₦airaland Forum

Afriifa:
Very truth. We show them love. While they hate us.

Ghanaians are the last to hate us, they tolerate our excesses more then most.

Aside the negatives, they wish they could be us.

I spent time abroad once and played in a football team with a few Ghanaians. They used to abuse me and Nigerians which didn't even bother me as dere yabbis was weak, but when I gave them back wotowoto, even they were laughing harder than anything.

We and them are one, forget all the Eze Ndigbo stuff.

oloriokonbowa:
Your relatives were not kidnapped, your uncles gave out your relatives for a box of matches and a stick of cigarette

Don't forget Mirror's too.

And this was just the trans Atlantic slave trade o, we haven't mentioned the ones Arabs carted away.

essentialone:
Do you agree to this?

No man comes with bad intentions to a woman's life. It's only the Woman's behaviour or continues disrespect that changes the intention of a good man.

Drop your view.

Depends on what you label "bad intention".

If it is to trick into sex and move on or have as a partner that you dominate and don't particularly have any regard for her opinion, then that isn't a good intention.

On the other hand, repeated acts of intolerance, denigration and disrespect etc by the female could indeed turn a man with good intentions to one bent on evening scores and the subsequent "bad intention".

It cuts both ways.

wildcatter23:
RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FOR THE WEAK🤦🤦

I went to a restaurant this evening to get food for my girlfriend.

After getting the food and just as I was about to leave, I saw two lovers arguing.

I asked the girl what the issue was, and she explained that they had also come to get food.

Their bill was supposed to be ₦8,300, but the waiter mistakenly charged them ₦7,800, which the guy paid.

As they were about to leave, she noticed the mistake and told her boyfriend to go back and pay the remaining balance, but he refused.

That disagreement eventually led to their breakup.

Is that enough to warrant a breakup?

What do you guys think?

Was the lady loyal to the guy?

I once had a similar situation, I paid for food and after I got the bill, the lady I took there immediately told the waiter to keep the change.

I wondered why the Anti didn't let me collect my change or give the waiter the money myself. As it happens I didn't want to give the waiter shishi as I didn't think he deserves it.

I didn't argue at the restaurant sha, that is just immaturity. I actually asked her when we got home and she said the change was too small as if that was the point.

When you have children, you will realise what real testing is from a woman and how to comfortably and confidently cope with it.

All this chest beating stuff you people are saying about tolerating etc becomes superfluous then.

Just realise now that women of this generation dont have the same bond your mother's had for you or the willingness to tolerate or sacrifice for you in the same way your mother's did.

Know the above and know peace.

Sirchiboy:
I need answer to this.
Helping them is just a waste of time.
The best thing is to give them belle and run away

She did you a favour showing you that side of her now. You should hear about men, especially abroad, that lost properties etc to some women who had planned things all along.

Usmanovic95:
So on the day of judgement,God will ask you why you wore G string pant under your blouse and skirt? The religion we practice in Africa is quite different from what the west and middle east folks introduced to us.

We don't, of course, practice religion as Black people, especially Nigerians. We use other people's religion as a facade for the "money making" scheme we are actually practising.

Congratulations to Enugu Rangers, a revered Nigerian institution.

I saw the Champions league final between Mamelodi Sundowns and AS FAR a few days ago, we need to up our game seriously for our clubs to go far in the league.

Once more though, congratulations, holy holy holy..

mjblinks:
Before you judge a woman by her mother, remember this:

Children do not come into the world as photocopies of their parents.

Yes, upbringing matters. Family patterns matter too. But people also grow, heal, unlearn, and become their own person.

Some women watched their mothers suffer and decided:
“I will never build a home like this.”

Some men grew up with absent or toxic fathers and still became loving husbands and responsible fathers.

A person is not automatically their parents’ unfinished story.

Instead of studying only her mother, study HER:
How does she communicate?
Can she take accountability?
How does she treat people when angry?
Is she willing to grow?
Does she have emotional intelligence?
Can both of you solve problems together?

Because marriage is not inherited like family land.
It is built daily by two self-aware adults.

Your partner’s background may explain certain behaviors, but it should not be used to predict their entire future.

People are capable of becoming better than what they came from.

You must be a professional relationship counsellor, if you are not, I suggest you consider looking to be one, please. Every single thing you typed in your post is true and I hope those looking to get married study it carefully.

The one thing I will add is that a lot of women, and men, hide traits during courtship so it might not be easy to study them well as you suggested but that doesn't negate your words.

One final thing, people should not look for perfection in their prospective partners, if anything, your mindset should be finding out the imperfections and determining whether you can tolerate them.

Per the original post in the thread, a complete nonsense, even kids brought up in the same house act differently.

FSBoperator:
Their foolishness will resume after Tinubu is declared winner with them now directing all their energies towards getting the embattled and inevitable impeached and removed Trump from coming to send US marines to carve their Biafra for them complete with SS annexed.

This foolishness is generationally handed and ought to be treated with concentration camp re-education but that will be a criminal waste of scarce resources , so we will all have to bear enjoy 4 more years of rejuvenated I.P.O.B madness and sit at homes entertainment.

Not the elections, after Peter Obi heads off to the Tribunal and Supreme Court without proof and fails again, that's when Obidients would suddenly no longer exist and we on Nairaland would be once more deluged with Biafran agitators.

seppuku:
Yep. That's why case is being taken to the AU.

You are very smart my friend. You can see what the rest of us can't. Brilliant!

Ọ ma

She is just looking for an excuse to cheat, nutin spoil as na her body, di tin kuku nor get meter.

Carry go jàre Anti, nutin do you!

IronGalaxy:
Just look at what we have to contend with... and its so common, dare we retaliate we are labeled "xenophobic"

You are best of ignoring those that call you names and to do what you have to do in order to sanitise your environment.

IronGalaxy:
Finally, a Nigerian with common sense..

Actually, a lot more of us Nigerians know this and think along similar lines than the empty barrels making the most noise that you hear of.

seppuku:
You think most South Africans that live there are smart enough or even care to discern the difference. As soon as you introduce yourself as Nigerian you are immediately branded a drug dealer.

How did we get that reputation?

If we didn't have people misbehaving to the extent they did, South Africans would be grateful to have us there considering how we helped them overcome apartheid. They would be rolling out the red carpet for us, same as Angolans should.

Look at India, look at news coming out of there almost daily. What do you think Nigerians over there would be branded as once they introduce themselves?

We need to look inward and then fix our behaviour over there.

Kukutente23:
You've jumped to his defence again unsolicited

And you're sure you're not looking for some patronage or validation from him?

Ok o

How have I defended naptu2?

Someone asked why there was hostility and I have proffered my honest and humble opinion, why not do likewise.

So this is your new angle of attack, that I am seeking valuation from him, well it is not true.

maddman:
E be like some of you people carry Naptu2 for mind. I don't get where the hostility and hate is coming from

Maybe you should try and make quality educative threads consistently like he has done on this platform

Hostility comes from someone being upset they were blocked which has resulted in them unleashing their venom with their various monikers on the thread.

They have no capacity for producing or partaking in quality educative threads, best they can do is troll which is why they were blocked in the first place.

FSBoperator:
Feelers are that Desmond Elliot is being discarded to send a strong message to any usurper who comes from outside SW to drag public office and appointments with the Yoruba people

I don't think Desmond Elliott is from outside Yorubaland you know.

He has a Yoruba middle name and I remember him saying people that call him that are those that know him from way back.

He is actually Yoruba born and brought up in Lagos so unfair to tag him as anything else.

Kukutente23:
Why do you jump on any thread from the Op and start with saying you don't have to defend him but end up defending him
Are you seeking favours from him?
Why the desperate need to patronise him at any opportunity
This is cringeworthy

Can you imagine my audacity, I am giving my opinion on a thread on a Nairaland forum about something I have an opinion on?

Also I clearly prefaced my previous post by typing that I don't intend to defend naptu2, as he can do so himself more than I ever can, but I am stating my opinion on the needless attack on the post.

Also, not that it matters, but I believe this is the first time I am "defending" him since the last time that you showed how upset and emotional you were about him blocking you.

Just to confirm, I am only expressing my opinion, I have no favours to seek from him, neither do I ever need to patronise him.

Hope that clarifies things.

AbosedeFalade:
Keep quite and look for your fellow small people like him to continue your nonsense with.

I don't even know where to start with this.

Ọ ma

AbosedeFalade:
This is one of the most meaningless threads I have come across on Nairaland. A thread like this makes no sense in the real sense of sense. You simply want to massage your ego, citing a statement like "...yet a nairalander was arguing with me and saying that Dr. Jonathan was going to contest and that his spokesman, who released the statement, did not know what was happening"

I am not going to defend naptu2, as baba can do that himself if he so wishes, but you clearly don't know the poster or understand his style of writing to come to that conclusion. He has no reason to massage his ego on here and the thread makes a lot of sense.

Also, you did not read the screenshots he took of the said poster arguing needlessly with him. Pay particular attention to the last exchange they had where the other poster claimed he knew more than GEJ's own staff about what GEJ planned to do and what meetings he has had or wants to have.

DomPerignon:
And you are still yet to condemn the OP.

You see Esnbrutality running feral here supporting every rubbish the OP has posted.

Is Esnbrutality also a Yoruba masquerading as ibo ?

And everything this OP has posted over the several days is no different from what the likes of Ekpa and Kanu were spewing with full support of the majority of your people

How you will see this obvious deranged fellow who you refused to condemn as a fraud and switch to attacking Yorubas and NL only you can explain

This behaviour reminds me of what an Edo influencer said which is that a ibo man will collect beating from a Fulani but run and go hold a Yoruba man screaming why you dey beat me.

Typical

Sir, you did not read my post correctly and I urge you to do so again with a calm and clear mind. We don't have to agree on everything, as we might have done so far, but we can't disagree so wildly on one thing based on a misinterpretion.

I would try and reiterate, the op is wrong for the nonsense and mods are wrong for letting it stand. Yoruba people making veiled threats over the nonsensical posts are wrong. That it all starts from the op doesn't mean the threats being made to counter it are right.

esnbrutality is on a higher level of wrong as there is an additional immaturity issue with him or her. Again this is a mods issue as that account should have been banned for long ages ago.

I also agree with what that Ẹdo influencer said as it happens.

Mirasteel:
Those black xenophobic South Africans don't know what Nigeria did for them during the apartheid time if not they won't be this ungrateful.

So because of how we helped them end apartheid, we should go and misbehave there.

We should sell drugs, start installing kings in their kingdoms etc and they should accept it.

In case you don't know, there are lots of Nigerians in South Africa, and have been for a long time, that are law abiding. Those people don't seem to have any issue with the locals and vice versa.

LottiOk:
Until the guy achieves his aim of causing a modern Day pogrom against the Igbos will Seun realize the monster he allowed to be constituting nuisance on his site.

Clearly, the mods are putting themselves in a position where they might be complicit in anything that happens to Ndigbo or any violence in the next elections when Peter Obi loses. This is not a good situation.

You said that these types like the op are not Ndigbo and they are just looking for people to hate Ndigbo and I can now see that this is very true.

The playbook is clear as I have seen a few threads lately following the pattern below.

Ndigbo haters (I suspect from the SS) start a thread like this, Yoruba posters would spill their bile in return. Ndigbo posters, like that esnbrutality, will also throw their hat into the ring in their own unique way and the thread degenerates into pure hatred between two groups of people that have lived together in peace for a long time.

There is a thread here about NDC fielding Ndigbo candidates in Lagos that should have been binned ages ago as very little there is fit for purpose. Mods need to stop such early as that violence from last elections in Lagos is going to be child's play if they don't.

Noblejohn32:
The way I'm enjoying this thread eh ..
Op, thank you for this. Atleast, I'm pretty certain that good marriages still exist. The internet is already choking us with the negative side of marriage and people are getting scared.

I believe, I'll marry right. ♥️💍

Please remember that in all marraiges, there are quarrels and there is no perfect one. How can there be when us as people are not perfect.

We have marraiges were people, quite frankly, are able to overlook imperfections. Those are the ones being described here.

Don't get a false impression or chase your own perfect partner based on what you are reading here.

1nice:
That is not truth but lie. Continue lying to yourself and that is your opinion not mine.

Tell your Yoruba people not to sabotage southeast Igbos from getting the Nigeria presidency in 2027 for the sake of justice, fairness, equity and national unity.

By the same token, you also tell your fellow Obidients that they will never be able to bully Nigerians into voting Peter Obi.

We are too stubborn to accept such.

fergie001:
The direct primary election took a dramatic turn in Abia State.

In a video that has now gone viral, a polling officer was seen counting numbers irregularly - 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 100, 200, 400, 500, 600, 800, 801, 900, 1000,1250

See primary election counting now,51,52, 53,54,55,100,200,400,500 as seen somewhere in Abia state 👀👀 pic.twitter.com/7aHRv3gFQB

— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) May 16, 2026

They learnt from APC Edo South gubernatorial primaries from a few years ago.

That was so blatant and shameful that Baba Oshio ended up hand picking a candidate himself.

We nor well for dis country.

helinues:
It's actually lack of self low esteem to be staying in any abusive relationship. Put love aside and reason like normal human being. I am not just talking about physical abuse, even verbal abuse shouldn't be tolerated

The saying of the only one out of billions of people is nonsense

Baba, whilst you are right, things get complicated once children are in the picture.

There seems to be a new trend, and not just abroad, of people tolerating a lot because of the small children and knowing the lives of those innocents will change for the worse if they left.

I give kudos to them and can see why physical, verbal and, worse of all, emotional abuse is tolerated.

A shame really.

h777:
What you said is very important, especially the part about ignoring warning signs early.

A lot of people enter relationships believing love alone can change deep character issues, but character problems rarely disappear simply because somebody stayed patient. In many cases, they become stronger with time, comfort, marriage, and emotional dependency.

Quick temper, constant disrespect, verbal abuse, manipulation, uncontrolled anger, and lack of accountability are not “small issues.” Those are warning signs of deeper internal problems. People often underestimate how dangerous repeated disrespect becomes after years of marriage and children.

The painful reality is that many people fall in love with potential instead of reality. They keep hoping, “He or she will change later.” But relationships should not be built on future fantasies. They should be built on present character.

And you are correct, there is no shame in staying single rather than remaining trapped in emotional suffering, daily conflict, fear, toxicity, or psychological exhaustion. Peace of mind is valuable.

At the same time, people also need discernment and honesty before commitment. Red flags ignored during dating often become storms inside marriage.

Love is not just chemistry or attachment.
Love also requires maturity, self control, respect, accountability, emotional stability, wisdom, and consistent behavior.

A person can be attractive, affectionate, funny, supportive sometimes, and still be destructive long term if their character is unhealthy.

Many people do not ruin their lives because they lacked love.
They ruin their lives because they ignored truth.

You've said it all.

Sadly, societal and especially religious pressures mean women and men with attributes like you stated (and I have pasted in bold below) , who shouldn't even be in short term relationships, will still end up in marraiges.

Quick temper, constant disrespect, verbal abuse, manipulation, uncontrolled anger, and lack of accountability

Funny enough, you have aptly described a few people I know with this that have marraige issues. The one thing I will add is the victimhood mentality that constantly goes along with the traits listed above.

Great post, long but well worth a read.

h777:
Another reason is desperation.
Desperation blinds discernment.

When someone is afraid of being alone, they settle for anybody who gives them attention. They ignore warning signs because they fear losing the relationship more than losing themselves.

Both for men and women, this is the sure fire truth in relationships.

Whilst it is true that no one is perfect, some totally ignore the BS, rather than talk it out at that stage to avoid stories that touch later.

We are dealing with a situation where, during the dating stage, narcissistic woman showed a tendency to quick temper and verbalising a lot of hurtful and disrespectful rubbish as a result. Man hoped in time, he can change her ways. A few children later, madam has gotten worse.

Man now wishes he died single, despite his love of his children. Folks, there is no shame in not tolerating BS and staying single. Much better than tolerating it and looking forward to staying single.

iamfraud:
The accused, identified as Uchenwa, a resident of Olo State in Nigeria


https://x.com/ians_india/status/2055625299107164651?s=46

Y

What state in Nigeria is he a resident of?

I was going go guess but wondered if they will cause me to be banned

Rapmoney:
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I am not from Enugu State. I am from Niger Delta, so this post has been written with an unbiased view.

Happy weekend everyone!

You list things about Enugu and say nothing about Rangers International, the list is dead on arrival.