to that. I don't know how to hide anything from my husband and same for him. We are always, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, physically and financially naked and not ashamed.

Prepare for a life time of bliss with your spouse. Marry your best friend, it makes marriage so exciting, blissful, peaceful, rapturous and sweet. You will not miss it in marriage in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
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WAR AGAINST MARITAL DELAY!!!

The ideal age for a lady to marry is 25 and men 27. That is IDEAL but the harsh economic reality in Nigeria is forcing men to marry in their late 30s, 40s and even 50s, while ladies are getting married in their 30s and above as well! Going to school late, no parental care, no mentorship and others contributed to this factor. At 51 as a lady and 53 as a man,you ought to have become a grandparent. Anything contrary to this is not God's plan for you.

Demonic oppression also stops people from getting married on time: generational curses, covenants with your ex-overs, soul-ties caused by pre-marital sex, parental curse,wrong confession with your own mouth etc.

Bad attitude, terrible flaws: hot temper, unforgiveness, laziness, selfishness, stubbornness, arrogance, etc may be killing your marital destiny!

Bad association may be delaying you as well. If you move with sadists who see nothing good about marriage, you will stay single for a long time!

Wage your war! Marital delay is not normal, it is not God's will for you! Unless you sincerely wants to marry late and it's understandable but if you deeply desire to get married on time, you are through with your education/training and can take care of someone else, yet all roads is closing up against you, you seriously need prayers!

Many singles today are so lazy spiritually! They are too lazy to pick their Bibles to read. Praying for even 5 minutes is a Herculean task talk less of 1 hour, yet the truth remains that, you are the one who will deliver yourself! You will have to lift your butt off your chair, arm yourself with the right knowledge/prayer points pertaining to your situation and wage your war! Men of God may pray for you but lasting victory comes from within! If your church does not believe in the problem you are going through, common sense requires you attend special programmes organized by other spirit led churches where they specifically deal with your problems.

You also need to read good books that boosts your faith and help you exercise your authority in Christ! Read THE TRIUMPHANT CHURCH by Kenneth Hagins and THE AUTHORITY OF THE BELIEVERS by same author!

Wage your war! Stop sitting by in depression hoping some Prince Charming will come and rescue you. If you do not deal with the spiritual road blocks, you will wait till forever!

Wage war against your weaknesses! Wage war against the hot temper, unforgiveness, laziness, selfishness, etc. Wage war against wrong friendship! Wage war against bad company!

If you do not deal with these obstacles, you may never ever get married!

May the eyes of your understanding be enlightened! May you receive inner strength and power to break free from the spiritual limitation delaying your marital destiny. You shall break free in Jesus' name. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

MARRIED AND IN FRIENDSHIP WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX


Married people should avoid intimate friendship with the opposite sex! You read that right, close friendship with the opposite sex should be completely ruled out. Why? It's trickish. Things sometimes get out of hand, emotions explode and stories that touch the heart go viral. Heart shocking stories of celebrities, popular men of God, General Overseers, teachers, bosses, colleagues at work and social media friends often litter the places.

There is a thin line between platonic relationship and emotional entanglement. You don't plan affair, it just happens when rules are ignored, boundaries are over stepped and people start doing things they shouldn't be doing to their opposite sex friends for whatever reason under heaven!

How did the friendship start in the first place? Admiration, respect, preference and likeness. You like something about them, you prefer them, you think about them then make them your friend. You talk to each other, you emphasize the likes, something clicks in your heart and bonds you, you enjoy talking to them because they like you and give you attention.

You plan to meet them one on one, you loosen your guide. You don't mind if they hold your hands or hug you, you begin to hold hands and hug frequently, then regularly then you progressed, he strokes your hair because he likes it, you smiled, no big deal because you are "just" friends. He likes your face, then lips and he gave you a peck. His aim was really the lips but he decided to take things slow, next time it will be the lips and then, you are rolling in sheets totally engulfed in the fire of adultery!

You can't handle close friendship with the opposite sex! I don't know why we are so proud and stubborn in this part of the world, we hate correction. Anytime I speak against close opposite sex friendship in marriage, some naive people keep telling me they can handle it, no big deal until they lose their senses and their spouse boot them out of the marriage.

I take a month leave from the social media every year to upgrade my knowledge, do more research, think, read and pray. My recent findings have affirmed my conviction. Friendship with the opposite sex in marriage is dangerous. It bonds you to the other person as you talk and your marriage sooner or later begins to suffer. You give more attention to your friend to the detriment of your spouse and emotional affair begins on that note.

I don't have male friends I meet one on one. The one I met, I put a quick end to the relationship because our core values are miles apart! I'm a principled woman to the core and he is completely uncomfortable with it; I will never compromise my values, self respect and dignity for any reason in the world!

Facebook has bastardized friendship. Everyone you meet on facebook is a friend. You have no choice than call then your friend since Zuckerberge says so. But not everyone can be your friend. That they send you friend request does not mean they are your friend. So be careful before jumping at people.

I'm very sensitive to words. I think about every phrase, line, clause and sentence. I'm quick to spot when something is wrong and quickly step back. Some men often get angry or mad when they discover I've been able to dissect what they are thinking and react angrily, whatever, I do not want any affectionate display from anyone except my husband!

A married person should never tell the opposite sex they miss them. It's emotional. I've had to block some men from reaching me. Some men simply enjoy flirting, they hide behind the scriptures so you never really know their real motive unless the God of heaven reveals their hearts to you.

I can't count so many expressions some friends think are safe and accepted in friendship but are not. I can't count the number of "friends" who got attracted, carried away and slowly changed the tone of friendship.

It's okay to talk to the opposite sex. It's okay to have casual friends but when it is getting deep, intimate and you are using the word "my friend" and "I love you" all the time, something is wrong. It's time to move back and gain your sanity. Feel free to share. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017
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HELP! EVERY MAN I MEET WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH ME!

This is the out cry of some of my counsellees, some of them are virgins, some are not. All of them want marriage bound relationships but the men want sex. Some even threaten to end the relationship if the lady refuse to let them "taste" before marriage!

Some of the ladies were confused, some were desperate, some were thinking of giving in to keep the relationship as age is no longer on their side! Some even wanders whether there are still godly men who won't ask for sex before marriage!

Godly men who don't ask for sex exist but they never ask you out while you keep attracting the wrong kind of men for the following reasons:

1. YOU ATTRACT YOUR KIND: Eagles attract eagles, elephants are attracted to elephants, dogs to dogs, pig to pigs! It's not about tying scarf and looking religious, it's about the kind of spirit in you! If there is lust and immorality in your spirit, you will always be a magnet to men who want to have sex with you and dump you neat! Deal with your thoughts. Sanctify your spirit with the word daily!

2. YOU ARE NOT A SERIOUS PERSON: Serious people set their priorities right! You pursue God, then your vision/ career and then relationships. If all you think morning, noon and night is about how to have boyfriend and get married and nothing whatsoever to contribute to humanity, you are not a serious person and only irresponsible men will chase you!

3. YOU ARE DESPERATE: Once you become desperate for marriage, you lose the capacity to pick right. All manner of irresponsible men find their way to you. Learn to relax while praying for a godly husband. Desperation turns good men off!

4. YOUR DRESSING ALWAYS ASK FOR SEX: When you wear jumping gown, micro-mini skirt, tubes, see through clothes and very tight trousers, you are indirectly asking for sex and men will pressurize you for sex. Dress decently if you want a decent man to marry you.

5. YOU SPEND THE NIGHT IN A MAN'S HOUSE: Of course he will ask for sex. To a man, passing the night under his roof means you want sex, no more no less!

6. SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS: Ladies with serious spiritual problems always attract the wrong men no matter what they do! Declare war on every stronghold of marital delay, generational curses and covenants, soul tie and spiritual spouse! Until you deal with these spiritual problems, you will never find a good man to marry!

These and more are the reasons you are attracting users! Work on these areas seriously if you want to get married to a great man. No man with a bright future wants a lady who is going no where to happen.

Every man want an asset not a liability. Godly men want godly women, pure men want pure women in and out. Virgin men want virgin women. Chaste men want chaste women.

What kind of man do you want? Be that kind of person and you will attract your kind. Feel free to share. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017
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WHEN YOUR SEXUAL URGE IS SO STRONG!

It's okay to have high libido, it's okay to have a strong sexual urge, it's okay to strongly desire to be caressed and fondled. You are NOT ABNORMAL. You are SEXUALLY HEALTHY and NORMAL. You are a genuise! Genuises have strong sexual drive, great men and women are so hot and super romantic! Samson was very anointed and has an unuual sex drive but he used it wrongly!

If you are anointed, multi-gifted and talented, chances are you have above average sexual desire! This sexual desire makes you feel so strong and powerful!

If you re-channel it, you become very creative and produce your best work of art! You preach, sing or pray with power! You take risks and achieve success with ease, you face obstacles and overcome them!

That is the reason for the high sex drive! Satan hates people like you with passionate hatred! He knows if you use your sexual energy rightly, he is in trouble! You are a threat to his kingdom and your glory is known all over the world so he seeks to destroy your glory and power through illicit sex, that was how he was able to kill Samson!

Control your sex drive don't let it control you! A girl asked me after the last ministeration: "What should I do whenever I have the sexual urge? " Get up! Pick your Bible and get out of that place! Staying there and doing nothing can lead to masturbation and other dirty sexual stuff! Read the word, confess the word! "My body is the Temple of the Holy Ghost, I do not bow to sin!" Run round your house five times, you should calm down.

Get busy with your life! Read good books that will improve you. Pray in the Holy Ghost, speak in tongues! Avoid dirty, romantic movies, you don't need them!

Those who say you are possessed because your sexual urge is very high don't know you have Christ in you. When Christ possesses you, no demon can stay in you!

Congratulations on your high sex drive! It is a great gift from God to you, use it wisely while waiting till your wedding night. God bless you, cheers!
©Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

OVER CONFIDENCE!

Is the reason many lose their virginity, are rape victims, commit adultery, sleep around and end up broken, shattered, battered and in perpetual shame and regret forever!

The only cure to sexual temptation is FLEE, no more no less! I love my Bible like crazy! It is down to earth practical yet full of faith! The Bible says the only solution to your red hot, burning hormones is to take to your heels, FLEE! To flee means to run, vamoose, jet off, disappear, avoid, keep off, stay away from, erase, delete, step aside from, etc!

Some over spiritual, foolish people, who either has lost their virginity, are battling with lust or deeply enmeshed in adultery they have even lost count of how many people they have slept with will tell you you can't run forever! They make you feel something is wrong with you for running! You are accused of being WEAK and has serious SEXUAL PROBLEMS! They even call you wicked! You ought to stay there and preach to the man/woman till they come to repentance! Why would you abandon them when they need your help. Help you say?

Joseph tried to help Portiphar's wife, he preached so much saliva almost dried in his mouth, the demon possessed woman didn't hear any damn thing he said, all she was screaming was sex, sex, sex, no one told that super sexy guy to flee! I love Joseph, he is a super smart guy upstairs! Samson like some anointed men today didn't flee, "great men don't flee, they face temptation", he must have reasoned! He tried different tactics to keep off Delilah but she didn't back off till she hacked him down!

When a man is hell bent on getting you lady, you are in soup, unless you flee for your destiny! When a Delilah wants to bring you down brother, none of your powerful messages are heard till she brings you down! Flee from all appearances of evil is what the Holy Book says! Tamar too preached but Amnon didn't hear anything, all he wanted was sex and he raped her neat! You can't hang around sexual temptation and not do it! Proud people run towards what they should run away from! The Bible says "Let he that thinketh he standeth, take heed lest he fall". He is talking to proud over confident people!

A relationship should move from friendship to love to chemistry to marriage! If it hits off in strong sexual chemistry, it is no longer straight, it is bent, and you need to back off! It is an abnormal relationship!

Some people say, "Can't you keep the relationship and control your sexual feelings? NO! Sexual chemistry is so powerful! Your brain has identified that person with sex, each time you see them there is a spark from your inside that floods your entire being with unusual warmness leading to strong sexual feeling and desire! Some people call it love at first sight, there is nothing like that, it is lust at first sight!

What about strong sexual chemistry in courtship, does it mean you should run away from your partner? Nay! Chemistry in courtship is understandable, simply avoid tempting, lonely environment and plan your wedding if you can't keep your fingers off each other anymore! When I started needing sex, I simply got married, full stop!

Your courtship shouldn't hit off on a strong desire to kiss, romance and have sex, it should start with friendship! If you pursue her and choose to marry her because of her busty front and loaded back, you are in lust and your marriage won't last!

What about sexual temptations from opposite sex friends? Avoid them! Your Pastor? Report him to God if he won't leave you alone and if he persists, leave his church! "What about my boss? I don't want to lose my job in this present economic recession!" If he is not responding to your language, report him to God, God knows how to deal with people like that! He either removes him temporarily or permanently! And if God is not removing him for reasons best known to Him, quit the job and pray for another one! It's better to lose a job than lose your precious destiny! Too many ladies are sleeping with their bosses out of the fear of losing their job! But they do not fear the God who is capable of throwing their sinful soul into hell fire! He is a married man and he is chasing you around? Hell, no! Get him out of your life!

God's warning is clear, "flee youth full lust"; flee fornication, flee adultery! May the lord grant you the grace to do what is right before it is too late. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you cheers!
© Seun Oladele, August 25, 2017.
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WHAT DO YOU TELL YOUR WIFE?

What you tell your wife matters! How she sees herself and behaves largely depends on what you ring into her ears daily! A woman is as good as what her man tells her!

If you tell your wife she's a stupid idiot who can't do anything sensible in her life, she will turn out exactly that way. If you see her as unattractive, ugly or irritating, she will never have the confidence to work on herself! She will think no matter what she does, she can never please you!

Some men don't talk. They pass their messages silently by ignoring her, refusing to be identified with her in public, stop having sex and never compliments her. Some make jest of their wives a lot drooling over another man's wife, pour encomium on her and compare their wives with the fairy tale super woman they glorify in their minds!

What do you tell your wife? Women being word-driven believe every damn thing their husbands tell them. It will take the strong belief in the word of God to prove otherwise!

Some women act stupid because their husbands tell them countless times they are brainless idiots and have come to believe it! I've met stunningly beautiful women who strongly believe they are ugly! Some women believe they can never make it in life because their husbands say so. What do you tell your wife

It is cowardice to keep compliments from your wife so she wouldn't discover her gifts and shine! Some men are secretly jealous of their wives. Some are driven by fear! Some feel if they compliment her, she will become aware of who she really is and become proud, pompous, rude and uncontrollable! That is not always true! Women respect, honour and cherish men who help them succeed! You need to deal with your insecurities and be a real man worth respecting!

Speak positive words to your wife daily! Stop abusing her! Stop calling her names! Stop comparing her with all your EX and friends' wives, she's not your friends' wives for God s sake! Stop comparing her with all your female "friends" and mistresses! Speak positive words into her life! Be the prophet of your home and she will grow into the great woman you want her to be!

God and my husband made me the woman I am today. I am a super confident woman, my husband made me so! He tells me regularly I'm so intelligent, I've come to believe it! He says I am the most beautiful woman in his universe, yes, I believe it! He says I'm so loving, caring and affectionate, I believe it! He calls me a relationship expert and a woman with uncommon wisdom and insight, I've come to believe and live it!

Your wife is a reflection of who you are! A wife reflects her husband and vice versa! If she is stupid, it is because you are very stupid! If she is wise, you must be a man of wisdom! If she is ugly, you are a grand master of ugliness and if she is beautiful, you have sense of beauty and brought it out of her. If she is virtous, you must be a man of valor! If she is irresponsible, you are grand master in the world of irresponsibility and uselessness!

Enough of all these childish complain about your wife! Be a good role model to her! Whatever you don't want your wife to do don't be caught dead doing it. I don't watch secular movies because my husband don't. I read a lot, my husband is a book addict! I respect that man with all my heart!

You don't fight for respect, you earn it. When you do things worthy of emulation, your wife will respect you with ease...

I will advise single ladies not to marry a man who insult, abuse, make fun of you and embarrasses you a lot, it's not going to get better in marriage, it will only get worse! May the good Lord grant you understanding. Feel free to share. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

LEAVE ME ALONE!!!

You can't force yourself on people. There are people who are plain sick and tired of you and they want to have nothing to do with you anymore. It doesn't mean you are bad. It plain means both or all of you are no more compatible, you have outgrown what brought you together and your future no longer head thesame direction.

It's a pity some people don't get it till they become source of irritation and a nuisance to the other person. Here are the signs your friendship is over and your friend wants out of the relationship.

1. They are ignoring you. They ignore your calls or fail to respond to your messages.

2. They respond to you in monosyllables. In other words, they always give you one word answer in response to your open ended questions e.g "What's so interesting about your job?" Answer: "Nothing."

3. They stop introducing you to people as their friend.

4. They snap at you or sound irritated each time you call.

5. Your meeting them always end in argument.

6. No matter how hard you try, your relatiomship never goes back to the way it was. It's time to let go.

Your friendship is over and it's time for you to move on with your life.

It's understandable you really love them and care about them but love is not one sided, it's a two way affair. If you are the only one showing all the love and care then the relationship is sick and needs serious assessment.

Let it go and move on with your life.
© Seun Oladele
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ROYALTY!

One thing premarital sex does is remove your garment of royalty, destroy your glory and give you shame. No one is proud of their pre-marital sexual acts, no one!

I asked the singles, "how many of you has had sex?" Not a single soul raised his hand! Who dares does that? I asked again, "If you are a virgin, raise up your hand." Almost all hands went up. That is what premarital sex does! You are never proud to announce your act in public. You lose your dignity, self respect, self esteem and honour!

One lady came to meet me after ministration and said" I wish I had heard your message before now..." Oh my darling, IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO START AGAIN!
Jesus is still in the business of turning your mess into a beautiful message He wants to clean you up and give you a brand new beginning. "If any man be in Christ, he is a NEW CREATURE, old things are passed away, behold all things are BECOME NEW" (2 Cor 5:17).

You will receive a brand new life, all your shame will be wiped away and you start living in royalty -a queen, the true daughter of the King of kings and Lord of lords.

May your life receive divine re-branding, glorification and exaltation in Jesus' name. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017
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ROBOTIC PARENTS!

If parents will learn to touch their children a lot, most especially the girls, saying "I love you" to them as often as possible, hugging them, giving them pecks on the cheeks and fore head (especially from mum to the girls) and meeting their financial and material needs when needed, not acting like robots who only issue commands, most innocent girls and boys won't be taken advantage of!

These kids are desperately searching for love at the wrong places! The girls are looking for a father figure in the boyfriends, the boys are looking for their mother in the girlfriends and we know a boy and a girl can't parent each other!

Touch your children a lot! Let them feel your warmth and love. Meet their emotional, spiritual and financial needs at home and they won't go looking for it else where!

I hug my boys a lot. My husband hugs both of them after they wake up, rub his hand on their heads before asking him to prostrate and greet. My son says regularly, "mummy, I like you..." I respond enthusiastically, "I love you too..." I want him to get plenty affirmation at home so he won't get carried away by Jezebels.

My son is very handsome and I tell him so. I shower prayers on him daily and he prays for me too. Yesterday, he kept pouring prayers on me and my heart swelled with love...

My toddler has this intelligent, no nonsense gaze! I and hubby smile and play a lot with him, he's learning to laugh, hug and show dad and mum plenty of affection. When these kids' needs are meant at home, they won't fall victims of sexual abuse, rape, incest and exploitation by pedophiles...may the Lord grant us understanding!

Singles, do not marry a man or woman who is irresponsible! If he doesn't have time for you, how will he have time for the children? Think and pray very well before you choose. Your future is at stake! Good morning and have a blessed day ahead. Feel free to share...God bless you, cheers!
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HOW TO MAKE YOUR LOVE LAST

It is no more news that marriages are crashing fast and more singles are experiencings strings of failed, broken, shattered, heart wrenching relationships than has ever been recorded in the history of mankind.

Traffic gridlock now takes place at divorce courts as more people now filing for divorce on daily basis.

If you visit one of the customary courts around you, you will be shocked at the number of people struggling to have their marriages come to an end with speed. How then do you make your own love last in this 21st century?

There is no magical answer. It takes God and daily obedience to His word.

We live in a Godless, sinful, sodomic generation that ignores God and hope to to enjoy His gift without receiving any instruction fom Him.

Marriage is God's gift to mankind. He created it and He has a reason for it. If you therefore want to enjoy His gift, you have to follow His instruction to the letter.

So many single guys are hell bent on having sex before marriage and they keep wandering why they can't find a good wife to marry. A lot of ladies now publicly declare their love for fornication while running from pillar to post, attending all manner of deliverance programmes since they can't find a good man to marry.

Husbands are ignoring God to love and cherish their wives. They beat them blue black at any slight provocation while wives are becoming arrogant, cocky, domineering, proud, bossy and controlling.

Any wonder marriages are crashing at alarming rate! You can't succeed in marriage without God.

You can't choose to DISOBEY God and enjoy a blissful marriage. You can't eat your cake and have it. It's high time you turned a new leaf if you want to find the right partner and enjoy bliss unlimited in your marriage. Give your heart to God and let Him beautify you with His word. He will give you the power to develop sound, godly character and turn your marriage into heaven on earth.
© Seun Oladele.
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THE LAZY WIVES

It's not written on their fore head but their attitude shows it. You are either a lazy wife in the making or you are already a lazy wife. No lazy woman will have a happy marriage, the earlier you work on yourself the better.

Lazy wives are dirty. To bathe at least once in a day is a serious work for them. They are too lazy to lift themselves to the bathroom, brush their teeth and have a bathe.

Lazy wives smell. They don't shave neither do they take care of their undies. It takes hard work to be clean, look good and presentable.

Some lazy wives are fat. They have all the time in the world to eat four times in a day but too lazy to lift an arm for exercise. Lazy women gain weight rapidly because they do not exercise their body neither do they shed the excessive weight gain.

Lazy wives are poor cook. They are too lazy to find out how to prepare delicious meal for their family. They rush into the kitchen and rush out after mixing some ingredients together.

Lazy wives are wasters. They do not know how to manage resources. They would ratner waste money hiring some one to do their dirty job while watching movies from morning till dawn.

Lazy wives don't know how to manage their husbands' money when things are tough! Because she's lazy, she would rather starve the family than cook a nice, delicious meal with #500 even in this economy recession!

Lazy wives are sexual disasters! A good sex life in marriage is hard work, discipline, focus and prayer. She is too lazy to do all these, so she starves her husband sexually!

A lazy wife's house is dirty and unkempt. It doesn't matter if they live in a mansion. She will turn the mansion into a dung hill while a hardworking woman turns a dung hill into a mansion!

A lazy woman is dull upstairs! She lacks the initiative to increase her intelligence through books, seminars, reasearch, mentorship and prayers. She makes no sensible contribution into her husband's life. She is everything a man wants to forget!

A lazy woman has dirty children who are wayward and lack morals, their mother is too lazy to discipline them.

A lazy woman is a spiritual disaster. She is too lazy to read her Bible and pray daily.

What kind of wife are you? What kind of single lady are you? If you are too lazy as single lady to do simple chores, cook and clean your apartment, you won't have a good marriage. Infact, you don't need marriage. You are inmature and seriously need to grow up.

Marriage is not a play centre. It is a life time of responsibility and hard work. If you are too lazy to take your life serious, your marriage will end in the dustbin.

Wives will do well to step up. Men hate laziness with passion. Yes, he should assist you when you are tired but ultimately, the running of the home lies in your hand. You are the home maker, so get up and do your job, that s why you are a wife. Rememember, "A wise woman builds her house..."
God bless you. Cheers!
©Seun Oladele, 2017.
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MARRIAGE AND PORNOGRAPHY

Should married couples watch porn? Will it boost their sex lives? Lots of people have asked me this question, the answer is capital letter NO. I had to make a research on it as I do not like writing on something I know next to nothing about. Here are my findings:

1. PORN IS DEMONIC! It's rock bottom aim is not to help you improve on sex in marriage, it is to spread lust and break marriages! You can't watch porn and not lust! You will expect your wife to have something bigger, rounder, flatter or toner while the wife expects the husband to have it larger down there while going on for as long as the business men cum porn producers lied that a man can go!

Some of those women's bodies are fake! They did plastic surgery, breast enlargement, butt enlargement, manhood enlargement, etc and they do not have to battle sagging and stretch marks because they ain't producing babies and breast feeding! Never compare your wife with a porn star, never! She is not a prostitute! Never expect your husband to have a bigger manhood, you are not a LovePeddler!

2. THE PORN STARS ARE NOT MARRIED so they can't be your role model for satisfying sex. What you are watching is a display of lust between two singles who do not understand the meaning of marriage, responsibility and commitment. All they wake up to do is have sex in front of camera and make money, that's all!

3. MOST OF THE ACTS ARE NOT REALISTIC! They are under the strong influence of drugs. The man goes for 10 rounds and he is not tired while the woman is moaning all through! That is simply crazy! In real life, you don't go 10 rounds at a time unless you want to die before your time, neither is your wife on cocaine or sex boosting drugs! If she goes 5 rounds, she deserves an award!

4. THE SOUNDS ARE CRAZY! Those moans are artificial and based on business arrangement not out of pleasure, there are some moaning that simply doesn't make any sense! You can't expect your spouse to moan that way because you are not producing a movie and grunting to keep your job, this is real life. Real life moaning is based on true pleasure not grunting and "ooshing" every now and then. Pornography doesn't teach reality!

5. IT IS PAINFUL! In a loving marriage the man is gentle, tender and affectionate towards the woman but in porn, he is rough, aggressive and blind to her pains.

There is a way a man handles a woman she will experience pain no matter how long she has been having sex, and there is how deep he goes, she cringes in pain. This actresses have been trained to moan through their pain, they must not complain or cry, they have to act like they enjoyed it. It is physical and mental torture of women who are nothing but intimacy gadgets to the money hungry porn producers. If you handle your wife that way, you will keep giving her pain, not pleasure! The end result is divorce!

6. UNREALISTIC SEX STYLE: some sex styles are just not realistic unless you want to break your spouse's spinal cord! I don't know how a sane person will have sex with head down and legs hanging up. Some would even be handcuffed like criminals!

7. SOME OF THE ACTRESSES ARE KIDS: children between age 13 and 18 who ought to know nothing called sex and should be busy with their studies flood the porn market. You should cringe seeing a girl young enough to be your grand daughter, throw her body opened before the camera, have sex like that is the only thing she's born to do and shed tears instead of burning with lust and plan on getting a young girl like her. You should be the one teaching her self dignity, not you learning how to have sex from her! That's crazy! Can you learn how to have sex from your daughter or grand daughter? It's madness!

8. IT CAUSES MASTURBATION! You can't watch those heavy scenes and not masturbate when your spouse is not around and when you start enjoying masturbation instead of sex, you quit the sex altogether. Worst still, your sex life becomes a nightmare as you suffer from pre-mature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation or erectile dysfunction -the resultant effect of masturbation!

9. YOU BECOME ADDICTED to porn and your thinking about the opposite sex gets warped. You see them as intimacy gadgets and go after anything in skirt including girls young enough to be your daughter! Pornography turns your thinking upside down!

10. YOU COMMIT ADULTERY! Ah! You can't watch that thing consistently and not desire another man's wife/husband or simply run after young boys and girls.

Learning from porn doesn't just make sense, it will do your marriage more harm than good and you will eventually lose what you are desperately trying to keep.

Read godly books on sex instead. Listen to godly tapes and read godly articles on Internet. Those are objective and realistic. They help you love your spouse and not See them as sex objects. You draw closer to God not far away from Him and your sex life gradually becomes better.

Avoid pornography at all cost, it will damage you. May you not lose your marriage to porn in Jesus' name. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017. (REPOST)
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UNDERSTANDING VIRGINITY, HYMEN, BLEEDING AND FIRST TIME SEX

Ladies keep getting confused in these areas and keep asking me all manner of questions that show fear and confusion, alright, let's deal with it:

1. NOT ALL VIRGINS HAVE HYMEN but the percentage is few, about 20%. I never wanted to write about missing hymen because of liars who'd burst into tears on the wedding night and swear with the name of God in heaven she never had sex once in her entire life though she has had so many abortions she lost count!

Yes, some ladies do not have hymen and won't bleed the first time they have sex. If you are a honest person, never telling lies (that is why singles should avoid lies, dishonesty, deceit and pretence), if you tell your fiance you are a virgin, he will believe you. Your attitude towards him, other guys and everyone around you will show it. Apart from that, pray to God to give you your own man who will trust, believe you and see marriage beyond virginity. You may not know you don't have hymen till the wedding night and you may want to see a female Doctor to verify before you get shocked on the wedding night so as to know what to tell your fiance.

2. BLEEDING DEPENDS ON THE TYPE OF HYMEN YOU HAVE: Some have thick hymen, light hymen, or very light hymen. If it is very thick, you will bleed much, if light, you may not bleed much so don't bother about having a bucket full of blood on the wedding night. If the place is tight and some blood is seen, that is enough proof you are a virgin!

3. THE OLDER YOU GROW, THE LESS YOU WILL BLEED. Hymen wears off as you age. That is why bleeding is more in first time sex for teenagers than adults. The older you grow, the less you will bleed so don't expect River Niger to flow out on the wedding night!

4. YOU CAN LOSE YOUR HYMEN through rigorous exercise, wearing tampons or pesseries, virgins should be careful with using virginal tablets, I will advise you not to use it all, you may push too deep and break your hymen!

5. ROUGH SEX CAN MAKE YOU BLEED: Fear of sex and rough handling by the man can make that place dry and you may bleed from vagina bruise not just from broken hymen!

6. FIRST TIME SEX IS NOT ALWAYS PAINFUL: it depends on your orientation, how much you love your partner and your eagerness to explore. If you are too scared, don't have chemistry for your partner and believe old wives' fables about sex, it will be painful to say the least!

7. YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO WALK AFTER FIRST SEX: Ah! Who said that? I jumped out of bed after I was done and faced other activities! Even giving birth to a baby doesn't have to make you incapacitated for days!

8. VAGINA BECOMES TIGHT AFTER YEARS OF SEXUAL FASTING: If you've been sexually active before and stop having sex for at least a year, your vagina will gradually close up, but you won't have your hymen back!

There you go ladies! I hope I've answered your questions. Don't give yourself daily headache over your hymen.

Love yourself, enjoy yourself, serve God and pray for a godly man who will love you beyond your hymen. Virginity ends on the wedding night, after that, real marriage begins.

If you've lost your virginity, you need character to make up for and your virtues will be celebrated. Whether virgin or not, be a virtuous woman, that is what makes your man adore you forever after the virinity is long gone. FEEL FREE TO SHARE, God bless you, cheers!
©Seun Oladele,.2017.
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I'M I STILL A VIRGIN?

Good morning ma, I've been following your posts on VTM and it has really blessed me. But please something is really bothering me and I'm always scared each time I think of the problems it may cause for me. When I was 15 years old, I inserted a biro into my stuff and
when I brought it out, I saw very little traces of blood, in fact it was just so little. Since then nothing have ever gone in there and I haven't had sex yet. My question is, am I still a virgin? Will I still bleed again? Please ma, help me because I'm thinking of lying to my future husband that I've had sex so that incase I don't bleed on that night he won't be mad at me... thanks".

MY RESPONSE:
Smiling...you are still a virgin dear, bleeding a little shows you have hymen, not bleeding much shows it's not yet torn. Please,
don't insert anything again and ensure you tell your fiance few weeks to your wedding about the biro episode so he can understand your background. Never lie to him, it will complicate things.God bless
you, cheers!
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LINES PLAYBOYS USE TO HAVE SEX WITH INNOCENT LADIES

If you want to keep your virginity till marriage or stay off sex completely till you get married, beware of these lines or men will pass you from bed to bed like football. Innocent ladies including naive married women usually fall into sexual traps through these lines:

1. YOU ARE TOO FRIGID: They tell you to loosen up, learn to hug, learn to give a "godly" brother a peck on the cheek. You should socialize and be more friendly. It's a bait to make you loose your guard little by little and they keep asking for more till they eventually have sex with you and dump you neat!

Which useless hug does he want, for what reason? If he wanna hug, he should hug his mother, sisters, male friends or wife! Some men know virtually the breast size of all the females around them by hugging tightly and feeling what they should not feel! If you need to hug and peck, go hug and peck fellow females sisters! Not hugging guys doesn't mean you are frigid, don't let any guy deceive you! I wasn't into hugging guys as a single lady yet was very friendly and had male admirers! Of course, I ain't frigid in marriage! Sex in marriage is sweet to say the least! Be friendly sis, but know the limit to physical touch!

2. YOU ARE OLD SCHOOL: I love old school like kilode! If they tell you to go clubbing, expose cleavages to prove to everyone you went to school, they are seriously sick!

3.YOUR HUSBAND SHOULDN'T BE THE ONLY MAN YOU ARE FREE WITH: kindly explain what you mean sir. Do you mean, my husband is not the only man I should hug, peck and have sex with? I should treat you like I treat my husband, be careless around you and give what is holy to the dogs? Excuse me dear married woman, if you do not want stories that touch the heart with another man, don't ever do anything with him you won't proudly tell your husband at home. You can't be too free with another man aside your husband, shikennah! Hugging all men and giving them pecks shows you lack virtues and morals! Refuse to be deceived!

4. IT'S NOT A SIN TO PASS THE NIGHT IN MY HOUSE: Thief! You want to snatch her under her mama's roof to pass the night in your motel, where will she sleep? On the floor while you sleep on the bed? What happens when the devil asks NEPA to the light and one terrible heat wants to kill both of you, you ask her to off her clothe so that "breeze" will blow on her abi? If the useless devil wants to kill it completely and he sends one mighty rain making everywhere cold and chilly, you offer to keep her warm by wrapping yourself around her on the bed her abi?May God deliver some sisters from the spirit of foolishness and stupidity! You can't pass the night without thinking of sex or doing it! What you will not eat, don't bring it to your nose! You may escape first, second or even third time, the day he will pounce on you, no one will rescue you!

5. IF YOU LOVE ME, YOU WILL MAKE LOVE TO ME: This is common among those sokoto sagging, agbero boys! Masters degree holders in the art of seduction also use it a lot. Tell him, if he loves you, he should wait for you.why will anyone in his right senses equate pre-marital sex with love? You need deliverance!

6. YOU SHOULD BE EXPERIENCED BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED: So he wants to teach you how to have sex then disappears when the pregnancy comes, girl, use your head! No man wants "ajeku" sister, no one wants a "used and dumped" we all want a spouse, fresh and innocent. It is the grace and forgiveness of Christ that helps us do some things and still stand on our two feet. But trust me, you will still pay for those mistakes!

7: YOU ARE SO HOT! He says anytime he sees you, he can't control himself, he needs deliverance from the spirit of lust!

Your body is not the problem, the demon eating his reasoning faculty is his problem! You are not the hottest babe on earth. More beautiful ladies are everywhere. If he can't control himself with you, he won't control it himself around your sisters, friends and colleagues! Don't buy into that lie!

8. I LOVE YOU: Playboys are very good at using those words. Don't let any man sweet talk you into his bed! If he loves you, he should keep his fingers off your precious body. As a married woman, it is senseless to consistently listen to another man who regularly tells you he loves you and you are beginning to reciprocate with "I love you too!" You call it showing the agape love of Christ, I pity your marriage! Put your phone on speaker so your husband can hear everything he tells you, show him all the chats and conversations, if your "friend" tells you to clear chats and not be completely opened to your husband about your relationship with him, he is a devil per excellence! Your marriage is heading towards divorce!

9. YOU ARE NOT FLEXIBLE as in, compromise your principles by allowing him to romance but not have sex? Alright, okay! One day will be one day when he breaks into your gate and the relationship is over!

These and more are the lines play boys use on naive ladies to make them lose their guard, sleep with them, dump them and leave them damaged, broken and battered! May you not fall a victim in Jesus' name. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
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HOW TO GET MARRIED ON A 20K SALARY!

If age is no longer on your side, you have found the woman you want to marry but your salary is the barrier between you and your marital promised land, you earn 20k or a little more per month, your sexual urge is getting uncontrollable, you are over 30 and your fiancee wouldn't mind settling down with you, here is the practical way to survive on a 20k salary!

1. Pay your tithe 10%

2. Save 10%

3. Get a room apartment where you will not be paying more than 2k per month.

4. With neighbours, your NEPA bill should not be more than #500:00.

5. Feeding for both you and wife not more than 10k. Always buy your foodstuff in bulk every month, you will save lots of money.

6. Keep 10% for emergencies, that is 2k.

7. The remaining #1,500 will be shared between you and your wife as pocket money. You 1k, wife, #500.

Now listen: you can only do this on the conditions given below:

1. Your wife will get a job to assist you financially so that both of you will put money together to start a business, look for a higher paying job or run your vision that will yield profits, enlarge you and move to a higher level of comfort and wealth. Discuss this thoroughly in courtship and ensures she agrees. That is what courtship is about: to discuss your future and see if you can walk together (Amos 3:3).

2. No baby for the first 2 years while you both work harder and get something better or extra doing to cater for the baby. Discuss this thoroughly. Visit a family planning clinic and get an advise on which family planning method will work for you. Withdrawal sometimes fail and calculating the ovulation period is not completely reliable but if she is very diligent, can consistently monitor her ovulation, you may take the risk but combining with CD is better (I'm talking to mature adults here).

3. There will be pressure from your family especially your mother for her to get pregnant. Stand up for her, shield her, be a man and let your mum know that for personal reasons, it's your decision for her to delay pregnancy. Marriage is for mature men and women, not for boys and girls. You should be responsible and have the final say in your marriage. Your decisions are between you and your wife, whatever anyone else says is secondary! Protect her from your family, stand up for her!

4. Pray diligently and consistently for God to enlarge you.

5. Map out practical plans for you to achieve your dreams.

6. Have the faith that can move mountains! The Bishop Oyedepo and Fela Durotoye's type of faith: These men had almost nothing when they started but their wives were working and assisted them till they broke through.

You can make it before you get married. You don't have to get married on a salary of 20k. The Lord can surprise you with a better job, profitable business or great contracts before you marry, if not yet then don't wait till you are in your 50s before you settle down.

"Two are better than one..." is what the Holy Book says. With your wife's full support and strong faith in you, you will break through the ceiling of limitation and emerge into your glorious destiny. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
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STOP DROOLING...

Hello ladies, I want to beg you, please, no matter how handsome a man looks and he strikes you blind with his handsomeness, please, don't fall to the ground and faint! Don't show it, don't hold your heart and scream "whaaaaoooooh!" like a woman suffering from mental illness. Men are quick to notice that and mark you immediately as cheap! Play boys love it though, he cashes on it, make himself semi scarce, you pursue him, he shows availability, land you in bed and disappears!

Shouldn't you appreciate good looks? Please, do. Just look once and take your eyes away. Be friendly to everyone not just this guy in particular and stop roaming around him hoping he notices you. That's called desperation!

Learn to look from the corner of your eyes. I can be looking straight yet describe you from head to toe!
That's okay.

When I meet men with stunning looks, I look once and take my eyes off. If he gets me weak, I disappear! If work or business brings us together, I face the business. If he flirts, to hell with the business!

It's okay to compliment good looks as long as you have no ulterior motive, it should be done in moderation. I compliment people a lot but sweetie, if that guy is kinda flirting, hmmmmmm....playboy stuff!

What if he wants to marry you? He should be friends with you for some months first. If he just zooms in from no where, tilt your chin for a passionate kiss while promising you marriage with sweat all over his head and his bed already prepared for sex, common baby do you need Elijah to tell you the guy wanna shoot and dump you? Don't be so cheap!

Alright gals, lets show ourselves some dignity by not over looking. You gerr warra mean? Take my hugs beautiful sisters in the house, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. see you next time, muaaah!
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HOW TO MAKE WOMEN FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU AND WISH TO MARRY YOU...

To bring a quick end to your singleness as a man, have women at your beck and call, make them drool over you and get a big YES to your proposal, here are the things you need to do...

1. LOVE GOD WITH PASSION: Women are naturally attracted to God chasers! Godly men are so regal, so handsome, so cool, so fatherly, so tender, so deep, so enigmatic. They unconsciously ooze sweetness, coolness, freshness, royalty and dignity! Women found themselves so drawn to Jesus, He was sweetness personified. He was regal, glorious and kingly, he carried God everywhere. Women love God careers!

2. BE HARDWORKING: Women love hard working men who know how to make money. Argue with this from now till Jesus comes, a woman wants a man who can take care of her. It is in born. We are made that way, when you are hardworking and does something that has a great future, women will fall in love with you.

3. GENTLE SMILE: Women love men who smile gently at them; not the fiery, rude, playful smile that makes you look like a play boy! Learn to smile sweetly, gently and lovingly at women, it makes you look irresistible.

4. BE NEAT: Personally, rough men turn me off! Women like men who dress neat, match colours appropriately and iron their clothes before stepping out. A woman may be forgiven for not ironing her clothes but not men, please! Never step out of your house without ironing what needs to be ironed!

Deal with body and mouth odour please. Some men will open their mouths and saliva will be drooling on the lower lip! It is not spirituality, it is simply demonic! Satan resides in dirt, so get rid of satan and uncleanness completely out of your life! Shave what needs to be shaved and always appear sparkling clean! Have your hair cut when necessary and trim off unnecessary facial hairs! Neat men turn women's head! You don't need to be a Brat Pitt to make women admire you, neither do you need to have Hrithik Roshan's 6 pack body to make women weak on their kneels, just looking neat makes you look handsome, attractive, and completely irresistible!

5. BE A GIVER: Generous men don't lack women's attention. Stingy men need to tear heaven apart before a woman will agree to date him.

Be generous to people. It's not about the size of what you give but in the largeness of your heart. Give to your parents, give to your Pastor, give to those in need, give to the poor, when a woman sees how you take care of people, she will be convinced that you will take good care of her in marriage and will find it difficult saying NO to your proposal.

6. DRESS SMART: Over sized clothes can make you look like her ancestors and you get a straight NO to your marriage proposal!. Your clothes speak volumes about you! Wear something that fits your body frame; not too tight, if you don't want to be seen as gay, or too big that makes you look like her great, grand uncle! Learn how to combine colours! An orange shirt on brown trousers with a blue tie and green socks makes you a clown! Please, know what to starch and what not to starch! Always appear presentable and well groomed, women will trip over themselves to marry you!

7. TREAT YOUR MOTHER AND SISTER WELL: It tells a lady how you will treat her in marriage.

8. BE FRIENDLY: Friendly, smiling men don't lack females' attention. Some guys are so holy, they will never greet any sister talk less of smiling at them and wonder why every lady turns down their proposal. Learn to smile brother, be fun to have around, be friendly. Relax with people, crack clean, pure jokes, learn to make people laugh. Be free with people. Be real, be down to earth human!

9: BE HUMBLE: Proud, arrogant, cocky men are a big turn off! One of the reasons I fell madly in love with my darling and he got a straight, no wasting of time YES to his proposal was his humility. It knocked me off my defence and won my heart. I tripped off balance and allowed him to carry my heart away!

Women love Jesus! He was humble to the bone and marrow! Humble men don't lack women. Nay, their problem is not how to get a woman to marry, it is how to choose a woman to marry!

Be humble brother! Treat people with respect. Honour women, submit to authorities, respect your parents, honour your Pastor, treat all classes of people equally, serve others. Help the less privileged. Oh my, women will be begging God in the corner of their rooms to please make you propose to them. You will never lack admirers!

10: LEARN HOW TO COOK AND DO CHORES: It's a sign you will assist your wife and won't turn her into a slave in marriage. Cooking men are super sexy in marriage. Your wife will love you, adore you and cherish her marriage to you till forever!

11. BE CHASTE: Sexually pure men are simply irresistible. Saying NO to sexual advances, maintaining your integrity and keeping off dirty jokes, lewd words, flirty messages and outright fornication makes you a hot cake for godly women!

12. PURSUE YOUR VISION: Women like men who have a great vision for their lives beyond their paid job and are doing everything daily to get there.

There you go brother! These and more are the quality you need to possess if you want to marry fast and settle down as soon as possible. Virtous women are not cheap and easy to get. You must be a man of valour if you are to attract one and these are the qualities you must have to attract the woman of your dreams.

Nevertheless, you need to pray against delay. Some delay are just not normal. Deal with ancestral curses, covenants, soul ties, spiritual spouse, etc while practicing all those things listed above. I see you getting married gloriously soon in Jesus' name.

Don't forget to send me an invitation. I look forward to attending your wedding soon in Jesus' name. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun.Oladele, 2017.
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VIRGINS AND MASTURBATION

I get lots of questions on masturbation most especially from ladies -yes, ladies masturbate a lot, especially virgins. Guys also masturbate. There is no debate on that. I'm not here to argue about who masturbates most, I need to deal with a serious issue.

Sexual urge for virgins is strong. What makes it stronger is the novelty, newness, the mystery and the hear says about sex.

Masturbation is handling your genitals consistently to achieve orgasm. Ladies may stroke their clitoris while guys rub, massage or caress their penis. I decided to give explicit explanation because some ask me what masturbation is. Some ladies especiallly non-virgins use candles, banana, small bottles, sticks, dildos or whatever represents a penis and do solo sex (having sex by yourself).

From teenage upward, you will have a strong desire for sex. It's a sure sign you are normal and capable of having and enjoying sex in marriage. In your 20s it will be stronger and intense! You may wake up feeling Hot for no single reason in the world or go hot on spotting a curvy lady! You may start noticing shapes and curves and you have to shake your head several times to keep the image off. You may get worked up on watching a romantic movie and discharge something. You check up and discover you are wet. All these are normal, you haven't committed any sin.

So what then do you do when you get hot and Hot? Have sex? I know you know my answer and some singles will never be caught dead sleeping around, so what do they do? They masturbate! They give themselves release and pleasure through solo sex while claiming virginity at theseame time. Masturbation is completely wrong and not the way out. Let me explain:

1. Masturabation is not done in isolation. It is done with the image of someone in mind. It can be a lover, an EX, a celebrity, a married person, a crush, someone you like but incapable of having. You imagine having sex with them while masturbating. That is MENTAL FORNICATION

2. For ladies, while inserting all manner of objects, you may mistakenly deflower yourself and also introduce infection into your genitals and womb. It will be very difficult to convince your future partner that you never had sex with man except objects during your solo sex.

3. You kill your ability to enjoy sex in future. Millions of women don't enjoy sex in marriage which leads to sexual frustration, adultery, lesbianism and feminism. If you are used to getting orgasm by yourself, you won't be able to get it from your husband. If you are used to objects in your private part, you won't have feelings for your husband's penis. You will always think of something harder, bigger, longer, larger and completely unrealistic! Women who complain their husbands' penis are too small didn't marry as virgins. They must have been promiscous as singles.

4. You will not have a good sex life as a man. You will experience pre-mature ejaculation and your wife won't enjoy you leading to acute sexual frustration in marriage. You need self control to fully enjoy sex and give your wife maximum sexual pleasure. A woman enjoys sex when the man can go on for at least 7 minutes before ejaculating. Because you are used to instant release from masturbation, you may not be able to go more than a minute before exploding leaving your wife completely unsatisfied and frustrated. She may close up, become frigid and stop having sex altogether which may lead to you having an affair, she having an affair or both of you having an affair. Self control before marriage helps you enjoy sex to the maximum. You are able to delay ejaculation, go on for a long time and have excellent orgasm while giving your wife pleasure too. That is why total virginity pays!

5. If you do not suffer premature ejaculation, you may have serious problem with delayed/ retarded ejaculation. A situation where you get erection for several hours without ejaculation or orgasm. What is the benefit of sex without orgasm? Rough masturbation with your hands kills your ability to feel/enjoy sex with your wife. It is hell for a woman to be under a man who thrusts in for hours unable to ejaculate. How will the woman get pregnant? It's the reason some women are seemingly "barren" and can't talk to anybody out of embarrassment. Thrusting hard for so long leaves the woman sore, frustrated and hating sex altogether. You have so much to lose sexually when you masturbate. Abstaining from this degrading act helps you feel relaxed, confident, have normal sexual intercourse and enjoy the pleasures that comes with sex IN MARRIAGE!

6. You start having sex in the dream with a known or unknown person (demonic entities other wise known as spiritual spouse).

7. You feel drained, dirty, empty, useless and powerless after each act.

8. You start getting unsatisfied and wants the real thing. You fantasize more about sex and start longing for the real act.

9. You get a warped view of the opposite sex. You see them as sexual objects and start having sex with anything in skirt or trousers -you become promiscous.

10. You get damaged, hurt and broken.

11. You are at risk of hell fire!

These and more are the consequences of masturbation. They damage you and shatter you to pieces! What then should you do with your sexual urge? How do you handle the constant hunger for sex?

1. Avoid all dirty pictures, pornography videos, pictures and hot, romantic movies -they are powerful sexual triggers!

2. Avoid friends who say dirty,lewd and obscene things. Stop all sexy banters with friends and say only things that are pure, holy, needful and helpful.

3. Get busy with your life, education and career, there is more to life than sex.

4. Transmute your sexual energy: Channel your sexual energy into something great. I had a strong sex drive in the institution. I simply channelled them into my education making me the best student in my department from the second year. I was very excited and energetic. I burnt the energy on my studies. I also started my ministry and was very committed as my fellowship bible study co-ordinator. If you don't burn that energy, you will have sex.

5. Study the word a lot especially Psalm 119. When you are filled with the word, you have no space for the devil and his demons in your heart.

6. Pray and speak in tongues always. It sanctifies you.

7. Make friends with godly people.

8. Avoid pornography and romantic movies.

9. Get busy in kingdom service.

10. Give your life to Jesus if you are not born again. He will surely help you out.

Masturbation is wrong, bad, demonic, destructive and sinful. Avoid it and end it with speed if you are deeply involved in it. Jesus can help you. Call on him! God bless you.
© Seun Oladele, 2017.

CHEAP WEDDING....

Your wedding don't have to be expensive. Many delay their wedding till they have the millions in their bank accounts. If you copy the Joneses, you may spend the rest of your married life paying off debt. Do your wedding according to your pocket and save yourself from unnecessary headache and embarrassment! It won't be fun if creditors are banging on your door when you are suppose to be enjoying your honey moon in peace!

Here are practical ways to cut down expenses and still have some "change" after wedding.

1. Borrow wedding gown from your friend, siblings or family members and adjust the size to suit you. It's not a sin to borrow wedding gown, people rent wedding gown, so do according to your budget if you can't afford one, no big deal about it, you are wearing it for a day, after that, it's over, shikennah!

2. Borrow wedding suit from friends or relatives if you can't afford a brand new one. Look for someone of the same size and borrow the suit, no big deal about it, it's only for a day!

3. Very minimal decoration or no decoration at all. People want to see the couple not well the decorated hall.

4. Use the church premises for reception instead of a hall. Discuss that with your Pastor.

5. Share the grace after the wedding without reception. It's not compulsory reception must take place. The real event is the wedding, thank God for the success and go home.

6. If you must do reception and no money for food due to recession, serve cold drinks and snacks or biscuits. Everyone knows bags of rice cost a fortune and you can build a house with the same amount you want to buy a cow!

7. If you must serve food and no money for meat, turkey or chicken, try "Panla kika" I don't know what they call it in English, the people should take it in love. Serve the food with sachet pure water if there is no money for soft drinks.

8. Get your local photographer to snap important pictures and not flood everywhere with unnecessary snapshots while charging you a fortune. Ask your friends with camcorder to help you record the event.

9. You don't need to book a hotel for honey moon, no be sex? Use your apartment abeg! Just be creative. Spray everywhere with a nice perfume. Get a cool, romantic music. "Ololufe" by Martins is beautiful. Off the light and surround the bed with beautifully lit candles, get drunk in each other's love (not with beer please).

10. If you must travel out of the environment and get a hotel, guest house or whatever, you get something cheap and still nice. It's just you and your darling. Nobody cares where you do your honey moon after you are back and if they cares, that's their business!

A successful marriage is more important than a successful wedding. Your wedding is important but don't focus on it so much that you end up in debt and spend the first few years of your married life in hunger, embarrassment, debt and shame!

You can start your marriage small and grow big. Start with something though! Some lazy men want to start with nothing while hoping faith will put food on the table!

Ensure you can pay your rent, NEPA bill, feed your wife and take care of pregnancy and a baby before you get married. Those who cite Oyedepo don't know what they are talking about. The man was in ministry while his wife was working, earning #140:00 monthly! They had money to spend! If you must marry a man who has absolutely nothing, you must get a job doing to support him or you both go from door to door begging for food!

I'm sick and tired of counselling women whose husbands are completely irresponsible in the name of ministry or whatever! How many men are industrious and has great faith like Bishop Oyedepo and Mike Bamiloye? Most are simply loafers looking for who to feed on! Ask God to bless you from your single years, you don't need to get married before you count your millions and don't wait till you have millions before you get married.

Have a great vision, be committed to doing something meaningful with your life, marry a woman who strongly believes in you and is ready to support you. With prayer, unity, love and hard work, both of you will break the ceiling of limitation and move to a higher realm of success but if you are lazy, visionless and goaless while waiting for a wife to rescue you, you have failed completely as a man. May the Lord grant you understanding. FEEL FREE TO SHARE, God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
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HOW TO MAKE A MAN ADMIRE YOU, CHASE YOU, FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU AND MARRY YOU!

If you don't want to grow white hairs before you get married, here are the things you need to do to attract your man and get married on time:

1. SMILE: Men love smiling women. No, not the one that begins and ends with the mouth, the one that starts from the eyes. Genuine, loving smile attracts people, creates friendship and unlock doors! Learn to smile at people baby, women who lack men's attention rarely smile. They are always cold and look as if they are carrying the problem of the whole world on their head! Some of these ladies even frown a lot! Look, everybody has a problem, no man wants to add another person's problem to his own. Be a genuinely happy person and show it by smiling at people. Men will find you irresistible and seek to know you more.

2. BE HUMBLE: Humble women don't lack suitors! One way to stay single for a long long time is to be proud and cocky! Proud women are a big turn off! If you always roll your eyes at people, segregate yourself from the company of common people, talk down on anybody and you are practically rude because of your class, money, car, social status, job, etc, you will stay single forever! Be humble! Learn to accommodate all class for people. Learn to serve others. Learn to use "sir" when talking to men. Some men may tell you it doesn't matter but secretly, they love it. Men love it when women address them with respect. Learn to be respectful and submissive to authorities.

3. BE CONFIDENT: Confident women are attractive any day any time. Knowing who you are, pursuing your dreams, vision, passion and goals makes you a confident person worth investing in. When you know your reason for being here on earth is far more than getting married, punch out few kids and stay locked in the kitchen forever, you approach life with a positive mind set, you are energetic and confident in who you are, you have a good, sound self esteem and men are irresistibly drawn to you.

4. BE FRIENDLY: Ladies who keep to themselves hoping some Prince Charming will find them are not ready for marriage. Be friendly! Being friendly is different from being desperate and cheap. Go out. Attend positive programmes, conferences, seminars, workshops, symposiums and serve in your local church. Enjoy meeting people and getting to know them purely for friendship not for marriage. A man can smell it a million mikes away if you are desperate and chasing him. Just be yourself. If you are just being friendly and he thinks you are cheap, that's his headache! Don't let that stop you from being friendly to people. Smile a lot, meet people and be a happy person to have around.

5. BE GENEROUS: Stingy women who can't part with anything don't know what marriage is about. Be generous to people. Be generous with what you have. Be generous with your smile, your love, your talent, your service, your money, your prayers, whatever you've got that can bless lives. Generous women are men attractors, they never lack admirers.

6. BE FORGIVING: Forgive all your EX, forgive the guy who abused you or rape you, forgive all who disappointed you in the past. Practice advance forgiveness, forgive people before they hurt you, more people will offend you. If you find it difficult forgiving people, you will grow bitter and people will move away from you especially men. Release the man who promised you marriage but disappointed you and married someone else. Actually, you were not meant to be. If you had married him, you may have been divorced or dead! Thank God for it and move on. If you don't release that man you may never find any man to marry! Men will unconsciously move away from you and you will be singe and miserable for the rest of your life!

7. BE INTELLIGENT: Men like intelligent women. Know when, how and where to talk. Don't be a dummy upstairs. Know what is going on around you. You shouldn't be a naive, empty-brained, beauty queen. Your face may get you into the marriage, your brain will determine how long you last. A man likes a woman who can give intelligent answers to questions and contribute meaningfully to discussions. If he asks you, "Why is Nigeria in the mess we are in?" And you scratched your head, looked at the ceiling, bite your finger and say, "I don't know" Your brain needs revival!

8. BE NEAT: Dirty ladies are not good marriage candidates. Some ladies look great outside but if you see where they step out, you will remember world war 2! Very dirty, disorganized and rough to say the least! No sane man wants to marry a dirty woman. Learn to be neat. Take good care of your underwear, learn to shave. Keep off the body and mouth odour. Deal with the eczema and pimples, do your hair on time or comb it well. Always appear neat and presentable.

9. LEARN HOW TO DRESS WELL: Wear something that fits you, not what is in vogue. Get a good tailor who can sew clothes that fits your body shape. Learn about your body shape and wear something that flatters your figure. Straight ladies need clothes that flatters the waist line. There are some clothes good on hourglass not good on pear, apple shapes will look great in shirts and suits, pears will look great in gowns etc. I'm not saying you can't wear different kinds of clothes, just wear the ones that fit you. They make you sweet to look at and simply irresistible!

10. LOVE YOURSELF: You can't love others if you don't love yourself. Celebrate yourself. Accept yourself the way you are, you are simply the best. Don't envy anybody. Not everyone's got what you've got, celebrate your uniqueness. Men love ladies who love themselves. Don't envy someone else's looks, love what you have. Don't wish you have a fuller chest, heavy bum, sexy nose or longer hair. The man God created for you needs someone exactly like you and will fall in love with you just the way you are so chill and appreciate God.

11. BE GODLY: Godly women carry God and carry gold. Men find you irresistible.

12. BUILD A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD AND SIBLINGS: It tells a man how you will treat him in marriage.

13. BE FEMININE: Some women have masculine nature: the "Tomboys"! And there are men who love tomboys, honestly! Not with standing, learn how to sit like a lady and talk like a lady! It's "un woman" to sit with your laps thrown apart, you belch loudly after gulping a bottle of malt and barge in and out of a house like a soldier! Even soldiers are regal in their steps! Stop giving men the impression that they want to marry a man! Be ladylike! Learn it if it is not natural with you.

14: BE HARDWORKING: No man wants to marry a lazy, indolent, passive, idle, backward, sleeping, purposeless and visionless woman! You will attract your kind! If you want a hardworking man, be hardworking, up and doing, agile, proactive, versatile, business minded, creative and industrious. Learn how to make money and have an active bank account!

15: READ BOOKS: Ladies who read instead of jumping from house to house gossiping about nothing in particular don't lack good suitors. Read godly books that will bless your life and make you a testimony to others. My husband was attracted to me because I was a voracious reader. John Mason brought us together.

16: GODLY ASSOCIATIONS: Some women will never marry until they change their friends. If you want to marry fast, you will need to let go of your unserious friends who enjoy clubbing and get close to married women with beautiful marriages whom you can learn from!

These and more are the things you need to do to get a godly suitor and marry gloriously. You still need to pray though, some delay are spiritual in nature. No matter what you do, you may never get a man to marry if you don't break some yokes through earth shaking prayers and violent application of the word.

You should practice all these if you want to get married on time and also get in the word, pray against delay and deal with every stronghold and spiritual problems in your life. I see you getting married soon in Jesus name. Do not forget to send me an invitation. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017
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Strictly for the married!

REASONS YOUR WIFE IS STARVING YOU SEX

Lots of articles and books have been written encouraging or warning wives to give their husbands sex as often as he wants or else, he will have an affair. No sane woman wants to starve her husband sexually but if you do not co-operate to make this a smooth ride, you may not enjoy the sex you desperately need from your wife. Here are the reasons women starve their husbands sex:

1. FEAR OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY
You hiss, "What happened to family planning?" Excuse me, family planning is not easy! Swallowing those pills every day has serious side effects talk less of the injections every six months! Apart from the headache, nausea, vomiting, dizziness, rapid weight gain or unwanted weight loss, those pills or injections often fail. Then, she is also at the risk of cervical cancer and fibroids. Women don't like living all their lives on this pills! Worst still, if the side effects hits, and she gets fat, you are the first to make jest of her and threaten to get a skinny chick if she doesn't slim down! Why can't men also do family planning for God's sake! Use condom, you don't want! You must do flesh to flesh, yet she must not get pregnant, the monthly pills also make her sick, tired and too weak to have sex!

Men should please learn to co-operate and make sex easier for their wives. Use condom once in a while. Abeg, it's not compulsory you must travel to Jerusalem every time, let her use her hand too, or give you BJ if you are not against it. There are other ways you can enjoy intimacy without intercourse, teach her how to help you use her hand, thighs among others reach orgasm, once that thing is out, you should calm down. If you can make things easy for her, she will be more available and respond passionately to sex.

2. YOU DON'T ROMANCE ENOUGH: Some men like to barge in and out and go to sleep, that is not sex, it is rape. Please, I beg you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, our father in the Lord, kindly spend at least, 20 minutes, "playing" with mummy before you go in, please! No one enjoys "prison break" intercourse! Until she is wet, please, don't go near her paradise! Please, read Songs of Solomon five times, before you have sex, it will help a lot, Praise, the Lord!!!

3. SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GET PREGNANT
You always disappears when she gets pregnant. That apart, you don't take care of the children and you want her to add another one. You abuse her when she vomits, sleeps a lot and refuse to eat because of her morning sickness. You yell at her because her change in hormones won't allow her to enjoy sex and you are no where to be found when she delivers her baby. Haba, Baba Bleep, eleyi o daa ooo!

If you want her to get pregnant, be there for her. Take care of her, endure the smell of the vomit, that is what marriage is about. Help with house chores, honestly my brother, she will have sex throughout her nine months pregnancy! When a man is romantic, his wife will respond sexually.

4. POST DELIVERY: Doctor says you should give her at least 6 weeks for that place to heal and bleeding to stop! To ask her for sex after one weak is inhuman! To sleep around after 2 weeks of delivery because she is refusing you shows you seriously need to grow up. Abeeegiii! Let her heal brother! She can give you BJ if you want, if you don't want, she can use her hands to do signs and wonders on you. You may even love the feel and try it occasionally, hmmm? Please sir, let that place heal, especially when she had tears and went through stitches!

5. YOU DON'T TAKE CARE OF HER
Women respond passionately to men who take care of them. If you don't care for her, you treat her like a sex slave, you don't care about the children, you rarely spend on the family, your wife may eventually grow frigid!

6. YOU DON'T LAST IN BED
Wives like it when their husbands go for at least 5 minutes before exploding, 7 minutes will be great, pre-mature ejaculation can frustrate any woman and make her hate sex altogether, please, do something about it.

7. STRESS:
The stress of work, running the house and taking care of 3 kids, talk less of 4 or 5 can make a woman completely fazzled and too tired for sex. Pleasy! Assist at home, it won't kill your manhood if you help in the kitchen and take care of the kids while she rests.

So men, these and more are the reasons your wife may be starving you sex. Please our bros and daddies, kindly do something about it as soon as possible especially in the area of family planning, please, reduce the stress on your wife.

Try condom and other alternatives. Safe period is not always correct and withdrawal most times fail, just a drop of sperm before withdrawal can lead to pregnancy so oga, sit madam down and talk about better ways of making sex more enjoyable and easier for both of you.

Feed your wife please, take good care of her. Sex requires energy. Stress can make a woman too weak to have sex, assist with house chores and she will have time for you.

Mummies in the house, please, don't use these as excuse not to have sex anytime oga wants ooo, abeg! Let him visit his paradise anytime he wants, na im get am. Work together on your sex life, you will both be happier for it. Sex is one of the tools satan use to destroy marriages, your marriage will not fall to the onslaught of satan in Jesus name. Feel free to share. God bless you, cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017
www.askseunoladele..com

FLIRTING!



I used to think flirting is about wearing a lingerie, battling eyelashes, rubbing your hands all over the guy, pouting at the lady and circling your hand around her waist, current research has proven me wrong! Flirting is more subtle and most married and singles are guilty of it, yes, married people also flirt!

You often flirt without knowing and you need to put a full stop to any of these if you do not want to commit fornication or adultery.

1. You call the opposite sex dear a lot. "Thanks dear", "Yes my dear", "When should I be expecting you dear...?" that "dear" is flirty!

2. You wear sensitive clothes to attract their attention -nothing serious, just a little branch off from your normal wears to get their attention to your curves, muscular biceps or body build -that is flirting.

3. You are using words you don't normally use in your everyday language for them like "cool", "joor", "na", "k" etc in order to show intimacy, you are flirting!

4. You say things that are ourightly sexy or show deep intimacy -that is full blown flirting!

6. You say negative things about your spouse/partner to them while praising their good qualities, it is flirting!

7. You chat about very personal/emotional issues far into the night, you are seriously flirting!

8. You outrightly call them pet names -that is no longer flirting, it is an affair!

9. You visit them in their apartment without informing your spouse -emotional affair has started -that is serious flirting!

10. You touch them a lot, you will soon strip each other naked.

Married or single, avoid flirting at all cost. It adds nothing to you, neither does it help your marriage in anyway. Men should avoid touching ladies carelessly. It doesn't speak well of you. Married people should mind how they address and talk to the opposite sex. Always remember you are married, if you often forget, you need a larger and bigger wedding band with a mighty rock on it to keep pulling your mind back to where it should be.

All these holy hugs we do in church while enjoying the sisters full breasts should stop. Sisters should stop helping men pick dirt from their beard, you are not a refuse picker.

Married women should please, stop confiding in the opposite sex unless he is your father, brother or a disciplined marriage counsellor. Personal problems bonds us to the opposite sex.

Single brothers should stop calling sisters pet names in the name of brotherly love and sisters should stop hugging brothers in "Holy Embrace" all these are flirting.

"Flee all appearances of evil" is what the Holy Book says, Flee!!!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

FLIRTING!



I used to think flirting is about wearing a lingerie, battling eyelashes, rubbing your hands all over the guy, pouting at the lady and circling your hand around her waist, current research has proven me wrong! Flirting is more subtle and most married and singles are guilty of it, yes, married people also flirt!

You often flirt without knowing and you need to put a full stop to any of these if you do not want to commit fornication or adultery.

1. You call the opposite sex dear a lot. "Thanks dear", "Yes my dear", "When should I be expecting you dear...?" that "dear" is flirty!

2. You wear sensitive clothes to attract their attention -nothing serious, just a little branch off from your normal wears to get their attention to your curves, muscular biceps or body build -that is flirting.

3. You are using words you don't normally use in your everyday language for them like "cool", "joor", "na", "k" etc in order to show intimacy, you are flirting!

4. You say things that are ourightly sexy or show deep intimacy -that is full blown flirting!

6. You say negative things about your spouse/partner to them while praising their good qualities, it is flirting!

7. You chat about very personal/emotional issues far into the night, you are seriously flirting!

8. You outrightly call them pet names -that is no longer flirting, it is an affair!

9. You visit them in their apartment without informing your spouse -emotional affair has started -that is serious flirting!

10. You touch them a lot, you will soon strip each other naked.

Married or single, avoid flirting at all cost. It adds nothing to you, neither does it help your marriage in anyway. Men should avoid touching ladies carelessly. It doesn't speak well of you. Married people should mind how they address and talk to the opposite sex. Always remember you are married, if you often forget, you need a larger and bigger wedding band with a mighty rock on it to keep pulling your mind back to where it should be.

All these holy hugs we do in church while enjoying the sisters full breasts should stop. Sisters should stop helping men pick dirt from their beard, you are not a refuse picker.

Married women should please, stop confiding in the opposite sex unless he is your father, brother or a disciplined marriage counsellor. Personal problems bonds us to the opposite sex.

Single brothers should stop calling sisters pet names in the name of brotherly love and sisters should stop hugging brothers in "Holy Embrace" all these are flirting.

"Flee all appearances of evil" is what the Holy Book says, Flee!!!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

TEST YOUR PARTNER

Your heart is too precious to be broken, test your partner before they damage you. Don't be quick to make or accept marriage proposal. Some ladies' self esteem are so low, they will accept marriage proposal from anything in the name of wearing a wedding ring! Some are so naive, they will trust the devil with their very lives as long as he appears in suit, tie and brief case. Test your partner before you marry them!

Test them with money. Are they greedy? If you give her 5k, will she finish it in 2 days and demand for more? Test her with personal information, is she a gossip? Test her with your friend or brother, is she a shameless flirt?

Test him with your money! Ask him to help you withdraw money with your ATM card (ensure the bank balance is very low, something you won't feel if everything disappears), if he takes more than you ask for whatever reason under heaven, he lacks integrity, excuse him! Test him with your sister or friend. Can you leave the two of them alone for two hours without worrying your head they are making out? If you are scared he's gonna hit your sister for sex, end the damn relationship with the potential adulterer!

Some naive singles think trust is automatic! Once you are in love with a tongue speaking, Holy Ghost anointed brother, you are on your road to marital bliss. You need serious deliverance from that stupid orientation. Satanic brothers in church now commit more atrocities than Marijuana smoking guys in clubs! Open your two eyes, your brain and God given common sense to find out everything about that brother before you put yourself in eternal bondage!

I test people before I commit my heart to them. I learnt that from God. He tested Abraham before giving him Isaac. Joseph was tested with his boss' wife before given him power over a nation! Jesus was tested 3 times before he went to the cross. I serve a super smart God who doesn't waste his resources, he won't commit anything valuable in your hands until he has tested you in and out, out and in. Your heart is so precious and valuable, don't just give it to anybody!

I asked my guy all manner of questions before I settled it in my heart to marry him! I had tested him with personal secrets, money, information, friends, siblings, family and what have you. I showed him my very worst side expecting him to run away, he stayed put! As a single lady living in my own apartment, I suggested he sleep over because it was late (that was around 11pm), he bluntly refused! When I visited him in his 2 bedroom flat, he would never suggest I sleep over though it was so lonely living in that kind of apartment. I suggested helping him do chores, he told me I wasn't slave and he did his things by himself.

We had every opportunity to have sex anyhow, anywhere and as much as we desired in courtship but he NEVER asked once! He never once naked himself in coutship neither did he ask me to do same. His passionate hatred for pre-marital sex was so strong -no amount of temptation could break it! We courted for 5 solid years! I trust my husband with all my breathe! He has passed his tests in courtship!

A WORD OF CAUTION! Never test a man with sex especially if you are not strong to resist sexual temptation yourself. Very few guys these days can resist sexual temptation.

Don't wear a seductive lingerie hoping he would not descend on you. Keep that out. Cover your body every time he visits and ask him questions instead. You can ask if he believes in pre-marital sex, kissing, necking, petting, romancing, etc, that is safer! If he believes it would do no harm to roll in sheets once in a while, end the God forsaken relationship! I don't know why some men can't be in a relationship without asking the lady for sex. Is your head so empty there is nothing else you put there except sex? I have no single respect for men like that!

All in all, pray and ask God for His will. No matter all the test you do if the guy/lady is not your true bone and flesh, your marriage will not work!

Submit to the leading of the Holy Spirit, let him guide you. Avoid pre-marital sex at all cost in your relationship and never entertain sin no matter how appealing it looks.

You will not mischoose in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers!
©Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com

MASTURBATION IN MARRIAGE

A married woman sent me this:

"Hello @seun, there is a question I want to ask you concerning the topic you just treated on masturbation. l came here due to the need for privacy. Assuming someone that her husband is not always around for like 2or 3 months, and always have sex urge, instead of having extra marital affairs, she decide to do the solo sex by herself, by using intimacy gadgets or masturbate, please what's your take on this, kindly advise, but remember body no be fire wood ooo, thanks ma'am."

Someone also asked me a similar question. That what should a married man who is not always around do to his sex urge? Should he masturbate? Is it allowed in marriage? At least that is better than adultery!

Sex in marriage is a very serious issue that should not be taken with levity. Couples must do all they can to stay sexually intimate as often as they can, it's one of the reasons we get married.

Regardless of what any body says, quoting the scripture from Genesis to revelation, it's not easy for a married person to stay off sex for a week talkless of months, that is the truth, it's not even good for the health of a marriage!

Now that a partner is not always around, what should you do to your sexual urge, masturbate? No! Masturbation is a SIN for anybody whether single or married. The best thing to do to deal with your sexual urge if it is getting out of hand is to stay close to your spouse. Either relocate to where they are transfered or quit the job and find something else to do if you do not want to lose your sanity on the altar of adultery. If relocating or changing job is not possible then you need to do something to TAME your sexual desire, you just can't masturbate. It is dangerous!

The truth is, in marriage, masturbation alone doesn't satisfy. Eventually, you get tired and look for someone to really have sex with. So what should you do?

1. Take your mind off sex. Your most powerful sexual organ is the brain. If you don't think about it, you won't do it.

2. Get busy: sexual desire comes with energy. Channel that energy towards your job, kingdom service and children. Don't be idle. An idle hand is the devil's workshop.

3. Study your Bible a lot. The more of God you have in you, the less desire you have for sin and it's allures.

4. Pray and speak in tongues always, it sanctifies you.

5. Make friends with godly people not satanic agents who believe it is not possible to stay faithful to one's spouse in the absence of regular sex.

6. Avoid x-rated movies, pornograghy, romantic movies and nude pictures.

7. Do not make friends with any member of the opposite sex.

8. Stay off alcohol and sex triggering drugs.

9. See masturbation as it is: destructive and sinful!

10. Excercise a lot and keep fit. It helps keep your mind active and off negative and idle thoughts.

Couples once again should try all they can to stay sexually close and if that is not possible for obvious reasons then keep your mind completely off sex till your partner returns.

Masturbation is demonic, sinful and destructive, you won't fall for it in Jesus name. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.
www.askseunoladele..com