₦airaland Forum

Samantha125:
So what is demeaning about me enjoying food bought by someone else out of his own freewill?

I can't explain it any more than I have, carry on with your awoof life.

Na ya type dey go party dey rush food, after all, they invited you (or they invited your friend who invited you) out of their own freewill.

Samantha125:
You know, I've bought random people food stuffs, takeaways, and even gave them money before without expecting any gratitude from either of them, because that's how I was raised, my parents instilled the spirit of humanity within me.

Are you now saying that I should have expected reciprocity from those people? It's like some of you guys see everything as transactional and lack the spirit of humanity and it's quite worrisome... Is it due to poverty or just entitlement mentality?

I think you are misrepresentating what I said and I will try again.

I myself give without expecting. Once in Gauteng, this woman with two children was by the traffic lights begging. After being dropped off at the hotel, I walked back half a mile to bless her the way the lord has blessed me. That is giving to someone that needs it and despite me being a stranger, it is not a problem her accepting it.

Secondly a lot of friendships have ended because one or two break the unwritten role of giving back. I had two friends that I went to uni with and earnt about the same when working. One came to me to state that the other noticeably waits for either of us to offer to and pay first and he wasn't happy about it. I told him not to worry as he didn't force us. Eventually he spoke out and the friendship with the third guy slowly faded.

So in the right context, your response was not what I was talking about. I suspect you knew that as well. Nothing to do with poverty or entitlement.

Samantha125:
So if a man finds me sitting somewhere minding my business and offers to buy me lunch, should I then turn down my chance of enjoying free food?

In my opinion, anyone that has any pride and self respect would turn such an unsolicited offer down.

Why would you accept such from a complete stranger, thank him politely and pay for your own food?

I don't understand the mentality of allowing strangers to pay for you. A friend, yes, and with the (mental) proviso that next time you see them, you will definitely be paying for them.

Quite honestly, seeing it as a chance of free food is a self demeaning mindset. A stranger helping your career I understand, free food, not so sure. You must surely be worth more than whatever that food costs.

Antoeni:
So Sowore Is An Ijaw Man, No Wonder He is Fearless And Not a Coward, Hypocrite and Deceitful,

He is currently also playing with Obidients blokos in the hope they don't notice he only wants their votes and doesn't care anything about them.

Oh yes.

When they are younger and thier friend is dating a married man, they willingly share stories and even enjoy a share of the largesse from the man.

When they get married however...

SeeWahala:
E get the ones wey give girl wey come from God-fearing household 'mistake' belle

Those ones no get choice . . . Either run go exile or marry by force

Ẹhn hẹn, God is powerful sha, na you fit tok truth like dis make persin laugh.

Make I jus run comot from Politics section some tanda for here to see you in a better light.

On the topic though, it must be tough because for babes for dat 20 to 30's age, the level of stubbornness and frequency of lying, never mind lack of judicious use of common sense, dey compete wit Obidients own.

gracias124:
Its not an achievement, when you are 30 without a wife or girlfriend. You will always be Hot and staring at your cealing every night like you are cursed.
Some shameless and weak*** will resolve to watching porn and jerking off. What a shameless behaviour watching other men doing the things you want to do.
I am not financially ok to get married and knacking out of wedlock is prohibited to me. I just dey vex

Oga, ya own beta, pipo dey plenty same age as you wey di daughter of jezebel wey dem marry dey give dem wotowoto.

Ontop which dem nor fit comot as dem get small pikin wit di woman.

Count yourself lucky.

Bikonu wey dat St Peter make he come blow him trumpet.

Too bad, no wonder Trump wan disguangua di whole planet.

Dtruthspeaker:
She knows. She just wanted to remove the focus from women.

Watch it, once women are attacked, you must see 1 or 2 of them must come to do deflection

Kọbọ dey come twist wetin una dey tok, I surprise say she never reach already sef.

Una get mind wan tok say women nor perfect àbi, not on kobo's watch at all.

Jistibiri:
The surge in Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) procedures across Nigeria isn't just a fleeting trend driven by social media or celebrity culture, it's deeply rooted in everyday male complaints that chips away at women's confidence.

For years, Nigerian men have openly mocked women with "small yansh," labeling natural bodies as "flat," "uncooked," "not giving," or "builder's work."
In group chats, DMs, casual conversations, and even public posts, these insults create a constant drip of insecurity.

Women hear it from boyfriends, potential partners, friends, and strangers alike: your natural figure isn't enough to be desirable, marriageable, or "wife material."

This isn't harmless banter, it's targeted pressure that makes many feel inadequate in a society where curves are equated with femininity and success.

Recent discussions, including calls from Nollywood actresses like Nkechi Blessing, highlight the hypocrisy at play. Men body-shame women for lacking the "perfect" backside, pushing them toward expensive, risky surgeries like BBL to meet those standards. Then, once the procedure is done, some turn around and criticize the "fake" enhancement or claim to prefer "natural" bodies all along.

The irony is stark: the same voices that ridiculed small or flat yansh fund or celebrate the surgical "fix," turning clinics into booming businesses while women bear the physical risks, recovery pain, and financial burden (often ₦3-6 million or more).

Reports show BBL has become one of the most popular cosmetic surgeries in urban areas like Lagos and Abuja, fueled by this cycle of shaming and supposed salvation. Nollywood glamour, influencers, and global trends amplify it, but the core trigger remains local, persistent male judgment on women's bodies.

This isn't about blaming every man; it's about accountability for harmful patterns. When constant criticism makes women question their worth, surgery starts feeling like the only path to acceptance in dating, marriage, or social circles. The result?

A "BBL pandemic" where young ladies borrow money, risk complications (including high mortality rates from procedures like fat embolism), or even face death, all to escape the shame men helped instill. True change starts when men stop weaponizing preferences as insults and start celebrating natural diversity.

Until then, the demand for BBL won't fade—it's a symptom of deeper issues in how attraction and value are policed in Naija spaces.

Ladies, your body doesn't need alteration to be valid. Rock what you have unapologetically, the pressure is manufactured, and speaking out breaks the cycle.

For more raw takes on natural confidence and calling out these double standards, follow here: https://x.com/africanneverdie?s=21

If you don't love yourself for what you are, you will never love yourself, never mind for what people want you to be.

Go and listen to the lyrics of TLC's Unpretty and don't blame men for your inadequacies.

No one can bodyshame you unless you yourself bodyshame yourself first.

Kobojunkie:
Dating does not fix that. Rather, improving your particular social and emotional intelligence is how you can better ensure that. 🤔

For instance, choosing to date uneducated, non-financially responsible, and unestablished women when what you would instead like to have are the opposite is not a them problem but a you problem. Once you figure out why you continually gravitate towards partners who do not serve your purpose, then you can get yourself the partner you need to date, and maybe eventually the sort of children you desire. 🤔

Another clever bait and switch, well poor not clever.

The topic is "Why can Nigerian women not hold a intellectual conversation? ". Anti has immediately changed it to "Why do Nigerian men gravitate towards partners who do not serve their purpose" and would not let goran3310 be unless he gives an answer.

Meanwhile, she herself has not once proffered an opinion as to the original question which is a valid one. She has immediately turned it totally on its head instead of starting her own thread.

Hopefully goran3310 doesn't rise to her bait and instead presses her for an answer to the thread topic.

Odebayo4010:
There are two lessons you must never forget in life.
#1. Never marry a single mother.
#2. Never forget lesson #1.

Make it 3.

#3. Be wary of involving yourself with the daughter of a single mother. Know why the mum is single and understand that the lingering bitterness, if any, would permeate to the daughter.

bigpicture001:
This days I am losing much friends like never before... Disloyalty, bitterness , bad wishes through their action, ungratefulness, disparaging attitude, pull him down syndrome and lot s more are fast displaying among my so called friends..


And I like to cut off people of bad energy from myself as fast as they appear around me... This gives me peace, but the issue is that now I have a fast dwindling number of friends and I am kinda concerned I will b lonely soon ND bored...

Guyz , do u think friends matter so much, even when they show all those above listed tendencies?

Not sure about friends but definitely without relatives, one can live a prosperous and relaxed live without repeated negative energy flying around.

Obviously any non family bringing stress is not a friend.

Good luck though.

Bigkoko:
Hahahahahaha, one of the reasonable folks on the other side of the game......yea! Its working well for us. I hope you are doing well? Good to hear from you too.


We have permanently moved HQ from Kigali to Stockholm. The restructuring really too better part of my time in 2025.

I am well, turbulence here and there but we still dey Kampe.

May the Lord bless your works in Sweden as he did in Rwanda.

We go still drag each oda sha, politics wise.

princeade86:
All Nigeria governors are not serious to be honest. They not ready to work, only a$$lick any sitting president because of their dubi@us way.

Actually, they are there to work as part of the entourage where they will be meeting lots of business people and bringing in potential investors into their state and country whilst showcasing opportunities that abound in their state.

They will barely have time to relax on this trip as it will be back to back meetings from morning till evening with no guarantees.

It's going to be reversed on appeal anyway.

Still a, shocking decision.

garykoeman:
This President Tinubu visit to UK, pained obi and his obidient mob nobi small.

Honestly I feel sorry for them, the kind of horrible physical and emotional pain they will be gong though right now ẹhn.

Kukutente23:
It seems naptu2 and helinues are still roaming this thread, obviously triggered that I called them out and looking to justify their blocking list as if we don't know them and their lying culture
Again, ekpon naptu claimed that I said he blocked me AFTER the block button was created. I have reproduced what I wrote for everyone to read and make a conclusion:

Can anyone explain how i inferred that his reason for blocking me occurred after the block option was created? I said his grouse with me goes way back than the excuse he gave. He did not debunk that but started clutching at straws of US elections. That's how these folks operate. They lie then turn their lies around to make it look like you're the one who is lying. Let him deny that he trolled me in his diary on the El-Rufai tweet defence thread and I'll shame him here. I have the receipts

As for the other guy, first of all, I don't see how correcting your grammar is trolling. There used to be a moniker here GrammarNazi and he was never accused of trolling. Moreso, even NL rules dictate that you write with correct grammar. So can aswani explain to me how pointing out how you're infringing on NL rules is trolling if not that you're battling personal insecurities?
The thread he referenced, the dude who derailed the thread and started asking me repeatedly silly question which i already answered is a BATist. He challenged me to show evidence that it was Onanuga who claimed that dollars was subsidised. I showed him and instead of accepting the evidence in good faith, he turned himself into a troll. I could have blocked him justifiably but I decided to pay him back in his coin. That is what this guy is putting up as evidence of being trolled
I have no qualms with the two of them blocking me. The are both known BATIsts on this forum so their frustration at being found out despite their initial pretenses is well understood

Ọ ma

Fair play to Sowore, he knows Peter Obi is not getting ADC ticket anything, he also knows Peter Obí can't leave ADC to go to another party after the Primaries due to the new rules, so he is making a huge play at Obidient votes.

Very smart guy.

Good to see you again Bigkoko, hopefully your hustle still working out for you sir.

naptu2:
🤣 Are people still crying because they were blocked?

Nairaland is a funny place.

Bàbá, na so we see am ó, tissue paper don almost finish for here sef.

Na newspaper remain wey we go give Kukutente23 to take wipe him eye.

Everybody sees things for what they clearly are, our friend sees it in a weird, warped way. Incredible!

Kukutente23:
Why don't you block See.Wahala? The button works both ways. it seems you enjoy his attention but you still want to act like you don't care for him. More like a teenage girl who can't make up her mind on an admirer.

As a matter of principle, I refuse to block anybody, even him.

And on that note, I really must raise the white flag.

Kukutente23:
So



As for your homily about carrying anger to the grave, it only exposes your lack of depth in this matter. The block only lasts for 3 weeks so if the blocker was to become unavailable to renew the block, the blocked individual will have full access to the posts and the point of blocking initially thus becomes useless.

I know all that sir.

You clearly are desperate for their attention, if they unblock you but don't respond or give you any attention for whatever reason, you are still effectively blocked.

On this note, I leave the floor for you to round up, my time is spent on this.

P.S: If you can help me speak to SeeWahala to block me, I will appreciate.

Kingsley34:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g_pRxe1pY8U&pp=ygURam16IG1lZGlhIGNvbmNlcnQ%3D

"UK-based Naija guy fills up 53 litres of petrol and pays £97... that's roughly ₦190,000 at today's rate! 😱 He shouts 'UK life is just suffering and smiling' and asks how much the same fuel costs back home in Nigeria right now.

Watch him react in real time + see why Nigerians online are dragging him hard (Minimum wage UK vs Naija comparison incoming...)
Current reality check (March 2026):

UK petrol ~£1.42/litre (avg)
Nigeria petrol ~₦1,000–1,200/litre (varies by state)
But UK minimum wage ~£1,000–1,200/month vs Nigeria ₦70,000/month
Is abroad really suffering or selective comparison? Drop your thoughts below!

Did no one tell him not to use the phone at the pumps?

Kukutente23:
First of all, remove the agbadeau covering from your eyes. I already told you the reason naptuu blocked me. He's lying. He has been holding a grudge against me even before the block button was created. As for the other guy, he confessed on this thread that he blocked me because I attacked his opinion. I don't know in which dictionary attacking an opinion makes one a troll. But maybe your reasoning is close to his and you see anyone who disagrees with what you write as a troll.

I have asserted that I don't care for their blocks. I have actually helped the two renew the block at intervals. I opened the thread because agbadeaus like you have always claimed that Obidients are the ones who are aggressively irritated at anyone who disagrees with them. But here we are seeing so called matured BATists blocking people and even keeping a list sometimes with insulting headings. I can imagine the depth of bitterness in someone that you keep a list of people you've blocked and you renew the block every 3 weeks like a solemn ritual.

Seeun in creating the block button made it temporary so that you can use it as a means to control users who you feel are becoming a pest to you. He believed 3 weeks is enough time for both sides to have cooled off. I'm sure he never imagined that some people are so conceited and fanatical that they wish some other users don't exist simply because of disagreements. That's what I'm calling out. The vile nature of keeping a list of people you permanently wish to not see their comments. That's downright fascism!

The point is if you can be so fanatical to keep such a rotten list, it means if there were some other things allowed for you to do to permanently shut such individuals up, you won't hesitate to do so. I've actually gone through some Obidient accounts that I know and I've had cause to disagree with and I've not seen any of them blocking people or keeping a list of people they blocked. That's some deep mental darkness and it needs to be called out and cured if possible

Despite, accusations of Agbadeau, whatever that is, I am intrigued by your response as it butresess the fact, to me at least, that you are wasted as an Obidient considering how well you can express your point of view. Apologies if that all sounds patronising by the way.

Okay to the point at hand, you can't force anyone to like you or to want to see your posts or to play by your rules.

Who they block us totally up to them, if you believe that you have been wrongly caught up in their "fish basket", I suggest you go out for a walk, take a soothing bath and realise that your life isn't empty or lacking because of Nairaland blocking facility.

To the Lord be the glory, Ẹ̀gbọ́n Naptu2 survived his last operation and is seemingly back to full health. God forbid if anything untoward had happened and he could no longer post, would you carry this anger to your own grave.

I honestly don't see why you deem the need to prove to me that some non-Obidients are rude or whatever. I am just another poster, and to quote my dear friend SeeWahala, I am a paperweight which I am fine with.

Ya own beta sef, I still dey do night watch for church say make di aforementioned SeeWahala block mi. So many ritual sacrifices have been proposed to ensure he not only blocks me but he extends the blocking as soon as it expires forever and ever. All to no avail.

Anyway, I am sorry I don't see your point regarding oga Helinues and baba naptu2 blocking you, I have agreed to disagree with those two venerable posters (my humble opinion abeg, don't try and prove they are not) on more than one occasion as it happens, I can only advice you let it go and move on.

Peterobiisathie:
Peter Obi would be better off if he focused his campaign against drug trafficking rather than politics

This is true because there is a good chance that he is some kind of Hero (pardon the pun) to a lot of the people being arrested.

Segunbabba:
Obi, a chieftain of the African Democratic Congress (ADC)

https://news.ng/tinubus-economic-reforms-have-pushed-more-nigerians-into-poverty-obi/

When did he become a Chieftain of the ADC? Una nor well at all at all!

Jokay07:
You miss the point sir.
Falana is not against sanitation.
He asked, why should movement be restricted on last Saturdays of every month which is a fundamental breach of humna rights when the state government has annual budget allocation of 265 billion naira for the same environmental sanitation.
Falana is using style to point at the corruption embeded in that huge amount of money for sanitation.

Because if movement is not restricted, people wouldn't do it and bribery would be used to get round it. Will 3 hours of cleaning kill anyone?

We are a dirty people as a whole, why should anyone need to tell us before we clean our surroundings?

I was alive when the first nationwide exercise was implemented and if you compare places at 12 noon on a Saturday to the Friday beforehand, you will weep.

Femi Falana is wrong on this, play opposition, play human rights, but do it with sense, abeg.

Delimadaddy:
Dat y de no won gv Igbo Man power.....
He will use it nd free eastern pple

A President of the Federal republic of Nigeria cannot free any group, that will be treason.

That kind of thing is the preserve of the legislative arm of government.

AMINDA:
Are Igbos allowed to vote in freely in Lagos? The governors of Edo and Sunday Igboho just warned Peter Obi and Atiku not to come campaign in their states and region and nothing has been done about it. If the Southeast doesn't vote Tinubu in 2027, where then will his voyes come from? Tinubu boycotted the Southeast in 2023 because he had Northern support. He is now desperate for a Southern solidarity because he knows his chances are getting slimmer in the North, but he didn't include the other South in projects and appointments when he ought to. No one is fooled. INEC has not lifted embargo on campaigns but APC have already commenced campaigns with blatant vote buying and attempts to induce electorates with peanuts.

Please when did Akpakomezer warn anyone not to come and campaign in Edo state as I missed it? Not saying you're wrong, I genuinely haven't seen or reas it anywhere.

Also, if Igbos weren't allowed to vote, how did Peter Obi defeat President Tinubu in Lagos last time out?